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I'm Sarah
I cheer (it's my life)
I model
I will be attending Yale, Wharton, or Brown in 2010.
I'm not a bad kid.
But i'm definatly not perfect.
I've been through my fair share of delinquency.
so i know how to deal with it.
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My parents fight sometimes and my dad almost left once but he didn't because he wanted to stay and raise us. I have a little brother too and he can be anoying. I mean I am really confused of whats going on. And then I have things I have to work on at school and then I go to church every week and my dad doesn't believe in God so he doesn't like me going but he still lets me. Then I like this guy so I'm confused about everything in my life. And my friend doesn't really treat me like a friend and she is the only thing I got. So any advice would be appreciated

It sounds like you are in a tough spot.

Keep going to church. It is a good thing for you, especially at this point in your life. Don't let anyone tell you that you can't believe in god, because you can still continue practicing your religion even if you can't go to church.

While your at church, try to meet people in your own age group. You need to be friends with good people that are good influences in your life. Try to find the positive in everything and think of how much worse your situation could get.

Don't get worked up about your parents. It only puts more stress on them when you get upset. They don't you to worry. It's between them, and there isn't anything you can do about it. Every family has their problems.

As for the guy, go for him! Have some fun, you deserve it.

Best wishes.
Sarah

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i am 19 and i dont know whatto do. i was living with my babys father and we are still together but wantedto move back to my moms so i could get a job and car. i couldnt do it with my boyfriend so i thought this would be a good thing to do before we went any further in the relationship. well i moved yesterday and now i think i made a mistake. he told me that i was breaking up our family and i didnt think i was doing that untill recently.now i think i made a mistake. what should i do i mean should i move back or not? we have been together for almost two years and i dont want emily to not be around her dad growing up but if i dont get my stuff together here at my moms i just dont know what to do please hlp me.

Yes, it is important that your child be around her father growing up. However, it is YOUR life. You aren't in a situation where she is never able to see him. What is more important is that you do what needs to be done in order to create a comfortable life for yourself and your daughter in the future. Getting a job is a fundamental step in that process. You're young. You need your parents support raising a child at such a young age. Emily's father should respect you for wanting to get your life in order. Don't feel like you made the wrong decision. You made a tough decision, but there is no right or wrong decision when it comes to something that can affect the rest of your and your child's life. This is a situation in which you have to really think about your priorities and act accordingly.

Best of Luck & God Bless.
Sarah

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well there is this guys that likes me and are going to a party. He told me he would like to be my first. I am all for it but i don't know what to do. Anal? Oral? Reg.? Hj? Bj? HELP!!!

Hey, you gotta learn sometime.

Let him take the lead. Firstly, start making out (obviously) then let him take it further. He will probably start to undress you. If you're okay with it, then let him, and start taking his shirt off too or unzipping his pants. If you are going to have sex, it will just sort of happen. If he wants you to give him a blow job or a hand job, he will ask you for it. If you are asking how to give one, that question has been asked on this site half a million times by now so I'll just give yo a link.

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=461417

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=500879

If you don't feel comfortable, then don't do it. If he doesn't understand, then he doesn't deserve you anyway.

Good Luck!
Sarah

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hi, im 14 just turned it im tamil and basically when you have your period you have a ceremony its really big in a hall and you wear a bra well this show off girl that i know is having hers on the 15 july i havent had mine yet she shows off about it and it will be embarassing for me to be there as she just turned 13 and i havent had mine im upset please help thanks!

There is no reason to be upset about this. It's normal not to have it at your age. I know a lot of girls that didn't get theirs until they were 16. You're actually lucky that you haven't gotten it yet. Let me tell you from personal experience, THEY ARE NOT FUN! Once you get it, you will wish that it would go away, I promise. It's nothing to look forward to. And actually, studies have shown that girls who develop later will grow for longer, so they will end up growing more than the girls that developed early.

Don't fret it, just think, you're the lucky one!

Sarah

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15/f
I am also looking to do modeling...but i live in Maine, and there are like no places...

Im 5'9, and i weight about 119lb, and everyone tells me i should model, but im sure how to get started..any advice?

