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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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the hair on my legs grows back so fast. ill shave with a brand new razor then the next day hair is back. how do i keep hair away for a long time.
ill rate!! (link)
This takes forever but if you pull it out with the tweezers it doesn't seem to grow back. I did mine during a boring movie about 3 years ago...haven't shaved since. A little extreme but worth it if you hate shaving them! :)


I'm going to be applying for a job soon, and on my resume..do I put on there that I do a lot of community service hours or does that not matter? (link)
By all means! Shows that you are good at working with the public and many other things. Include everything. :)


IN the Sims Superstar, how do you get them famous, and what does it mean when there is that face in the bottom w/ stars over it? and they need 2 or something?

in photo shoots? what do you do? my person cant get famous! they are a level 2 star now!!

thanks so much in advace!
Kelsa* (link)
About.com has a whole newsletter with simms tips etc. I'd be of more help but my simms are on PS2 and not pc. In order to advance you have to keep so many friends. that may be what the star and face thing is. Invite someone over and talk until you make them a friend. You have to keep up your friendships or you will get demoted at your job. You probably need 2 friends to be promoted. Same with the photo shoot. Check and see how many friends you need to advance. Hope that helps a little. :)


ok i had sex with a condom like at the beginning of april. im not susposed to start my period until the beginning of may. but every morning for like that past week my stomach has felt just a little bit upset in the morning and a little into the late afternoon. but my bobs dont hurt and im not throwing up and im not smelling anythign unusual. and i just got over having a really bad sinus cold. so should i be worried or not? please help me guys!! (link)
Draining sinuses can cause an upset stomach too. That is probably what you have had.
just so you know...you could be pregnant with no symptoms except missed period. Not saying that to scare because I'd say you aren't pregnant. Just so you're aware of the fact. So, until you miss your period for awhile don't worry about it to much. :)


13/f nd i have had my period for a while now but its been a while since i got it and my mother and sister had it twice since my last time and im havent been sexually active since before i started getting my period????wats wrong with me? is it normal?? please help me i rate high♥ (link)
It is normal. Sometimes girls aren't real regular until they stop growing, usually around age 17. :)


can you get birth control without your parents knowing? and how much does it usually cost? (link)
If you go to your local health department you probably can. If you go to the doctor and they bill parents insurance then probably they will know. Also, if you are really young they have to have parents permission for treatment. Health departments and planned parenthood don't have the same guidelines I don't believe. :)


15/f- I want to go on the birth control pills called Seasonale because they give you a longer cycle so that you have fewer periods a year, who wouldn't want that, right? well...my mom won't let me get them because she says i'm too young...and then she started giving me excuses such as "the doctor doesn't perscribe birth control unless you're sexually active" well...if i were sexually active, wouldn't i have wanted the pills BEFOREHAND anyway??? and i was under the impression that sometimes birth control is percribed to those with irregular periods to help regulate them. so, was my mom correct? and if she wasn't, how can i convince her to let me get seasonale? thanks! (link)
Mom is wrong on that one. I worked in a doctors office and can tell you for certain that doctors will put you on the pill if you ask for it. They will require a pelvic exam and will ask about your sexual history...it is just routine. You don't have to have a sexual history to get the pill. And they are occassionally given to girls who have irregular periods etc.

I don't know how you can talk her into letting you get the pill. Maybe you need to sit down with her and have a long talk about the whole thing. Be honest and open with her. Good luck :)


I asked my best guy friend to the dance. He said he doesn't know and it is because we are friends. But all i want to do i go to the dance and just be friends. So then he tells i am going to ask some one else! And it is one of my best friends! I ma really deppressed! Because i really like him! I need help!

Lonley and Hatin it!
I am 13 and he is 13 (link)
Unfortunatley he has told you he doesn't like you the same way. Find someone else to go to the dance with. Stay friends and maybe he will change his mind one of these days when he grows up some. :)


