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My name is Abby. I'm 14. I am a freshman at DHS. I live in MA. I like to sing dance, write songs and poetry and I play softball.

I can give you advice on friendships, school, sports, things on your appearance, and relationships/love life.

I'm here to be honest, and give REAL advice. I won't lie to you to make you feel better about yourself, I won't tell you that you are gorgeous and perfect, and I will not judge you just because of some of the things you ask me advice about are sleezy and what not.

If you have any questions just come to my inbox. I'll be happy to answer them =]

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ok so my boyfreind is 15 im 13 the age doesnt bother me that much but the fact that he has has sex before does we can talk about it openly and all but i think he thinks i am imature for telling him there is no way in hell i will lose my virginity when i am only 13 and stuff i dont really no wat my question is i think i just need to talk to someone about it help please

At 15, losing your virginity isn't really cool. It's kind of immature. Boys who brag about it are usually lying, and boys that keep it mostly secretive and discrete aren't. You are only 13. Wait until marriage. It's more special when you are in love. I know it sounds stupid, I'm 14. But imagine going into high school with a rep as a slut who gave "it" up at 13. No one would be to taking with that. Guys in high school like girls who have less experience. If he has a problem with you not being easy, tell him to get lost. Sex isn't everything and he needs to realize that. And besides, you could be over reacting. Tell him how you REALLY feel.

I hope I helped..

If you need anymore advice, IM me at Babyy Gqirl x3.




MY NAME IS ABBY lol sorry about that

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i really really like my guy friend we are neighbors and he tottaly gives me mixed messages we see eachother everyday and i just can't stand to be away from him i don't know if he likes me or not should i tell him how i feel or not. pleez help i will rate five no matter wat the answere

I'm 14 too and i liked my neighbor who was 16. His name is CJ... he and I got a long really well. We were like best friends, and everyday when I'd go outside he'd come running out the door to do something stupid to make me smile. He'd also ignore me and pretend that he was unsure of me with his friends. But one day I caught him talking about me, and he told a couple of his friends that he liked me. It's hard to tell though with older guys... If i were you I would try to flirt with him, lead him on, and then act like he doesn't phase you. And when the time is right, flirt a little more, and tell him how you feel. Age aint nuthin but a number. If he likes you, go with it. If he doesn't Im sure there are plenty of other guys wanting to be with you.

Good luck! =]

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hello,
my name is kelsey and i am 13 years old....ive been a cutter for as long as i was 11 or so. i cut for many reasons...my moms ex....was a mager alcohalic..and one night he cam into my bed room..and he was toaching me in ways i didnt like..i was only 8 years old...and lots of times he would beat my mom..and i waould hear her screams in mybed room...one day it was so bad i had to whatch i didnt no what to do....but the neighbors caled the cops..thank god..and my mom was taken to the hostbital. she was sent to a place so she could recover but she ran away...i had to stay with my grand parents for a week. when my mom left him 3 years ago i was so happy...but i still cut my self becuz i think of how how so many kids get a normal family and have a great child hood.but i dotn get to now.and now she has a new bf i will admit i love him hes very nice but some day i hate him with a pasion..please help me i dont want to cut anmore but i still love the pain....my mother knows i cutshe found out twice but doesn do anything about it...i dont think she loves me....please help me!!!!!
thxz..kelsey

Hey.. I know what you are going through..

I'd like to start off by saying I've been in the position you are in because A LOT of bad stuff has happened to me recently.

First my parents got divorced, it sucked so much. When I turned 10 my mother got remarried to a complete asshole. He chocked me, he hit my mother.. he drove us off the road, he threatened to kill us many times, and he beat me. A year later ( after my mom married that guy ) I found out my grandfather went to jail for raping a 19 year old mentally challenged girl 2 times. In between 2005 and 2006 my mother was going through a divorce with her husband that abused us. His son sexually harrassed me 24/7 and it got to a point where I couldn't go home anymore.

I know sometimes cutting seems like the only thing you can do because its a way of channeling your pain and your anger to a different place. I used to cut a lot. But i realized, either way the pain is going to stay with you and you can't change that. Your problems will stay with you. I'm not telling you to cut at all, so don't get that idea. What I am saying is, cutting is worthless. It leaves ugly scars behind and stupid memories that you have to try to forget.


To help stop yourself from cutting, get rubber bands and wear them around your wrists. Snap them as hard as you can so you can feel that pain, instead of cutting yourself. It doesn't leave the scars that cutting does, and it isnt dangerous like cutting is.


