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Is it too late to get a boyfriend?
15/f. I've never had a boyfriend before. And looking around me, I see people who have boyfriends. And it kind of tears me apart. I want to have a relationship like that with someone. I want to be close with someone. But I don't know how to go about doing that...getting one. I'm sometimes even embarrassed at the fact that there are 13 and 12 year olds who have had boyfriends, and those who've changed them many times. Do I care if he's older? No. I just really want one. Going on 16 and entering the 10th grade, I feel as though I will never get one. Is being smart a turn off? :( I wouldn't consider myself ugly either. But my self-confidence isn't that high. I don't have many real friends....which is why I want a boyfriend. Any help and advice would be very appreciated. =] Sorry for making it so long.
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Younger relationships aren't considered to be real. Girls go through one guy to another so quickly at the age.. It's almost like to get attention. Being smart is not a turn off. Many guys like that. Just work with your self confidence. That's another thing that attracts guys. Since you said you don't have many real friends.. Maybe you should try getting closer to good people. Someone you can trust and built bonds between them. You need to put yourself out there. I'm not saying to dress up all skimpy, but to be more outgoing. Try to talk to everyone at school. Especially classmates.. even ask them if they have an extra pencil or paper. Just little things and people will notice you. Soon you'll make a good amount of friends. If you're outgoing, you're going to get noticed. So some guys are going to want to be your friend and maybe a little more. You just have to wait for the right guy/time. Don't get with someone because you really want a boyfriend though. You might not like them, i've had many friends make that mistake.
You could always join clubs to meet new people.
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There's nothing wrong with that and it's not a turn off. honestly, relationships when you are 12 & 13... are not real. I don't care what anyone says. there could be a few exceptions but not many. 15 is a good time to start going out with people because you've seen how everything works from your friend's experiences and you won't do as many stupid things. You don't NEED a boyfriend but it is nice to have one. don't rush into anything & learn to love yourself first... the boys will like that. <3
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DONT YOU WORRY:) ITs definitely not too late and 15 is young still believe it or not, you got lots of time. Some of my girlfriends are beautifull girls WITH good personality too and they never found boyfriends till they were 17 / 18. Even if you didn't find a boyfriend by then, there is still tons of time and guaranteed, one will come. I was barely lucky to snag an actual boyfriend when I was 15 too. Although I had many guys who liked me, or I liked them, and many guy friends, nothing ever came to result to an actual boyfriend boyfriend and I began to wonder too. But, now I can say Ive had millions (well not millions) but enough that I cant even remember that well going out with a few of them (probablly why Im not with them anymore) Anywho, my point is, be patient and they will come, and once one breaks the single streak its like the rest keep coming from there. SO DONT WORRY OR BE SAD OR FEEL DOWN ON YOURSELF. Sometimes I found too, especially when I saw people (girls who had bf's) and I was like well why cant I get one? She doesnt have anything different from what I have. BUt the truth is, sometimes guys can actually be intimidated by you because youre so pretty and they believe that because of this, you're either a snob or already have a boyfriend therefore, they don't even try. Meanwhile, your wondering whats wrong with you when really, theyre just scared of being turned down or rejected by you when really, that's not the case at ALL. But, like I said, it will all come in time so enjoy single life right now because that can be just as fun in a whole different way and GUARANTEED, you wont always be single, its just a matter of time. Also, you have to be able to put yourself in a place where you can meet guys and an environment where they can approach you, because your not going to meet anyone if your sitting at home. SO, get out there and meet real friends (i know you're saying easier said than done, but thats not true, if you're a good person and believe your fun to be around then true friends will find you) so that way you have someone that you can go and have some fun with and be in places where guys can see you actually exist and that they want to get to know you. BUT LIKE I SAID, BE PATIENT, and no matter what you do, you'll eventually find a boyfriend:)
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No, it's not too late. People find someone at different ages. It's perfectly normal.
Being smart isn't a turn off. Would a guy rather talk to a moron or someone who will stimulate intelligant conversation? From what my guy friends say, it's the latter ofthe two =].
What you really need to do, is be more confident. Get a piece of paper and write down everything you like about yourself, physically and mentally. Whenever you need a boost, look at this list. Guys really like confidence in a girl, so this is important.
And the biggest cliche that really works? Be yourself. Try to apporach guys more and strike up conversation. While talking don't try to be something you're not. Everyone likes someone who's genuine.
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its never too late. your saving youself alot of drama though. your waiting for that one i think. and being smart is a total turn on for guys i think. im pretty dim-witted and most guys think more low of me and that im easy - dude im 13! its a hard feeling knowing that there are people younger than you having something you dont have trust me i know the feeling. Alot of Guys like the girls with looks and brains and you said you have both so theres nothing to worry about. your fine. your just waiting for that one boy who sweeps you off your feet. and dont go out with someone just because you feel like you have to. i still remember my first boyfriend and i know i always will, you know its that one boyfriend your almost for sure to remember. just dont make a bad descion and i know you'll do fine. as for your friends. if their not real their not worth your time, and dont have a boyfriend to make up for that. i really hope you dont go out with someone because you feel like you have to. good luck.
- brittany.
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Dear Needs a Boyfriend,
even though im younger than you i can def. relate. all of my friends had b/fs and i felt like a 3rd wheel around them. i felt the same way you do about myself and i got to know a guy over a couple days in DC on an out-of-town school field trip. we both liked eachother and decided to go out.. and trust me.. it wasnt all that it was cracked up to be.. but if you want to see what it is like i have found a good way to find one.. GET TO KNOW OTHER GUYS! you might even realize in the "flirting process" that you 1) would rather be single and like to flirt 2)find someone you really like or 3) find some more out about yourself and learn a lesson on how to gain confidence.. good luck with finding a boy toy..;)
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