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Hey! My name is Ashlea. I've been a member on here for a few years. I'm 24 years old and have a little baby boy. I'm pretty outgoing and I love to joke around. I have a very strong sense of humor and I love making people laugh. I don't care too much about what other people think about me because in the end, you're all you got. Nothing else matters but your true opinion of yourself. I think everyone is beautiful in their own ways. I never look down on anyone nor do I judge people for their decisions or lifestyles. I love to listen to music. That's probably the only reason I like driving, otherwise, It'd be boring as hell. I love spending time with my son. He is by far the best thing that's ever happened to me. He is my best friend and when I'm with him, nothing else matters. The whole world could pass me by, and as long as I have him, it doesn't matter one bit. He's the only one who can truly make me smile. I am truly happy because of him. I love spending money when I have it, and sometimes, that can be a bad habit. I love to write poems, and am told I am very good at it, but only when I'm upset or bothered by something. Lately, though, I have not written any. I also enjoy writing. I seem to have a way with words and I love how a paper sounds after I write it. It makes me sound more intelligent.(lol) I also like to watch movies, mostly comedy and drama...I hate action movies and boy-ish movies. Horror movies give me nightmares(yes, even at this age.) ...I like to go on the computer alot and I love meeting new people, so feel free to get in touch with me!
I hate people who think they are better than you, and people who are snobby or stuck-up. Having that attitude will never get you anywhere in life, and I look at it as a sign of immaturity. I like to be around people that within the first 5 minutes of talking to them you know that you will already feel comfortable with them because they are that down to earth. I can't stand people who criticize other people and their lives. Understand that you, as well, have things about your life that you do not like...so you wouldn't like it very much if people talked about you in a bad way, would you? We're all human, we all make mistakes and run into bad situations. Things happen that we can't control. These are all parts of life though and can be handled with the help of others, which is why negative criticism is not needed.
I believe that what you can't control, you have to let go. Too often we hang onto things when we have no control or power over its outcome, so in the end, life will take its course and we have to just go with it.
I guess some people would say I can be selfish at times, although I choose not to believe that(lol), and if things don't go my way, i WILL be upset. But, I also learn to get over it and move on. I love giving advice. Everyone I know say that's the one thing they love about me the most...I never judge anyone on any of their problems and I truly do enjoy helping people with their problems in any way I can. I will go to any extent I have to in order to help someone else. I have a habit of putting other people's needs ahead of my own. I have been giving people advice and helping people so much with their problems that I don't even get that GREAT feeling anymore from helping people. It's just in my nature and I am happy to just be able to be of some sort of help to anyone: stanger or friend.
I am not here for the ratings or comments. I am only here to help you, and I hope to recieve help in return when I am in need as well. I understand how sometimes you just need somebody to talk to...someone that understands. So don't be afraid to ask me any questions about anything...i'll help you with anything I can. If there is anything I can help you with that you would like to discuss privately, you can note me in my inbox or email me as well as instant message me on AIM. I would be glad to help you. hope to hear from you soon!!
♥ .even the people that never frown...eventually b r e a k . d o w n. ♥
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all of the sudden im getting b's&c's on like almost every time i used to get A's all the time. I dont know if it's band or my rock band or if it my sports? please help
It can be all of those reasons!! More than likely, each and every one of these things are causing your grades to slip. Maybe you're spending too much time on these activites and not so much time on schoolwork?? Whatever the reason is, make sure to move some things around. School comes first. Education is very important, so be sure to spend a decent amount of time studying, doing homework EVERY night, and paying attention in class. This way, you should be fine. And, if you find yourself having no time for anything else but school right now, then so be it. One thing at a time. This is your first and top priority right now. Good luck hun.
love, ash
Ever since my parents have said no games and no music the internet is boring. Starting my own website is boring. The only thing I can do online that I know of is update my blog so what can people do online besides gaming, chatting, and listening to music?
you can take quizzes online..this one is my FAVORITE website for quizzes:
http://web.tickle.com/
...or you can write e-mails to people...you can hang out on this website and answer other people's questions:)...you can go to www.bored.com and see what they have there..i think it's mostly games though but i'm not sure...you can go to www.buddy4u.com and make a buddy profile ..its soo much fun, im doing that now actually...
well, hope i helped with some ideas!!
love, ash
Dose anyone know what the odds are of getting pregant by the put out method? Cuz he didn't cum in me but i didn't know what the odds are of getting pregant by per-cum or whatever it's called. ~Thanks
My gynocologist actually told me that you can still definately get pregnant if the guy pulls out before he cums. It makes no difference because the "pre-cum", which is the clearish liquid that comes out of his penis when he is horny, even before he inserts it inside of you...and also, he pre-cums right before he actually really cums, so cum is still going inside of you.