I hope I helped and if you ever want to talk you can IM me..

my sn is Babyy Gqirl x3.

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I'm 13. I have a MAJOR crush. But, according to my friends, he's not just a crush anymore. Well, I really like him. When I got ahold of his email, we started chatting online all the time. Finally some of my friends dilivered his message. He liked me too. One day while we were chatting he asked me out to the movies. I couldn't believe that I wasn't able to go. Anyways, now, according to my friends, he's my officail boyfriend. That the part I'm not so sure about. I mean, a boyfreind when you're only 13? I feel too young for that... Is he my officail boyfriend or am I really too young for that kind of thing?

I don't think he's your official boyfriend until he says, "Will you be my girlfriend" but I deffinately don't think you are too young to have a boyfriend. I think you are too young for all the making out, groping, and doing slutty things that other girls your age make the mistake of. But if you hold hands, give hugs, and just like kiss ( little pecks ) that is different.

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i feel like my mom is running my love life. when i was 13, i met this boy. i fell madly in love with him and to this day, 2/3 years later, i'm still crazy about him. he liked me a lot. i think he still does but he's just hurt about all of this that's been going on. my mom ADORED his best friend. she told me that if i was going to like anybody that it could only be his best friend and her mind was set. she said that the other guy was ugly and stupid. so, i pretended to like his best friend infront of her. she was so happy and every time i might have hinted that there was something for the other guy, she would get soo pissed. so, i told my best friend about what was going on, and she was the only one that knew. but, then in 8th grade, my mom saw the one she thought was ugly at a party and saw how much she thought he cared for me and she liked him and stuff. and then i was at the hospital on christmas because i had a really bad cough that was non-stop for 3 days and 3 nights and the only thing that made me stop coughing was when she said his name. she dumped my boyfriend of 1 year over the internet because she says that he was sending me inappropriate things. i thought it was gross, but it wasn't worth dumping him for. he said he was sorry. but, she really shouldn't have done that. but, i recently met this guy and she says he's ugly and she doesn't like him because he's ugly and he carries things in a bag. the only reason he brought a bag was because we were going in the pool so he brought an extra change of clothes. she finds the stupidest reasons for things. she thinks he's weird or something and he's not like that, he's a very nice person and he has excellent table manners lol. but, i'm tired or her running my love life. i feel like she wants to control who i can and can't like. i've talked to her about it, but she just doesn't understand. she doesn't think anything she does is wrong. and i think all of these 3 circumstances have everything wrong with them

1) TELLING ME I COULD ONLY LIKE HIS BEST FRIEND
2) DUMPING MY BOYFRIEND WITHOUT MY PERMISSION!
3) TELLING ME I CAN'T LIKE A BOY BECAUSE SHE THINK'S HE'S UGLY!!!!!

now she's telling me i have to like the one she thought was ugly in the first place and i still love him, but, i'm kind of just hanging around and waiting for him to come around. because, recently he was getting into things like smoking pot and stuff and i want him to outgrow it and i also don't want to make a move on him like that. i want to hint it and stuff. but, there's nothing wrong with liking someone and him getting a little jealous with it. deep down i really care about him, but that's besides the point

it'advice about my mom please

thank you

wow.. no offence to your mom but I think that is kind of messed up. Yes she is her mother, but she has no right to not let you like someone just because she thinks he is ugly. Simply tell your mother,

"I know that it is in your best iterest to look out for me but seriously mom, you need to listen to me. I'm not trying to be rude but you can't run my life. I know who I like and who I don't. And honestly, you really can't tell me who I can and can not have feelings for. I don't want to disappoint you but I'm not going to put up with it anymore. It's my life and my mind. You can't control it forever. Just because you think one person is ugly doesn't mean I do. And you can't judge someone on looks because looks aren't everything. It's all about personality. And if you had any TRUE taste, you would see that. I know you are trying to protect me but, I'm old enough to make my own mistakes and learn from my actions. I'm not an idiot. So let me do my job to have a good childhood; and you do yours and be the mom I NEED you to be."



i hope it helps!

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so my hair is super curly and frizzy.
i straighten it most days beacuse i dont want/like to wear it how it naturally curls. i think it looks bad. i have about shoulder length light brown hair.

my question is how do i get my hair to be wavy. like pretty waves. not super tight curls, but not straihgt. in between.

steps would be much apprciated.

