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I don't want to wait
Ok. so my boyfriend just told me that he didn't want to have sex tell he is married but I really don't want to wait me and let's call him stuart have been dating a while and i'm in love with him so much but I really don't want to wait. What do I do?
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I understand that you love him and that you don't want to wait but you have to respect your boyfriend's wishes because then he may be more willin, because you have shown that you care and respect him. Don't push him, support him!
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well you shoul explain how you feel but ifthat doesnt change nything then if you really do love him then you have to respect his decision!
sorry but thats the way it is!
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well if u truly love him u should respect his desicons
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well just tell him how you feel and if that doesn't change anything then i would just respect that he wonts to wait its great that he wants to wait but you can't change your sexual urges so talk to him about it
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i think this is kinda like my problem im 16 and i want to wait to i get married but this girl named nikki ilove alot does not well for me i would probaly give in and do it because i love her dont force him but let him know how you feal and what you feal like
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you have to respect stuarts boundaries. you shouldnt pressure him into doing what he doesnt want to do and you might end up feeling guilty. if you love him alot then you'll wait.
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If you truly love him, as you say you do, then you will respect his decision to wait. Above all else: DO NOT PRESSURE HIM INTO IT. I've been in his shoes before and I'm sure he won't take that well. However, remember that there is always foreplay and the like, if he's willing to engage in that with you.
I wish you both luck :)
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If you love him, wait, or get married.
If you can't wait, then you need to find someone else.
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You have to respect what he wants and if you can't find someone else but if you really love him you need to respect what he wants.
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you should respect what your boyfriend thinks... if you love him then you should wait...
*~Stephanie~*
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Everyone's always "in love" when they have sex. But look at how many pregnant teen girls there are now with no fathers.
Waiting until marriage is a very responsible thing of your boyfriend. Why? Because he has self respect and he is being 100% safe from STDs and unwated pregnancy by abstaining from sex (It's the only way for a 100% guarantee).
So what if you guys really did have sex? What if you broke up? It's going to hurt. What if you got pregnant? Adoption/raising the kid/abortion is not fun at all. Whatever choice you pick will still be very hard. What if either of you got STD(s)? There are STDs that are curable (if you go to the doctor though) and there are some that never go away and they have no cure. It will ruin your life, I am not exaggerating. It will ruin your future sex life (You can't have sex when you have painful herpes on your genitals can you?) and it will damage you emotionally. What if your relationship is only based on sex and not on love for each other anymore? There are a lot of problems I'm sure you've never even thought about.
So by waiting until marriage it shows your boyfriend is a TRUE man.
You say you're in love with him so much. If that's true you will wait for him and respect his decision. If you are not willing to wait you cannot say you love him.
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Sorry to tell you this,but it seems like he made up his mind,and there is nothing you can do about it.You have to learn to accept it.
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in all honesty... you should tell him how you feel. Let him know that you believe hes the one you wish to cherish and expierience that with. above all RESPECT his decision and dont push it.. you might end up pushing him away all together.
Good luck... I hope it all works out in the end.
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tell him what you want. but respect his decision.
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Waiting for marriage is something not many people do anymore. You should respect your boyfriend's decision to wait and not push him into anything he's not ready for. If sex is that big of an issue for you, then you need to do the right thing and let this guy go.
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well if you love him so much you need to respect his decision...think of it this way...what if HE was the one that WANTED to have sex with YOU and YOU wanted to wait? you would want him to respect you and stay with you right? im kinda in the same boat...my boyfriend wants to have sex but i want to wait and i love that he respects my decision.
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When he told you that you had to wait. You should have been honest and told him. But on the other hand, if you love him, respect him and his decisions.
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if you love him, you'll respect his decision.
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YOU HAVE TO RESPECT HIS DECISION. IF YOU LOVE HIM VERY MUCH YOU WOULD ALSO WAIT. HE MADE THE RIGHT CHOICE IN SOME WAYS. YOU WANT T0 LOOSE YOUR VIRGINITY T0 SOME0NE THAT YOU LOVE AND S0 YOU DONT HAVE T0 REGRET IT LATER ON. D0NT CHEAT ON HIM OR ANYTHING LIKE THAT. MAYBE HE WOULD CHANGE HIS MIND TH0. YOU SHOULD JUST RESPECT HIS DECISION. YOU CAN LIVE WITHOUT SEX. BUT YOU NEVER KNOW IF HE WOULD ACUALLY WAIT UNTIL MARRIGE. [[ ♥♥ ]]
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You may not like this but I really think your boyfriend is right. I wouldn't waste my virginity to someone I'm not completely sure I'll be spending my life with. You will never regret waiting untill you're married, because you know you will be spending your life with the person you lost your virginity to.
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you should respect stuarts desicion and maybe try and entertain your self with something else... but dont dump him over it because that would be stupid.. respect him for who he is and his decisions
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Stuart has made a wise choice. Waiting until marriage for sex is smart in many, many ways. First off, what happens if you and Stuart go your separate ways? Of course, you hope that's not going to happen, but it could. With sex comes STD's and alot of other complications.
If you're in love with him, shouldn't it be worth the wait? If you really love him, you could wait for him if he's made the decision to wait until marriage. Respect his decisions and choices like you would want yours respected.
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I would expect a honorable male to respect your wishes if you did not wish to have sex until marriage. I would expect you to respect his if he feels the same way. You are being selfish.
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Stuart is smart for that. SO many things can happen. And I know I may sound like a mother but believe me, rushing into things isnt always the smartest thing to do. Take your time. ANd if you really love stuart then you wont pressure him and accept his decision.
Goodluck!
Abby <3
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Until he's ready to have sex you shouldn't rush things it's always better to wait until your married to have sex you don't want to rush things really.
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