OK. I answered a question like this like a week ago so I'll just copy and paste my answer.

i started modeling for a local agency that did a lot of promotional stuff, and then worked my way into bigger things.

anyone can model if they are determined to get jobs and willing to work for it. you need to google local modeling agencies in your area. some will ask you to send in pictures of yourself and maybe go in for an interview. if you are accepted into the agency, you will most likely be asked to get pictures done, DONT PAY FOR PRICY PORTFOLIOS! at least not at first, if you start getting a lot of jobs and it is needed to further pursue your career, then look into it. if an agency promises you jobs if you pay for training than it is a scam because the clients choose you. you will need to have some pictures made professionally when you are accepted so they can be shown to clients. some agencies will pay for them if you are accepted, but it is unlikely. its likely that you willl start off doing promotional things like handing out flyers for companies and stuff like that. this IS NOT a waste of your time. it is important to get your name out. you need to be very sweet and personable when communicating with anyone involved in the industry, this is very inportant. act mature and present your self as if you have class. if you want to increase your chances of getting accepted into agencies and getting jobs, take acting classes, sign up for community theatre, or get involved with pagaents (this definatly helps your resume, and you meet contacts in the process)

if you dont get accepted into the first agency you come by, dont sweat it, its very rare that you would. just be sweet about it and ask what you can do to better your chances of getting into an agency. dont act upset or mean because you dont want to get on bad terms with ANYONE in the industry. agencies talk.

some will have height and weight requirements, but you dont have to meet these for all types of modeling. im only 5'1 and im a lifestyle and print model. so dont get discouraged if they arent nice to you because of your appearance (i was laughed at by agencies when i told them how tall i was)

if you are determined to get into modeling, you can. just be prepared to take criticism and dont let it get to you. if you have any other questions feel free to ask =)

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m/13 hi i order abercrombie kids of the internet because i dont live in america but im going there for my holidays this year. Im size large in kids and i was wondering if thats small in the adults???? also what ages is abercrombie and fitch for and will i get strange looks if i walk in there alone or hollister. is abercrombie kids shop like the ANF shop, dark lights loud music etc......also is there more clothes in the shop than on the website???? thanks

A small in ANF is a little bit bigger than the large in the kids. But in ANF, everything fits differently, so you really havev to try it on. Usually the shirts in the kids abercrombie are boxier.

No, you won't get weird looks if you walk into ANF or holister. It's mostly kids in your age group in there. You may be a little younger than most of the people that shop in ANF, just because most people your age fit into kids abercrombie better. ANF is mostly high school kids. But nobodys gonna know exactly how old you are or say anything to you if you fit into the clothes.

Yes, abercrombie is almost exactly the same as ANF. It's usually a little bit smaller and the pictures aren't so provocative, but it's really all the same, just for kids.

All of the new stuff that you find in the store will be on the website, but they have a lot more sale stuff and older stuff in the store.

Happy Shopping and enjoy your holiday in the US.
Sarah

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i only have eyelner in the color black. when i wear them together, i look like an emo kid and i don't like that look! i want to find colors for eyeliner (or mascara?) that will make my VERY dark brown eyes stand out against my (black) skin.

Try a bronze or gold eyeliner with dark brown mascara. The gold will make your eyes look lighter and will really make the brown stand out. Using brown instead of black will lighten your eyes up also.

Sarah

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i dont have a picture or anything but i really want a long silver necklace with a solid BIG heart. I looked at wetseal and express lola charolette russe etc where can i find one?

I got mine from The Limited. They have different kinds and they are really cute ;-)

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15/f

so, my ex best friend, who was my friend of like 3 years, all of a sudden moved. i mean, me and him stopped being friends, because i messed up. i mean he liked me, i didn't like him, and yeah you get it. but anywayss, so now, all of a sudden he just moved. like i mean, my friends all live right by him, and there was never a for sale sign infront of there house. and i mean, usually your house takes like a little while to sell. [espically his, because his is like a piece of junk.] so anyways, it was like june 29th or something, and i saw something on his away saying packing getting ready to move. and like he moved yesterday. and so, i just, don't know what to do. i mean, i planned on telling him i missed our friendship, one of these days. but now, i can't . and i dont know, what should i do?

