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My name is McKenzie and I'm a freshman at Reedley College, I love to help people out with problems and to write. I want to be a writer someday. I love to make friends. Ask any question and I'll attempt to answer it.


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ok i am like 14 and i am not shy around boys at all ive kissed boys and stuff and i have had them sleep over and didnt do anything...and i am like nervous to make out cause i dont think i know how? so how do you? and i have a new bf! HELP

You just need more practice. The good thing about making out is that there is no one right way. Practice how you think is right. Hope I helped!

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Does anyone have the sheet music for 'Only Hope' from A Walk to Remember? Thanks.

http://www.sheetmusicplus.com/pages.html?cart=34087317422123883&target=smp_detail.html%26sku%3DHL.110131&s=pages-http%253A//www.google.com/search%253Fhl%253Den%2526q%253DOnly%252BHope%252Bsheet%252Bmusic&e=/sheetmusic/detail/HL.110131.html&t=&k=&r=wwws-err5
Hope I helped!

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ok so im having this problem where my ex boyfriend who i went out with i dont know 8...9 moths idont know one or the other still that a longg time rite and well its been like a couple months when we broke up b.c we had weird feelings for eachother when we started 9th grade it just was no chemistry at all. it was awkward we had excuses to not hang out ne more but any way i was so heart broken then i thought hanging with other guys with out a realation ship would help but it didnt i ended up messed up you know so i stoped that. well now we are friends again we have been for like 3 years now. and he calls me i call him and we talk for an hour a couple hours i told him i still really liked him he says he doesnt but ik that i could never go out with him again idk why i just cant. but he says he doesnt like me and we are supposed to go to the movies this weekend and uk what on saturda or firday this week is supposed to be the one year annaversery that we started dating its like breaking my heart i didnt realize it after we said we would go now idk for sure ne more rite! i need serious help here does he like me? is he just a friend? should i say that no i cant go to the movies with you ? stop calling him? i mean i dont have really strong feelings ne more but there is a feeling there uk what i mean and im sure if i go to the movies with him this weekend ill just break down in tears its a sad story but i so need help here like rite away!!!!

Just don't put yourself in this situation. I was in this situation with one of my exes and I decided to go out with my girlfriend. Just tell him you don't want to go. He'll get the hint. Don't set yourself up for failure. Hope I helped!

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I really love to be tickled. The problem is that I am almost never tickled. I try to start up tickle fights, but it never lasts long. How can i make it known that i am ticklish without being obvious? How can I get my friends to tickle me?

Start the tickle fight and don't let up. Let them know that you want to be in on the action. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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16 f

So I just found out my best friend is bisexual . Ok bigg deal right? So why doesn't everyone else at my school see it the way I do? Today in school I sat with her during studies and heard people wispering all sorts of stuff and I overheared one person in perticular say "omg maybe that's her girlfriend" it just pisses me off how people are so sterolistic these days and judge one another for the stupidest stuff I hate drama I hate stress I try to avoid it everyday and now because of that once stupid person everyone is beginning to get the idea that I too am a bisexual and I certainly am not (not that there's anything wrong with being bisexual I'm just saying I wouldn't fitt under that category) and the last thing I want to do is avoid her or stop talking to her because I'm not that kind of person . How do I stop everyone from thinking this way without going to that last suggestion? Or how do I avoid all of this?

Wow this is stupid and sad for them. They should get to know this person before they start judging. I too am mad at people for judging. I too am bisexual and I am around these comments constantly. The best thing you can do is to ignore it and just keep being friends with her. She just wants someone to listen to.

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my friend told me if you like a gay guy youre considered a lesbian, is this true?

lol this isn't true. There are a few cute gay guys out there though. Hope I helped!

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what does exfoliate your skin mean?

It means to cleanse the skin of all dirt and stuff that may clog your pores. It is good to exfoliate often; do so with a soft cloth and soap. Hope I helped!

