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Ok in clas we had to excercise while following it on thsi video and the guy kept saying to make sure to tighten your butt and abs while excercising.

Does that mean that I'm supposed to suck in my tummy when I excersise? What about the butt thing?

When you're doing something like situps, you should try to hold your stomach in (breathe in) when you are doing the situp. Then when your elbows are at your knees at the end of the situp, you can breathe out and let your stomach out. And then repeat. Same thing for when you're doing leg lifts, squats, or anything like that.

You do not need to suck your stomach or butt in when you are doing cardio exercise. (like running, biking, swimming, etc.)

So basically, yes, when you are trying to strengthen your muscles, you may want to hold them in. Apparently it is more effective that way, but I'm not really sure I believe it.

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why are some of my pimples like reddish pink?

- what happens when blood comes out rather than the white stuff?
- can pro-active get rid of scars too?

Pimples can come in all different sizes, shapes, and colors. If it's dark reddish, it might mean that the pimple and the skin around it is irritated.

When blood comes out, it is called a blackhead. It just means that a different type of dirt or bacteria got under your skin. You might see a black dot in the middle instead of the white. They are usually harder to pop, hurt more, and take longer to go away.

I do not believe that Pro Active can get rid of scars. You might want to try a scar cream or ointment. If you're trying to get rid of acne scars, see your doctor or dermatologist. There are many things you can do to get rid of scars, but they are only offered through a health care service.

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what is a fast way to get abs without the use of equipment. im doing crunches and sit ups but i think they might take too long. any ideas? thanks.

Actually, situps are very effective. It may seem like they're not doing anything right now, but they will. You could also try sucking in your stomach and holding it very tightly for a few seconds, then letting it go. Sounds weird and way too easy, but it does help.

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Hi, I have a friend who is 15/16 and she has a problem with drinking alcohol. Whenever she drinks alcohol she doesnt get drunk or tipsy she just feels sick or is sick and last time she barely had much and it was her birthday and she spent all of it in the toilet :[ .
Friends have suggested that she has a problem with her kidneys or whatever but I want to help her but don't have any advice for her.
Now i dont want anyone saying that she shouldnt be drinking at her age because to be honest everyone does it o"o but her parents don't know that she drinks often and so she can't talk to them about it, and she was thinking about going to the doctors about it but wants to be sure first that she has good enough reason to.

please help as she is missing out ;]

thankyoo x x

Not to be a nerd or anything, but drinking underage can not only get you into a ton of trouble with the law, but it can harm your body really bad.

She wouldn't have a problem with her kidneys- kidneys regulate blood flow throughout your body. She may have some kind of problem with her liver- the organ used for breaking down substances such as alcohol. I'm not sure what could be wrong with it, but anything with your liver is generally pretty serious, so she should see a doctor immediately. Also, she should not continue to drink until she knows for certain what is wrong with her.

But, the problem is that, if she is underage and drinking, and then goes to a doctor and asks him what is wrong with her, the doctor will obviously find out that she is drinking and she could get in a lot of trouble. However, you both have to decide, which is more important, drinking or living? She should never take any chances on her health.

She could also possibly have IBS. (Irritable Bowel Syndrome) It's a very common stomach condition, where certain foods including alcohol can upset the stomach. It really isn't anything bad at all, and it definitely can't kill her. My mom has it, and she just has to stay away from certain foods and drinking too much.

How old is your friend? How much does she weigh? These are very important factors when figuring out how much someone can drink. If you're young, Female, and don't weigh much, then your body can't physically handle more than maybe a half a glass of alchohol. If she drinks more than one glass of alcohol a day, she could be in serious trouble and could get really sick.

I sugguest she see a doctor. (but only if she would tell him the truth) Or stop drinking.

