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when getting a gyno exam...exactly what does the doctor do...i have my first one next week and im insanely nervous.

oh and should i do anything down there...like shave or anything?

Okay first they check you breasts for lumps for cancer. Then they feel your stomach for pain. Then they do put two fingers up your vagins to feel the two lumps at the end which tells them your a virgin. Get a friendly woman doctor to do it cause it would scare you to have a man doctor. Then stay calm she will take good care of you too. She will ask you questions about your period and to keep track of it on the calendar. Hope i helped!!!

~queencece~

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ok i am 13/female and i just started my period October of 2005. it hasnt came on since then. and it is january 22nd of 2006!! is something wrong with me? my mom says that i sgould oviolate every month so thats why im scared. help me. i rate 5's for good answers.
Thanks

Okay go to the doctor as soon as possible because this could be seriuos. It sounds more than a irregular period, hun!! Trust me visit the doctor soon. Hope i helped!!!!


~queencece~

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13/m
ok i hope that this is in the correct category. well i masturbate wayyy 2 much. i kno i need 2 stop. 1 because my girlfriend doesn't like me doing it. 2. becuz its a little weird that i do it a lot. like whenever i get a boner ( and no1 is around or im in my room , if im at my house ) i masturbate. i only do it at my house and shit but still. Plus the major thing is that i need 2 do this for my girlfriend * i dont wanna loose her or risk loosing her *. please dont tell me 2 think of sumthing else, trust me i have tried, it doesn't work for me.
thanks in advance
tiredofit

Well as a 13 year old that's pretty normal. I kinda would love it if you were my boyfriend and you were sexual like that, but anyways just relax yourself. That's just how you are by your hormones and don't you dare try to take anything to stop it cause that will fuc you up. So just calm down and relax about it. If you ignore it it will pass i have the same thing, but i'm a girl and it's normal trust me (We'd probably have fun together!..). hope i helped!!!

~queencece~

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this is a seriuos question because i don't know what else to do.my bf before wen he ate me out, i didnt know wen i came i still can't tell but now i have a new boyfriend and he wants to finger me and eat me out, but i dont know wen i will came, do girls normally know? or no? im so confused!

Okay well some girls can tell, but it's no biggie if you don't cause that's just how oral sex is. Sometimes you cum as you two kiss each other and you don't know. But you should feel a wetness down there though. If you don't don't worry about it though. Hope i helped!!!


~queencece~

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ok so...
me and my boyfreind hang out a lot and well its always awkward like after hes done fingering me or something like that...like i dont know what to say or what to do or everything like that. soo does any one have any pointers?

I say to break the ice from the after math you guys should cuddle after after to calm you two down from the orgasms and the heated built between you two. Then say well you wanna.......or what ever you suggest and go from there. okay, hope i helped!!!

~queencece~

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ok so me and my boyfriend.. are uhm having sex for the first time this weekend. and im a virgin and hes only had it once but hes still more experienced then i am. and well im scared bc i dont wanna be someone who doesnt have a clue what their doing.. so yeah can anyone give me tips or help out?

Okay well i've never had sex before either, but it always helps to be more prepared:
* like watch a dirty movie and watch their actions.
*look up things on the internet of how to kiss, give head, intercourse, foreplay, or sex words and etc.
*ask mom and dad (maybe.
*ask a docter or a nurse that's in labor and delievery because they see vagina's all the time and could tell you what not to do to it.
*masterbate
*touch and look at yourself down there and see what you got down there to see what's going on with YOU first!
*the way to really want to know about what to do during sex is to just tell you partner als oi'm a beginner take it slow. Also don't have him thinking you know and come to find out you might not know what your doing. I may not have had sex before but i be sure to be prepared if the guy tries to get me to do something that he thinks i don't know and it could be bad for my mouth or vagina.

*Don't listen to your friends if they tell you to do certain things becuase what ever they might do in bed may not be good for you to do at all.

*Look up sex like it's your college major and you need to know mostly everything about it.

*There is a talk show on tv ofthe channel named oxygen of a lady named sue that has her own talk show just about sex and great info about it. On the weekends you can call in and ask questions.


.....So hope i helped, i'm sure i did!!!

~queencece~

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13/f

one my friend(girl) and me took off clothes and touched each other . we didnt finger each other. we just licked and sucked each others boobs. is that bad or something?