Two issues need to be considered: sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and pregnancy. Let's take STIs first — the answer is NO! A condom will help prevent the spread of most STIs, provided you wear it the entire time you are having sex. Putting a condom on at some point after you've already been inside, but before you reach orgasm, is not an effective disease-prevention method. Most disease-causing microorganisms do not depend on ejaculation for transmission.
STIs may not be an issue if both of you were virgins before this relationship, or if both of you were tested for STIs before you started having sex with each other. If you don't fall under either of these categories, you can be screened for STIs. Columbia students can do this at Health Services at Columbia (x4-2284). A primary health care provider or an STI clinic are two other options for testing.
If you are concerned about pregnancy, pulling out (a.k.a., withdrawal) is not the most reliable or forgiving form of contraception. Re-inserting your penis after you've ejaculated (outside the vagina) is not safe either. Within the first few hours after ejaculation, there is usually some sperm left in the urethra. The amount left behind is nowhere near the amount of sperm in the typical ejaculate, but it still presents a risk.
Spermicides, used alone, have the highest failure rates of all methods of birth control — even higher than withdrawal! If pregnancy prevention is important to you, spermicide alone is not the best contraceptive for you. However, you could use a spermicide in addition to withdrawal. The spermicide would offer a "back-up" in the event that you do not pull out in time. Spermicides come in many forms — foams, creams, jellies, suppositories, and vaginal contraceptive films. Some spermicides are made specifically for use with diaphragms, cervical caps, and IUDs, while other spermicides have been adapted for use alone. Most drug stores and pharmacies sell a variety of spermicides — you and your boyfriend may want to experiment with a few to find one that works best. Of course, as with any contraceptive, make sure you read the directions carefully, especially since spermicides have a time frame within which they are effective.
As a primary means of contraception, withdrawal has several disadvantages. First, there's the pre-ejaculate fluid (pre-cum) on which withdrawal will have no effect since it's released well before you ejaculate. This fluid may contain sperm and, thus, it does present a risk of pregnancy. Next, and perhaps more important, is the issue of consistency and self-control. Can you be perfectly consistent at withdrawing each time you have sex? If not, then what's done is done. Of course, you do have the option of emergency contraception (the Emergency Contraception Hotline is 1.888.NOT.2.LATE).
However, on the positive side, withdrawal does have its advantages. It's free, always available, and free of side effects. Second, no side effects are associated with this form of contraception. Estimated failure rate for typical use (meaning you're not totally consistent) is around 20 percent. When practiced perfectly, some researchers estimate the failure rate to be around 5 percent. This means 5 to 20 women out of every 100 who use withdrawal as their contraceptive method get pregnant.
okay, well i had sex with this guy about a month ago and the condom broke. i took ecp (emergency contriception pills) or day after pills,about 48-60 hours after we had sex. but yeah, i was supposed to get my period like a week and a half ago and i havent, i know this is a side effect of the pill, and i even took a pregnancy test and it came out negitive, but my boobs have been hurting and ive been having cramps at the top of my stomach and always having this fullness in my stomach? but yeah anyway, my question is how likely is it that i am? i know im being paranoid but i cant help it!
After having sex, you have upto 5 days to take the pill ...so you should be fine. Maybe you're just worrying yourself too much and feeling paranoid about it. If you want to feel better about this, simply buy a pregnancy test and see for sure. I'm pretty sure you're not pregnant though since the "morning after pill" is another form of birth control but is made to work faster and with only a dose of it.
Ok if you really like someone, but they're going out with someone else but you know they like you, would it be stupid to wait for them? I really need to know what you guys think about that. Thank you so much!
XoXoJamie
All i can say is that if this guy is really interested, what is he doing with his current girlfriend?? And, how much love does he really have for her at all if he can let himself be attracted to someone else?? ..You definately need to confront him because there is no point waiting around for someone that is taken and not interested.
hi. okay well..i had a boyfriend for a little over nine months. and we got so close we were really in love i think. i feel like that i was in love at least. but then i don't know..something happened. and he kind of treated me wrong a little i guess and i don't know things fell apart because he got a new friend & he like influenced him or something who know..guys are weird. so then he broke up with me. but of course i still love him. i always will he was my first love. but now his friend is telling me that he likes me again & he's sort of acting like it. but for some reason, i'm so of scared. because i know i want to say yes to him..but in a way i'm not sure if i should. i want to move on in a way but i miss him so much. and like i'm scared it's going to be akward with us or something because it's been like almost four months i guess since we've been apart. but i don't know. i know i shouldn't worry about this now because i'm not even sure that we're even going to get back together. i don't know. maybe there's no way you can help but should i get worried? or should i just wait it out until something actually happens? i'm just confused. so please help if you can..
