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we're having our 2 year anniversary in like, a week, and i want to get him something nice. i have a $150 limit on the present though.

hes a hardcore, punk, metal styled guy and doesnt wear much jewelry, only the necklace i gave him for our 6 month that's celtic. he already has cologne that smells GREAT and drives me wild.other than those ideas, i'm stuck

what can i give that would be appropriate and he might like? are engraved rings inapporpriate, like not suitable for the occasion? what would you guys like to get or what have you girls given and your guy liked?

I'm assuming he likes music. Concert tickets would be a great idea. Or a nice classic record of his favorite band.

Engraved rings might be a bit much.

You could also take him out to dinner and a movie. If he usually pays for dates you pick up the tab.

how do you lose weight in your UPPER thighs?

You cannot target weight loss. You can only target muscle gain. Eat healthy and excercise and the fat will go away. If you would like to tone it, try doing squats, jogging, or swimming.

16/f
i dont kno if im ready for the next step (fingering etc.) i kno im ready for him to touch me but i dont kno about me touching him
i feel like i could do it but then i feel like im not ready
i hav no clue what to do becaus i think it would feel good and make all the other stuf we do better but i seriously dont kno

The truth is if you're not sure you're not ready. Give it some time. Tell him you want to wait a little. If he loves you he'll understand.

this must sound really stupid but what is the hymen? i should know this seeing how iam a girl. and why does it break? and when does it reak. like does it have to be during sex? or can it be during masturbation?

A hymn is a small piece of skin that breaks when you loose your virginity. It can also be broken by masturbating, putting a tampon in wrong, or riding a horse or a bike in an awkward position. Most girls would rather have it broken while having sex because that makes it more meaningful.

What makes you happy the most?

Family and friends. Talking and having someone understand you. Reading a book that really makes you think. Listening to a song that makes me feel infinite.

Would you rather be told the truth that could potentially destroy your life and change everything you know, or a lie that would save you from the truths?

Will the lie save me from the entire situation? If yes then, to be honest, I'd rather be lied to. But if I'm screwed either way then I'd like to know the truth. That was I can still save my life because I know the situation.

If the world would be more openminded and more
apologetic then we would finally have peace for once?

I do believe it would help a lot, but there would not be peace. It is human nature to be defensive. That is why we have wars.

Also the cultural differences in the world cause people to be less understanding. Though the world would be better if we were openminded to it, there still would not be peace. Culture is what teaches people to act a certain way. You cannot change every country's background.

And unfortunately, apologies only really go so far.

If you had to go back in time and change one thing, if you HAD to, even if you have "no regrets" what would you change?

I would go back to the 7th grade when I had no confidence. I would've walked with my head held a little higher and i would've stopped crying over silly things.

But if it was possible to go back before I was born, I would go back to when my mom and her brother and sisters were teenagers. I would warn my uncle not to start drinking at 16 and tell my aunt not to go out in the sun. Because those are the reasons that they are now dead.

where can i see the movie Thirteen online?

It's on youtube.

i want to be really skinny, and nothing will work! so i decided to be anorexic, how do i become anorexic? like, how do i start, i know that ussually it an illness but it just seems easey! please help! :D

DO NOT STARVE YOURSELF!

You don't just start being anorexic. It's fucking serious. It's not easy. People have serious disorders that cause them to hate themselves and starve themselves. It IS an illness.

I know someone that has DIED from anorexia. It's not some funny little game. It may make you skinny, but it's gross. It's a SICKNESS! Do you really want to be sick?

Please, never become anorexic. It's not worth it. Your life is much more important than being a size zero.

okay so i need a makeover a new look. everything from hair, makeup to clothes any suggestions? well see my hair is a few inches bellow my shoulders and i want it to be longer. and my eyebrows ar really bushy and my mom won't let me do anything to them. and where should i shop at?

wwww.myspace.com/omfg_its_nikita

look at my pictures and ive me suggestions based on that please.

