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I'm going into highschool this year & of course i need school clothes. I'm definately not affraid to wear anything, i like funky things. Money is tight this year & i want to buy some gothic/punk/weird/creative clothing but for cheap. i live in northern ohio, do you have any ideas for where i could get really cheap clothes??

please, any suggestions would help! (link)
goodwill or any thrift store
but i seriously wouldnt worry about ppl sayin stuff about you just for that. and if they do just tell them to jack off. goodwill is so cheap. i love it!


I need some good sites that i can find music to put it my myspace profile... im kinda accually looking for a certian song.... "Slipped Away" by Avril Lavigne... it doesnt have to be the music video just the song.... its not in myspace music i alrealy looked... please help (link)
http://acousticspot.com/?path=1,1083,5302&c=a,250#
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Does anyone know what bluetooth is? i have it on my cingular cell phone and i was wondering what it is // how to set it up. Ill Rate. Kthanks. :]]
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Bluetooth technology is how mobile phones, computers, and personal digital assistants (PDAs), not to mention a broad selection of other devices, can be easily interconnected using a short-range wireless connection. Using this technology, users can have all mobile and fixed computer devices be totally coordinated.

http://www.bluetooth.com/bluetooth/
it will tell you how to set it up there

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Ok. My horse Sullivan might be lame and I was just wondering if anyone knows a way to help heal lamnitis faster and how I can help pass time faster while I cant ride him.
Thanks!
♥♥♥♥Meggy and Sully♥♥♥♥ (link)
Laminitis has the potential to cause damage to the lamellar tissues. The damage may be minimal or devastating. Often the level of pain presented by the horse indicates the level of damage. But this is certainly not always the case. A recurrent theme in any discussion of laminitis or founder is the range of affliction from mild to severe. Because it is by no means esay to assess in an emergent case the degree of severity that may ensue it is prudent to assume the case will be severe and to act accordingly. Such a posture will not significantly increase preliminary costs or degree of intrusiveness but may well significantly reduce overall costs and improve outcomes.
Technically, when laminitis causes damage to the laminae founder is the result. I want to stress that laminitis does not always result in founder. Laminitis leaves behind no scar whereas founder does. The threshold between laminitis and founder is widely variable among individuals.

Therapies used during laminitis are expected to prevent progression into founder. Therapies used during or after founder may be expected to affect three very different purposes; ease the pain caused by lamellar damage, to prevent further lamellar damage, or to reverse lamellar damage. The first of these, efforts to ease the pain, are for the most part in fact not therapeutic but palliative. They are implemented with insufficient potency to redirect the course of the condition. The second, prevention of further damage, is important but stops short of the third, which is to reverse damage, thereby restoring the lamellar tissues to a healthy state.

When seeking information about the treatment of founder you must consider what outcome you desire. The so called therapies directed toward reduction of pain include administration of "bute", application of foam or putty to the soles of the feet, sand or other soft footings and insufficient application of cold therapeutics. Sometimes forced exercise is recommended. Therapies directed at prevention of further lamellar damage include (often in addition to the above) mechanical devices used to stabilize the hoof/bone bond such as Heart Bar Shoes or many other devices intended to affect stabilization. Therapies directed at the reversal of lamellar damage include removal of the damaged lamellar tissues permitting the the re-establishment of normal hoof anatomy thereby promoting normal hoof form and function.

My feeling is that understanding of these options is of paramount importance. However, even when these options are well understood they may not be available to all horse owners. In most instances availability of resources dictates the level of therapeutic response. The resources in question are money, knowledge/experience and time. In most cases the restrictive factor will be knowledge/experience.

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Why are my legs so skinny danm can i get them fatter (link)
I've heard if you eat standing up, the food goes to your legs instead and not your stomach. I don't know if that is true or not, but you could try it.
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i have played basketball for 2 years now im pretty good but not the best well now i moved and i made alot of new friends i really wanna play basketball next year but they all keep saying no dont play only popular girls play ( im not a nerd or geek, im just also as my friends say not "popular" ) should i listen to my friends or should i just try out for the team (link)
If your friends are going to be like that, then you should know they aren't worth it. Good friends would support what you want to do. Try out for team :]
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does anyone know any sites i can get to any website? for example, kproxy.com, stealth-ip.com? my parents blocked myspace and it would be nice to have other ways of getting in! even with kproxy.com im limited to what i can do on there. for example i cant post up a blog i have to ask my friends to do that for me. give them the password and everything. (link)
you can use unblockthis.com