hey! ok, well heres what i think ...the only reason he broke up with you is most likely due to his "friend" that is a bad influence on him. His friend must have done or said something to make your man(i mean ex) want to break up with you and be single...im not saying that his friend told him to leave you or anything like that...im just saying that maybe seeing his friend living the "single" life or always wanting to hang out with your man gave your man a different outlook on things...maybe for the worst. If i were in your shoes, I would give this guy another shot...but not without letting him know how his actions have made you feel first! Let him know that you're angry and upset. Then, and only if you feel you are ready(because if you just give it time, you WILL get over him and move on happily), then you can give it another shot. But, first, give yourself some time to let him sulk in his own misery without you. Let him know how he made you feel...and then decide what your best move will be.
Well, hope i helped!! If you need anything else, feel free to get in touch with me!! Take care hun.
Love,
ash
A bit long hey, I'm involved with this guy the beggining of our relationshirp he told me that he is not a pefect boyfriend and he has been alone for a long time so and he doest want to get emotional hooked to me since he avoid being hurt, but he is inlove with me he doesnt wanna loose me so my problem I'm from a relationship which was more like a commitment so now I find it so unusuall the way things happen to my current relationship,for example he does'nt give himself more time to spend with me he likes being with his friends more than anything in his life he calls even after three days and ther's no reason not to, he doesnt give me that attention but what is amazing in his friends, work he always talk about me introduces me to all these peaple as if we one of happily family what is strange when we are to gether we enjoy a lot we dont fight at all so some times it looks like I think the worst of him because he sees nothing wrong from this relationship Ieven ask myself if i want to live him why I dont have a reason because we dont fight at all He does nothing wrong besides his ignorance is it a charector or he is not crazy
about me?because i'm not happy sometimes I miss him so bad but i know where he is I sometimes go through his phone wondering who does he calls I'will finds his friends all the way, and he does'nt like girls I tried to trap him on that i found nothing, so confused pls help
It seems to me that he just doesn't know how to be in a relationship. I mean, he told you he was scared of being hurt and all that, right? Well, then there you go...there's your answer. He has been alone a long time he also told you, so he is used to being alone and not having to answer to somebody all the time. He is not used to being in a relationship again, so definately give him time to get used to this change, and of course, talk to him about this. Just let him know how you're feeling. He may not even realize what he is doing wrong, so by telling him, you would definately be helping A LOT. Also, you have to remember that he is probably hanging out with his friends and love his friends so much because that's probably how it's been for him for a while...just him and his friends. But now that he has a girl, that has to slightly chance. But, you have to let him know that. And, since he introduces you to everyone and talks about you all the time, I'm pretty sure he's crazy about you, so no need to worry there.
Well, good luck and i really hope i helped!!
take care hun,
Ash
I want to start using tampons but I know my mom hates them because she just read something about a 14 year old getting that toxic shock syndrom from them. I'm active (like sports) and I'm really getting sick of using pads. I just don't know how to tell her I want to start using them because I'd get a bad reaction plus she's never used them and it'd be awkward asking her. HELP
ok, toxic shock syndrome or TSS, is a rare disease that may occur when a tampon is left in for more than 8 hours. As long as you change your tampon every few hours, you should be fine. Over half the world's population of girls use them. In every box of tampons, there is a little pamphlet inside the box along with the tampons that explains it all and yes, just like eveything else in the world, there are risks to using tampons, and pads ARE the safest thing to use during your period. Tampons are cleaner though, and don't make such a mess. Here is some info. I found information on the internet on tampons that maybe you can show your mom, but remember, every girl chooses something different. What your mom may prefer(pads), as my mom does too, other females, such as me and you, may choose tampons. It all depends on what is most comfortable to the girl herself.
http://www.tampax.com/en_us/pages/ques_main.shtml?pageid=zn0001
okay, so here's the deal. I went on vacation for a week and before vacation, me and the boy I liked made plans to hang out after vacation. By the way, he told me he liked me too. So when I got back from vacation, he hasn't even talked to me. Not even an attempt to talk to me. It's almost like I don't exist anymore to him. Then I heard from my other guy friend (who likes me) that he was hooking up with this other girl. But today she told him that they weren't anymore. So what's going on?? Why won't he talk to me? ANy help here?!?!?