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I am 14 years old girl and i get severe anxiety attacks frequently. I will be sitting in class and have to run out because I can't breath and my heart starts pounding and i feel like i'm going to pass out. I have a counslor i talk to but these panic / anxiety attacks occur regardless. In school they happen almost everyday and I try to go to the bathroom so i don't embarass myself. I have trouble falling asleep at night anticipating an anxiety at school the next day. I used to like school and i am an A+ student but now i am preoccupied with my anxiety. When i have an anxiety attack i feel like im going to die even though i know i won't. I like being around my parents because they give me a sense of comfort. What should i go about these anxiety attacks bc they are really taking over my life. I know i should deep breath / close my eyes when i have these attacks but when it happens i freak out and forget to do this. ADVICE PLEASEE THANKS SOOO MUCH

http://www.panic-anxiety.com/anxiety/attacks/

http://www.anxietycentre.com/anxiety-attacks.shtml

http://www.healthtouch.com/bin/EContent_HT/cnoteShowLfts.asp?fname=02401&title=ANXIETY+ATTACK+&cid=HTHLTH

These websites might help you. Good luck! Hope I helped!

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I know its illegal if one person is above 18 and the other one is below but is it illegal if you're both 18? My parents said it was but then why do they sell condoms to kids if that's promoting illegal activity?

You are legal at 18 so I think not. Hope helped!

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my (best) friends are annoying. my friends are immature. my friends are despirate. my friends only want to talk about themself. i cant deal with them. i always find myself talking about everyone else and helping them. always. i say something about myself and the conversation immediatly switches back to themself. i like my camp friends, but they live kind of far away to be seeing them a lot. i have one good friend at home, but she can get annoying. yesterday i had plans with all of them. it was a train wreck. when my friends were pissing me off, i stood up to them for like the first time. they dont care. it didnt effect them. i dont know what to do with myself. ive been crying alot lately. i was crying in front of my friends, which like never happens, and they didnt care. i dont want anyone to tell me to get new friends. that doesnt help. these are my best friends and it is way too late in the game to switch friends. all of the cliques are set. i do have other friends outside of my clique, but my school is too cliquey to have people accept other friends into their group fully. i found the people in my grade who i somewhat like. now i feel like im changing and maturing and theyre still the despirate bitchy immature attention-thriving kids that can only talkk about boys and themselves. they dont know how to have fun. the way they handle fun is being stupid. its not funny. i want to move but im not allowed. how do i handle this?

Well not everyone is concerned with cliques in school. Being someone who wants to take care of someone before yourself is an admirable quality to have and if they can't see that, well too bad. Try and hanging out somewhere else for about a week and see where this leads. Sometimes you just need to get away for a minute to see how bad a situation really is.
Good luck! Hope I helped!

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okay. so i've been going out with this guy for almost a year now. and i love him. but sometimes he annoys me to no end. and i think that we would be better with other people. now dont get me wrong i do want to be with him. but am i wrong for thinking this? and another question is that.
a couple of days ago. i started talking to an old friend that i used to like, well i started to feel like i might like him again, but i hung out w/ him today and decide that i dont. but is it wrong to think that too.....or what..
any advice is much appreciated.
thanks.

Your first answer is no its not wrong to think that. You should think it through if you really do want to break it off with him. In answer to your second question, no it is not wrong to like a guy at first and then suddenely not like him around friends.
Hope I helped!

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Yupp , Im fat .
There is no need for denial , I am indeed fat .
I eat right . Just doesn't seem to have any effect .
I don't like going to the gym , End of story .
I play hockey , Aswell . Pratice for an hour a day .
Butt , I heard dancing is a great way to loose weight , Eh ? No any good ways to loose weight through activities .

-Jaime .

You should do something that you know is fun to you. Dancing will help you to lose some of that fat and eating right and a little exercize, like hockey, is a great way to start. Hoopefuly, you will see some results in a few weeks.
Good luck! Hope I helped!

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This is only my view. My dad and I are close. My mom hates it. Anytime my dad does something for me she get mad. My mom drinks and smokes (cigarettes and weed). My dad just drinks beer during sporting events or movies. My mom accuses my dad of cheating when she is the one cheating. She fights him, destroys his stuff and kicks him out. One time she bit him in his sleep and poured bleach on his face. My dad does nothing. He is either a punk or scared. My mom and me is different. She hated me since I was about 8 and decided i didnt wanna be a lawyer but wanted to be in the music industry. I didnt wanna be in a choir but dance and cheerlead. So she would smack me around for no reason. She kicked me out back in August. I been surviving since. Now I want to go home because of the holidays and i miss my dad and brothers. I miss being with my good side of the family. I dont know to get back in the house because my mom dont want me back

You should ask your dad and brothers to come out during the holidays to be with you. Or you can go home to tell her to deal with the fact that you are going to be there.
Good luck! Hope I helped!