My hair is just like yours..

On most days that I want to wear it curly,
the night before i wash it and leave it really wet. I then put it in a bun on top of my head and sleep like that. When i take it down my hair is curlier, and then I take jell, mousse, and hairspray to it.

1st. I use the jell and scrunch my hair up to the top of my head.
2nd. Then I take the mousse and i run it through the curls and let put it in another bun.
3rd. After about 2 mins I take my hair down and hairspray my whole head.

This should get you the curls you want.

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Fifteen / Female!
Hey I have this problemmm. I really miss holding hands, cuddling, kissing etc with guys. I haven't had a boyfriend in.. almost 2 years. I spent a year liking this one guy but that never worked out and I lost almost all of my connections with guy friends. I know I'm not desperate though because I was asked out by a guy who I used to like and I never even considered dating him (bad past between us). I was going to stay with three guys last night after a party and I was expecting to just have a good time there (they completely respect that I'm gonna have sex with them yet and what not) but it turned out we never even got to hang out because something was wrong with my phone (apparently) and they never called. They asked me to hang out again today but my best friend was over and she didn't want to see them so I never got to see them even though I'm REALLY wanting to just be around a guy again. That made me want to see guys even more since I was all excited to go.

I was out on a date with a guy two weeks ago (I had only met him once before but it was a triple-date with 3 couples) but that never worked out.. he was too shy for me and he got a girlfriend a couple of days later.

So I am meeting new guys but I have been waiting and trying for so long.. I even have had 6 nights in a row of dreaming of just holding hands with certain guys that I know and have liked in the past. I know I am attractive, fit, smart and everything.. where am I going wrong?

If you have any other ideas even if it's just that I need to wait until I find a guy I really want to be with then please say it. I feel so confused right now! I will rate for anyone who tries at all or gives an honest opinion. THANKS!

It's not that you are going anywhere wrong, but maybe your trying to get with the wrong type of guys. Just make yourself available, but not desperate. Be friends with a lot of guys and show them who you really are. Don't worry about being single for too long. I've been single all year. I wait for the right guy, that will treat me right. And like you said, it's not like I'm ugly or anything, it's because I want someone to want me the same way. Just be yourself and have a good time. Guys like that. And about the cuddling and holding hands and kissing thing; everyone misses that. It's just your heart telling you that you want to be with someone more than before. I hope I helped! =]

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okay so im 16 and i have never made out. i now have a new boyfriend and im nervous. like a part of me doesnt want him to kiss me and i dont know why. am i just nervous or am i still not ready? i mean im fine with the quick peck on the lips but i dont want to make out. i dated a guy for like 6 months without making out.. i know this cant go on forever but ah i dont know... also in a way the whole tounge in the mouth thing grosses me out... and i dont know how kiss so i wouldnt know what to do. everyone tells me to just go with the flow.. but sitll. wont your teeth knock together?
anyways..

what is wrong with me?

I'm sorry, but nothing is wrong with you. I'm fourteen so obviously my first time making out with someone was scary, especially since I liked the boy that I made out with for six years. All you do is kiss like regularly, and then his tongue will just go in your mouth and i guess you just massauge his with yours. That's what I did, and he said i was a great kisser. Just relax about it, it's not a big deal. It's easier than it seems. But just wait until your ready, because making out isn't everything.

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im 13 and a female. me and my family might be moving away and i told my best friend (hes also my crush) and he started crying and told me that he loves me. i had him over to play the next day and whenever we were alone we huged and kissed but we arent going out because we both have other people. after the holidays we both said that we are going to dump our boyfriend and girlfriend. im afraid he might ask me out. what if he does i really love him but if i move it isnt that far and ill be able to talk over msn but it would be weirder... please help me!

**sleepiesheep**

heyy hunn,,
I think that if he asks you out, you should say yes because if he is your best friend, how weird could it get. He is nice to you, and he already has kissed you and he obviously cares about you. N E guy that cries over you and really means it (( and not like psycho )) is def worth it. I think you should go out with him. And if you arent moving too too far away you can always visit him. He's your bff, of course your parents wld let you. Just go for it. Good Luck!!!

P.S. Good luck with your new move!