this guy probably feels really weird talking to you after he started hooking up with this other girl. he most likely was scared and distant, and only for the simple fact that he told you he liked you and now that he was hooking up with another girl, he felt weird around you and most likely wanted to stay away from you. now that hes not hooking up with this girl anymore, talk to him. ask him what the deal is. dont be angry that he hooked up with another girl because its not your place to be mad since your not his girlfriend and it will only cause problems. just shake that off, let it go, and work on the present. im pretty sure he still likes you by the way, so just take it easy, give it a day, and if he doesnt call you, call him "just to say whats up" and see how he acts. good luck, take care, and whats meant to be will happen. bye hun.
i wanna make my boyfriend know that i like him. like i dont want him to break up with me cuz i feel like i havent been the best. and two other girls like him and i personally think they're prettier than me =/.. and i just really dont wanna loose him..like i feel like telling him i love him isnt enough but i dont wanna sound corny if i say more..help!
actions speak louder than words!!! definately call him and just spend time with him as much as you can. by SHOWING him that you like him, he'll get the picture. my boyfriend right now...he used to go out with this girl that never really hung out with him or even called him...and i do just the opposite ...i try and see him as much as i can and call him whenever i miss him(which is alot lol but i call him every few hours or so) ...and he even told me that he can tell i really like him just by how i am acting...so trust me that works!! good luck and take care hun. x0x
im goin out with sumone right now and have been for 3 months he askes me if im ready to have sex but i have no clue what to say because im scared and at a young age (14) my body feels like its ready but i dont know if i am he says hes ok with whatever my choice is!i want to but i dont know if its the right moment sometimes?what should i do go on with it and deal with everything or forget about it???please i need some advice?
i think the answer here is pretty obvious what you need to do. you need to tell him that you are not ready because if you are at all having doubts(as you seem like you are)...then there's your answer for right now. you're not ready it seems, so be honest with him. don`t ever let anyone else influence you in a bad way and give up your body and your mind for someone else's pleasure. it seems as if he is a pretty cool guy because he said that whatever you say he will understand and respect right?? ...so then what's the rush??...there's no point in rushing anything in life, especially something as precious as this. take your time and wait until you are 100% ready. if he somehow can't accept that, then forget about him...he's not worth it anyways if that's the case. this falls under "respect" and how much respect he has for you. if he has enough respect for you to understand and not get mad about this, then that's great. but if he gets even a little bit angry, he's not worth it and he's definately not the type of guy you want to give your body to. well, good luck and take care...if you need anything else, get at me in my inbox.
Okay mine and my boyfriends one year is coming up. And I have NO idea what to get him for it. He doesnt like watches so thats totally out of the picture. PLEASE HELP! I need good ideas!
me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years and for his last birthday, i spoiled him with clothes and the whole bit. you can never go wrong with clothes since everyone loves em!!! good luck and have fun hun. x0xx
alright, my pubic hair has grown outside of my bikini line and it's really noticable whenever i wear a bathing suit... what could i do to get rid of it besides shaving or waxing??? please help, it's like really really embaressing...
~mandy
you can definately Nair it. Put Nair on the area. Look around in the store because i'm pretty sure there is Nair that is specifically for bikini line. good luck and take care hun.
hi there, me again, the guy i slept with, we have spoken but nothing about what had happened, this was like, last week sometime, and his sister has invited me to a party, where i know he will be ther, do i go or not? tell me as it is tonight
thank xx
its probably just really weird and awkward right now for him to talk about it with you. YES, go to the party!!! this could be your chance to clear the air and settle this cold shoulder hes giving you.
Hello. Well, when I make presentations at school or read a paper to the class, I always get nervous. I can't help it. I've tried everything: looking at the wall, looking at the people's noses, practicing a million times the night before, etc. My question is, are there any pills that help with that, or help with nervousness? If there are, are they expensive and do they actually really work? Please help soon because school is coming up. Thank you.