should i date a guy that's somewhat in the military? i like him, but i'm afraid to .. (link)
My sister's husband is in the military and I think he is great. Military guys are cute and tough, but senstive inside.....perfect! he he! Just try it? What have you got to lose?
Good Luck :]


my lips are swollen from being so chapped.. i try chap stick and it doesnt seem to make it better. what can i do? (link)
Put vaseline on at night and by morning they'll feel a LOT better. If this doesn't work then seek professional help, becase it could be a serious condition!
Good Luck :]


ok theres this guy that i have known for a little over a year. and lastnight my friend had a party. and i dont know what happend..i just like fell in love with that kid. i would ask him out, but i dont want other people to judge me for going out with him. hes really cute and really really nice. and i like that in a guy. we were flirting with eachother and one of my friends only knows and she said i should go for him. but i dont want other people to think im like weird for going out with him. i dont know what to do!! and my friend, who told me to ask him out, was like i think he likes you and all that stuff and im confused!! please help. ill rate high!!
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If you like him, then go for him! Who cares what other people think..... f*uck 'em all! ha ha! If he is really cute and really really nice then why do you care what people think about you guys going out? They'll all be jealous! ha ha! What matters is that you like him and that should be enough.
Good Luck :]


Well i got a problem and its really bugging me cause it hurts me cause i want a g/f!! Well i always start to hang out with the person that i like to get to knoe them but finally when i think i know them enough i decide to ask them out but i always get the same line "were to good of friends" whick i hate now but anyway now i got this girl that i like that i have been really good firends with.. But she just broke up with her b/f cause he was a mean to her and she talked to me more than him...the problem is i want to ask her out but on the other hand i dont want to lose her cause she is a great girl and i love her to death but i mean we talk about everyday for 2 or 3 hours and we always enjoy it...What should i do?? Thanks (link)
Tell her exactly what you just told us! Just be honest and open to everything. I'm sure she feels the same way.
Good Luck :]


I have brown hair with blonde highlights. Now that it's summer and I'm tan, I want to go back to brown, or a little darker. What is a good brand to use to dye your own hair? (link)
Hair coloring can be a great way to cover up gray hair, to add vibrance to your current hair color or get the hair color that you’ve always wanted. Read more about hair coloring below to make sure that your hair color turns out the way you want it to.

Types of Hair Color

Temporary- Color only lasts for one shampoo
Semi-Temporary- Color will last about five shampoos.
Demi- Permanent- Will last about six weeks.
Permanent- will completely change hair color. Touch ups needed about every six weeks.
How Hair Color Works
Hair color opens up the outer layer of the hair to allow the color to penetrate the root of the hair. The different types of hair color will penetrate the hair in different ways, leaving a different color. To permanently change hair color, an oxidation chemical reaction needs to take place. Hair color comes in a variety of creams, gels and shampoos.

Things to Remember About Hair Color

What you see on the package or in the tube itself is not what your actual hair color will be. The color will change a lot when it is actually put on your hair, so choose a color that you will okay with if it is a little different than the color on the package.
Know the numbers. Hair color is assigned a Level ’number’ from 1 to 10 with 1 being black and 10 lightest blonde.
Try to never do your first coloring at home. Go to a professional stylist to find out what will look best. After you have chosen a shade that is just right for you, it might be possible to recreate that same shade at home.
Never judge a hair color on what looks good on another person. Find out what looks best on you.
Choosing a Hair Color

When you first start coloring your hair, you will want to choose a shade that is as close to your natural color as possible. It is unrealistic to think that you can go from dark brown hair to blonde hair in one hair coloring. The coloring process takes time to get the desired effects. You will also want to choose a hair color that compliments your skin tone. If you have a dark complexion, you will probably not want to go platinum blonde. If you have very fair skin, doing a dark black color would probably not be the best decision. Experiment and find out what makes you look and feel your best.

