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scared to love?
I have been screwed over in a lot of relationships thus far in my life. I'm 18 years old. I have recently been hanging out with this guy who just got out of a 5 year relationship. I stayed over at his house alone last night, he has his own place. I slept on the couch and he slept in his bed. We didnt fall asleep until 8 AM and we slept until like 2 PM. We were up all night talking and playing video games and watching videos on youtube. One minute I will just be thinking hes so sweet and perfect and nice and funny and cute. The next minute I will think "do i really like him? do i really feel anything for him?" am i just scared to fall in love again or do i just want to fall in love so im telling myself theres something there. im so confused.
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My philosophy is that if you have to think hard about it and have to ask yourself whether you love him or not, then you probably don't love him. You probably like him a lot, but you may not love him yet. Give it time and you may actually love him soon.
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Don't be scared to know your feeling.Listen to what your heart has to says, and listen to what your instincts say. But maybe you should take it slow in your friendship because he just got out in a 5 year relationship. Talk to him about what happened in his relationship, be there for him and if he starts crying, pat him on the bak and say its ok. Ask him what went wrong in the relationship, and make sure the questions arent serious. Once you do that, take the awnsers from when you listened to your heart and the ones you got from your instincts and hypothosize how you really feel about him. Tell him how you feel but if your to scared, i know this will sound childish, but write him a simple letter telling him hoe you feel. Please keep me posted, i would love to know what happends, and if it doesnt turn out the way you wanted come talk to me.
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tHIS guy sounds like a nice guy with mounds of potential. Dont block yourself from love because of past bad relationships. Instead think that because of all of the bad relationships, you owe it to yourself even more to have someone love you like yous should. And the main fact you guys slept in separate places, and that you spent the nite talkin and just having fun means that he is worth it to explore. You dont have to make your choice on whether or not you feel anything for him, just take it slow, slowly but gradually progressing. You are your own timer, if you think its too much then you can make the decision to stop or pause it. you deserve love, let it come to you.
Hope I helped
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I think you're scared to love again. Just try & get to know him better, and if you think you can trust him, try opening up. Besides, if he was in a 5 year relationship, I doubt he'd be a jerk.
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