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Bad boy?
Ok well I've started talking to this kid that I've had the biggest crush on for like ever. But he dropped out of school and he smokes...a lot. But he still is the most sweetest and quietest kid ever and I am a hundred percent sure he would never hurt me. Heres the problem. I'm a straight A student and have always been drug free. I know my parents would NEVER approve. So what do i do? Stick with him or find someone else who doesn't do that stuff? PLEASE HELP!
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Don't listen to sml111992.. they are telling you to disrespect your parents and go against them. This kid sounds messed up, and like Jack said, he's got 3 strikes against him. He smokes.. that's really nasty.. you could end up being just like that and ruin your straight As and your being drug free. Make the right choice and don't pursue him. Find a guy like Jack that is just like you. Straight As and drug free; people that actually care about their lives.
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If you really like him than, you need t try to help him. Sometimes people need help saving their own lives. so talk to him. if hes as sweet as you say he is, than he'll listen to you.
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ah i had a simliar situation, i had a crush on a guy who i ended up dating, my parents did not approve because he was 18 and i was only 15 at the time he also was involved in various drugs. But i got my parents to approve by telling them i hoped to change him. After 3 months and giving him my virginity we broke up. You know something i dont really know if its worth risking you and your parents relationship over a guy unless you truely are in love with him then its different. But honestly if you go into something thinking you can change someone, most of the time you cant smoking, drugs etc rule over anything. I strongly urge you to think over the situation, does the guy bring out the best in you? Why do you like this guy? Is it worth risking your family relationship? take those question to heart. If you still feel strongly about him after thinking it through tell your parents why you need to see the guy, invite him over you may be surprised at their reactions.
GOOD LUCK
Brittni
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It sounds like he wouldn't be the type of guy that would be best to start a relationship with. Yes, you may have a crush on him now, but things change a lot like that in high school. You have to think of what is best for yourself in the long run. What good could come out of dating this guy? This is one of those tough decisions that a lot of teenagers would use as a gateway down the wrong path.
While, no, I don't think that jumping into a relationship with him is a good idea, he probably needs someone like you in his life as a FRIEND. Keep your friendship with him, and maybe you could be the influence in his life. Work with him on quitting smoking and encourage him to go back to school, or at least get a GED. Helping him to get his life back on track is something that he will be grateful for for the rest of his life. And that is way more important than a cliche highschool crush.
Who knows, maybe he will get his stuff together, and then he may be an acceptable guy for you. But don't settle for a guy that you know doesn't meet your standards. You can do better than that.
I hope everything works out.
Sarah
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You can't help who you like, but you can help what you do about those you like. Even though this sounds horrible- I would find someone new. He dropped out of school: STRIKE ONE! He smokes: STRIKE TWO!
I bet you that he does other things you don't know about: STRIKE THREE! He's out. Its good that you want to stay a straight A student [like me] and drug free [like me, too]. Its also good that you realize that your parents won't approve. That should be a red flag. If your parents wouldn't approve- something is obviously wrong with the person. Plus, if you were to go out with him- he would most likely pressure you into doing something you don't want to do. He has two stains on his record- smoking and dropping out of school. You're better than that- and I hope you make the right choice.
Not to mention the horrible effects of secondhand smoke. =/
--Jack
(15/m)
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looks like your trying to find a guy thats wikid rebelious go for it you know it will piss your parents off and thats what makes even more exciting. try it out but dont ruin your life ova it. get that adventure out of your system!!!!
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