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I'm 21 years old, have had my share of different types of relationships so I enjoy answering love life questions. Whether it's about getting closer emotionally or physically don't hesitate to ask, hopefully I'll be able to help. I also love the medical field and will be a registered nurse soon. If you have any questions regarding a recent medical diagnosis (don't ask for one please, not a doctor) I can help you better understand it and the treatment as well

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I'm 15 years old and I'm 5'0 feet tall.I'm pretty short and it kind of bothers me because I'm the only member of my family that's short.My younger sister is even taller than me,it kinda makes me jealous sometime.What can I do to grow at least a little bit taller,or help speed up my growth?
Thankyou.

Solid advice is right for the most part. Height is in our genes and as long as we aren't malnourished we will grow as tall as they will allow, so if your eating junk food all the time and get no nutrition (fruits, vegetables, chicken, fish) then your not helping yourself.
Since your are young you can resort to gh (growth hormone), which you get from a physician. I'm not sure they will prescribe it since they use it mostly for hormone disorders (lacking gh, such as dwarfism), but it's worth a try.
If not you can get gh from a vitamin shop ( forgot what it's called), but that is something I would never do. Gh is a very serious thing and it's ridiculous that people are using it without a prescription.
So those are your options. Personally I think you should stay the same way you are. There are all things we all don't like about our body's but height is something I've learned to let go, I've realized it's not as important to people as you think it is. Gl

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this guy i met is really sweet and started telling me sweet stuff and it made me fall in love wit him he said he loved me and i was his only one but the problem is that in facebook hes in a relationship how do i react or do(should i tell him face to face why he lied to me)...

To be honest im pretty sure he's just messing with you. See before love comes a relationship which you both aren't in; and you refered to him as "this guy I met" which says you both don't know anywhere close to enough about each other to be in love. This is what you call "puppy love"; if he stops talking to you you'll be over him in a week or less.
My advice is to stay away from him; only a idiot says "your the only one", that should be completely obvious when he says he "loves" you, do you see that now? He's not serious about you, if he was you would already be in a relationship together. You both love each other so much so what is it that's holding him back from asking? That would be other girls

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First of all id just like to say this is more of a statement than a question and for that i apologise i just thought that somebody should hear what im thinking before i die. Im male, 21 years old from the uk and ive finally given up on life.
Ive been trawling the net for days trying to find reasons why i shouldnt kill my self and i just can't think of any, ive felt dead for years, i know its selfish but i dont see any other way.

IT all goes back 11 years when i found out my biological father was a peodophile, what a way to fuck a kids head up, i dont blame my mom for telling me, she got advice from many different people and authorities and was told that it was best to tell me. since then i was never the same i took to stealing and lying, smoking pot and generaly being a prick. i have stolen from my mother so many times ive lost count, ripping her pubs of for £1000's at a time and everytime she has let me back, well i did it again just recently trying to stay out of my own head i picked up an old habit for cocaine and in 2 short weeks of running a pub for her have ripped it off for £900, she and her bloke are in debt up to there eyeballs already and now with this they both might lose there home and job(another pub) i know that im well and truely broken, i should have a seen a shrink years ago but always refused and ive recently come to realise that the drugs the stealing it was always running from the real issues ive left bottled up. It will probably destroy my mom when i kill myself tonight but i figure if i do it im only going to hurt her this 1 last time,
the real question here is do you think she and my little brother will ever forgive me?

If I say no will it make any difference whatsoever? Nope It won't
My advice is to get off your ass and change your life around, you think your the first person to have a fucked up father? Your not, so stop using it as a excuse for hurting your family, and doing nothing with your life.
I don't feel bad for you because to hold down job only is nothing. I have so much more responsibilities and yet I don't drink or do drugs, so why the hell can't you do it? Why can't you get off your lazy ass and get a Job like everyone else and be someone your family can be proud of?

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I met this guy 2 years ago, take him as a friend and my boss so one day he was suppose to go to the funeral at Mefikeng so he asked me to go with him then I told him that it was a short notice next time if he wants me to go with him he must tell me on time he agreed,when I say this I did know that he had a thing for me until the other day I was about to knock off then he ask for a hug then I gave it to him, the next thing he asked me to come and see him in his office more than once the third time we ended up having sex in his desk. After all this we agreed to keep it a secret after a few weeks we did it again and also agreed to keep it as a secret but inside us the was a thing growing between us now we love each other and not at the same company anymore and also married not easy for us to see each other like we where working together I love him more than my husband wish he'll be next to me but that's not possible. What must I do?

