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My boyfriend and I have been going out for 5, almost 6 months, and the whole time we have been going out i have been wondering and worrying thinking she liked my boyfriend. Her and my boyfriend went out for 2 months last year. It makes me SO SO SO SO SO mad to see her laughing, smiling or even looking at him twice, i wanted to slap her. omg, then today i finally got soooo mad that i called her and said do you still like Caleb? then she pauses for like a whole minute, then she goes no-yes but not enough to date him again we're just good friends nothin else i would never do that to u

does she still like him?
or am i just crazy.
thanksomuch
kenzie

Well, if she told you she still likes him, she does. Nevertheless, she is most likely being honest when she said she wouldn't do that to you. Keep an eye on her just to make sure because desire can bring out the worst in us, but I wouldn't be too worried.

could you please click on the link below and tell me (without being harsh, please) how fat I am?

like would you classify me as super obese fat chick, fat, average, sexy, etc. (or whatever words you choose)

http://i113.photobucket.com/albums/n210/LovelyBoylan/howfat.jpg

This isn't what you want to hear, but I'm going to tell it to you anyway. You shouldn't have posted that picture here. Why? Because it really doesn't matter what anyone on this site thinks about your size. We aren't doctors. Unless your doctor tells you to loose weight your fine.

Everyone is obsessed with how they look. Honestly, I am too. However, that doesn't mean we need to go as far as to ask total strangers what they think. If YOU don't like your body choose a healthy diet and exercise. Don't let people tell you what they think of your size. It only matters what you feel when you look in the mirror.

By the way, the majority of people, at least in America, are much much larger than you. You look fine. So do not worry.

I really like these 2 guys and they like me but I can't decide which one to go out with:

A: Athletic, popular, preppy, my neighbor, REALLY funny, nice, his mom is friends with my mom, and really cute.

B: respectful, nice, anti-prep, into hunting, trucks, and violence, gets into a LOT of fights, "tough guy", and also really cute.

I know it's my choice but I want some input from others. Please try not to put just boy a or boy b. Give me your thoughts on them.

Personally, I'd say guy A. I'm not one for violence so I wouldn't get along with guy B. Also, I'm sure your parents would like you to be with guy A since they're friends with his parents.

Everyone says i need to change how i look to get a guy. But i dont know how....Even my family says that and i cant really change becuz i have no money. So i dont know what to do..... Can anyone like put some kewt outfits together and show me them or sumthing....because i want to find a new bf....But i dont know how to get a guy to like me without changing!

Don't change yourself unless YOU want to change. If you're happy, then why be someone you're not? Guys like someone who's genuine and happy with themselves so stay who you are. Maybe be a little more outgoing and confident, but don't change how you look to please anyone but you.

is masturbating a sin (im christian) if yes, why?

Technically it is a sin. It's a sin to "lust" and masturbation is lust. However, that is just what the bible says. It's better to masturbate then to run off and have sex and end up pregnant at an early age.

16/f

Sometimes I narrate what I'm doing in my head. For example, when I got an instant message the other night, while trying to sleep, in my head I was saying "All of the sudden she hears an IM pulling her from her distant slumber and curiously gets out of bed to walk over to her computer to find out who that mysterious being is and why they beckon her at such an odd hour. As she is sluggishly making her way to the blinking box, she is almost tripped by a cold, black rod and thinks to herself 'Strange, I don't remember putting that there.' and continues on her journey...etc."

I do it ALL the time, not just at night. Is this normal, do I have an over-active imagination, or should I seek medical attention?

There's nothing weird about that. I do it constantly. Personally, I find myself to be quite weird because I have other odd tendencies...

But don't worry you don't need to seek medical attention. Other people do it too.

im 15/f and the only makeup i usually wear is a little bit of black eyeliner. if i dont wear eyeliner i think i look gross haha. but anyway i need some new makeup and i need help with what to use. i always always always have bags under my eyes and i hate it! they never go away! and sometimes they are dark so i guess i need some good coverup. i have big green eyes and brown hair but the front of it if blonde because of the sun and it's my baby hair, i never dyed it. my skin is kind of olivey i get tan in the summer but sometimes my face stays a little fairer and i get freckles under my eyes. what would work for me?

