Meditate. That's what I do - I have major insomnia. I can get in bed at 1 and stay awake 'til 4 in the morning, but sometimes meditating works.
Or even just deep breathing/letting your mind wander. Just don't concentrate on falling asleep, whatever you do. That'll make it worse, lol.
In through your nose, out through your mouth. Try visualizing, in your mind's eye, at the top of a flight of stairs and count backwards from ten with each breath you let out. If you wanna try meditating, every time a stray thought pops into your head, go up one step. Just concentrate on the stairs and counting backwards. (I do that to get into meditation, it works)...
Um....
I reccomend deep breathing/letting your mind wander.
I hope this helped!
-Siren =)

Well, to me, it sounds as if you aren't quite ready. I dunno about you, but when I started to get really serious with my boyfriend and we started talking about sex, I realized I had doubts at first.
Doubts, to me, meant that I wasn't ready. When all my doubts disappeared, then I knew I was ready.
If you freaked out and wanted him to stop, I'm guessing you really aren't ready for sex, and that's probably what's wrong. You didn't even want him to get your shirt off? You've gotta be comfortable naked around a guy, I think, before you have sex...At least, that was the case in my situation. Take it slow - don't rush into sex. You have your whole life to have sex and all that jazz.
Hope this helped!
-Siren =)

No need to be scared!
Just be yourself, flirt a little, and take it slow. No need to do anything you don't wanna do.
Just treat it like you were going out with one of your friends, but dress up a little, if you want to. That's not even a requirement.
Remember, HAVE FUN! That's the main thing.
I hope this helped!
-Siren =)

Well, the only way to find out exactly why she broke up with you is to ask her straight out. Tell her you want to know exactly why she broke up with you, if she wants to be with you next summer.
Sounds to me like she's kinda fickle. Can't make up her mind. You've gotta communicate with her if you wanna know what's going on!
Hope this helped!
-Siren =)

Well, when I put eyeliner on my top lid, I usually take my index finger and pull the corner out so my eye almost closes, but not quite, then I concentrate on getting the liner on my lashes instead of my lid. If you do that, the line will be thinner.
For my bottom lid, I pull it down so that red part shows, and concentrate on getting that liner on my lid, and partially on my lashes.
If your lashes are black, use black liner. If not, wear a color that matches your lashes, if you can find one. Hope this helped!
-Siren =)

Well, you've got two options, the way I see it:
You can confront him about it - talk to him and tell him you've noticed the way he flirts with you, and that the feeling is mutual, and you'd like to try a couple of dates (the last bit is optional)
Or
You can leave it alone and see what happens. Just keep flirting and let fate take its course.
If I were in your situation, I'd probably do the first option and talk to him about what I see (and hear) and how I'd kind of like something to happen. Suggest maybe keeping it out of work so it doesn't get awkward.
Keep in mind, though, if you end up with him and the relationship doesn't go well or ends badly, work would be...icky. Lol
If you need more help, feel free to ask. That's why I'm here!
-Siren =)

Ah! I SO know how you feel! I tell my mom everything, too. She's my best friend, and it's great that you have that relationship with your mom. She went with me to my gyno appointment to get birth control.
She doesn't approve of my sexual activity, but she's not stopping me 'cause I'm safe. She thinks I'm too young, too. I'm sixteen.
I think you should sit your mom down and really just TALK to her. Explain to her that you feel really ready to have sex, and give her my li'l saying: "Age is a state of mind, not being." I truly believe that, and she might go for it.
Tell her you really want her to understand how serious you are about this, and you want her to know you're going to become sexually active and all that.
I hope this helped!
-Siren =)

Communicate!!!!
Tell her what's on your mind. She's not psychic - she can't know you're worried she doesn't like to hang with you anymore unless you tell her, so open up. ^_^
She might just be busy, or really want to see her friends, but who knows. You've gotta ask her what's going on.
I hope this helped!
-Siren =)

Oh don't worry about that clear slime stuff. That's vaginal discharge, and all girls have it. It's annoying, but it's perfectly normal. If it smells bad, or turns a weird color, go to a doctor.
That clear stuff, though, is your vagina's way of cleaning itself. You therefore have nothing to worry about.
Hope this helped!
-Siren =)

I suggest you go to prom with a group of your girl friends. You don't HAVE to have a date/a guy to go to prom with.
Before last year, I'd never had a date for a dance in my life, but I still went. It can be a lot of fun to go with your friends.
I hope this helped!
-Siren =)