You love him more than your husband? Are you mental?
You just fucked over you husband by screwing your boss, people that love each other don't do that.... I swear , what the hell goes through your mind?
You will never know what love is for two reasons.
1. You don't have a heart
2. Your too stupid and immature to comprehend such a thing

C'mon, your not a teenager where this level a maturity is ok. Your a big girl, big girls need to know that there are consequences for their actions and need to behave morally.

I know you don't have the feel to tell your husband that your a heartless dumbass that cheated on him but you should do it anyways. If he's a decent guy then he deserves that.
I know I haven't given you much credit but I'm thinking you can understand that much, if you can't let me know so I can walk you through it one step at a time

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There is this guy I secretly like but my friend told him I like him and she has no clue that I actually do. She went kinda too far with it though and I feel so bad for him because I haven't been able to talk to him through this period of stuff my friend has done to us. I'm going to apologize to him on Monday but I don't know him well enouhg to say I like him. Is it wise to tell him I want to get to know him better? How should I deal with this? Thanks!

Your on the right tract; you don't know him well enough to like him so your "interested" in him. When you apologize to him tell him what your friend really meant (that you want to get to know him better) and ask him for his number or if hed like to do something over the weekend

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So i had sex last Saturday with my bf. We used a lifestyle condom and i dont think it broke. I didnt bleed at all. When he came in me though, i felt warm inside, and when he pulled out and took off the condom i saw the cum in it. i dont think it was dripping or not. Ever sience then, my stomach has been feeling wierd and making funny noises. I am really scared that im pregnant. My stomach is also bloated. Only a little though. Im really freaking out and worrying that im pregnant, cuz my parents would absolutely KILL me....im 15, and so is he. we are both freaking out, could that be the reason im feeling weird? and when i was masterbating yesterday, i could feel my cervix....ive never been able to feel it before...it is about as far in as my index finger. can someone tell me what is going on? thanks :)....

It's been a week so go buy a pregnancy test; they're usually near condoms, that's the only way to know for sure

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Me and my girlfriend have been dating for half a year. We begin having sex recently the past months. Premarital sex isn't a common thing in our society, and this amount of time for dating is extremely short for sex. But we love and lust for one another very much. I made sure that she was OK with it.

However, recently she changed her mind about it. What devastate me is that she's feeling ashamed of herself for being unable to control her feelings and urges. What more is that she regretted it even if we both were extremely happy before.

I feel guilty for not foreseeing this when we come from the same background. I could have stop it. I love her so much, I just want her to stop feeling ashamed and regretting it. I'm out of ideas what to say and do to make her so. Please advice.

I think the best thing to do is to sit down and talk about it (in person). You seem very confident where you stand on sex in your life, so tell her how you came to that. How it is that your happy having sex without being married.
Right now she's confused because she knows she didn't spend enough time thinking about what she wanted sex to mean to her. Only for marriage, love relationships, dating, whatever. Try and help her figure it out and tell her why you don't regret it, I'm hoping the answer is because you love her and wanted to have that closeness but if it isn't o well, be honest.
Gl and remember she's your gf, you love her and want her to be happy and feel good about herself, can't get that done by ignoring the situation

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ok so everytime a guy i like asks me out out of nowhere, i feel like its a dare or something. So a guy i like asked me out today but i was not expexting it at all he was just like "will you go out with me" on facebook and i do but i would be sooo embarrassed if it was a dare and that way if it was i could say i was kidding. u know what i mean??? WHAT DO I SAYYYY??? Im 13 btw /=

I'd have to disagree with advice man, it's more of a matter of if your ready to date at 13, but I can see his point because most aren't. I suggest you don't date just anybody; make sure your interested in him, like thing about him and want to get to know him better. This way it actually has a chance to go somewhere and he's not a immature child that would actually ask you on a date then say he was joking (obviously someone that's not ready for it).
Don't say yes to a boy that's asks you out on Facebook... That's just bad. It says he probably doesn't know you (just knows who you are), so how could he possible like things about you?
Gl

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Well last night, I just had gotten to the very end of my menstrual cycle, where the blood is very very light and it is mostly just residue. I was feeling turned on all day, so I decided to have sex. I was a bit skeptical at first, but I knew my period was ending after five days of being on it. My boyfriend did not ejaculate because we were being safe and used a condom as well. Even though we practiced safe sex, I am a bit worried. I woke up and I felt blood again, so I put in a tampon and felt kind of scared. I feel a little stupid, but I am trying not to get stressed out. I'm pretty sure I won't get any sign of pregnancy, but I'd like to be reassured...

