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Call him or Ignore him?
I'll make this short and simple.
Last year, I went with a guy to Homecoming, a friend set us up. We danced really dirty, became friends. Hung out twice: went to movies and once to taco bell. There are periods when he calls me often... I don't call him often at all.
I have been ignoring his messages ever since we went to taco bell, about September-ish. He texted me 3-4 times, never called me. All the texts said was what's up.
Today, 12:15am, I get three missed calls from him, a text message saying "whats up hadn't talked to you in hella long" and then a voicemail saying "I miss you call me back as soon as you can."
I don't like this boy. He seems fake, he used to drink heavily, although now he claims he doesn't do that anymore. He's very stupid. It's impossible to have an intelligent conversation with him, he pretends like he understands exactly what I mean. He doesn't.
My question: do I call him back, or keep ignoring him? I don't see him at all (we don't go to the same school, live half an hour away from each other, etc) I felt like I led him on while I was talking to him (I'm not sure if I really was though). We had some awkward moments where we questioned if we are just friends or are interested in dating. But what if he has deep feelings for me and I'll hurt him by either rejecting him or ignoring him. I just don't know what to do. I've never been in this situation before...
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I'd say to let him down easy. If he doesn't fit your standards, I'm sure another guy will. Say you just wanna be friends. Hope I helped!
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well he might have strong feelings for you but in this case its about you and how you feel. you cant be with a guy that you dont even like...
i dont think you should ignore him...
you should call him up and say:
"look i had alot of fun with you on homecoming night but where just too different from eachother and your just not my type. i think its best for us to go our seperate ways"
hopefully he'll get it!
good luck =]
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You have two options: Keep ignoring and hope he is intelligent enough to get the picture OR call him up and say "Man, I'm busy and just not interested in hanging out with you right now."
If you've been ignoring him since September and he still hasn't got the hint, then it might actually be kinder and quicker to call him up and give him that message as causally, and as firmly, as possible. He might just be too dense otherwise.
Remember, you aren't breaking his heart his here. You two barely knew eachother at all. If he has built you up in his mind into his dream girl, that isn't your responsbilty to deal with. If he got his heart involved after hanging out three times, that speaks to his immaturity, not to anything you did. Your responsbility to him is to be honest.
As you've probably realized, his three calls in the wee hours of the morning SMACKS of "I was drunk and my friends were teasing me so I called this chick". That behavior probably deserves to be ignored.
Yes, ignoring him is a bit rude, but I wont hold it agianst you. The only reason I suggest you call him and tell him to shove off, is because he seems like he might be too dumb to get the message any other way.
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