I think I look gross without eyeliner too haha. Anyway buy a powder cover-up. Since it's the summer, you don't want your face to be too oily, which liquid might cause your face to be. Also under your eyes use concealer to cover dark circles. Mascara would be nice to. Stick to black or brown for your eye liner. The best place to find this stuff is in your local CVS or pharmacy. Department store make -up gets pretty expensive, so doing to a drug store will keep you from spending too much.

13/f
im a pretty friendly person i guess... i like talking to people and i always try to be really nice to everyone. so i talk to a lot of different people on myspace, AIM and texting. but when i start talking to guys and get to know them, sometimes they end up thinking that i like them. and then they start liking me. its not like im being flirty or anything, i just talk about normal stuff. so im not leading them on or anything. but i feel really guilty, cuz i just like them as friends (and btw i do have a bf). sometimes i think, maybe i shouldnt talk to guys at all, cuz it will only make them think i like them. is it possible to talk with guys and just be friends? or do they always end up wanting it to be more?

Of course, it's possible to be just friends with guys! They don't always want more. Try being friends with guys that already have girlfriends so there no pressure.

Check http://www.cosmogirl.com/guys/guide-to-guys/just-friends for some tips on just being friends.

okay so my boyfriend and i will be home alone on thursday at his house.. and i'm sleeping over. any ideas of what to do that are fun and interesting? and if it helps we have done everything.. oh & he has a pool okay thankss =) any ideas are great!

Obviously, skinny dip. I'm sure that would would be exciting. But don't have sex underwater because the trusting would push too much water into your vagina. Feel free to have shower sex though.

Check out http://www.cosmopolitan.com/ for other nice ideas.

Can you still tan if you put sunscreen on? I need to make sure I don't get a burn, but I hate being so freakishly white!

Yes, you can tan while wearing sunscreen. Use SPF15 sunscreen or lower. You may even be able to get away with SPF8. But be careful. I don't mean to sound preachy, but I've lost family to skin cancer.

And who says been freakishly white isn't sexy? =].

I have this friend, well, actually, I would say more of "ex" friend. We were friends for about 5 years, and then, In the whole year of 2006, and the beginning of 2007, we became more like sisters. Seriously, we hung out every freaking day, we basically lived at each others houses, and I told her anything, and we were so alike.

We were fine, and then she accidentally told someone from another school a rumor about me, that she claimed that was true, and it wasn't, and since she told everyone, and she had never stabbed me in the back, I completely over reacted.

After about 3 weeks, we were fine. But I knew things wouldn't be the same -- and they weren't. She moved on to different people, and so did I. I would have to say, shes one of the most popular girls in the school, and definitively the prettiest. So believe me, being her best friend, was definitely a privilege.

After that, we were friends, but slowly, we just stopped talking. I knew why, but she just.. "changed" Her attitude, her friends, her personality, and everything.

I am bi-polar, and yesterday, I caught myself crying for no reason, which happens often. I kept trying to find out why, and I think I found out. I miss my best friend, I miss telling her everything. I never found another best friend, just friends. I miss her, I miss everything.

I want to talk to her, but I texted her asking if I could, and she said "only in person". I can't do that, I just can't. I am too shy to talk to her. I'd be too nervous, believe me.
What can I do? What do I say?

Sorry for this being so song. Any help is extremly appreciated. Thanks.

13/female.

I know you will be nervous, but talking in person in the best idea. It's more sincere and from the heart. Anyone can say something through a text, but talking about it in person will show that you do care.

Plan out what you want to say before you talk to her. It might sound corny, but it will calm your nerves. Maybe even print you question out and bring it alone to show how much you miss her. Either way, know what you're going to say before hand. When put on the spot it will be much more difficult.

All in all, if she's a good friend she'll listen and do her best not to make you more nervous than you are.

i just got braces and they look really ugly..is there anything i can do to make them look less ugly or less noticeable and what band color should i get? just colors that i like or is there certain colors that look bad/good on diffent ppls teeth?

Aviod wearing bright lip gloss. The color would attract more attention to your mouth. When wearing make up focus on your eyes.

Silver is your best bet for band color. It blends in more. NEVER GET CLEAR. Because once you eat something like spagetti it will look like that until you get your colors changed again.

I was suppost to get my period on like the 13th and it's the 19th and it still hasn't come. I've only had my period for a year so is this normal?
I'm scared to go anywhere like the beach or something because it might come then and I won't be able to do anything about it.

And I also want to start shaving "down there" but i'm scared my skin will get like irrated or i'll get like an infected hair when it grows back and I don't want to have to go to the doctor for that. Any tips?