This is tough.

Call him up and talk to him. Tell him that you heard that he had moved and you wanted to see what the deal was. Engage him in conversation. Then tell him that you wanted to be on good terms with him, because you really miss hanging out with him. If he is moving somewhere close, offer to come help move. If he is moving somewhere further, at least you called and left it on a good note. I'm sure that even if he is moving far away, he would still appreciate a phone call.

Get his screenname and IM him and check up on the moving process and how he's doing in his new area. Or just call him every couple of days to check up. This will show him that you care.

Good Luck!
Sarah

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so i got my best friend or i think so, lets call him bill. anyway hes really competitive with me like in skateboarding if he lands a trick i cant do hes always talking about it and wanting to go skating. When i was way better than him he didnt want to go. i know this other guy who we will call john. he skates to. i just metioned to bill that i went to johns house for a sleepover and we skated. john was having a party and he invited me first. i didnt tell or boast to bill. then when bill was invited he came straight up to me and asked was i invited to johns party. now john is always boasting about how hes going to johns house to swim and skate. i know its pathetic. then bill said john was makin fun of my skatin on aim. also when i was a fridget he kept on telling other people in our new school and girls. when infact i found out he was ne too. later somehow everyone knew who i had kissed and apparently she was a real minger. i kept all his secrets but he spreads bullshit about me. also when wer talking to girls he blocks me out and when i speak he speaks over me. same on aim. hes really my best friend though and wer tight but hes got these bad qualities. should i just ignore him or like do what?

It sounds like Bill has a little bit of a jealous streak in him. That's pretty normal at your age. Everyone goes through phases like this at some point or another, and he will most likely grow out of it. You, as the more mature one, should set an example on how to behave.

When brags about being invited to a party, or kissing a girl, just act like your happy for him and move on. Simply say, "Oh, that's cool" or something to that extent. When he figures out that it doesn't bother you, he will stop doing it. When he gets a new trick at the skatepark, act happy for him. Congratulate him before he has a chance to brag about it.

Don't let him push you around. When your talking to girls, you should initiate the conversation. Be bold and don't take anything from him. If he starts to push you out of the conversation, say something like "You know man girls don't like that" right in front of them. Then just laugh and roll your eyes. It will embarass him a little bit, and you will be knocking him down a notch.

Girls like confident guys. They will also recognize Bill's pushy-ness and they won't like that. (Trust me, I've had a few years experiece being a girl ;-) If you stay calm and act like he's just dumb, everything will pan out better for you in the end.

Good Luck!
Sarah

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So all of his friends think that we spend way too much time together. They think that I like to make him mad and shit. I dont understand what Im doing wrong. They say that I dont let him spend time with no one else. but I dont care if he does. Why does this have to be my fault. Should I just break up with him. I really truly love this boy...I just want him to be happy. We've been together 8 months. He got me a promise ring. He loves me and I love him. We have our lil fights but we always make up afterwards. HELP!!!!!!!

Encourage him to spend more time with his friends. Take a few days to spend with your girlfriends. Don't be too controlling over him, becasue that seems to be his friends issue. Also, plan a group thing where he invites some of his friends and you invite some of yours. Don't spend all your time with him, try to socialize with his friends too. As the saying goes, kill them with kindness. If you are super sweet to them, and you don't keep your boyfriend from spending time with them, they have no reason not to like you. "Keep your friends close and your enemies closer" ;-)

...in other words, make his friends your friends.

Good Luck!
Sarah

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Ok well I've started talking to this kid that I've had the biggest crush on for like ever. But he dropped out of school and he smokes...a lot. But he still is the most sweetest and quietest kid ever and I am a hundred percent sure he would never hurt me. Heres the problem. I'm a straight A student and have always been drug free. I know my parents would NEVER approve. So what do i do? Stick with him or find someone else who doesn't do that stuff? PLEASE HELP!