It's a good thing that your cautious but your also freaking yourself out. If you used a condom, it didn't break, and your guy didn't even cum your not going to get pregnant so don't worry.
The time to worry is when it does break (not if he finishes while it's on). When that happens go as soon as you can (right away) to a pharmacy and get a morning after pill, read the directions carefully and take it.

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So i really like this guy! He is amazing in every way possible! He's amazingly sweet and sooo cute!!! And I've never felt this way before.. He makes me feel alive and happy that none of my past relationships have worked! We have been together about a month.. and every time i kiss him i just fall harder. I don't know if i really love him or is just the fact i am 1 and in love with the thought of being in love??

That's a good questions but it's not something I can answer for you but I can help you answer it yourself.
To be in love is to deeply care for someone in a way that you want them to be happy. That is not to say to change yourself or be unhappy for there sake, it's more to think about them first and try to fix problems that you may have.
To be honest with them, loyal, respect, and understanding. You seem genuinely happy with this person and that is something that isn't possible when your in love with the thought of being in love. I love romance, love stories all that stuff probably more than anyone I know but my relationships didn't workout because it takes much more than a beautiful girl to keep a guy happy. Your boyfriend is good looking but if he wasn't sweet, and cared about how you feel as much as he does you wouldn't feel this way.
I think this is the first time a guy has truly cared for you and that is what is making you so happy.
So if you ask me you are in love, but it is something you answer for yourself

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theres a boy that i lie in mmy school since i was in the sixth grade. nd i want to sk him to prom woth me. the first time my friemd ask him for me he said no t first and i really want to go to prom with him because i really like him.but then when im outside he flirts qih most of my friends tht go to school with me. it makes me kind of jelous.what should i do? i sometimes lso feel that he is plying me becUse the way he flirts with my friends nd thwn he comes to talks to mw like its oky for him to flir woth my friends hen he knows tht i really ile him.i think hes playing me. i dont want to then tell my mom or dad thia becuse if i do they then wil scream at me for no reason just because i like boy in my school. i just want to know is he playing me? if hes not playing me whaT should i then do after that?

Are you sure your not mistaking flirting from being nice? If he does like then he's going to try and get along with your friends to make you happy, but if he is actually flirting then he doesn't want to be with you, whether he acts like it or not your probably just another girl in the crowd that he flirts with. Your friends are maybe even thinking the same thing you are, asking why he flirts with you and the other girls when they like him.
My advice is to stay away from him or make him a friend and not let him flirt with you (let him know you only want to be friends). If he's immature he'll probably take this as a challenge and actually start to like you but even then it's best to keep it at friends and wait for a guy that won't flirt with your supposed friends (that is if they know you like him).
Gl and I hope you have a good time at prom

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hi, this question is for guys. i have been dating a single father for a 1 year and a 5 month and i recently moved in together with him. he's 48 and i'm 35. he has a daughter with his ex girlfriend. he used to be very different and promised me a lot of things when we first started dating. i understand every parents love their children but now he just makes me feel left out and excluded all the time. tried to talk to him but he's a quick tempered therefore don't want to upset him. he mentions his daughter 10 times a day even though he see her 5 times a week. he also mentions his ex, whom he dated 5 years and he says like, ''she knows me when i'm angry,'' and stuff, blah blah blah, which by the way, i don't want to hear about her all the time and i myself don't mention my ex in front of him.'' he says everyday he hates his ex. however, i did ask him, do i mean anything to u and he replied how can u asked me, when i said my daughter means everything to me,'' guys, i just want him to be caring and loving to wards me like he used to. now, i'm thinking he's obviously not the man who's going to make me happy although he promised he will do anything for me otherwise i would not have said yes to him in the first place. but now i'm just tired. ''i have made a huge mistake, haven't i?'' whenever i ask something to him, he goes really agitated, i mean his tone changes. i mean, who talks like that? so guys, what's this all about, mentioning his ex and daughter most of the time. his daughter lives with his ex so whenever he picks her up he gets to see her ex too. right now, i'm just trying hard to communicate with him as he's not easily open sort of man. help! thanks.