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Alright so i like this kid and we have been friends for a pretty long time but just this week he broke up with his gf should i ask him out or give him time..? Plzzz help

Give him some time. You don't want to rush him into things, or make his ex girlfriend mad right away. Start out by hanging out with him a little more first. Maybe talk to him and flirt with him a bit, to show him that you're interested. Drop hints but don't be too obvious or foreword about it. If he seems to be enjoying your hang outs/conversations more than usual, then he probably likes you back. I would give it about another week, of just acting flirty (but DON'T over do it, or you might freak him out.) When a week passes, then it would be the right time to ask him out if he doesn't ask you out first. :]

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When I'm given roses, I keep them after they die. Now I have 24 roses that are from 2 anniversaries with my boyfriend, and i have no idea what to do with them. I need some creative idea, even if I only keep a few rather than all of them.

So does anyonne have any creative ideas that I could do with the dead roses I have?

You can make polporrie. (I can;t spell that.) But it's when you take the dried petal leaves off, put them in a basket, and they are for the nice smell and the decoration.

If you don't want to take off the petals, You could also arrange them around your room. Maybe on the edges of a mirror would look nice. Or, flatten them with a large book and then tape them into a journal or maybe a yearbook? (Called, pressing flowers.)

My sister actually tied string to some dried roses and hung them on her ceiling. I'm sure you'll think of something.

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I really want a kiss. I'm straight, yet somehow I've only ever kissed girls.
How can I get a guy to kiss me???

Do you LIKE kissing girls? Or do you just do it for fun? You might want to think about that before you jump right into kissing a guy.

You know, a guy doesn't always have to kiss you first. You can always be the one who makes the first move- it's also more exciting that way. Don't rush into things. You want your first kiss with a guy to be amazing, so don't waste it on just anyone. Find a guy that you really like, get to know him, just be yourself and if you really like him, give him a kiss. There is no real way to make guys "want" to kiss you, but if you give it some time, I'm sure a guy that would want to kiss you will come along.

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last friday, i had sex with my bf. he didnt cum in me, but he cummed in my underwear and i put them back on after. the next day i got my period, (i think the sex triggered it because i usually have an irregular one) but lately i get stomach aches or feel nautious[sp?]. is there a chance i could be pregnant?

Obviously...if you didn't use a condom, then yes, you could still be pregnant. The sperm from your underwear could have seeped inside of you. Is it likely? No. Is it possible? Yes. But if you got your period, I don't think you're pregnant.

**EDIT** Why did you rate me a 3?! What exactly is it that you want me to say? Do you want me to tell you that you ARE pregnant? Gees, if you're that concerned, go see a doctor!!

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You know how people have their top friends on myspace.
Some people edit their friends by putting their favorite picture of them. Also, putting whatever name they want. Do you know what I'm talking about?
Please if you do. Can you tell me how to do it.
Or send a site that explains it.
Thank You!

http://www.pimp-my-profile.com/friends/

Just follow the directions and you'll be good.

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whats the difference between scene and emo kids?

thanks

There really is no specific difference between the two, considering they are both unbelievably stupid and not to mention, they are both just labels.

But, from my understanding, many "emo" kiddies are perceived as emotional, depressed, and listen to screamo bands such as Hawthorne Heights. They might talk about "slitting their wrists" but most of the time, people only say things like that to get attention. They obsess over the idea of cutting themselves and "how bad their life is." To me, they are only people who crave attention and get it from appearing to be dark, depressed and emotionally unstable. (Obviously, the term "emo" comes from the word, "emotional.)

"Scene" people could be considered a bit more cheerful than "emo" people. You may see some of them on Myspace who write "Thug Life" or "Blood" on their knuckles. They often think they're in "gangs" when really, none of them would survive in the ghetto for one day. Lots of these people listen to techno music, or just really obscure bands. Sometimes they like neon colors and bright makeup. They often think their the most wonderful creation ever and that they should be worshipped by all of their Myspace friends.

Actually, there isn't a huge difference between "emo" and "scene" kids because they both lack creativity, so they have to follow a trend. They also crave attention and act this way in order to get it.