Hey im 14 and i have this friend. She has been my best friend for like 5 years. This year i dont kno why she is acting really different and i dont know why. She is always acting really immature and not her normal self. I can act immature at my times but she just dosent know the limit. Then some of the things she says and does are just really weird. I want to tell her what i think but she is one of thoses people that take things really personally and i dont want her to get mad at me because i still want to be her friend. plezzz help me! (link)
You don't want her to embarrass herself or you with her weird behavior. That being said you need to have her over and tell her about it. No need for her to get mad because she really does need to take it personally. Just tell her there is a time and place to act a little whacky but you think she may be going overboard a little. Explain that you are only saying this to save her embarassment because you are her friend. Then tell her like it is. Good luck. :)


ok..well..to start this off...I am a prep and most of my friends are...my best friends are Ashley, Samantha, and Vicky (all preps)...Well lately Samantha has been soo soo so snobby!...Me, Vicky, and Ashley have all tried talkin to her but she just goes well I am Snobby so get over it!...I mean me and her have been best friends for over 6 years!...shes like soo stuck up and it makes me Vicky and Ashley soo mad!...I still wanna be friends with her and stuff but not if shes gonna act like this...What can i do to make her stop???...sry its long I Rate high (link)
Have you told her that you and the other girls no longer want to hang around her if she's going to be a snob? Try that if you haven't already. If she chooses to be a snob, well...you have your answer. :)


Hello, I have recieved several threatening letters over the past year from my father. The threats include having me put in hospital, also stating that he has had a curse put on my daughter and myself to ensure that something bad happens to us, and general insults and abuse aimed at my wife daughter and myself. We have really had enough of this, is there anything I can do and should I go to the police ? I am convinced that he is going to pay someone to come and do physical harm to my family or myself. He is quite old and in a poor state of health, but is and has always been a very brutal person having caused misery and suffering over many years mainly to his wife and children. All I have done to promt these letters is to write to him listing his bad deeds over the years and telling him what I thaught of his behaviour, this was without any aimed insults from me. My letter to him was in response to further bad behavior on his part.

Yours and Best Regards

Daniel (link)
I think i would complain to the police. Even if they can't do anything right away you will be on record as having filed a complaint. I would also return any further letters to him unopened, unless the police want them. If it were me I would also move and not let him know where I am.
Have no further contact with this sperm donor, I wouldn't give him the honor of calling him your father.


I like this guy and his mom is friends with mine. The onyl thing is hes not my type but i still like him hes also kinda poor and he lives in the ghetto. He is not a virgin and i havnt even gotten past making out, he is a year older than me. Hes a fast boy and im not prude but im nto a fast girl. I dont know what to say to him becasue we dont hsare same interests just cuz hes ghetto and has tons of other things on his mind , im the opposite im preppy. What do i say to make him like me? (link)
Why do you want him to? I mean honestly everything you said about him you said in the negative. I think it is okay to be friends but thats all.
He isn't your type
He isn't a virgin,and you are not ready for all that
You share no common intrests
If you want more than friendship, i'm afraid it won't work out. Save yourself the heartache. :)


i have a really complicated sitch but here it goes: ive been with guy A for a bit over a month and since hes really shy, he wont talk to me or make time to be with me.he doesnt like talkin on the phone, in person and he never checks his email. i was the one that asked him out for this reason. he said he liked me and everything but he never shows it and im guessing its cuz hes a bit immature.
anyway, guy B has been my friend for a lil while and i got him together with one of my girlfriends (cuz he liked her) then she broke up with him for no reason...hes a sweetie and did everything to make her happy (he was goth and he kinda changed for her) its been 5 weeks since they broke up and i was talking to him about guy A and how i wasnt sure about him. he told me that bad side about him and how i should wait or just be paitient. then when he was helping me (after talking for 5 hours online) he admitted he liked me. im so confused... i like them both and well im on the verge (dumping guy A) and guy B is on the rebound so i dont know if its "real". please give me your honest view and help. ill rate you for answering honestly...not just go with the first thing that goes through your mind. (link)
Guy A does seem a bit immature.And since he doesn't talk to you, he probably wouldn't miss you if you dropped off the planet.

Guy B is a good friend. I think if I had a choice, he is the one I'd go for. You already have a good relationship, he talks to you all the time. Perfect guy. I think you should give him a try and see what happens. :)


A while ago, one of my guy friends started pestering me, calling me at random times of night, being mean to me, then being scarily nice to me, then being very flirty with me. We quickly figured out that he liked me, and a few days later he asked me out, and I said yes.
However, as soon as he asked me out he started ignoring me, finally getting one of his friends to dump me a few days later. According the the friend, he was just shy.
Now I'm really confused, not only because as soon as he asked me out he ignored me, but because now we are just ignoring each other totally.
This is stupid, I really want him back as a friend, I really enjoy being around him. And I actually do still have feelings for him as well.
Why did he start ignoring me? And how do I get him to stop? (link)
I don't know why he is ignoring you now. I don't buy the whole he's shy nonsense since he had no problem pestering you before you went out with him. Try chicken.

