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Q: Well I like this boy named Robert and it is hard for me to talk to him well all of the boy i like!!!! can anyone help me?

I know this will soud weird but do you live in Henderson,KY, cause i know a guy named Robert. Anyways, ask him a question like do we have homework tonight or can you help me with thi problem(homework). I know it isnt perfect but trust me, it will get you guys talking. After that maybe ask him if he would like to go out for a soda sometime or something or if there is a dance coming up, ask him to it.

Q: okay, i just realized that my boyfriend can be really controlling at points.
like earlier today, i was on the phone with him and i was on myspace too, and he asked me if i was on myspace and i told him i was and he got mad because i have a bone disease in my wrist and so it like makes it worse when i type and so he got mad and he was like you didnt tell me that you were gonna get on the computer. and he does that constantly.
and he sometimes treats me like his dog or pet or something.
like at church if i just stand there and dont follow him, he'll like yell at me and say something like get your butt over here! or why aren't u coming with me? and he'll say it with an attitude and it seems like hes the one on his period.
but i just dont know what to do about it.
should i wait a couple of days and see if it gets worse or talk to him about it???

please and thank you.

My mom had probs like this with her ex-bf, and I told her, if he doesnt treat you with the respect you deserve, then he deserve you. Talk to him and lay down some ground rules like that yoo won't take it if he treats you like a dog and watches you like a hawk. As for the wrist condition, he's only looking out for you, because he cares. I know this is confusing but trust me. Even though he's being mean, he might be trying to make sure that our not going to get hurt. But then agian tell him that your not going to take his crap.

Q: last night... me, 3 of my friends, and my crush all went to my friend lacy's house. while we were there, we were just doing stupid stuff, and then i got up on a table and started baton twirling. i was doing really good, then i hit myself in the head fell off the table. it was so embarrassing. he just like, looked at me. then, to make up for what i had done.. i tried to be funny. so i pantsed my friend and she teared up. he just looked at me again. ugh! finally, the girls did a little dance routine to "thriller"... it was fun and i did really good, then i went to the bathroom when we were done and saw that i had a huge black smudge on my face and my hair was sticking up.. bad.. now i know why they are laughing. what should i say to him? is it too late to redeam myself? or am i just doomed...?

Well, if you freaked out, then that was bad. But don't make a big deal out of it, try to be like, "Well, I wanted you guys to laugh so I did that," or something like, "I don't care want you thought of me." As for the guy, tell him that you were just trying to make him smile and stuff. That isn't what you truley look like when your out. But don't stress about it.
I always would bring a pony-tail holder for those type of situations and a purse for if something like that happens agian. The purse, bring your make-up in the purse and you cell(in case you need to call anyone), but as for the black smudge, you could probally get that off with a wet wash cloth. But if this ever happens agian go to the bathroom QUIKLY, get a wet wash cloth and wipe off the smudge, do your make up quikly, and put your hair up in a cut bun.
Well I think I gave to much advice. Plz tell me what happens. I would be so happy if you did.

Q: 14/f
alright so theres this guy i like and he likes me back..but he also likes another girl (i told him i liked someone else from ohio but i dont i just wanted him to ne jealose)..okay so the other day we were walking down the halls before track and we started making out..and now in track we always mess around and he'll like feel my butt and everything. I really like him but it annoys me that he likes someone else and whenever she's around he goes up and flirts with her even though she already has a boyfriend..so this leaves me really confused im really not sure if he likes me..a friend of mine said that he really likes me he just doesnt want to ruin our friendship so he doesnt want to ask me out...so what do you guys think does he really like me or does he just want someone to mess around with???..thanks in advance

Lay down some rules, day that you want the truth and nthing but. Say that you want to know if he likes you or just someone to mess around with. I know what hes going to say though, hes going to say that he likes you, but don't be fooled, you should watch him. Make sure he isnt flirting with any other girls, if you find out he is, then drop him like a hot tomali. As for the other girl, tell her off, say you already bf. SO BUT OUT! That's something i would say at least. Plz keep me informed, i would be so happy to know what happens.

Q: Okay, so sometime this month, i'm getting my hair cut. i want it just a little lower than my sholders with lots of angles,layers,and heavy side bangs(kind of edgy,like that style). but i cant find pictures ANYWHERE! i was wondering if you could help me find some that are of normal people with hair like that..? thank you so much!

