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bisexual friend
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So I just found out my best friend is bisexual . Ok bigg deal right? So why doesn't everyone else at my school see it the way I do? Today in school I sat with her during studies and heard people wispering all sorts of stuff and I overheared one person in perticular say "omg maybe that's her girlfriend" it just pisses me off how people are so sterolistic these days and judge one another for the stupidest stuff I hate drama I hate stress I try to avoid it everyday and now because of that once stupid person everyone is beginning to get the idea that I too am a bisexual and I certainly am not (not that there's anything wrong with being bisexual I'm just saying I wouldn't fitt under that category) and the last thing I want to do is avoid her or stop talking to her because I'm not that kind of person . How do I stop everyone from thinking this way without going to that last suggestion? Or how do I avoid all of this?
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Wow this is stupid and sad for them. They should get to know this person before they start judging. I too am mad at people for judging. I too am bisexual and I am around these comments constantly. The best thing you can do is to ignore it and just keep being friends with her. She just wants someone to listen to.
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You can't stop it. People who have no lives, and are immature are going to talk. Best way to deal with it: ignore it completely.
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Paying attention to rumors and acting differently because of them only makes people who are participating in the rumors think that theyre right.
Hang out with your friend. If anyone asks you directly, no, you arent her girlfriend and arent bi. Beyond that, pretend like no one is saying a thing and eventually theyll find something new to talk about.
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you shouldnt care what people say they are just stupid. i swear. just ignore it believe me it will be old news soon.
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okay, first of all i really do not mean to sound like bitchy so just take that into consideration.
if you where really her friend you wouldnt care what people said, like you obviously care way to much about what people think of you, so what if people think stuff about you, you know its not true and thats all that matters, if you stop being friends with her it just shows that you are not a good friend and i do not see why anyone would be friends with you if your going to ditch best friend because of stupid rumors that arent even true, if you do get mad and stuff people will just talk more i mean i dont know i just think it is very ignorant of you if you do that, and then people will just talk more.
and if you really care all that much what people think of you be like honestly you people are immature to think that just because we are close friends means that we are lovers you are stupid. (not you the people) and be like i am not gay or bi, and i really dont care if you believe me but i know its the truth and if you people are really gunna waste time talking and making up rumors have fun cause your just immature.
sorry if that was bitchy, but its the truth.
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You know you aren't bi but your best friend is, and the way people are treating her is a big deal. You need to stick up for the bashing she is experiencing. Be there for her. Let people know what they are saying and doing is wrong. Tell them sticking up for a friend, being there for them does not mean you are also bi. This is hard on both of you. Make sure your voice and opinions on this are heard. In return, your best friend will do the same for you. Have each other's back on this.
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You can't stop anyone from thinking anything regardless of how false or ignorant it is. Their line of thinking is saying a whole lot about the kind of people they are.
Consider the source of the rumors and gossip and ignore it. You and your friend know the truth and that's all that matters. Nothing should change your friendship.
The only thing that has changed is that she told you she was bisexual rather than keeping this info to herself. If you dropped her now (which you won't) you would look even worse than those doing the taunting now.
It's all BS and you shouldn't give a damn about what these brats are saying. Clearly they haven't go much else to do. They'll stop with this junk once you and your friend show that you can't and won't be hurt by it. You just laugh it off like water on a duck.
Your friend probably knows full well what these people are saying about the both of you. She doesn't seem to care and rather expected it.
Perhaps she should have only told you and not others but regardless she as well as her supporters will always run up always run up against stupid or ignorant people.
Have a thick skin about it and just go about your business unfazed by anything they have to say. However, if you were the courageous type I would approach those gossiping in class with your friend and say "so what's it to you if both of us were bisexual? Nothing would have changed except for ignorant perception. And when has that ever counted?"
Walk away after saying that so you don't allow them a chance to respond. Trust me, that will get their respect and make them shut up faster than anything else.
Also, you and your friend have a right never to be harassed by anyone on campus be it faulty or student. This is taken several times more seriously when it's about sexual orientation and or rumors/gossip about someone else.
If you and your friend go to a counselor or teacher and tell them she's bisexual and both of you are being bullied and who did it they'll fix their wagon and make sure that they never forget it.
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Unfortunatley, you really cant stop people from talking, but thats their problem. thats pretty sad if they have nothing better to do then to talk about you guys. how to avoid it? since your a good person and you dont want to stop being her friend, the only thing you can really do is just ignore it. its gonna be hard, and its gonna get really annoying whenever anyone whispers because they might be talking about you, but you cant let it get to you. if those people talking about you think your getting upset because you hear them, they might think you're upset that "'they found out" or maybe you're "hiding something." i know, it sounds rediculous but thats how people are. anyways, just forget about it and dont listen to it. the sooner you stop caring, the sooner everyone else will. hope ive helped!
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its high school, you cant really avoid drama. itll die down eventually though, just try to ignore it. or you could do something more scandelous for everyone to talk about, like flashing a teacher. make sure its a male teacher though, or else it would only hurt your case...
ok back to being serious. these things dont last long, people will eventually find something better to talk about.
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