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i just got my belly piecred and im in cheerleading. for competitions we can't have them in of course and i might need to take it out other times too. when is it okay to switch it with another one and to take it out? if and when i do take it out it won't be for very long

I know you don't want to hear this, but belly button piercings take at LEAST 4 months to heal. That means, you can't take the ring out for at least 4 months, or else the hole will close up, or get seriously infected. Holes on your body can close up very, very fast. Even after they are healed, they can still close up quickly. I have my nose pierced, and that can literally close up in half a day. Or worse, your piercing could get infected. And a belly button infection is about the worst kind you can get.

Like the person below me said, you can try to cover it up with a bandage. Or, you could try and get a clear, belly button ring. They're called retainers. You could go back to the place where you got it done, and ask them if they have any belly button retainers, which is basically just a clear belly button ring, that is less noticeable. Some people may not even know that you're wearing it. Ask the person there if it'd be alright to put it in.

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i have a yankee game tm. box seats, rlly mportant to me, im going with my friend. i have a small cold. my sore throat is going away and i dont mind a stuffy nose but my runny nose will not stop! i drank fluids, like OJ and tea, and chicken noodle soup. im dressed warm even tho its BURNING hot today. im rlly concerned about this yankee game,i seriously wanna go. anything to help stop the runny nose :( please, i really care about going to this game.

I have a cold right now too, and a big dance in a few days, so I can totally relate. Water is what is going to help you the most. Even though you said you already drank tons of fluids, drink more. Drink like you haven't had water in 3 days. (Haha.)

For most people, you will have 1-2 days of a sore throat and runny nose. I think that after the 1st or 2nd day of having a cold, your nose starts to get stuffy. So really, there isn't much you can do about controlling your cold symptoms. Your runny nose could techincally be gone by the time you go to the Yankee game.

You could probably try a nose spray. Maybe ZiCam, if you've heard of it, it's a nose spray and cotton swabs that can help you get over a cold up to 3 times faster.

But, I'm going to tell you the most important thing about being sick: Don't stress out about it. Last week, I was so worried about getting sick, that I MADE myself sick because I was worrying so much. You could make yourself even sicker if you keep worrying about it. Try to stay positive, just keep drinking a lot of water, and remind yourself that colds don't last forever- it will be gone shortly. A runny nose isn't the end of the world, though it may seem like it. (A cold usually does seem like that to me.) So please take my advice, and do the best you can.

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I was reading these things about friends being attached and its everything me and my best friend do except hes a guy but everyone thinks hes gay and he does look gay and he told me he doesn't really like anyone. hes had girlfriends before but he flirts with guys a lot and he'll tell me that they are cute and sexy. he doesn't believe in bisexuality either. Sometimes it seems like he likes me and I get it a lot from people and they think we are together.
Its really annoying cause I would never want to be with him like that.
Do you think he likes me more than a friend?
I'm not really sure.
thanks :]

I don't think so. I have a lot of guy friends like that too. Your friend might be confused about his sexuality. And that's normal, especially if you're still in highschool. A lot of my guy friends are like that too, they don't really like, anyone. My one friend isn't interested in any girls or any guys for that matter, but he still occasionally has a girlfriend or two.

I'm not sure how old you are, but like I said, if you're still in highschool, there is a good chance that your friend could be gay. Maybe he doesn't realize it yet, maybe he doesn't want to admit it. Especially since he is flirting with other guys and telling you they are cute and sexy, then he is definitely attracted to boys. You said he doesn't believe in being bisexuality, so the chance that he's gay is more likely than the chance that he's straight. So why did he have girlfriends? Well, he's either confused about which gender he likes and just wants to try things out. Or, he doesn't want people to know that he is really gay, so he goes out with girls to make it look less obvious.

Don't worry about people thinking you're a couple. You both know that you're not and that's all that matters. Me and a gay guy friend of mine are always being mistaken for a couple, but it doesn't bother us. And it shouldn't bother you either. Who cares what other people think?

And maybe, someday your friend might come out about being gay. You can't really force him to give you an answer, but when he's ready, he will tell you.

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How much water are you suppost to drink everyday?
And how is drinking the right ammount good? Does it help your health?


I also read this somewhere

"drinking cranberry juice also helps the kidneys to flush any toxins which can lead to urinary tract infections"

Is that true? Cranberry juice is good for you?