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the other day in gym, we were playing softball. i'm not very athletically inclined, if you know what i mean. i was up to bat and i like hit the ball and i screamed. my gym teacher goes 'i think she has issues' and she said this in front of the whole class. i asked her what she meant and she goes 'well when ever you get pressured or have the spotlight on you, you scream and flail your arms around, that's just one of your issues.' i didn't really think anything of this, but now the more taht i think about it, it is making me upset.

is this an appropriate thing to say to me [a 13 year old] ?


and i'm thinking of having my mom call her, would this be a good idea. (link)
Having your mom get involved would just make the situation more awkward. Maybe your gym teacher was just kidding. If you are postive that the gym tacher wasn't kidding than, yes, get your mom to talk to the gym teacher and explain to the gym teacher yourself that it was embrassing and it hurt your feelings. I'm sure the gym teacher will understand and won't do it again. If she continues to harrass you though, then get the principal involved or ask to switch to another gym class.
Good Luck :]


Ok so heres my problem, I am really just feeling lonely right now. My friends and everyone I know basically is going out with someone and well nobody really seems to like me. I have plenty of friends male and female, I guess a pretty good personality (otherwise they wouldnt hang out with me right?)I just dont get it. I also have pretty low self esteem so right now I'm pretty much guessing I'm ugly or something because no matter what I do nobody likes me. My friends always have the girls coming after them even! And I'm always pushed aside...Sigh. Any advice, and I for one seriously don't have faith in that good personality is what they're looking for thing. Thanks
Will Rate (link)
Just be nice and be yourself. Girls LOVE it when you are nice and gentle. Just do small things for the girl you like, like hold open the door for her orrrrr see if she needs help on the assignment you are working on. Just small, simple things like that.
Good Luck :]


im 15 almost 16 and i am still in a AA-cup bra.

mom is a A-cup, but my sister is a C-cup.

This is completely destroying my life! I have not had a boyfriend cuz' my breasts are tiny now I am old and nobody will want me.

what about breast enlargement?

are there any other wayz i can get someone to love me?

is surgery for enlarging my breasts my best way to get my life back?

i want to have a boyfriend before i get old! am i already too old? none of the boys will want me soon. i am almost 16!

Please HELP ME! (link)
There is nothing wrong with small breasts. And if you want breasts just so you can get a boyfriend, then your asking for a shallow relationship. You want some guy to use you for your body, then dump you afterwards? You want them to be hanging and giving you back problems when you're older? I don't think so.

You shouldn't get a breast enlargement at such a young age. Your breasts are still developing. It will hurt too, the enlargement. And those stitches, and the pain after that. Do you want that? I don't think so.

You can get someone to love you by being yourself. Be more confident, and show those guys that you don't need breasts to be fabulous. Do you want to live in hiding, never revealing your true self? I don't think so.

You are not too old, and people go to age 19 without a boyfriend. And if you show your true self, you will find a guy who loves you for you. Guys don't judge by breasts, unless their shallow assholes.

Hope I helped!


hello! i hope someone can help me..

ok, last april 30 and may 1, my boyfriend and i had dry sex. there was no penetration because i was wearing my undies. but accidentally, mine and his had contact but it was very quick and no penetration.

i'm not sure if i have irregular period. i got my period last may 15.

the problem is that, i haven't gotten my period up to this day, june 23. is it possible that i am pregnant? please help. i've read that some women still have their period even they're pregnant.. thank you so much.. (link)
The only way to be sure is to go get a pregnancy test. If you aren't pregnant you should go to a docter so you can see if it is anything serious, like a tumor or an infection hat occured in that area.
God Luck :]


I havent had my period for 4-5 months!But im not pregnant why is this?PLEASE HELP!!! (link)
You should go see a professional as soon as possible, because this could be a really serious condition.
If you take the pill to get shorter and less frequent periods, then this is normal.
Good Luck :]