Well, for your hair there really isn't anything you can do to make it longer naturally. You could get extensions, but sometimes they look really fake. Talk to your mom about your eyebrows. Tell her it really bothers you. If she listens, good! Get them waxed. If she does not listen, then you might just have to pluck them yourself. I am usually against doing things behind your parents backs, but when it's something like plucking them, it's not a big deal. You can buy a tweezer at a dollar store. You should probably do it with a friend around so she can tell you if it looks good.

The link to your myspace doesn't work, so I'm unable to see your pictures. But I'll give you what colors would look good with each eye color:

Blue eyes:
-brown eye shadow
-dark brown eye liner and mascara.

Green eyes:
-gold eye shadow
-dark brown or black eye liner and mascara

Brown/Hazel eyes:
-any color eye shadow looks good
-black eye liner and mascara

I advise not using eye shadow too often. Sticking to eye liner and mascara looks really good most of the time. Also pick out a cover-up that matches your skin tone and finish the look with a neutral lip gloss.

I always ache the day after jogging.
What am I doing wrong? I am new at
this by the way.

You actually answered your own question. When you first start jogging it's natural to ache because your muscles aren't used to it yet. Give it a few more days and the pain will go away.

14/f becoming a freshman

Well this is kinda 2 questions. Sorry. Anyways my first question is now that im getting into HS i dont know how im going to have an actual relationship with a guy because i cant date till im a senior. My older sister (leaving for college) wasnt aloud to date till she was a senior and is trying to convince my mom and dad to let my brother and i date at least when we are4 a sophmore because my brother will be a junior. She told them no one wanted to date her then and shes never had a real bf. I dont know whats gonna happen. I was thinking about it and there are alot of resturants up the street from school and people go down there so i was thinking we could do that but im not really sure.

Next question is im beginging to feel more and more left out about not having a bf when all my other friends have. A guy has never asked me out before and people tell me im pretty and that i have such a good personality and yet there is nothing. I hate watching a show or a movie and that person is on a date or is having her first kiss because i want that so bad. Like a few minutes ago im watching this TV show and the girl is going on dates and is kissing and im talking to my best friend (who has a bf and kissed) and im talking to her you know what its like i dont. I just feel so left out. I hate imagining about it and thinking about it because i get so depressed about it. only 2 guys have liked me. 1 in 7th and one in 8th. but they never told me but i knew. i had that gut feeling but they both got back with there ex girlfriends. I feel hopless and im getting braces and i i have no idea how im gonna kiss or make out with braces without cutting the guy. i just want a guy that will walk with me to class talk on the phone, makes me laugh. i had some self esteem issues in 7th grade and now everything is back to normal and i think im pretty again but i feel all the bf/ kissing thing is blowing up in my face. i like pray to God to help me but i just cant take it anymore. i want to know. people say its not all that but i wanna find that out for myself. please help me.
thanks.

Babe, you sound A LOT like me. Self esteem issues in 7th grade? Been there, and I too had them in seventh grade. Never had a boyfriend or been kissed? Welcome to my world. I'm able to answer questions about love life though, just because I know everything. Never doubt that about me.

The first thing is your parents rules are your parents rules. You should try to persaude them to let you go on dates, but that doesn't mean you have to let it get you down. I'm not saying to go out with every guy you meet, however, that doesn't mean you can flirt and maybe go to the occasional movie with a guy.

Feeling left out because you don't have a guy? Been there, done that. People say you're pretty and have a good personality, yet no one asks you out? Once again, I've been through that. Honestly, the only thing you can do is wait. And think about it. Would you rather make-out with guys you have no feeling for or wait for the right one? My guess is the latter of the two. People find romance at all different ages. You're 14. Some people aren't kissed until 18. And in my opinon, that probably won't happen to you, seeing as people HAVE liked you.

Next, don't worry about braces. Truthfully, no one really gets cut with braces. There are probably a few cases where it has happened, but it's not probable.