And I also read that if urine is strong smelling and brightly colored you aren't getting enough water. If I drink more water does urine not smell as bad and will it be clear?

64 ounces like everyone else said. But you can drink more if you want to. Basically the more water you drink, the more it helps your body. But always make sure to go to the bathroom when you have to go. Never wait off too long on doing it.

Water helps you by ridding your body of toxins. It helps get germs and other bad things out of you. If you're not sick, it can prevent you from getting sick. Our bodies are mostly made up of water, but as you know, we get rid of that water (pee) every day. So we have to replace that water in our bodies by drinking more. Water helps regulate everything in your body. It also helps to dissolve and break down nutrients. Your body needs water in order to have energy. It breaks down essential vitamins and minerals and then transports them to wherever they are needed.

Cranberry juice is good for you, but the best drink you can have is pure water.

That's true. Urine is more lightly colored if you are drinking enough water. If it is very dark, you are probably dehydrated. For the last few days, I have been sick, so I've been drinking A LOT of water. When I go to the bathroom, it comes out completely clear. And that's good.

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I cyber guys alot... but never had sex irl...
am I a slut? or is there a special word, like cyberslut?

Haha, no. It's actually good in a way that you're cybering on the internet, and not doing it in real life. You might really regret it in real life, so cybering is just your way of releasing all the sexual tension you feel right now. Maybe you really feel like you want to have sex right now, but it's better just to wait until you're 100% ready. The only thing you have to worry about is who you're cybering with...make sure it's not someone really old. And never do anything if you don't want to do it. If you like cybering, great. if you don't, then stop doing it.

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Ok well i had the code for a layout for buddy4u, but now i saved over it, and its not working for some reason, i'm really upset, but i was wondering if any one had the code for making a layout?

& have the main one and then the addiontal ones would be highly appricated :)

thanks

It's not that hard to make a layout. If you want, you can use a code from one of mine, and then change it around a bit to make it look how you want it to. I'll give you my link to my Buddy4U. Go to the layouts in the subpages section, then copy one of the layouts. (Whichever you want.)

http://www.buddy4u.com/view/?u=NovemberRain

So let's say you want to add your own picture and your own words and your own background to it now. Well, I'd sugguest copying and pasting the code into some Word Processor. (like Microsoft Word or Wordpad.)

And let's say that you chose to copy and paste the layout code from THIS page: (This is an additional (subpage) code.)

http://www.buddy4u.com/view/page.php?u=NovemberRain&p=9691323

Where you see the words: "Afterall" and "You're My Wonderwall." You can backspace those out and put in whatever words you want. Then find the picture on the top. It with have the letters IMG in it and be followed by a link to my photobucket. You can backspace that link out. Then you can put your own picture in that spot. And of course, all the fonts and colors can be changed too.

Now here is one of my layouts for the main page:

http://www.buddy4u.com/view/page.php?u=NovemberRain&p=9691689

Remember, anything in the code can be changed to what you want. If you want wider boxes, you can make those too. Just read the codes carefully and then type in what you want.

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what goes on in you gothic peoples heads? like do get songs in your head and what are your thoughts and do you love people or not and what do you goths think about?

What do preps think about? Do they think about like rap music and like having sex with their boyfriends? And like, which abercrombie shirt to wear next, and like dying their hair blonde and how to not fail their next test? And like, how not to get pregnant? Are you guys like, plastic barbie dolls, or do you actually breathe and function like everyone else?

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14/f/Australia

So I have this internet stalker guy and I'm really scared. He thinks he has my phone number and address but it's not mine, but he can get mine so easily. We always fight (Because it's a forced friendship) and he says if I don't forgive him he'll call my home, and school and get me into trouble. I usually forgive him out of fear but tonight I decided to stand up to him. I know he'll call that house and find out I don't live there and get my real number. He did it to Kevin so he's doing it to me.

Anyways my question is: What do I do if he does call? Also: The only way to save myself is to get a private number so he can't find it AND FAST. But if I tell my mum she'll get the internet cut off. Do I tell her what's really been going on or do I say something else to get her to change it to silent.

