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Telling The TRuth
I've asked this before but let me clarify before getting more answers that won't help me that much. There's this girl, let's call her Jenny. Jenny and I were okay friends in 6th and 7th grade. At the end of 7th grade we were really good friends. But over the summer she did things that was hypocritical and such that got us to drift apart and we had a horrible history in 8th grade. Well there's this girl, let's call her Kelly. Kelly and I were good friends in 6th grade and half way through 7th grade, we were best friends. Well, me being stupid, I let Jenny get the better part of me which resulted me in breaking the friendship with Kelly. Jenny kept on saying how annoying and weird Kelly was. Now I wanted to be Jenny's friend although she had said pretty rude stuff about Kelly. (This is in the beginning of 7th grade) Jenny kept on ignoring Kelly and me whenever we were sitting together at lunch. She said that she didn't like her at all and made all theses faces when she came around, etc. Yes, the immature stupid stuff. So finally I just told Kelly that we couldn't be friends and that made KElly really sad and after a week I started to regret it everyday...and I still somehwat do. We're all in 9th grade now and Kelly and I are friends again...not good friends but just friends. Well, Kelly is using Jenny at lunch and basically at school whenever she didn't have anyone to hang out with...like she did in 6th grade with me. Kelly really thinks that Jenny is her friend but I never told her that Jenny criticized her, talked behind her back, and urged me to stop haning out with her. Kelly still doesn't know but I know that Kelly will either go through what I did with Jenny at the end or will just be used over and over again. I really want to tell Kelly the whole truth about everything but I don't want to come of sounding as if I was jealous or was just saying that to get back at Jenny for last year. I'm not into the direct confrontation thing. I am horrible at talking when it comes to matters like this. I don't know what to do and now I'm just questioning myself whether I'm really doing this just to get back at Jenny..what should I do?
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the messenger alwaays gets slapped in the face. if you want to tell kelly then be prepared to not have her feel the same about you anymore. she will regret you not telling her at first. and for some reason when we tell people things like this they are innocent in the whole thing and they begin to resent you for ruining what they thought they had with the other friend. i say you just leave it alone. maybe Jenny has changed. maybe she really knows that kelly will make a good friend. remember that is the real reason she broke your friendship in the first place. she knew kelly made a better friend than she would have made you. i think you should not hurt kelly , what she don't know cant hurt her. you should pull jenny aside and tell her that you hope she means well for kelly and that kelly does not deserve to be mistreated and that you regret the time that went past without kelly as a friend because of allowing jenny to brainwash you. as far as kelly is concerned she will be hurt if you confront her with the news, so maybe if you confront jenny jenny will stop using her and then kelly will be free from the snake, unless jenny has changed and then she really will be a good friend to kelly after she knows how you feel. maybe all of you can get close again together and respect each other for differences and likenesses. good luck. remember friends can argue. tell jenny like it is and then say hi to her the next time you see her. never talk about people behind there backs. if it is something you dont like tell them not someone else. pass this on to jenny.and tell kelly i said hi!!!!!!!!
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the messenger alwaays gets slapped in the face. if you want to tell kelly then be prepared to not have her feel the same about you anymore. she will regret you not telling her at first. and for some reason when we tell people things like this they are innocent in the whole thing and they begin to resent you for ruining what they thought they had with the other friend. i say you just leave it alone. maybe Jenny has changed. maybe she really knows that kelly will make a good friend. remember that is the real reason she broke your friendship in the first place. she knew kelly made a better friend than she would have made you. i think you should not hurt kelly , what she don't know cant hurt her. you should pull jenny aside and tell her that you hope she means well for kelly and that kelly does not deserve to be mistreated and that you regret the time that went past without kelly as a friend because of allowing jenny to brainwash you. as far as kelly is concerned she will be hurt if you confront her with the news, so maybe if you confront jenny jenny will stop using her and then kelly will be free from the snake, unless jenny has changed and then she really will be a good friend to kelly after she knows how you feel. maybe all of you can get close again together and respect each other for differences and likenesses. good luck. remember friends can argue. tell jenny like it is and then say hi to her the next time you see her. never talk about people behind there backs. if it is something you dont like tell them not someone else. pass this on to jenny.and tell kelly i said hi!!!!!!!!
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you should talk to kelly and ask her wat wuld you do if sum1 you thought was your friend talked a whole bunch of crap and didn't like you before and see how she responds then tell her dat kinda happened wit jenny last year and dat your not doin it too be envious but to try and be a good friend and dat it took you so long to tell her cause you didn't kno how to
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