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Mother/Daughter/Father situation
This is only my view. My dad and I are close. My mom hates it. Anytime my dad does something for me she get mad. My mom drinks and smokes (cigarettes and weed). My dad just drinks beer during sporting events or movies. My mom accuses my dad of cheating when she is the one cheating. She fights him, destroys his stuff and kicks him out. One time she bit him in his sleep and poured bleach on his face. My dad does nothing. He is either a punk or scared. My mom and me is different. She hated me since I was about 8 and decided i didnt wanna be a lawyer but wanted to be in the music industry. I didnt wanna be in a choir but dance and cheerlead. So she would smack me around for no reason. She kicked me out back in August. I been surviving since. Now I want to go home because of the holidays and i miss my dad and brothers. I miss being with my good side of the family. I dont know to get back in the house because my mom dont want me back
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You should ask your dad and brothers to come out during the holidays to be with you. Or you can go home to tell her to deal with the fact that you are going to be there.
Good luck! Hope I helped!
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Go home. If your mom doesn't appreciate your presence she's going to have to deal with it. You deserve to be with your dad and brothers for the holidays, maybe you could go and ask if your dad and brothers could go hang out with you for a while? Forget your mom, she needs to chill out. You are apart of their family, and if you show up at their house, and your mom turns you back around, stand your ground. Don't leave until you are reunited with the ones you love, even if that pisses her off.
Good luck, hope I helped and happy holidays.
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Just show up. You can't mend fences without making the effort to do so.
Your parents' problems with their marriage are their problems, not yours, so you need to stop letting yourself worry over things you can't change. That is up to them to change, no matter who is the bad guy, who is right or wrong.
Try to change the things you can, like your relationship with your mother.
Go home and tell your mom that you want to work it out and get along with her again.
Trust me, from experiences with my own family, holding grudges with one another only causes more pain and regrets in the long run. Usually it's too late to change it once the regrets start.
I mean, let's be real here. She isn't going to be around forever. You don't want to wish you could have made your effort to make things better when her funeral arrives.
If you make the effort and she choses not to, well, that's hers to regret.
Go home for the holidays. The worst that can happen is that she doesn't let you in. Yah, that will hurt, but at least you can say you tried.
Then just keep trying.
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