It sounds like he wouldn't be the type of guy that would be best to start a relationship with. Yes, you may have a crush on him now, but things change a lot like that in high school. You have to think of what is best for yourself in the long run. What good could come out of dating this guy? This is one of those tough decisions that a lot of teenagers would use as a gateway down the wrong path.

While, no, I don't think that jumping into a relationship with him is a good idea, he probably needs someone like you in his life as a FRIEND. Keep your friendship with him, and maybe you could be the influence in his life. Work with him on quitting smoking and encourage him to go back to school, or at least get a GED. Helping him to get his life back on track is something that he will be grateful for for the rest of his life. And that is way more important than a cliche highschool crush.

Who knows, maybe he will get his stuff together, and then he may be an acceptable guy for you. But don't settle for a guy that you know doesn't meet your standards. You can do better than that.

I hope everything works out.
Sarah

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I'm friends with this guy. He called me and texted me for hours with one of his guy friends. I put my phone on silent and was trying to sleep. I woke up a few times to check it my phone and noticed that there were 15+ text messages and calls. I had two voicemails. Both were screaming and cursing at me for not picking up my cell phone because they wanted to make plans. Basically my phone was flooded with them. I can understand he was upset that I wasn't answering, but to yell and curse? I'm a female. I'm not one of his "guy buddies" and no one deserves that. This isn't the first time it happened but he swears he was drunk. Should I just end the friendship? Or is it worth another chance? Thanks!

Your right. No one deserves to be treated like that. I don't think that you should totally end the friendship. It sounds like he likes you...

When he's being like that, don't be overly nice to him. Tell him that he doesn't own you and that you aren't waiting by the phone at his every beck and call. That's ridiculous. Let him know when he isn't so heated that he doesn't need to call you and yell at you like that.

Let him know when you are going to sleep and won't be available. When you turn your phone on silent, send him a txt saying "I'm going to sleep and turning my phone off" If you were already talking to him, that is. He seems apologetic about it, so give him a chance. But if he keeps doing this after you asked him not to, ignore him for a little while. Let him know that you do your own thing and that you will make time for him on YOUR watch, not his.

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15/F

My parents don't really care about my health. About a month ago, I got a huge gash on my shoulder from a rusty, dirty piece of metal at a dirty amusement park, and they didn't let me get a tetnis shot.
When I broke my wrist, they wouldn't take me to a doctor until three days after, and when they did, they took me to a pediatrician.
I found out about a learning disorder, dyscalculia, and I really believe I have it. I'd like to see someone to screen me for it. But they won't let me see anyone.

Next time something happens and I want to see a doctor.

Also, any advice on how to get them to let me get checked out for the last one would be great.

Sit down with your parents and discuss with them why you think it is important for you to get checked out. Do some research on the disorder, and present it to them. Tell them the signs that you show that makes you think that you might have this disorder. Outline the benefits of knowing about and treating this disorder. Say that you really believe that you could do better in school if you had help with your problem. Explain to them that how you do in school is very important to the rest of your life and you really want to excel.

Your parents care about you and want the best for you. I'm sure if you present them with this arguement, they will take you to a doctor.

Good Luck!
Sarah

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14/f . Okay welll i have been in alot of relasionships, and i have only had one that was long.. and it was with this kid matt we dated for 2 years and it was great.. Untill he dumped me because he was tolled i was cheating on him but i wasn't and i tolled him that and he didn't beleave me. So i got with this kid braedon we broke up. and then matt asked me out again and i said yes becuase i love him so damn much but now that we are back together, i never see him like he is always gone i have talked to him two times in the passed month i have NOT seen him so i need help here what should i do??
sighned ,
i never ever see him

Twice a month is NOT a basis for a relationship. Call him up and tell him that you want to hang out with him. When you see him, tell him that you don't like the fact that you guys never see each other. He is your boyfriend, so you guys should communicate. If he doesn't understand and if he isn't open to that, then tell him that you really want to be friends with him, but you need a boyfriend that you can see more often.

It sounds like you guys don't act like your dating anyways. Just be friends with him, then you can find a guy that actually ACTS like a boyfriend.