The problem is that he's not trying to understand you. If you've done your part on communicating with him, trying to tell him that the situation makes you unhappy (not having enough time to talk about you two and spending more time together) then he's not going to make you happy.
I'm sure you know this already but have lost sight of it (or probably just ignoring it); somebody who's quick tempered with you doesn't love you. We all get mad and have our fights but you should never feel like you can't tell the person your in a relationship with how you feel, because they should want you to tell them that. If he really did love you he'd want to make you happy, and in this case he'd try to understand where your coming from and if that doesn't work, he would still try his best to make you feel better about it.
My advice is to try again with what I said in mind. Talk to him
About how it makes you feel and with a solution (spending more time together, leaving the ex out of conversations). If this doesn't work then you know what your options are. To stay in a relationship with someone who's never going to make you happy or leave.

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So, me and my boyfriend ended up going alittle bit farther and he fingered me. And I moaned and everything but he still says He feels unaccomplished. He says I would have to have an orgasm. But idk how it feels. Like how do you when your gonna have an orgasm? Or you did have one? Help please! Thank you(:

You'll probably find the answer annoying but you'll just know. It's a great feeling (understatement) that you have never felt anything like it before, the first time you have one is probably the best you'll ever have so you'll definitely know when you have it.
A lot of guys aren't very good at this so I would suggest you do this yourself (yes masturbate), so you know what gets you off easiest, and you can tell your boyfriend.
For example; a lot of girls like their clit rubbed in a circle but others don't so that won't work, some like it side to side or up and down, these are things you should figure out on your own that way your boyfriend wont feel bad and well... It's always a good thing to know. As far as fingering; most girls like it the same but I guess there is too hard and too fast for the less experienced (it might hurt too much instead of be pleasuring). That is something you also could find out on your own; last thing is the "g" spot; you can never go wrong with it. If you don't know where it is look it up, you won't regret it
So I hope i helped, Gl, and let me know if you have any other questions

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What are the safest condoms for your first time having sex?

Theyre all pretty much equal when it comes to safety, the only thing you need to find out is which you prefer and that comes with use. So buy small packs of different types if you can and try them. I forgot which ones I prefer but I know they were from skyn's brand, I think they were called thyn or thin. Try to get the thinnest ones so you can feel it better (trust me how thin it is matters). If you pick a condom and you can bearly feel anything it sucks and try something else; I havent tried Trojan but I always hear that they're too thick and suck so stay away from those unless you've heard other wise
Gl

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Sooo me and my boyfriend were hanging out today and this one boy named Thomas came over there. He HATES him. Thomas tried to do a whole lot of stuff to me in the past so Justin(boyfriend) kind of wants to kill him.. He is really upset and angry and I don't know how to help him cool down and get over it.. I need advice!!

This is something you cant exactly do anything about. Guys and girls are very different so it's important to try and understand each other. Your boyfriend cares a lot about you and does not like to hear that you were taken advantage of by someone, so he will be angry with this person (that's just how guys are). What you need to do is try and understand him and if you can't, support him anyways. His hearts in the right place, It would be much worse if your boyfriend didn't give a crap right?

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About how long does sex hurt the first time? How long after you have sex does it hurt? Is there alot of blood when your hymen brakes? What can I wear, what can I not wear? What position should I be in? Should I rap my legs around him? I need help becuase I'm really nervous about it. Please give me advice!