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ok well i posted before about some guy....i told him how i felt and he just said things like ohh i knew it but hes totally ok with it....now the thing is that i REALLY like him...so now i dont know what to talk 2 him about because online hes usually the quite one..so what should i talk 2 him about...and i wanna talk 2 him about me liking him but i dont wanna really other him..what should i say without him getting annoyed??? ILL RATE HIGH 4 good answers!! THANKS!!

Hey, if I were you, ( I've been in this situation before) I wouldn't go off and tell him that you reeeally like him again. Get to know him a little better, then gradually flirt with him... If he starts to like you, bring it up again. You'll be able to tell if he likes you. Like if he starts IMing you as soon as you get on and ask how are you, or how was your day, or start actin like a sweetheart. Just make him feel comfortable with you, and show confidence, thats the most important thing to do. So if you see any signs, tell him again. Maybe he'll ask you out this time!

Hope I helped!
Sincerely,
Abby

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hi im 13 and there is this kid i like that is 15 i keep sending him messages that i like him but i dont know if he understands them. I also think he keeps sending me messages that he likes me but im not sure is there anyway i can find out if he likes me or if he doesnt how can i get him to like me.
Ps. we both are ino the same things and we always talk on the phone ad online

Just plain/ straight out tell him that you like him. Don't worry if it messes up the relationship because if he is a good friend he wont care and he probably will tell you he likes you back.

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...ok there is this guy that i liked for a very very very very long time but a few days ago my friend and me ran into him and he was all up on her....we played truth or dare and he made out with her...i did to but i didnt want to cuz he had just made out with her.....but now he doesnt under stand why i am mad at him and he even knows that i like him alot because i hang out and stuff with im even when i had a bf...but now i dont and it is just like he doesnt want me unless i am taken.....plese help..i really like this guy....no matter how much i hate him right now...

God I know the feeling... I like this kid name Jake. I've liked him since the day I met him. I was sooooo close to hooking up with him so many times. But everytime my friends would get in the way. Sometimes he would be like why are you being so shady, and other times I'd go along with it when he'd be going out with 1 of my best friends. IVE EVEN HELPED HIM HOOK UP WITH PEOPLE! And it's like why do things when it hurts. But I still can't give up bc I always think that I have a chance. And when I told him i liked him he told me I had a chance. So it keeps me waiting. Guys have bad timing though. Cut him some slack. Boys also have no idea what goes on in our heads so, give him a break and just act happy. Even though you are good friends, get to know him better, and let him get to like you. Don't worry about your friend. If your friend knows that you like him sooo much she wouldnt have done that. Talk with her too in a calm way though. Let your relationship with him gradually build because things might work out for the better. No matter what, don't give up! Things may change for the better!

Hope I helped!
Sincerely,
Abby

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i really like this guy that i met, and i think he really likes me too. here are some things he does when he sees me:
1. his face brightens up
2. he leans in to conversation
3. he finds excuses to talk to me even if it means leaving the group of people he's with
4. he lightly brushes me on the arm
5. he smiles so big
6. he makes me feel extremely comfortable
7. he makes excessive eye contact
8. he glances over towards me all the time
9. when he hugged me he did a weird scratchy thing on my back (i don't know if this is good or bad.. heee hee)

anyway, i know where he is going to be soon, and i decided not to go. because i'm a naturally shy person, i haven't excessively flirted. i'm not sure i've even flirted that much at all. when he looks at me i make an effort not to look at him because i feel it will be awkward. i feel like i'm unintentionally acting cold towards him, not dropping enough signals. when my friends see him, should i tell them to tell him that they think i like him just to give him the okay to initiate something else? or would that scare him shitless and make him pity me or something? should i just leave it and not let him know unless it's through body language? what are the effects of having friends tell a person you like them? does it make them feel like they have power over you?

help! i'll rate really high.

Girl, I used to go through the sameee thing all the time. I would always act extremely shy in front of guys that i liked. But it was because I was afraid they wouldnt like me back. But now i flirt with anyone I like, and if they flirt back Ill tell them. You can't be afraid because its not your fault people dont understand emotions, and if your taking your time to get help with this boy then that means you are a caring person and any guy would be lucky to have you. Just tell him. If he says no, think of it as his loss. Don't worry about what others think. Stay confident. And trust me, don't tell your friends. That is a turn off. Show an initiative to tell him your self. It will bring out more personality on your part. And plus, you cant be sure who your real friends are. They might mess it up. Tell him your self, and do it when the time is right.

