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i am 13 and i am gay i dont know how to tell my parents that i am i dont kno if i should just drop it on them one day or if i should let them down gently...see my parents and the rest of my fam think i am little mr. perfecto cuz they cant see anything wrong with me i make straight a's and i have lots of good christian friends (that by the way kno that i am gay) everyone in the entire world knos about me cept my family.................. i have to turn into i different person when i go hope like puting on a mask temperarily for every day for the last 3 years i dont kno how else to explain it!!! hope u understand and can help me and give me tips and things to let them kno i am serious and i dont want to get any mean stuff from people soo please help dont make fun thanx love sethers
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tell your parents. talk to your mom first...it should be easier to talk to her. she may cry and everything. then ask her to talk to your dad...it will bring some of the pressure off your shoulders. i really hope it goes well!
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hi my name is jess and i think im bi and trust me i know how u feel cause i have no clue how to tell my parents. But now that i think i would just ask whoever you would think would handle it the best out of your mom and dad and i would tell them and have them talk to the other parent about. Hoped i helped. Good luck and if you have any ideas for me please write back or e-mail on jessie921912@yahoo.com or im on cheerchik921912
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Well ,like most parents they arent going to understand right off the bat unless your parents are just that cool. you know? I have plenty of friends like you, gay, bisexual. Name it ive had a friend like that. Since your still young, pre-adolecent, you could tell them that theres a possibillity that you might grow out of it so that way they will understand better when you let them know its not just a phase. Just as a comfort zone if you will. Although on the birght side at least its not when hormones are really raging and it gets to be a yelling fest, if it happens earlier it might take the stress off you and them to hear about it later in the game. As far as religion goes.... if your parents are really really, i mean just that religious then be prepared for those problems to arise. This is a lot of stuff to handle. It wont be easy it will be the farthest thing from easy. Just prepare yourself for every possible problem and be ready to stand your ground. Again if anything to give them a "comfort zone" maybe you should tell them that you might grow out of it. i hoped i helped... good luck and i hope all goes well.
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tell your parents
i know you think they will think it is the end of the world, but your parents will love you no matter what. they won't care, unless they are homophobic. but u didn't mention anything like that in ur question, so they will understand.
i hope you can figure this out
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theres nothing wrong with being gay. You're parents will love you for who you are. If your friends accept you for who you are. Then your parents will too. Hope i helped and good luck!
>lil'nosy
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ok firts you should relax. Your parents should love yopu the same even if your sexual oreintation would upset or dissapoint them. Ok first things first. You should tell them on a nice and quite day. Explain to them and even if they yell and scream and even cry just say "i'm still the same ( your name here). And it's not like i'm on drugs, and drinking, and failing in school. So why are you upset?" I hope it works for the best
P.S. remain calm the whoile time. Don't yell and stomp your feet just act like the mature teen that you are.
**Pixie**
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well i think you can easily tell them gently and stuff dear theyre not gonna like hate you but theyll be upset at first but if they love you theyll understand .
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hey!i'm a girl so i can help you BUNCHES!!!i think its okay that your gay because i have many gay friends!all you have to do is tell your parents how you feel!being gay is not something to be embarrised about!
-kat-hope i helped you:D
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The best thing to do is sit them down and gently tell them that you have these feelings. Also at your age, sometimes your sexuality is confused so it's completely natural.
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only you know your parents well enough to decide..but you have to think to yourself: should i tell them straight out now? should i drop hints? should i wait until im an older teen to tell them?
you see, if you tell your parents now, at age 13, that your gay, they might brush you off saying your just confused and its a stage, they might schedule an appointment with the phycologyst, who knows?
if you wait til your older they might take you more seriously...even though waiting and holding it in will probably be hard
you could put it on them gently...like ask:
-"mom, what do you think about gays and gay marriage? would you support your family if you found out one of use is gay?'
you could start to really become inseperable with your guy friends, perhaps a crush, and always talk about him or how great he is
when your all watching tv and lets say bradd pitt or someone hootttt like that comes on you can compliment how good he looks maybe
lets say your dad or mom says "look at that girl..look how pretty she is" you can answer like "eh,.no way not my type"
little things like that can lead them to question your sexuality and maybe gently get them used to the fact that your gay
you could also sit down and have a serious talk and let everything out..how well would that go over? i dont know your parents...some parents make it clear to their children that like " o darling if you ever need to talk or tell me something im always here.." and some parents dont come off that way..so think about which approach you want to take before doing anything
i hope i helped you out a bit!
-melissa-
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Listen don't care about what your family thinks if they can't take the pressure then so what, they can't help to think that your just a woman trapped inside of a man's body basically just tell them when you feel your ready and when you feel they're ready if they don't accept you for who you are don't accept them.
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Dear Sethers,
The best thing would be to come out and tell them. Set them down and don't beat around the bush. The longer you wait, the harder it's going to be. Maybe they already know that you're gay. I have a friend who's gay and before he came out to his parents they already figured it out. I'm sure they'll still accept you regardless of your newfound sexuality. Tell them that it's who you are and that you don't want to keep it a secret anymore. Be open though, to their concerns but have a speech ready to answer them. Good luck. If you need anything else, let me know.
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Perhaps your parents know, but are in denial? A lot of parents are like that. However, if you come right out and tell them, then it's out on the table. There's no reason to be hiding your true self, especially from your family. I suggest you ask them to sit down, and talk to them in a polite and mature manner. Tell them there is something very important that you need to talk to them about, and then tell them that you are attracted to other males.
They might scream and yell, they might ask you to change your sexual orientation... but they will always be your parents, and you will always be their son. They can't disown you at thirteen for being gay. Just let them know that you need their support and love now more than ever. And tell them that it was very mature of you to bring this up to them now. At least now they would know that you shouldn't be allowed to have other males up in your room alone with you(as most parents say,"No member of the opposite gender in your room with the door closed").
I hope everything turns out alright.
<3 Nyx
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