No! It's perfectly fine along as you two aren't freaked out. Don't start calling yourselves lesbains your just trying it on. As you experimenting i suggest you tell each other how you fell when you do things with each other. Communation is the key! I know this so well by me having the same experience with my best friend and i tried to communate but i did it to late for her to relax about what were we doing so she just started to act weird. You don't want that happening to either one of you because it makes you feel that there's something wrong with you a little bit. Just do this at one step at a time together. It will work out fine. Hope i Helped!!!

~queencece~


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I have to go for my first "girly" check up alone because I am having problems at school and they are being slowly sorted out but my parents know nothign about it but my health is going down. What I want to know is during this check up do they really look at your vagina and boobs and what do they do to them? Also do they do anythign to your bum? I am really embarrest andits happening in a month please give me some advice.

Well, hun i hope you have a woman becuase its' a whole lot comfortable that way. Well they do touch your breasts and put a little pressure on it with a circular motion. It doesn't hrut really it's quick ticklish, lol! Then this is the part you need to be strong for she or he will have you spread your legs open and she or he will use a metal thing to hold your vagina open. It doesn't it feels cold on you. Then they put one or two fingers inside you and reach to see if you have the soft bumpy spot that blocks going any further. That says your still a virgin. Tan she or he may press on your pelvis area under your stomach outside as his or her hand is still in you. She or he can do it with or without your period going on. You don't lay there butt naked though!!hahahaha....no your covered with a hospital gown like in a hospital. They will pull the gown down on top to do the breast examination though. Don't worry though, it may feel quite weird, but it's to check to see if your okayin your health. They had to do the same to me i didn't percularly like. I asure you if you get a woman doctor that's nice it's so much better and she makes you feel comfortable. I mean with a man you'd feel like he's sort of raping you more than a woman examining you. So..i hoped i helped you and good luck in a good way.

~queencece~

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hi. i am 15 years old and have not got my first period...my boyfriend wants to have sex...but idk what would happen...is that horribly bad if i havent got my first period yet
PLEASE help i rate 5s!
despretly confuxed

You seriuosly shouldn't be asking the advice thing, but go to a way better source like the Doctor or Gyn doctor for woman mentral periods. They will hepl you wat better than any advice column. Get any appiotment with your doctor as fast as you can. She can help you even get on your period with certain pills i believe. It happened to me sort of when my period got big gaps with it not coming 2 or 3 months at a time. I needed pills to start it back up. okay...hope i helped!!

~cece~

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ok so me & my bf had sex and we had done it once, and then like 10 mins. later again, so we had two condoms used , well when he left he tied them together and i saw them tied and there was a bunch of juice in them .. it was pretty much clear

so basically im wondering what that was since im pretty positive its not cum

ill rate 5's

thank you ! !!

It was sperm. That is what comes out even way before the white cum comes out. So i woudl advise not trying to be pros and doin it with out a comdom or some type of protection. hope i helped!!!

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theres this guy and hes a freshman and im a 8th grader and weve been talking for 4 months not boyfriend and girlfriend tho cause we dont wanna go threw all the breaking up stuff. but hes fingered me 3 times and we made out alot but i dont wanna go any farther i wouldnt mind maybe giving him head i just dont wanna have sex. is there anyway when were "hooking up" to make sure nothing goes too farr?

It will only go to far only if you let things go too far. If he's a trusting boy he won't force you that way. Be careful with all that oral sex you can get syphillus. Be cantious otherwise have fun with that, but be careful if he wants to go out with you make sure there for the right reasons. Have fun!!!! Hope i helped!!!

~queencece~

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If your raped and the guy gets his **** into you and forcefully starts to F*** you but you push him off after he was at least 2 inches in...does that make you a non virgin? Does rape even count? Or what? IM SOO LOST

Listen, your a virgin in your heart okay. I'm sorry if you were raped or if someone you know was, but it's just a physical thing. If he did it hard and long enough like 2 to 3 minutes. If he hits the soft bump woman have in your vagina and it's not there your not a virgin physically. Don't believe all that virgin crap. It just will make you feel bad. Your as virgin as you feel. Okay? If you masturbate and feel that soft bump that you can't get past that's what the guys break for you to not be a virgin anymore (physically). Got it.. I know i helped!!!lol, just playin'......bye hun!

P.s. if you have anymore advice IM me in AIM (Mega Hot Mama7).