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ok is till like this guy and i donkt know if he likes me but i dont want to go ask him wat 2 do?

Here's what I would do. Either talk to him or have a friend talk to him about it or have a friend talk to him, which is much safer territory.
Good luck! Hope I helped!

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I sometimes seriously hate them.My dad can be so annoying with the wrong tone and words at the wrong time!!At one time,he takes it jokingly,and at another time,he gets mad.My mom is very bad-tempered.She's always calling me stupid,a bitch,a weirdo,mentally-challenged,and thing like that whenever she gets mad at me.I mean,when my parents are just normal and happy,they're really nice and fun but I think my mom has anger issues.When she loses her temper,she loses it.She doesn't really harm me physically nor my dad,but they say really hurtful things.I did used to respond by talking back,but now,I just ignore it.Three times my mom got mad that I was doing the computer too much and two of the three times she cut all the computer plugs with scissors and got all mad and started pulling books of my shelves and everything.I think it's wrong that they sometimes scare me like that.I hate it when they use verbal abuse and when they threaten me.Like,when my mom was lying on the sofa,she's like:Get me water or I'm gonna give away your dog.
What is UP with that!!What should I do??

If they are bugging you this much, either A. Get out or B. Talk to them about it. Are they alcoholics by chance? That might have something to do with it. You are absolutely right, it is wrong for them to treat you this way. Or you can try to make them happy as much as possible. With your dad, talk to him about his cursing problem and this may help to smooth things over.
Hope I helped!

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i can never find makeup that makes my skin look nice.
i have acne (not bad) just a few pimples here and there and uneven texture + tone (it's especially dry in some spots to the point where when i put a bunch of moisturizer on my makeup still flakes but thats just in the winter) at the moment i use superstay silky and milani minerals from the drugstore, neither of which are too useful.

my friend uses bare minerals and says it works really good but she doesn't have any skin problems so idk.
i want something that will make my skin look smooth and nice without wasting money.

so:
1. is bare minerals good for acne prone skin
2. will it last throughout the day
3. will it work good on dry skin
4. is it worth the money

thankss

For my skin, I use Proactiv and it works really well, so you can start with that. With your makeup, you can try a Target or a Wal Mart. They usually have pretty good stuff.
Hope I helped!

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I'll make this short and simple.

Last year, I went with a guy to Homecoming, a friend set us up. We danced really dirty, became friends. Hung out twice: went to movies and once to taco bell. There are periods when he calls me often... I don't call him often at all.

I have been ignoring his messages ever since we went to taco bell, about September-ish. He texted me 3-4 times, never called me. All the texts said was what's up.

Today, 12:15am, I get three missed calls from him, a text message saying "whats up hadn't talked to you in hella long" and then a voicemail saying "I miss you call me back as soon as you can."

I don't like this boy. He seems fake, he used to drink heavily, although now he claims he doesn't do that anymore. He's very stupid. It's impossible to have an intelligent conversation with him, he pretends like he understands exactly what I mean. He doesn't.

My question: do I call him back, or keep ignoring him? I don't see him at all (we don't go to the same school, live half an hour away from each other, etc) I felt like I led him on while I was talking to him (I'm not sure if I really was though). We had some awkward moments where we questioned if we are just friends or are interested in dating. But what if he has deep feelings for me and I'll hurt him by either rejecting him or ignoring him. I just don't know what to do. I've never been in this situation before...

I'd say to let him down easy. If he doesn't fit your standards, I'm sure another guy will. Say you just wanna be friends. Hope I helped!

