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Ignoring me
A while ago, one of my guy friends started pestering me, calling me at random times of night, being mean to me, then being scarily nice to me, then being very flirty with me. We quickly figured out that he liked me, and a few days later he asked me out, and I said yes.
However, as soon as he asked me out he started ignoring me, finally getting one of his friends to dump me a few days later. According the the friend, he was just shy.
Now I'm really confused, not only because as soon as he asked me out he ignored me, but because now we are just ignoring each other totally.
This is stupid, I really want him back as a friend, I really enjoy being around him. And I actually do still have feelings for him as well.
Why did he start ignoring me? And how do I get him to stop?
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This seems like the answer to everything-- but talk to him.
You say hes really shit, so you're gonig to have to approcach him. Sit him down in a quiet place, after school or in a park or something where there arent too many people around to make you feel uncomfortable, or too little to make you feel akward as well. Just ask him whats going on, explain how it hurt you when he ignores you, that it makes you uneasy when he treats you certain ways, and that you still want to be friends. Say how you understand that he is shy, and that he may not know how to act around people in certain situations, but you're not there to judge him-- just to be a friend.
I hope that all works out for you
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maybe he was shy at first, or shy around his friends but that does sound kinda wierd that he would ignore you - the only way to get him back and stop ignoring you is call or i/m him and say " his name " i dont want you too ignore me anymore i really wanna be friends i didnt want out relationt o break us apart liek this.
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I don't know why he is ignoring you now. I don't buy the whole he's shy nonsense since he had no problem pestering you before you went out with him. Try chicken.
Maybe he just decided that he didn't have feelings enouogh to date again. He should be man enough to say that though. The only way to find out for sure is to just go talk to him about it. Let him no you are ok with just being friends. Could be he thinks you are mad at him now so is steering clear. Go have a talk. :)
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Seems to me that this guy panicked. Maybe he didnt know what to do in a relationship. Or either he thought it was too soon and changed his mind. Well whatever it is don't sweat it too bad, he'll come around. But on the other hand you could keep trying to talk to him. And gradually start a friendship again.
Good Luck.
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Guys ... they can be such a pain! Talk to him about it. He's probably going through some weird guy thing where he's too shy to talk to you. He's afraid he'll ruin things if he takes it a step further so unforunately it's pretty much up to you. Us girls are more mature so we can deal with stituations like this. Just go up to him and be all "you know what, we need to talk." Even if it takes you a while to hunt him down because he's trying to avoid the situation.
Girl Behind The Lipgloss,
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