Well, you could probally go to google and search for that type of hairstyle, or take a pic of a friend that has that type of look. If you can't do that, explain to the barber what you want.

P.S. I want the same type of haircut

Q: okay. me and my b.f were talking everyday all day but not seeing each other in person. but then i got grounded and the only way for me to get out the house id if i toke my brothers and sister up to the park but hes wants to be alone. now were not talking? [if it helps before we started to go out he wanted to get sum.] im get really confused if he just wants some or not. please help.

Thanks.

Well if you say no, see how he reacts. If he breaks up with you, you know that he only wants some. Or you could just say yes, and if he still wants to be your bf and doesnt just wants sex, then you know that he likes you for who you r. You could talk to him and tell him what you thin once you get ungrounded. I hope you take my advice. ^__^

Q: i want to be a model but i don't know how to start. Does anyone have a website a a place where i could find a modeling career?

Maybe try a few stores that are low on money. They will probally show magizines, which will show many other model directers that you r up and ready for modeling

Q: i really need advice. I have track for two hours everyday after school and my school is about 30 minutes away from where i live, and so i basically get home at 6. this week i have a HUGE science project due, a math quiz thursday, french quiz wednesday, english project sue[[that i barely started]], history test monday[[maybe tuesday]] and PLUS my birthday party is saturday! AND i give a history presenttion tomorrow!!! im real stressed and i KNOW i dnt have enough time to do ANY of this! in my track you can skip one day, well i ALREADY skipped today!!! and i feel bad skipping another day, but im stressing with all my homework and projects and tests and quizes, PLUS i havent taken a shower in TWO days because of it! WHAT SHOULD I DO!!!

OK, calm down. First take a shower, hygein(sp) is always important. Then think about what comes first in the week, work on that for a while. The next day do the same thing, take a relaxing warm shower and then work on whats due the closest. When you are on your free-time, drink some herbal tea, this will help relax your muscel, cause im guessing you're pretty stressed out, and then take a nice, warm, soothing bath and brinng the radio inside your bathroom and listen to jazz or classical and also some ensenssce(sp), or whatever calms your nerves. You will be very relaxed in about an hour. Then go to bed and get a good nights rest. I suggest you do this on a weekend, like on a Friday.

Q: i am 14 and i need to know if my dick will get bigger i'm getting kinda worried

................................................................................................................................................................ That's one strange question to ask.

Q: i have this talent show coming up and im not sure what to do for my audition. we have to make it using a video, and send it to this guy.. and then i guess they just see what your gonna do, i dont know. this is my first show, since im 13 in 7th grade. (i'm a girl btw) I have no idea what song i wanna sing!!! for the audition AND the show. can you guys give me some tips and pointers on what i should wear when i make the video audition thingy and what songs i should sing that would really show off my voice? um i dont know how to describe my voice either. i guess kinda like mariah carey/beyonce but i cant get those really high notes (well i can sing Deja vu by beyonce well but idk if it really shows off my voice either.) some songs i've already thought of singing were "smile" by charlie chaplin, "deja vu" by beyonce, "downtown" by petula clark, "fly lik e a bird" by Mariah Carey (I couldnt get the really high notes in that one).. umm etc. pick a really good song.. thats just really good, lol. i dont care if its old, the oldies are goldies as they say.

THANKS alot!!!!!!!!!!1

Ok, if you like a country i know the perfect song that doesnt go that high. Trust me, ive sang it before, and im in the middle between and Alto and Soprano. Well try Carrie Underwood, the song "Wasted", or the song "Jesus Take the Wheel". Those would be perfect for an Alto(im guessing you r). So try them, if you dont like them, im guessing you should sing Deja Vu, by Beyonce, it will show off any voice.

P.S. I already read the part where you think it doesnt show off your voice, but i dont think i have that great of a voice and i got the crowd going with that one.

Q: I'm 16/m and i have a best friend who is a girl...well make her name nancy for this occasion. Now i don't think i want to really enter into a relationship with nancy, but i really just want to hook up with her. our friends think that we're going to hook up, and we kinda talked about it the other night. We overheard a friend talking to another friend and our names came up, and nancy said she loves me to death but if we hooked up she thinks it would change our friendship too much. What can i do to show her that i want to kiss her, but without being to direct?