I really hope I helped! If you want you can ask me for my screenname and we can talk. You sound a lot like me =].

okay, so i want to loose 20lbs before school starts. i'm not really as fat as i was in the beginning of the year (168). i'm now 142lbs.

my plan for loosing this weight is:
Breakfast- Oatmeal, Bannana, OJ, Multivitamin
OR MiniWeats, AppleSauce, OJ, Multivitamin
Lunch- Garden Salad w/ ranch dressing.
OR "Chicken" Nuggests (they're really sweet corn and mozzerella cheese).
Dinner- Pasta with Sauce
OR Brocolli with Rice and Cheddar Cheese.
Snacks- Strawberries, Watermelon, any Fruit, Peanutts.
(this is a vegetarian Diet)

Workout Plan 3-4x a week:
Aerobics for 40 minutes - Running, Walking, Biking, etc.
Pushups and Situps - at least 60 each.

so thats my plan for the summer. is there anything i need to add to my diet? Please help me. i really want to loose these pounds.

any tips would be appreciated as well.

thank you and sorry if i asked this question before :)

You need more protien in your diet. Yhe cheese is good, but you still need more. You should eat nuts, fish (depending if you're the kind of vegetarian who eats fish or not), or drink soy milk.

how long can you leave a tampon in for?

Most tampons are allowed to be left in for 4-8 hours. I'd say to change it every 4-6 because TSS (toxic shock syndrome) is more common among young girls and teens.

i have a verizon cell phone, pretty simple. i'm not sure what model it is exactly, but it's an lg. i want to get the pictures onto my computer, but it didn't come with a cord. how can i get them onto my computer without having to download/sign up for anything? also, would it cost money? thankss

Do you have picure messaging? If so you need to e-mail it to yourself.

What you need to do is add your e-mail to your contacts list. Click new contact. Name it E-mail then go down to the envelope and type in you e-mail address.

How pick the picture you want to send and hit Options then send picture. When the picture message comes up hit Add and make sure it brings you to your contact list. Scroll down to your e-mail and hit 'ok' then "done." after that just press the send button and you're good to go.

If you do not have a text messaging plan this will cost you 10 cents per picture.

i really dont want my period for a vacation trip with my friends, but knowing my luck i probably will get it the first day i leave. i dont know how to wear tampons..ehh i need help =/ are their anyways that could make me either a. get it right now or b. do anything that will poostpone if for like a week?

Excersinsing slows periods down. So be active! Go for a job, ride your bike, do whatever you like but keep moving.

I just wanna know what might be the best way to ask a girl out. Thanx :)

Well make sure you ask her out in person. Asking a girl out online is tacky. It's best to do it when she's alone because if she rejects you when you're with a group of friends, you won't be so happy.

Bringing her a gift is nice to. Flowers, chocolate, a teddy bear, ect. Be creative. Write a song or a poem if that's your thing.

And above all have confidence.

so when me and my boyfriend have sex, i never orgasm. it feels really good, and i love it - but i just don`t get off. i get off when he goes down on me, etc., but not during sex. what`s wrong? am i doing anything wrong? i don`t understand why i don`t get off... i`m 17 btw. any suggestions or answers would be helpful! thanks

Many women aren't able to orgasm through actual intercourse. They can only orgasm through oral. You are probably one of those women. Don't fret.

However, try propping your pelvis up on pillows during sex. It gives better access to your g-spot.

How many hours a day is it okay to have your rubber bands off?

Because I always sleep in them for the whole night but I have them off at random times during the day.

Do they LITERALLY have to be on 24/7?

thanks

First off, thank you for reminding me to go put mine in.

Anyway, you are supposed to keep them in as close to 24/7 as possible. As you can see, you obviously forget sometimes. Take them out when you brush your teeth. Some orthodontists say to take them out when you eat, some say not to. But the longer you leave them in the quicker your braces will come off.

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