Good luck!!
Sincerely,
Abby

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what does this quote i thOuGht WhUt diD A LiL jEALOuSy EvER dO? bUt gUEsS WUt it [r U i N E d] mE N yOU mean?

It means that the person was jealous of his/her boyfriend because they hung out with other guys/girls, and it ended up ruining there relationship. It could also mean the same thing except between friends.

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sorry if this is long but i really need help.

ok im 14 and i will be 15 september 13. this guy name tyler is 12 and will be 13 september 1. he is goin to 8th and im goin to 9th. he doesnt hang out with 12 year olds, he looks and hangs out with 14 and 15 year olds. we are really good friends, and tuesday night he asked me out but i said no. i like him, but i am scared to go out wtih him. i mean if we break up, then it will be weird. and he isnt really cute. but i like him alot. last night he got mad at me because he thought that i was gonna go out with this other guy, but im not! and then his mom told him to get off the phone and he told me he would call me back at 1 and he never did. he hasnt called or got online today either. i think hes still mad at me and i dont know what to do. i told him i didnt like the other guy but i dont think he believed me. what should i do?? should i go out with him if he asks me again? some people say i should and some people say heck no. i have no idea what to do!

looks dont matter hun.. and age is just another. go out with him. he might be a great boyfriend. You never know unless you take a chance. Call him when you think the time is right and ask him out. And tell him that you said no because you didnt want to ruin a great friendship. Just take the chance. He might be a great guy.

Hope I helped!
Sincerely,
Abby

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okay, even though i give out advice i need it for my room,

my room is being painted blue, and chesnut stained floor, and a mission kind of furnitur, its all dark, like everything, now i neeed things liike a bedspread or something like so, does anyone know here to get things like that??

x0o

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Im looking for a dog, and i dont like small dogs. My mom however, if like pretty afraid of big dogs, a neat freak, and cant stand dominent dogs. I really wanted a Lab or a Pit bull, but my mom says that labs are way too active for her, and pitbulls of course were always out of the question. I also really like huskies. i was wondering, do you know if they are like hyperactive and likely to jump on you like labs? i have a large back yard, and a big house.
THANX SO MUCH. i rate high.

I have a lab. Labs are not hyperactive that much. If you get them when they are puppies and train them early they will be good. If you have a fenced in yard, or even a big yard you don't need to worry about them being active at all. And they rarely shed. Huskies do. I also have a Anstaph Terrier - or however you spell it. They are like pitbulls but great family dogs. So are labs. They aren't that much of maintainence. Convince your mom to get the one you like, who knows, you can wind up gettin something completely different from her expectations.

Hope you get the breed you want!
Sincerely,
Abby

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I just broke up with my b/f because i wanted to be single for the summer and now like no guys are interested in me. i am really regreting my desision, and i really miss my ex. Please help! what should i do?!?!?!

Talk to your boyfriend. Simply say I apologize for breaking up with you. I know I may have sounded bitchy for breaking up with you but I just wanted to take a break but I realize that I've missed you, and I really care for you. Please take me back. I promise I won't make the same mistake of letting you go. I can understand if you don't want me. I just needed you to know.

Hopefully he will understand and take you back.

Goodluck!
Abby

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Ok. so my boyfriend just told me that he didn't want to have sex tell he is married but I really don't want to wait me and let's call him stuart have been dating a while and i'm in love with him so much but I really don't want to wait. What do I do?

Stuart is smart for that. SO many things can happen. And I know I may sound like a mother but believe me, rushing into things isnt always the smartest thing to do. Take your time. ANd if you really love stuart then you wont pressure him and accept his decision.

Goodluck!
Abby

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ok, well i really care about someone and have strong feelings for them. I feel like I don't want anyone in the world but him. We dont really talk much, alls i can say to him is "hi" and he'll say "hi" back. He knows i like him but he doesnt like me. I really want to talk to him, but i'm scared mostly of what he'll say back. what should i do?

Wow do I know what you're feeling. I like this kid a lot. He's really hot, and I've been friends with him for a long time now. I hook up with a lot of other guys but everytime I see him I just melt. It's like no other guy matters. It's love hunn, and that's whats giving you nerves. It's like you want to say "Look I love you and you are the only boy in this world thats right for me!" but all you can manage is a 'hello'. I'm going through that right now with this boy that i like. Just work up the courage to have a friendly convo with him bc he might jus grow to like your personality and then actually like you. Don't be intimidated.

Goodluck!
Sincerely,
Abby

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