I've had a lot of these crazy men chasing after me. Honestly, the best thing you can do is cut them off. COMPLETELY. Just think, it is the internet. He has no control over you in real life. Block him, and if he makes a new screenname or Myspace, block him again. Does he know your last name? If he doesn't, he CAN'T find you or hurt you.

I don't really understand how he could find your real phone number so easily as long as he doesn't have your last name. If he DOES have your last name, then I think you'll have to tell your parents and contact the police.

This guy is probably full of crap. You think that he's going to find you and stuff, but I doubt he will. Especially if he doesn't live near you. Like, if he doesn't live in Australia, don't even worry about it.

I can't tell you enough- block him. You cannot forgive this guy any longer. He is a creep. You can do a lot better than that. You don't need him for anything. After a while, he will probably forget about you. I was reccently bothered a lot by a 35 year old on Myspace. I blocked him, and I also had a few of my guy friends yell at him.

You could always tell him that your father is a police man and that you know where he lives too. Yes, it's lying, but it technically could scare him away. I remember one time, when a guy was bothering me, I made a fake myspace, pretended to be another older guy, and I messaged him and said, "Listen. If you talk to Johanna (me) again, I am going to come find you. She's my girlfriend, and I know where you live now. Don't talk to her again, or I'll come find you." So you could do that too, if you have no other choice.

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I live in Australia =]

I'm finding it really hard to sleep at night. It takes me like 4 hours to get to sleep no matter how late or early I go to bed. It only happens on school nights and I HATE MY SCHOOL WITH A PASSION. I also had no troubles sleeping in Primary school and my first high school

So any suggestions on how to get to sleep?

It's stress. I used to have this all the time. Especially if you just changed schools, that can put a lot of stress on you.

Unfortunately, no doctor can help you with this. You'll have to find something that relaxes you, or something to think about that makes you happy. So here are some of my best ways to fall asleep:

1.)Create a "ritual," on school nights. Go on the computer for an hour, do homework, brush your teeth, etc. It sounds silly, but your body needs to know when it should fall asleep. if you do the same things in the same order every night, then your body will soon learn when it has to go to sleep.

2.) Think Good Thoughts. I've laid in bed many times just worrying about the next day or the next week. You have to stop yourself when you start to worry too much. You should try to stay positive. Think of all the things you have- safety in your house, loving family and/or friends, a bed to sleep in. Yes, it sounds corny. But if you think good thoughts, you will become more relaxed.

3.) Go to bed at the same time on school nights. It sounds like you've been trying to go to bed at different times to see what works, but the best thing to do is pick a time and try to go to bed at it every night.

4.) Relax your body. When I had a lot of trouble sleeping, I would lie in my bed and whisper to myself, "My foot is relaxed and ready to go to sleep. My leg is relaxed and ready to go to sleep..." Then you do that all the way until you get up to your eyes. Make sure to relax each muscle, or try to picture yourself "sinking" into the bed.

5.) Find your "special" place. Think of a place that makes you really happy. If you don't have one, make one up. Anytime you close your eyes, you can go to that "place." I always try to imagine a nice beach. Then I close my eyes and I try to describe that place in my head. "The sand is beneath my feet. The water is warm and foamy tickling my feet..." Every time I make up a story like this, I fall asleep usually instantly.

6.) Another thing you could do is find some good smelling oils or lotions. Sometimes they make special "sleeping" or "night-time" oils or creams, that have nice, relaxing smells. Look for something that has Eucalyptus or Lavender in it.

:]

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Could someone give me a couple of encouraging wors to put on my boyfriend's graduation card I am giving him??

What do you like about your boyfriend? What fun times have you two spent together? These are things you can mention on the card. Also, you could put something like, "I hope for the best for you, and wherever life takes you, I hope you will be happy. We've had some amazing times...." Then go a bit into some of the memories you two had together. Just start writing. It may seem hard to start at first, but once you begin to write, you might have so much to say, you'll feel like you can't stop. :]

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