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serious?
so here it goes
we started going out about 6 months ago. Everything was perfect. he loved me and he wanted to be the best boyfriend he could be. about a month into the relationship we had sex for the first time. i know it seems forward, but we were friends with benefits four months prior to going out.. after we had sex. we started fighting alot. he was trying to get involved with dealing drugs..and i thought he was doing drugs.. and yeah that was our first fight. we resolved it and then my best friend told me she had heard his friends talking about smoking weed with him and stuff.. so i flipped out on him again.. and he was really upset .. because he doesnt do that.. and he didnt want to lose me. we kept fighting over things.. soon my friend told me she hated him and he treats me like shit and i need to leave him. and i do admit.. he could have treated me with ALOT more respect. he always complained about what i looked like.. he never told me i was beautiful.. if i didnt wear something "sexy" i wouldnt get any sort of attention at all. where as he used to stare into my eyes and tell me how beautiful i was.. we were almost going out for 5 months when we got into a huge fight.. because i had his myspace password and he kept sending girls messages telling them how sexy they were. this hurt me.. and he ended up flipping out on me.. and im one of those kind of people who cant go to sleep at night knowing someones mad at them.. so i had him stay on the phone with me for 4 hours trying to resolve the problem...in the morning he apologised but i was still hurt and sick of the fighting .. so i sent him an email telling him how horrible he treats me. he ended up breaking up with me. it was dramatic.. he cried when he did it. so i know he didnt want to. the next day.. we didnt even look at eachother in school.. i came online when i got hoem and he begged for me back.. and i gave in. .we were just going to take a break and i gave in. the next day i asked him if we were still going to get back together eventually..and he said "idk i only said that to make you feel better" and i went to his house and screamed at him .. because he lead me on again. and then he said he'd go out with me until summer comes.. because he wants to do his own thing over the summer. stupidly i agreed. and we went out .. we've been going out.. but he's been different.. i say "i love you" and he either jokes around and makes sum dumb comment or he mumbles it back.. he tries to strangle me sometimes. .and i honestly cant tell if hes fooling around or not. we wrestled the other day.. just cutsy bf gf wrestling.. and then he started punching me.. and stuff.. and his friend saw and he was like "woah stop thats not cool" .. i have a huge buise on my arm from him punching me. and while we were wrestling i accidently kicked him in the balls.. he knew it was an accident but he still flipped out on me .. he wrapped his arm around my neck and put his hand over my mouth and nose. he held it there for a while too.. i started crying and he just kissed me better.. but still . we broke up today.. and we're supposed to be getting together next school year.. but i just want to know.. is this too serious? because i know when im in a bad situation i never notice how bad it REALLY is.. and i just want to be safe.
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you need to stay away from him. its serious right now but it can get worse. he sounds too unstable. it scares me the way he treats you b/c it sounds like it could be one of those things that go from bad to tragic in little time. im not trying to sound like i'm tellin you what to do, but you should just stay away from him
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please, please, please, please- do yourself a favor and get out fo this as soon as you can. no guy shuld even think about laying his hand on a girl in that way. my fiance jokes around with me- asking if id ever fight him- but he has never hit me, punched me, even wrestled with me in a demeaning way. i think if you dont get out of this mess, you will really regret it in the future. at least do me the favor, and seriously think about all the bad things that could happen. i dont know you- but i do know that you need to get out of all this and real soon. please stay in contact with me- id really like to know how everything goes.
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wow long story! um no no no no do not get back together with him. it seems he is just using you. also the whole fighting thing this sounds seriouds. play fighting you say but it sounds rough. so do not get back with him even if he says he loves you or cries. yes it will be tough but this is serious a bad situation. hope i helped! bye ♥ terri
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This is serious. Very serious. This guy seems to have great emotional control over you, and will furthermore abuse you emotionally, and is starting to physically. This guy is a jerk. It appears that he has lost genuine respect of you.. I feel that you should try to get out of this relationship as quickly as possible because it seems that lingering in it will cause you to be more hurt, and if given the chance again, I think that being in a relationship with someone like this who does not have genuine respect for you is a COMPLETE waste of your time! You deserve someone much better who will respect and care for you, and who will not take advantage of your feelings...
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whatever you do, DO NOT get back together with him. you are not safe with him and this guy will never treat you right. you don't deserve any of that and he looks at you like his toy... that's disgusting. find a better man....please! please be safe. <3
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Don't get back together with him, hun.
You keep taking him back, and giving him chances, but he takes advantage of that and keeps being rude and obnoxious.
If he sees that you keep taking him back, he'll just think 'Oh, cool, [your name] wants to get back with me. Guess I'll use her again'. You know? That thing that he did to you with the plugging your nose and the hand over the mouth was way out of line. You were just messing around with him, and you didn't mean to hurt him 'down there'. He takes things way too seriously.
I think he'll break your heart once more if you take him back. It doesn't sound like you two are meant for each other.
This sounds like what happened to my mom and her old boyfriend about 4 years ago. I still remember how crazy he was till this day. He would come over and just sleep on our couch and drink. Then, he bought a really nice truck with OUR credit, and THEN decided to tell my mom about it. He was divorced and his previous wife just dumped him and kicked him out because he was always drunk and was never that responsible. My mom always felt sorry for him and never kicked him out. Our family would always tell us how bad he was for her. I even found a huge stash of whisky bottles under the couch in the basement. It was really sad.
Well, sorry for telling you an entire story there. But, you can't let him do that to you.
Hope I helped!
♥ SiMA
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