~queencece~

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ok im 13/f and i dont know if im bi or not cuz like sometime si catch myself wanting to "do" things with girls and like i think gurls bodies are cute or "hot" and when i was 12 a girl hit on me went to kiss me and i DIDNT back away...please i dont know if im a lesbien or if girls are just like this please help me i rate REALLY high..thanks so much!

First of all, ur not alone i'm having the same problem, but i cna help you. Your just thinking about your opinions and all. That doesn't mean your a lesbian. From my experiance being with another girl is a great experience. It gives you a chance to explore out of the male needs. If you do love males more than girls that's okay. Your only 13 and thinking these things are natural. It's good that your very curious. But once you get involved with somone and you don't like it don't just say to them i don't want to do this anymore. That just makes them made that they had to be with a person they like that is confused. Don't put such a label on yourself it doesn't help you at all. Please don't tell everyone about your business of how you feel because a lot people might not understand your feelings. This is a natural thought and you should explore it like a lady with maybe a person close to you that's willing to try it with you (that's not in the family!). But before you do that you should look up on the internet about bisexuality and bring a lesbian and read on about it. It helps to know what your interested in and know more about it. Because you don't want a person to trick you into something that you have know clue about so. Just look into it. Trust me this is a natural curiousity and it's fun if you have a best friend who's willing to try experimenting with you. So if you have any questions or need further help IM me at AIM. My screename is Mega Hot Mama7 (just as it's written with the spaces). Hope i helped!!!!!

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hi. umm i am 13f and i havent started my period yet.. which is fine. but umm i am completely am totally flat. im not one of those girls with small boobs who just says shes flat. i really am quite literally FLAT. and i hate it. all of my friends (again, not exagerating) have boobs. how come i dont? will they ever come? because i do see adults sometimes that are flat. i really dont want to be like that. i have never had a boyfriend. my friends have. guys like girls with boobs. and dont say its not true. sorry huns, but uuh it is. guys used to like me in 5th grade and below because i am pretty, and then, nobody had boobs. but now that they do, im just a "little girl" compared to all of my friends. i really hate being flat. i dont know what i can do. obviously i cant magically make them appear.. but aah i hate it. i dont want to wear a padded bra because if someone bumps into me it will be obvious. what is a water bra? and wtf do i do????????
i rate 5. just pleease give me some good advice.

listen hear i my best friend was as flat as you say you are as soon a while after the period became a routine so did her growth and she's now from a small A to a 36B. I'm sure you notice that your missing hips and a waist line as well. So when you began with your period your body will start to form in a womanly shape. It depends also the family background you've had with either side if family. Don't worry about it that much. In my school their is a girl that is getting guys and she's not really gifted in the chest area. So but don't worry yourself and have fun cause once that those womanly things hit you you would want to have it stop. Basically and mostly the period anyway so. You'll be cool! Hope i helped, hun!!!!!!!!!!1

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Okay well, I really like this guy. He's everything I want. Funny, intellegent, cute, long hair, sweet, kind and he skates. There's nothing more that I want then for him to like me back. The bad thing is that my friend likes him to. No one knows that I like this kid and I've been hiding it for a really long time. I don't think he has a clue and we are good friends and I don't want to ruen it by telling him that I like him.

I need help and FAST.

I'll rate for the advice you give. Just help. :{

Go for it and tel him in a friend way like say what would you do if i liked you or play truth or dare with him and if he says truth ask do you like me? There are ways to tell him believe me. I know it won't be that weird and if he flirts with you really tell him. First talk to your friend first to see if she's okay with it then go for it. Don't miss a chance. Guys are slow they'll end up likeing you, but don't tell until a year later when your over him then.hope i helped!!!

~queencece~

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I'm 17/f and I've been best friends with this guy my whole life. Our dad's were friends in high school so it's literally my whole life. His name is Ryan.

Ryan has a girlfriend that I just cannot stand. Last year she got me kicked off of my cheer squad at school and since then I've despised her.

When that happened they were dating and they way she got me kicked off was by showing my cheer coach pictures of a party I was at. At my school, cheerleaders aren't supposed to go to drinking parties and things like that.

Well I asked Ryan to talk her out of giving them to my coach because quite honestly, I never did anything like that to her and I never would have so I still don't understand why she would do such a thing. But anyway, he never talked to her about it and she gave them to my coach.