It is quite normal for it to be irregular for the first few years.

As for the beach bring tampons. That way if it's unexpected you can still go in the water and whatnot.

I advise not shaving "down there." It is very itching when it grows back in. Getting it waxed is a much better option.

16/f. Never had a real boyfriend or real kiss. Yeah, I feel pretty good about myself. Not. The worst part is, though, that everyone always tells me "Oh you're so pretty and nice" or whatever and yet, guys don't even look at me in any way that says "more than friends." I have this guy friend that I have sooo much in common with, and I've liked him for almost two years and I just don't understand why he doesn't like me back; I've been obsessing over it for days now and it's just an enigma to me. I mean, I'm literally the ONLY person I know who has no one who likes them; all of my friends have multiple guys that like them, and since I've started high school, not one guy has been interested in me. I'm not kidding. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. ANy ideas on what I could do to actually make guys want to be more than friends? Or at least any ideas to make me stop constantly thinking about this and feeling so upset; I just feel like I'm missing something important.

It seems like the biggest of your problems is your confidence. Guys really look for girls who are confident and walk with their head held high. Once you boost your confidence you will be closer to finding a guy.

A great excersise you can try: get a piece of paper and write down everything you like about yourself physically and mentally. Read your list every day or whenever you're feeling down. Also try looking in the mirror everyday and saying one nice thing about yourself.

Don't be scared to approach guys. They are actually more nervous to talk to girls then we are about talking to them. And if you ask a guy out and he says no, it's not the end of the world. Try talking to new guys and when you know them well enough ask them to the movies.

if a boy says he likes you and wants to be with you does he usually mean it?

Unless he has a reputation of hurting girls, he probably means it.

ive never given oral sex before, but even just brushing my teeth, i choke all the time. will i choke will giving oral? how can i make myself not choke?

thanks!

Chances are you will choke with oral. However, most people do their first time giving it. If he has a large penis you probably won't be able to fit all of it in your mouth, but thats ok. Put it in a little bit farther each time you give head. Like everything, it takes more time to get better at something.

is it weird that i get horny spying on my brother when he's masturbating or is it just curiosity?

i dont want to feel this way but i dont knwo what to do.

please help!!

It's those nasty little things called hormones doing this to you. You're very curious at your age and changes are would like to see a penis, no matter who's it is. Your feelings will pass in time. Nevertheless, try to stray away from doing this as much as possible.

i fantasize about doing things w/ guys but when it comes time to actually do something with one i dont get turned on at all. but i get horny when i see my friends undressing. does that mean ima lesbian?

No, it doesn't sound like you're a lesbian. Unless you start fantasizing about women, you are not a lesbian. Young girls get turned on by other women because they are curious or because they know that's what turns a guy on.

And the problem about not getting turned on around guys? Chances are he's doing it wrong then or you just don't really like him.

What could I do to get my hair a lighter shade without dye?

I heard you could do something with lemons but yeah..

Yes, lemons work. Squeeze lemon juice on your hair and go out in the sun. Also, there's some thing called Sun-In that you spray in your hair before spending time in the sun and your hair turns lighter.

15/f. I've never had a boyfriend before. And looking around me, I see people who have boyfriends. And it kind of tears me apart. I want to have a relationship like that with someone. I want to be close with someone. But I don't know how to go about doing that...getting one. I'm sometimes even embarrassed at the fact that there are 13 and 12 year olds who have had boyfriends, and those who've changed them many times. Do I care if he's older? No. I just really want one. Going on 16 and entering the 10th grade, I feel as though I will never get one. Is being smart a turn off? :( I wouldn't consider myself ugly either. But my self-confidence isn't that high. I don't have many real friends....which is why I want a boyfriend. Any help and advice would be very appreciated. =] Sorry for making it so long.

No, it's not too late. People find someone at different ages. It's perfectly normal.

Being smart isn't a turn off. Would a guy rather talk to a moron or someone who will stimulate intelligant conversation? From what my guy friends say, it's the latter ofthe two =].

What you really need to do, is be more confident. Get a piece of paper and write down everything you like about yourself, physically and mentally. Whenever you need a boost, look at this list. Guys really like confidence in a girl, so this is important.

And the biggest cliche that really works? Be yourself. Try to apporach guys more and strike up conversation. While talking don't try to be something you're not. Everyone likes someone who's genuine.

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