Maybe he just decided that he didn't have feelings enouogh to date again. He should be man enough to say that though. The only way to find out for sure is to just go talk to him about it. Let him no you are ok with just being friends. Could be he thinks you are mad at him now so is steering clear. Go have a talk. :)


1. well i was wondering if a girl that is 15 turning 16 in 2 months is going out with someone that just turned 25, could that someone go to jail?
2. what if the girl is not a virgin and the cops find out and they try to accuse the boy and she denies it could they file charges???
Thank you! (link)
Most definatley they could go to jail for a good long time.

I'm not sure about number 2. If a guy of 25 has to date a girl of 15, he has problems he needs to deal with. The girls parents can also press charges if they found out. The guy is a pedophile.


i went to my boyfriends hometown (arkansas) last weekend and he was all over me and then one day i snapped at him (yelling) on accident and i think he took it defensive because now he is snapping at me and he isn't all touchy feely with me these past two days now that we are back in missouri! and he noticed that i yelled at him cuz he told his mom that i did! and he hasnt really been himself around me these past two days and i dont know what to do! should i apologize for what i did? or what? i am a 14 year old young lady and i dont know what to do! (link)
I think an apology would help. You also need to talk to him and let him know that people do sometimes have a bad moments where they may yell a little. It isn't something to blow out of proportion. If he's going to get that bent out of shape about it and an apology doesn't change things then I'd get out of the relationship all together. :)


Ok so theres this guy that Ive liked for about a month now and I told him I liked him on Wensday. So since then weve been talking, hugging, flirting stuff like that and he says he likes me back. Saturday he wanted to go to laser tag with me but his mom took his car so he culdnt then he called me later that nite and said he wanted me to come over to his house but i didnt answer the phone. And he texted my friends phone Monday before school and said "why doesnt she kiss me." "would she do anything with me" stuff like that. Then I get to school Monday and he didnt come up to me and talk to me. Now Ive heard he might be talking to some other girl, even though he still flirted with me and stuff today during bowling. What do you think is going through his head? (link)
He's wanting a girlfriend I think. If it isn't you he will look elsewhere. If you want to give him a try then go for it. If you don't like going out with him after you give it a try, then don't go out again. :)


Hi, well my names Jen and im 15 and a freshman. In gym class i noticed this boy Matt and he went to my middle school but we never actually talked. But today in gym he said "Hey Jen!" and i dont know i was kind of happy about it. I saw him alot that day and i tried to say hi and smile alot but i know he is extremely shy and everything but he kind of smiled but looked down saying hi. Hes sort of geeky, but i dont think i really care about that but im not sure what to do? Thank you so muchhhh (link)
Let him know you are interested. It sounds like he might be interested in you. Must have took a bundle of courage for him to say hi! I think you should go up and talk to him some more. :)


So there's this guy, right? And I used to have quite a crush on him. He liked me somewhat too. So I wrote him a note. I told him I liked him.

That was a while ago, and my feelings have faded, but now he likes me! And I'm sure he assumes it's mutual, since I wrote that note, and I haven't said anything since. The problem is, we're really good friends and we talk a lot. I'm worried that he's interpreting it as flirting, which it isn't, at least not intentionally. I really don't want to lead him on, he's sweet.

So, my question(s> is(are): Is there any way to read his feelings, and how can I flir--talk to him less without comprimising the friendship? (link)
You need to actually talk to him more...let him know what is going on with your feelings. Could be you should go out once and see if you still have any lingering feelings. Once you tell him you have none it may be hard to go back if you change your mind later!


ok two of my best freinds started going out awhile ago and i'm afraid if they break up they'l ask me to choose which one to hang out with what should i do? (link)
Make it clear to them right now that if something happens you are not going to let it affect your feelings for either. You are not going to take sides. If they get into a fight...stay out of it. I know that will be a hard one to do, but you have to. Don't take sides. Tell them that you will not listen to negative things from either of them about the other. Hope that helps! :)




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