this sounds a bit too familiar to me ...acutally, just last month I posted something on here asking the exact same question!!! ...well, no i dont think there are any pills but after years of having almost a panic attack everytime i get up to present ...i finally came up with a solution to my problem that works great for me. first, let me reassure you that i know EXACTLY how you feel..its like, you can practice and practice and be so ready to give your presentation but then the SECOND you walk up in front of the classroom, your throat gets dry and you can't speak and if you do speak, your voice cracks and you feel like you're gonna break down and cry...and you'd rather pay your teacher a million bucks just to avoid presenting...well, thats how i felt at least. well, after 18 years of dealing with this anxiety(i even thought about seeing a therapist for it because it would get to the point where i would miss an entire school day just so i wouldn't have to present in one certain class)...i finally came up with a solution that works for me. it goes like this: make notecards for yourself to say exactly what you want to say during your presentation. but heres the catch: on each notecard, in the top corner or wherever there is free space ...write the name of someone who makes you feel comforatable and happy...for me, it was my best friend. and, everytime you feel nervous, just look at their name in the corner of your paper and you'll relax. trust me, it works...there were times in my presentation where i was VERY nervous but i would just look at my best friend's name written in the top left hand corner of my paper and i would feel like smiling...even laughing thinking of all the crazy things we did together. just looking at a loved one's name helps!!!
also, you can write your presentation on a piece of paper or type it up ...but, every few sentences or so, skip a line on your paper and write the persons name there, and then skip a line and continue on with your sentences. this way, every few sentences you read, you can relax afterwards by reading their name really quick before you continue on with your presentation.
try it and let me know how it goes because for me, it works great.
good luck to you and i know exactly how you are feeling. dont worry, you are not alone..and just remember, they are only people just like you!!!!
best of luck, x0x hope to hear from you soon..
-ash
my vagina is different from others...is that normal? what shud i do? tell a doctor? what? help please. & also im afraid to do stuff w/ my boyfriend cuz im afraid that after we break up he'll make fun of me for it. please and if i can talk to ny1 about this leave ur sn.
how is it different? i mean...every girl has a different vagina...chances are you THINK it is different because you saw another girl's vagina and it doesn't quite look like yours...well, thats normal...each girls vagina is very different looking from another..there are many different tyes...if you're still worried, then yes, go to a doctor and get it checked out so you can rest easy on this.
im 16/f
me and my bf have sex every three days or so, and we hardly ever use protection, but he always pulls it out before he cums so i havent gotten pregnant yet, is this safe to do, or can i get pregnant from precum? I told him i wanted to do it for a while and to just chill out, he said he respected my desicion and will wait till im ready again, and i cant tell my parents that me and my bf are intimate, but i would really like to know what risks im taking by having sex like this, and we both were virgins until we met and we dont have any sexually transmitted diseases...thanks in advance!!!!
i used to do this with my boyfriend too.....up until i went to the gynocologist one day for an appointment and they told me that pulling out ..otherwise known as "withdrawl" does NOT work. sometimes the precum is impossible to see and its hard to tell when precum will happen. also, a man precums before it goes in you, AND right before he cums...meaning cum still goes in you no matter what right now. so, use protection or get birth control just to be safe.
This may be a little long...Sorry.. but i really need to know what was meant... So.. The other night I was at my boyfriends house we were laying in bed watching a movie... and his friend showed up... and then his brother came in and was watching the movie with us... Well then they all started talking about getting their new cars.. well my boyfriend and his friend.. and his friend said that him and my boyfriend could pick up chicks.... well my boyfriend was like no way.. Ive got mine right here... and put his arm around me... well then his brother said that all Kevin (my boyfriend) would have to do was have me with him to pick up chicks.... So my question is... Was he saying that I'm Hot... Or was he saying that I was like a lesbian or something... I was really confused by what he said..
that all depends on how your boyfriends reaction was. if your boyfriend gave a look or looked at all angry, then he meant that you were a lesbian so to speak. but if your boyfriend smiled at you or a good reaction came out of him towards you, then that means you`re hot.
okay well i have this really good guy friend that's so awesome. and he's liked me for a long time and finally told me but we're still cool and everything. but now he's getting to the point where he compliments me a lot and last night when he was getting off the internet when we were chatting he said i love you but he also said lol but signed off quick so i don't know if he was just joking or meant it i don't know but i have a boyfriend and he makes me feel so bad because i don't have feelings for him. so what should i do? please help me thanks
i think its pretty obvious what you need to do. let him know that you do have a boyfriend and that you are really trying to see where you and your boyfriend's relationship can lead to. let him know that he is a really good friend but, for now, thats all you can be for him. you are unavailable and that is no reason for you to feel bad. yes, he likes you, but so does your boyfriend. you need to let this friend know that its not going to happen, and dont lead him on by not telling him.
what are the bases??
like
1st is frenching.. right?
can anybody please tell me? Thanks
1st base = kissing/french kissing,etc.
2nd base = touching/making out/feeling up someone or getting felt up
3rd base = giving head/getting eaten out,etc.
4th base = having sex