If its with someone you care about none of that stuff matters. If its not then you'll have plenty of other experiences and chances to get it right.
Girls tend to over exaggerate and try way to hard to please they're guy sexually when it's not necessary (in a real relationship). Don't misunderstand me, sex is alright to have but if your with someone that truly cares about you he won't be wishing you'll do the things girls do in porn for him. All you need to do is make sure your ready for this step in your relationship, relax, and... Well a few other things
Your right the first time will be painful but it's do able when you know what your doing. First thing you need to do is buy lube and condoms if your not on the pill. The lube will make it a lot easier and less painful for you to have sex. And the condoms... Well that should be obvious, if it's not maybe you should rethink this.
Try not to be so nervous about this because sex is something your going to enjoy with him; you will never feel as close as you are during it (I mean both emotionally and physically). Later on your going to want to experiment, find out what each other likes and that's when you ask about sex positions

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I am talking to this girl she likes me and i like her but i know i can do better there is this other girl who is much prettier and i think she like me but im not sure i can get her if i tried and shes really fun what should i do?

Disappointing.. Alright; your setting yourself up to be very unhappy and lonely, but I think it will do you some good, we do learn from are mistakes after all. Stop talking to the girl that likes you because most likely she deserves someone so much better. Go for the second girl, she is prettier after all, it only makes sense right? Go for it

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I was a party at my friends house and there was this guy that came up to me and he was lik hey and he asked me how old I was and I said 14 and he asked me if I wanted to have sex. I said no, but im lik really freaked out and I cant stop thinking about what happened that night.

Time to grow up, if your going to be going to high school party's there going to be sex, alcohol, and drugs.
If you don't want to be around it DONT GO, simple

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I didn't have any boy friends for like a year,last week I met this boy which I've known from before.he was actually my ex' friend.we knew each other from before.we went out for dinner with my ex and couple of his friends and this guy was there with his girlfriend.we knew each other from there.a year has passed and I saw him one day,and then I realized he broke up with his girlfriend,too.so he asked me on a date.we went out for a week or so,and during that time I realized that he was saying his ex' name so much!!like he was still into her or something.I didn't say anything and let him talk about what ever he wanted,once he even was talking about his ex breast size!!like always I didn't say anything.he was so possessive ,jealous and he actually told me that I have to break up with all the guys that I've hung out with.even my best friend!!so one day I'm at my house talking to him on the phone,then my cellphone rings!it turns out it's one of my friends from college and he was gay.I was scared to answer so I picked up and I told him I'm gonna call him back in 2 mins.My boyfriend acted weird and he was like why didn't you answer him!he forced me to call him and put his voice on speaker and see what's going on between us.I called the guy about 4 times he didn't pick up!then my boyfriend said give me his phone number.I was devastated ,he was insulting me.I hesitated a while and I said u have to trust me,do you? and he said no!!so I hung up,I was angry that night so the day after that I called him he said you were cheating on me!I apologized and I said i wasn't cheating and let's start over but he yelled at me and he broke up with me in very bad terms actually he insulted my friends and ... I liked this guy, I sent him messages after that and he didn't respond.do you think what I did was wrong??????plzz someone tell me what to do!!!:-(do you think he was looking for a reason to break up with me so he could be with his ex???

Are you serious? The guy your with is a immature little child who has no buisness being in a relationship, how do you not see that? Maybe you need an explanation of what a relationship is.
See a relationship is when two people decide they like each and make a commitment to each other which is based on TRUST, HONESTY (and other things), they're saying they want that person and that person only to be involved with. Your boyfriend is ridiculous and doesnt deserve someone like you.
When a boyfriend tells you you can't talk to any guys he is really saying that he doesn't trust you. If he doesn't trust you he will NEVER have genuine feelings for you, you will always be unhappy, and your going to put up with his childish bull shit.
My advice is to move on, because he will never make you happy.
You seem like a nice girl but you have much to learn when it comes to relationships. The next guy you decide to make that kind if commitment to make sure you've gotten to know him, you trust him, you have feelings for him; and he feels the same for you.
A good relationship is based many things, trust being one of them and one of the things lacking in yours. Gl

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Is there a chance that I could be pregnant? Because when me and my boyfriend were having sex a couple weeks ago, the condom came off inside of me. And when we did get it out it came out all crooked and im scared that some semen spilled out. But im on birth control have been for almost 2 months.

Don't worry, if your on birth control the chances of you getting pregnant are very slim even if he came inside you.
If you don't want this to happen again tell your boyfriend that he is not as big as he thinks he is, I have never heard of a condom doing that. I myself have used many average and big and this never came close to happening. So tell him to suck it up and get the ones that fit even if they're small.
The only way this isn't the case is if he actually went soft Inside you and that is a problem I cannot fix, Gl

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