Well, try asking her to have picnic with you, those are always romantic(or at least this girl does). Talk to her about how you feel and listen to every word she says. Talk to her about what if you guys had a relationship. Make sure you try to do something romantic before you try to kiss her, this way, she will feel the same way.

Q: I have been screwed over in a lot of relationships thus far in my life. I'm 18 years old. I have recently been hanging out with this guy who just got out of a 5 year relationship. I stayed over at his house alone last night, he has his own place. I slept on the couch and he slept in his bed. We didnt fall asleep until 8 AM and we slept until like 2 PM. We were up all night talking and playing video games and watching videos on youtube. One minute I will just be thinking hes so sweet and perfect and nice and funny and cute. The next minute I will think "do i really like him? do i really feel anything for him?" am i just scared to fall in love again or do i just want to fall in love so im telling myself theres something there. im so confused.

Don't be scared to know your feeling.Listen to what your heart has to says, and listen to what your instincts say. But maybe you should take it slow in your friendship because he just got out in a 5 year relationship. Talk to him about what happened in his relationship, be there for him and if he starts crying, pat him on the bak and say its ok. Ask him what went wrong in the relationship, and make sure the questions arent serious. Once you do that, take the awnsers from when you listened to your heart and the ones you got from your instincts and hypothosize how you really feel about him. Tell him how you feel but if your to scared, i know this will sound childish, but write him a simple letter telling him hoe you feel. Please keep me posted, i would love to know what happends, and if it doesnt turn out the way you wanted come talk to me.

Q:
My hair is very "blah." I hate it. I want sideswept bangs with a lot of LONG layers so I can wear my hair up. [I don't want short choppy layers.] Yeah, if anyone can find some pictures of side swept bangs & layers I would love you forever.

Also, I'm dying my hair a sort of "medium" brown. I need some cute pictures of brown hair so I know what to tell my hair dressers. Celebrities are fine too.

Thank you all.

OK, i woud give you my school picture from this year but its not downloaded on my computer, so i cant give it to you. Listen keep your hair at least to your shoulders, so when you get it long layered, this way it look very cute. For your bangs, well ive only seen one person that has side swept bangs, and i dont have a picture of her either, but she is a cheerleader, i dont like her that much though. Anyways make sure they are mini-layered, it look really cute. I hope it goes well and you will take my advice.

Q: and we've gona out before but we decided to be friends, and like we've hurt eachothers feelings..but we want to be friends soo we have been for the past 6 months..but now he isn't talking to me.like i say hey, and he just ignores me. is there something wrong with me? and on top of that i like him...and like whenever im around him he purposly flirts with other girls..it drives me CRAZY! please help what do i do to get him back[just as a friend.i miss being friends with him]

Maybe get him in a room with just the two of you and start talking to him, or if you have his phone number call him and talk to him. Tell that you don't understand why he's being so rude to you lately and wants him to stop so you guys can be friends agian.

Q: ok so i've been friends with benefits with my best guy friend for about 7months now. i used to like him but then i just stopped liking him. that was about 5months ago. now about a month ago i realized i still like him. i just got back from a spring break vacation and the whole time i was on vacation i couldn't stop thinking about him...EVER. and i got butterflies. i never got butterflies that much before and i think i really love him. i think he likes me. we tell each other we love each other but it was always in the friendly way. i dont know how to tell him that i really really love him. i have more feelings for him than i did with my ex boyfriend.

I think that either you should confront him and tell him how you feel, if you r very couragous to do it (id freak out), or write him a simple note during class and tell a friend to give it to him. This way you wont freak out if you try to tell him. The best way to tell a guy that you have feeling for him is to confront him, Trust, if you tell him yourself, it will feel like about 300 pounds have been taken off your shoulders.But if you un confortable telling him yourself take my other sugestion(sp,i kindve forgot). Plz keep me posted about what happens. I would love to see how it turns out, plus, if you want to look at a few of my questions and help me, that would be great. I hope I helped ^_^

Q: I know it sounds really lame, but I realy do! I don't know if he likes me back, my friends say he does, and he's really protective of me, but I'm too scared to ruin our relationship to do anything! Somebody please help me!

