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She's Pregnant
My bestfriend is 21. She is pregnant and does not want to keep the child because she cannot support it. She wants to have an abbortion. I have mixed feelings about it, but it's her life. I don't know how I can help her..because I'm still in highschool and don't have a job where I can lend her some money. But she's lent my cousin a LOT of money because he needed help, but he can't pay herback, for other reasons. I don't know how I can help her. And she can't tell her Mom because her Mom will kick her out of the house, and then she won't have any place to live & a child.
I'm scared for her.
Any Advice??...
- If you have opinions on abortions, I don't really want to get into the subject. So thank you anyways.
Thank you
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First of all she shouldnt end some ones life just because she messed up tell her to have somewone adopt it
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tell her to put in foster care and she what see says thats the best way i dont like abortions either so give the kid to someone who will really appresiate it and will take care of it thats what i would do!!!!!!
tell her she needs to consider that fact i hope i helped you any
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You should tell her that she should just have the baby and then put it up for adoption.
And she should explain to her parents. Cuz she is an adult now. She's 21.
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I'm pro-choice, so actually I just want to point out it's not 'murder'. Puh-lease, abortions ONLY take place before you even show and it's not even a baby yet, it's an embryo = not alive yet. Anyway, you could talk to your parents about it or maybe she can talk to someone at a clinic or planned parenthood, they're always helpful there. Just make sure you're there for her no matter what, she needs your support. Good luck with you & her xo
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Honestly, abortions are wrong. She really just needs a place to stay when the baby starts to show. If you can help her with that, I'm sure she'll be fine. She should stay at her hosue though, and her parents should be happy. She should let them know, because I'm sure they would still love to be a grandparent no matter what.
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Honestly, I think your question screamed for people's opinions. It can't be helped. If you don't want our opinions, there's not much we can tell you except just be there for your bestfriend.
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Like people have already mentioned...why not have the child adopted? It's understandable if she cannot keep the child, but that doesn't mean she should go for an abortion. She will be able to pick a nice family for the baby before it is born so it will already have a home ready. The child will have a chance to live with a couple that can't have kids (for whatever reason) or a couple that just wants to help out a child and give them love.
If she is planning to get an abortion no matter WHAT and you CANNOT possibly change her mind just let her know that it is pretty scary. She might not be able to ever have children again. She will always live knowing she killed her baby. The pain! PHYSICAL and emotionally! Ugh. I know this lady that got an abortion and it was called a half abortion or something because it wasn't done correctly. There was still some bone in her and it jabbed into her, making her bleed, which was fatal. So then she had to have a SECOND abortion. Not fun, and totally painful.
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if i were you then i would sugest highly adopyion because alot of ppl out there want a newborn like that because i think that abortion is very bad but that is just me.
hope i helped.
rkgurl13
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Well, if she's going to get an abortion no matter what, then that's just that. I don't agree with abortion, but that's the way it is.
If she is willing to consider not having an abortion, tell her to see about giving the baby up for adoption. I believe she should talk to her parents either way, but I can understand the fear of being kicked out, but a child's life is worth more than wanting to live comfortably. I can't really think of any other advice, sorry.
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Abortion is a very personal choice for a woman and should be left at that. There are other options for pregnant women including adoption. Even though you can't afford to help your friend right now, the best thing you can offer her is your love and support whatever she decides.
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you know i get problems like this all the time and i've had the experience so i know what i'm talking about when i say that you need to tell her to have the baby but put the baby in adoption that's all don't kill the innocent baby because of your guilt and wrong in having it.
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Abort.
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Okay, lets get straight to the point. YOUR FRIEND NEEDS HELP. Do not let her kill her baby. She should have had safer sex and this wouldn't have happened. So take her to a hospital or something, so she can get help. Babies don't deserve to die like that!
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Your friend is not looking for you to give her money or help raise a child. All she needs from you is your friendship. It's natrual to be worried for her and have a need to help. She is an adult, so what she does is her decision, be supportive with whatever decision she makes. That is how you can help her.
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I know that you don't want opinions on abortions but I have to throw this in because my conscience will hound me if I don't: Nobody should be sucked out of a womb with a vacuum. Yeah, so it's inconvenience, but wasn't it also her fault that she didn't make her boyfriend wear a condom? Next time think, then get naked. She should talk to a doctor though, maybe visit a local church for options. Churches can arrange for her to go and take care of a sick woman for 9 months. If you're truly her friend don't let her kill the baby, it wasn't his fault. If you need any more information tell me, I can give you some websites and articles. Hope that helped.
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i am pro-life(no abortion) the baby doesnt deserve to die because of a mistake. it isnt the babys fault. there are plenty of people out there who have tried and tried to have kids, but cant, and would love to adopt!! adoption is always the best because, then you wont wonder "what might have been" of that baby, and then when you feel that you are ready, or older, you can go and see the baby, who probably wont be a baby any more.
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Well why doesn`t she put the baby up for adoption?Because abbortionis murder i think.
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hope i helped
Shannie
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Well i can tell you that it wont be easy. What your friend should do is tell her mother.. really sit down and talk to her about it.. her mother is her mother.. there is no way out of it. If shes does end up gettign kicked out of the house there is many places that she can go to .. there are hospitals where they would take her. Any hospital. and as for the baby. Just tell her that abortion isnt the only option, there is also addoption. Everybody desirves a chance to live. Anyway the best thing that i can say and think of is to have her REALLy talk to her mom about it.. her mother knows what it is like to have a child.. plus she is 21. hope i helped
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