|
what am I doing wrong?
16/f. Never had a real boyfriend or real kiss. Yeah, I feel pretty good about myself. Not. The worst part is, though, that everyone always tells me "Oh you're so pretty and nice" or whatever and yet, guys don't even look at me in any way that says "more than friends." I have this guy friend that I have sooo much in common with, and I've liked him for almost two years and I just don't understand why he doesn't like me back; I've been obsessing over it for days now and it's just an enigma to me. I mean, I'm literally the ONLY person I know who has no one who likes them; all of my friends have multiple guys that like them, and since I've started high school, not one guy has been interested in me. I'm not kidding. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. ANy ideas on what I could do to actually make guys want to be more than friends? Or at least any ideas to make me stop constantly thinking about this and feeling so upset; I just feel like I'm missing something important.
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
guys are into girls that are outgoing and sweet. try to get involved with more groups of people and start doing more things outside of school. dont send off the "friend" vibe. start off flirty with guys. when you meet a cute guy that you could be intested in, speak clearly and loudly, look them in the eye and shake their hand with confidence, and maybe smile at them a little bit. also... guys HATE drama. so dont talk badly about other people or complain about things. just play it cool and ask him questions about what he likes to do and his family, where hes from, ect. kill them with kindness. after you meet enough guys and act like that, one will sure to fall for you. good luck :)
]
It seems like the biggest of your problems is your confidence. Guys really look for girls who are confident and walk with their head held high. Once you boost your confidence you will be closer to finding a guy.
A great excersise you can try: get a piece of paper and write down everything you like about yourself physically and mentally. Read your list every day or whenever you're feeling down. Also try looking in the mirror everyday and saying one nice thing about yourself.
Don't be scared to approach guys. They are actually more nervous to talk to girls then we are about talking to them. And if you ask a guy out and he says no, it's not the end of the world. Try talking to new guys and when you know them well enough ask them to the movies.
]
hey there is nothing wrong with the situation your in. its not the end of the world at all. i have a friend who didnt get kissed until 18 and its her first love and they are so cute together! i would rather take that path than the slutty path where girls are doing sexual things very young. i know how your feeling..but the best advice i can tell you is to be youurself. dont change anything about you..you could do things differently like go out to the movies more with friends, meet new people, gets friends to introduce you to more people, go to more parties to meet people, etc. but dont change your looks or personality just because you want to find someone. Honestly..people alwaaays find someoen when they LEAST expect it. So go on with your normal life..get out with friends often and meet new people..then BAM outa nowhere, you will find a guy.
Know how i met my current bf of 1 year 4 months? over a MYSPACE BULLITEN! yep, we were always myspace friends but we didnt know each other. one day i posted a bulliten because i was upset saying "anyone wana hang out?" << i never put stupid bullitens like that up asking to hang out>> and what do ya know? he responded to the bulliten and we were inseperable ever since.
so dont get down on yourself..enjoy time with your friends and gettign out to meet new people..and sooner or later you will meet the guy for you :)
]
I had this same exact problem.
All you need to do to this is you need to act a little bit more flirty. Flaunt what you've got. Wear more skirts. Now, I am not saying go full on slutty, but like I said, flaunt what you've got.
DO NOT change your personallity. Whoever makes you change is a low life, honestly.
:]
Hope I Helped!!
]
More Questions: |