Listen, if your to scared to talk to him about how you feel then write him a note that says something like, "Do you like me? yes or no (cirlcle one)." Then wait for one of your friends to give it back to you. Also, ask yourself, does he get mad when a guy starts flirts with me?, if so then thats a sign that he likes you. I hope you take my advice, keep me informed what happen, plz ^_^.

Q: 15 f
Ok so my boyfriend was having a sweet 16. Today and I went with my best friend whose his cousin. It was so hard to convince my mom because I was grounded the day before and so I could go to the party I increased my punishment to a month! So when I got to the party he kissed me and greeted me. That was all. then he went back to his friends. So I also saw him sitting next to a girl and offcourse I got jelous so he came and asked me if I wanted to dance and I said no so he danced with his cousin. I was also with my sister at the party (she's 17) she said she felt unconfterable and she wanted to go. So I called my bf over and asked him where was the train. So he tried to explain and he ended up telling us that he would take us. I got so excied becase finally I could spend some alone time with him.So when we were leaving we went outside and he was about to take us then my friend said "ill go with him to walk you guys" then someone called him inside and he went and came back and said he wasn't going to walk me anymore. So I ended up going with 2 of his bestfriend and my other friend. I'm thinking about braking up with him because he left me and didn't take me to the train it was like he didn't care about me. Why were his friends walking me? He should of? I am really mad. Am I just overreacting like maybe he didn't want to leave his guests alone? Should he have taken me to the train station? But in the party I didnt feel like he was paying enough attention to me. Should I brake up with him? Please tell me if I am overreacting or not? Thanks! Sorry if it was long!

Alright, I think you mightve overeacted because, well the reason why he didnt pay a lot of attenti to you is because you didnt want to dance. PLus, maybe you should ask him why he couldnt walk you home before you make conclusions. I don't think you should brake up with him untill you have all the facts. This way, you know what really happened.

Q: okay here the thing i just started dating this guy who was going out with my friend like 3 days no one no yet but i dont know if her sloppy seconds or his rebound i asked him about it but he say no or i think to hard and make myself think its all fake hes a straight up lair. i just wanna know how to tell if a guy is lieing or how tell if he just wants to get some. please help!! thanks in advance

OK, Listen, I don't exactly know when a guy is lying. But, if you look at his bahvior for a while, ask youself, "Has he been ascting strange latley." If so, then you might want to ask him whats on his minf or if he regrets breaking up ith ur best frined. Oh and one more thing, I thik its a really bad idea dting your best frinds ex-bf. It might cause a problem or two.

Q: Okay, so everyone's heard the saying muscle weighs more than fat. Well, I'm about 11 pounds over my target weight, but I get in at least 2 hours of exercise each day. I have very little fat on me. How do I know if I'm at my target weight. Is there a set formula, like 1 pound of fat = 5 pounds of muscles? This is Igotamonopoly, if I'm for whatever reason unclear.

Well, I think that your at your target weight. The weight over is probsly muscle, so dont worry, Im sur that al the excerising you do isnt nothing, you have muscle weight. So it seems like you are over the wright but your actually under.

Q: i have a problem. ive been friends with this kid 'tom'. we're really, really close, and i just recently found out he likes me because he told one of my friends, who eventually told me. i was shocked, yet happy at the same time. Ever since i found this out, we have been together all the time in school. [in the halls, ect.] we also have a couple classes together and we text all the time in class. =X, ha, anyways, i have concluded that i really like him, alot, which is great for me because ive had trouble likeing someone ever since my last relationship i was in.[it was terrible.] But, theres one problem, hes 100% mexican, and pretty dark. Im irish, and my dad has a huge problem, and won't let me date anyone who's 'not white'. This bothers me because he is honestly, one of the nicest, and best friend i could ever ask for, and i really, really like him, and would love to date him. But i know my dad wouldn't approve. How could i try to talk to my dad about allowing me to be with him ? =/

Well, its obiouse your dad is racist(sp). But tell your dad that you won't tolerate that he doesnt like u dating ppl who arent white because of him. Plus, Im irsh myself i know how white you could be. But listen, if you truly, and i mean truly, like this guy. Then you won't tolerate your dad. Stand up to him and tell you will date anyone you want, no matter what he says. Also tell your dad a little about Tim, this way he might aprove. This way you dont have to stand up agianst your father just talk.