so here it goes
we started going out about 6 months ago. Everything was perfect. he loved me and he wanted to be the best boyfriend he could be. about a month into the relationship we had sex for the first time. i know it seems forward, but we were friends with benefits four months prior to going out.. after we had sex. we started fighting alot. he was trying to get involved with dealing drugs..and i thought he was doing drugs.. and yeah that was our first fight. we resolved it and then my best friend told me she had heard his friends talking about smoking weed with him and stuff.. so i flipped out on him again.. and he was really upset .. because he doesnt do that.. and he didnt want to lose me. we kept fighting over things.. soon my friend told me she hated him and he treats me like shit and i need to leave him. and i do admit.. he could have treated me with ALOT more respect. he always complained about what i looked like.. he never told me i was beautiful.. if i didnt wear something "sexy" i wouldnt get any sort of attention at all. where as he used to stare into my eyes and tell me how beautiful i was.. we were almost going out for 5 months when we got into a huge fight.. because i had his myspace password and he kept sending girls messages telling them how sexy they were. this hurt me.. and he ended up flipping out on me.. and im one of those kind of people who cant go to sleep at night knowing someones mad at them.. so i had him stay on the phone with me for 4 hours trying to resolve the problem...in the morning he apologised but i was still hurt and sick of the fighting .. so i sent him an email telling him how horrible he treats me. he ended up breaking up with me. it was dramatic.. he cried when he did it. so i know he didnt want to. the next day.. we didnt even look at eachother in school.. i came online when i got hoem and he begged for me back.. and i gave in. .we were just going to take a break and i gave in. the next day i asked him if we were still going to get back together eventually..and he said "idk i only said that to make you feel better" and i went to his house and screamed at him .. because he lead me on again. and then he said he'd go out with me until summer comes.. because he wants to do his own thing over the summer. stupidly i agreed. and we went out .. we've been going out.. but he's been different.. i say "i love you" and he either jokes around and makes sum dumb comment or he mumbles it back.. he tries to strangle me sometimes. .and i honestly cant tell if hes fooling around or not. we wrestled the other day.. just cutsy bf gf wrestling.. and then he started punching me.. and stuff.. and his friend saw and he was like "woah stop thats not cool" .. i have a huge buise on my arm from him punching me. and while we were wrestling i accidently kicked him in the balls.. he knew it was an accident but he still flipped out on me .. he wrapped his arm around my neck and put his hand over my mouth and nose. he held it there for a while too.. i started crying and he just kissed me better.. but still . we broke up today.. and we're supposed to be getting together next school year.. but i just want to know.. is this too serious? because i know when im in a bad situation i never notice how bad it REALLY is.. and i just want to be safe. (link)
you need to stay away from him. its serious right now but it can get worse. he sounds too unstable. it scares me the way he treats you b/c it sounds like it could be one of those things that go from bad to tragic in little time. im not trying to sound like i'm tellin you what to do, but you should just stay away from him


What exactly is dry sex? Like i know its sex with your clothes on but how many clothes? what articles of clothing? what else are you doing? what else is it involve? I just dont get it. a detailed response gets 5!

also. what base is it when you put like whip cream on your chest and a guy licks it off?


Thanks! (link)
dry sex is just humping. it doesnt matter how may clothes you have on,you dont even have to have clothing on. you do anything else you want... kissing, licking, scratching, grabbing w/e but that's not dry sex its just stuff you do while you're humping. honestly i dont know why they call it 'dry' sex, cuz you dont stay dry! lol, thats basicly it except eating food off someone doesnt have a specified base.
ok i dont think i left anything out. let me know if i did.


Okay, so I'm pretty much a hardcore soccer player. I play it often. But my mom is always thinking she knows so much about it, and I tell you she doesn't.

She yells at me for stupid mistakes, for everything that goes wrong in our house, and finds ways to call me a loser, loner, and that I suck at stuff, without actually saying it. She's called me a bitch so many times I couldn't count. But my real question is, is what she doing really abuse?

People have told me it was, but I just don't know anymore. She did physically abuse me ages 7-10, maybe that's why I'm not sure or not. And I've been depressed, at least I think a lot. She's making me want to quit soccer from all the camps and stress. And many of my close soccer friends are scared of that because I'm that one girl on the team who puts on a good additude, never gives up, gives it her all, knows what she needs to fix, and would miss what is important to her just to play. And I also go outside and practice often. And I just can't play well anymore and starting not to love it.

so is it abuse?

any help or advice would be amazing. (link)
my mom will do those same things to me. inadvertently telling me i'm worthles and stuff like that. so i pretty much understand where you're soming from. it would be great if you could go live with a friend just for a week or two, just to relieve the tension. assuming your mom is not and over-sensitive psycho who gets pissed at you for breathing the wrong way, try and talk to her about it. dont let your mom ruin your life please dont. just try and get out of there if you can. a therapist may be a good idea.
good luck girl.
xoxo
ps. yes it is abuse




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