Good Luck!
Sarah

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it was marijuana but we hit it with a gravity bong, so hits were really heavy.

i've eaten like literally a box of saltines and have drank gallons of water, however i can't remember what i did 5 minutes ago, and any fast movements, wooo those just make me dizzy...any suggestions?

If you have been high for that long, you probably need to go to a doctor. The pot could be coated with something. Give it a few more days or just sleeping. Also, those vitamin water things that you can buy at wal-mart help sometimes. The red ones (revive) help with pot. If you can get it, take detox. If you can't remember what you did five minutes ago... that isn't normal for DAYS after you got high. There is a possibility that it was coated, or it could just be really dank weed. If you can't get detox, go to a free clinic. You won't get in trouble for smoking. Oh and also, eating crackers helps like the day after, but now you probably need to start eating real food. Something with protein.

Good Luck.
Sarah

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I've known this girl for 14 years. I'm only 16...thats a long time to stay friends, right? Well, there's this other girl who is a complete skank. She has had sex over 25 times with 15 different guys. And she has repeatedly lied to us and "Slit her wrists" (writing a line on her wrist with a red pen then covering it with a band aid) in attempts to get attention. She is over the top, annoying, and very rude and manipulative. My best friend Brandi (the one I've known forever) is becoming just like the skank and then she will suddenly just change and get mad at me for nothing at all. She knows that skanky lies to her all the time, yet if I happen to say one thing wrong I get yelled at. I dont lie to Brandi and I dont do things for attention. What is up???

Your friend is going through a phase. A lot of teenagers go through it (I'm just as guilty as the next person). It's a kind of rebelous stage. She just wants to experiment and enjoy high school. She knows that this girl is crazy, but she also knows that she probably has connections to guys, drugs, liquor, ect...


Don't get too caught up in it all. Be the bigger person and leave the situation alone. You can always try talking to her about her new friend and give her your opinion, but in my experience, that never really works.

As sad as it is, you guys are going down different paths. You kind of just have to sit back and let her makke her own mistakes. Eventually, she will realize who her real friends are, and when she does, you will be there. Don't reject her because of the phase she was going through. Just be understanding.

Best of Luck.
Sarah

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I have a friend and we used 2 go out. He now has a new gf but keeps asking me to go to te movies with him. Would it b wrong to go 2 the movies with him? would it b better 2 ask his gf first?

No, it wouldn't be wrong to go to the movies with him if you guys are STRICTLY friends. You shouldn't have to compromise your friendship for a girl he's going out with.

As for asking her, that's his job. If he doesn't seem worried about it, you shouldn't either.

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I have to get braces in 7 days. I just got my spacers in today. How exactly are braces put on, what are the parts to braces, and what colors look good together. Which colors make your teeth seem whiter, I was thinking about getting dark pink and light blue or dark pink and light pink. Which would you choose?

Well the people below me pretty much covered the parts and everything, but in addition:

They don't hurt getting put on, but you will be soar for a few weeks afterwards. Take two advil before you go in and it will help the pain afterward.

Don't get light pink and dark pink together, because after a while, the dark pink will fade and it will just look gross.

Light blue is better, but just generally, I would stay away from light colors because they turn different colors after a while and start looking nasty.

stick to dark colors if you can. Like, hot pink and teal. Those look good together. Or dark blue and dark pink. Oh or purple and pink, purlple and teal, you catch my drift?

Good Luck!
Sarah

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I have to get braces in 7 days. I just got my spacers in today. How exactly are braces put on, what are the parts to braces, and what colors look good together. Which colors make your teeth seem whiter, I was thinking about getting dark pink and light blue or dark pink and light pink. Which would you choose?

Well the people below me pretty much covered the parts and everything, but in addition:

They don't hurt getting put on, but you will be soar for a few weeks afterwards. Take two advil before you go in and it will help the pain afterward.

Don't get light pink and dark pink together, because after a while, the dark pink will fade and it will just look gross.

Light blue is better, but just generally, I would stay away from light colors because they turn different colors after a while and start looking nasty.

stick to dark colors if you can. Like, hot pink and teal. Those look good together. Or dark blue and dark pink. Oh or purple and pink, purlple and teal, you catch my drift?

Good Luck!
Sarah

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