Well, you've gotta keep in mind that guys are always less mature than girls. It's just how we're programmed - girls always mature faster than guys.
If you're not ready for a relationship, don't get into one. *Shrug* Don't let him push you into it if you don't want it.
But, if you like him most of the time, go for it. It's up to you. Make a list, maybe, of the pros and cons of hooking up with him, look it over, and make your decision.
I hope this helped!
-Siren =)

Why not? I did that all through tenth grade. I turned down every guy that asked me out and glared at the ones that hit on me. Guys won't think you're mean if you don't go "no, you're stupid" or whatever, the way I did. Lol
I was really just trying to stay away from guys 'cause I had a bit of a problem with a few of them, and decided that all guys were idiots. I hated them, didn't want a bf, so I pushed them all away as bitchily as I could.
I hope this helped!
-Siren =)

Heh. I had that sort of problem with one of my boyfriends. I could never get up the nerve to kiss him on the lips.
When you go to kiss him, try biting his lower lip a little instead. My guy likes that. Just make sure you don't bite too hard, lol.
When/if you french kiss a lot, think of drawing little shapes (like circles, hearts, the infinity symbol) with your tongue.
Those are a couple of ideas/technique/tips. You don't even have to make the first move for the second one. With the first one, you kinda have to.
I'd think it'd be worth dealing with a bit of nerves to see how he reacts to those things, lol.
I hope this helped a bit!
-Siren =)

Nope, you're perfectly normal. ^_^
I know someone who's 21 and just got her first boyfriend. She's totally normal, too. You've got nothing to worry about, so don't let it get to you!
-Siren =)

That's right, age doesn't matter. Age is a state of mind, not being. ^_^
In any case, if you think you're ready to have sex, and you think he's the one you want to do it with, just TELL him. Just say "I've been thinking about taking our relationship to another level," or something like that. Or you could go the blunt way and say something like "I want to have sex with you." That takes a bit of guts, though.
Just remember to actually SAY what you're thinking or he'll never know.
I hope this helped!
-Siren =)

You're supposed to start it at the end of a period, then take it through the next one. So essentially, a month or one 28-day cycle.
After that, it's in effect, usually.
Hope this helped!
-Siren =)

I think you should tell him - before you tell him your feelings - that you want to keep this friendship, and you'd never do anything to ruin it, but that you think you have a bit of a crush on him.
I'm all for speaking your mind. Guys are not psychic, as much as I'm sure we sometimes wish they were...if you wanna tell him, tell 'im. If not, keep it quiet. It may come out anyway. You never know!
I hope this helped.
-Siren =)

I wouldn't think so, unless your teeth are, like, terrible. I have a 3mm overbite and a rotated tooth, but they said I didn't need braces because my rotated tooth was fixing itself, and the overbite isn't really that much of a problem. It's really kinda up to you, I'd think, but I wouldn't wanna go through all that pain just so my smile could be perfect. Sometimes the beauty is in the flaws. ^_^
-Siren =)

Just tell them the truth, plain and simple. Just make sure you don't sound snappish if you're worried about sounding angry.
You could say something like "No, I'm not anorexic. I just have a high metabolism." Or even just say "High metabolism." Lol
I hope this helped!
-Siren =)

The people that corner you are just afraid of different/the unfamiliar. I've had that problem too - I don't have a set style. I'm known for wearing like, all black, spikes and chains one day and a pink shirt with a khaki skirt and heels the next.
People that challenge you are most likely threatened by you, and you can't really do anything about it. You've just gotta ignore what they say and what they do and know that you're an individual, and you're better than them.
I mean, they're too afraid to branch out on their own. You're a few steps ahead. Don't let it bother you.
Hope this helped!
-Siren =)

I'm a laid-back 26 year old with a Psychology BA, starting my MA program, and working my way into the field as quickly as I can. It took me an extra Bachelor's degree (in vocal performance and creative writing) to figure it out, but I was put on this Earth to help, to heal, and to love.

I have made the decision to dedicate my life and career to helping others. I am here to do just that.

I've been a member since 2004, and since I signed up, I've gone through quite a lot and learned quite a lot from it. I'm here to give guidance where I had none; no one should have to go through the difficulties I went through alone.

Feel free to visit my website/blog, if you want to read my experience with domestic violence and my thoughts on it.

***While I do tend to answer mental health and other health-related or medicine-related questions, I am by NO MEANS a licensed physician or practitioner of any sort. Any and all advice I give for these questions is from my own experience or studies.***

If you need to get a hold of me quickly, my screen name on AIM is SirenCytherea. Just let me know you found me here.

I'm a strong believer in the idea that there are no stupid questions except the ones left unasked, so, please, keep an open mind, heart, and mouth.

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