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I have just moved schools, and I'm not the prettiest girl in the world. At my new school, 3 guys like me and they are all going to aske me out! Guy one is really nice and funny. i can never take him seriously though and i'll never really know if he really likes me. We have a really great time together though. Guy two is kind of mysterious. He's not in my class, but my grade and the first tie i saw him i knew i liked him. he is kind of mean sometimes though, but not to me, sometimes he cuts people up u no? Guy three is your typical, any girl would kill to go out with him guy. I can't believe he likes me!! Hes kind of a player though and I know he'll dump me. But if you knew the guy, you'd say yes in a heart beat!

Can you help me?

It sounds like you're not sure about yourself right now since you just moved into a new space. I would get to know them better. See them around friends and maybe this will influence your decision. Let me know the outcome!

Hope I Helped!

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my friends is a hypocrite he says he doesn't like people judging then on the bands they listen to but he rags on my for listening to Panic at the disco he says that relationships arent everything but he will then get rele upset and detached if he is reject he says that he is dedicated but tehn he will slack off in a orject leaving all the work for me
now i have only known him for 6 months but we r like buddies but this is rele pissing me off but it like i feel kinda weird tellin him " You are a hypocrite" what should i do ?
15 f if this makes a difference

I'd say to let him know subtly. If he doesn't know,h e'll keep acting like it

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I've asked this before but let me clarify before getting more answers that won't help me that much. There's this girl, let's call her Jenny. Jenny and I were okay friends in 6th and 7th grade. At the end of 7th grade we were really good friends. But over the summer she did things that was hypocritical and such that got us to drift apart and we had a horrible history in 8th grade. Well there's this girl, let's call her Kelly. Kelly and I were good friends in 6th grade and half way through 7th grade, we were best friends. Well, me being stupid, I let Jenny get the better part of me which resulted me in breaking the friendship with Kelly. Jenny kept on saying how annoying and weird Kelly was. Now I wanted to be Jenny's friend although she had said pretty rude stuff about Kelly. (This is in the beginning of 7th grade) Jenny kept on ignoring Kelly and me whenever we were sitting together at lunch. She said that she didn't like her at all and made all theses faces when she came around, etc. Yes, the immature stupid stuff. So finally I just told Kelly that we couldn't be friends and that made KElly really sad and after a week I started to regret it everyday...and I still somehwat do. We're all in 9th grade now and Kelly and I are friends again...not good friends but just friends. Well, Kelly is using Jenny at lunch and basically at school whenever she didn't have anyone to hang out with...like she did in 6th grade with me. Kelly really thinks that Jenny is her friend but I never told her that Jenny criticized her, talked behind her back, and urged me to stop haning out with her. Kelly still doesn't know but I know that Kelly will either go through what I did with Jenny at the end or will just be used over and over again. I really want to tell Kelly the whole truth about everything but I don't want to come of sounding as if I was jealous or was just saying that to get back at Jenny for last year. I'm not into the direct confrontation thing. I am horrible at talking when it comes to matters like this. I don't know what to do and now I'm just questioning myself whether I'm really doing this just to get back at Jenny..what should I do?

the messenger alwaays gets slapped in the face. if you want to tell kelly then be prepared to not have her feel the same about you anymore. she will regret you not telling her at first. and for some reason when we tell people things like this they are innocent in the whole thing and they begin to resent you for ruining what they thought they had with the other friend. i say you just leave it alone. maybe Jenny has changed. maybe she really knows that kelly will make a good friend. remember that is the real reason she broke your friendship in the first place. she knew kelly made a better friend than she would have made you. i think you should not hurt kelly , what she don't know cant hurt her. you should pull jenny aside and tell her that you hope she means well for kelly and that kelly does not deserve to be mistreated and that you regret the time that went past without kelly as a friend because of allowing jenny to brainwash you. as far as kelly is concerned she will be hurt if you confront her with the news, so maybe if you confront jenny jenny will stop using her and then kelly will be free from the snake, unless jenny has changed and then she really will be a good friend to kelly after she knows how you feel. maybe all of you can get close again together and respect each other for differences and likenesses. good luck. remember friends can argue. tell jenny like it is and then say hi to her the next time you see her. never talk about people behind there backs. if it is something you dont like tell them not someone else. pass this on to jenny.and tell kelly i said hi!!!!!!!!

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