During this past week Ryan had bought her a beautiful white gold ring with a bow in the middle and in the middle of the bow there was a blue sapphire. He told a few people and it got around to her.

Monday after school Ryan and I were at my locker and she came up to us (him) and asked if he got her the ring. He said yes and she replied with "Ryan I HATE blue! You know that!”

That REALLY pissed me off so I said, "Yeah and I hope he knows you're a bitch too." Ryan told me to shut up and he walked off with her.

What kind of girlfriend would say that when her boyfriend bought her such a nice, expensive gift?

Every time I try to say something about her to him he gets all mad and tells me not to talk about her. Yet, I hear her talking to him about me all the time. And they're way worse things that I would ever say about her. I even have other friends tell me that she says things about me and he AGREES with her!

Today I went over to his house and walked into his room and they were in there. All I heard was "(my name) is such a bitch why do you even talk to her?" and Ryan said, "Yeah she just gets jealous sometimes"

If I were to say that to him about her he's have a fit! I don't know what I'm supposed to do here because it seems that he just doesn't care about me. She’s a bitch to everyone including him but he still puts up with it. Why does he treat her so much better than how he treats me?

Fuck him seriously! I mean dang you warn him about her and he blows you off. I think if he's not had many g/f's that he would hold on to her and be in his little world to much. Sorry for that. You need to pull a move on him and say that you don't feel he cares about you and i want your to be so mad that you cry for real. Have him feel guilty. The g/f hates the fact that your so close to him and she wants to munipulate you both so she can be center of attention. She's trying to trick him and have you let him go in anger. Don't let that happen! hope i helped

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Okay, so I've been talking to this guy for awhile. Lemme point out the majority of my friends are guys. I just like them better - they're easier to get along with.
So this guy is kind of a jerk, but he's not really mean. He just like, teases and makes fun of me a lot. I was talking to him the other night, and I said something about talking to much and joked about him "probably want[ing] to duct tape my mouth and hands" (we were talking on line) and he said "you know, I might just have to take you up on that," and we went into a whole conversation about like, tying me up and he made it like, really sexual.
Then last night I was talking to him and I asked him what he wanted (I meant out of life) but he turned it into a discussion about what we wanted in relationships, and then he asked why I was so curious/interested, and I answered honestly first, saying it was "just something to talk about, and gets me into your head a little." and then said (obviously sarcastic) no, it's because I want you. And he thinks I seriously like him! I can't convince him otherwise, and I totally don't. I mean, I like him as a friend, but that's honestly it.
I don't want him to go around thinking I like him when I don't. So how do I fix this situation? I've tried talking to him about it and calmly explaining that I really, honestly don't like him like that and that I was totally kidding, and he said something like "You can lie to me but you can't lie to yourself."
Yeah, he's kinda arrogant. But like...what would you do?
It almost sounds to me like he likes me, but he specifically said he didn't.
So I ask you, what the heck?

He's fucking with you, dear. Really! If you go to school with him ignore him or tell him to leave you alone like he's really tormented your life if he doesn't get the mesage with you saying it in a calm voice. This guy you say is a jerk , right? Well jerks tend to be immature too so he's probably playing with you hard just to be a joker. I advise you stop talking to him online because if you continue talking to him and given the amusement by answering back the whole time it will sound like you like him. hope i helped!!!!

~queencece~

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whats the deal with guys and big nipples on chicks?

cas i've heard they really like em
and idk i was jw

Well it's because they can suck on them like babies...lol!! Seriously that's how it is with some lesbians too. Also they love hard nipples too. hope i helped!!!

~queencece~

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Ok. So I am a virgin. This guy I know and we have dated, but he's a virgin to. He wants us to have sex. I want to too. The only problem is I want to hear your advice on wat to do and how to do it. I want to know every position and which one is best. I wanna know how to give head and everything else there is to know. Plz help!!! Answer before this weekend plz! I know all the stuff about pregnacy so don't preach to me about that or I'll give you a 1 rate. Detailed answers will recieve 4-5!!!

Well I'm not the one to preach just tell. So don't try to become pro in a week. the reason he wants to do it with you is to get the "virgin" gentle experience. Plus don't do head he aint no God your just screwing him not given him his worldly fantasies in one weekend. Be careful with what you do with him he may give you a bad name.Be a lady and approach him as you are, a "VIRGIN!" The only positions you'd need to strictly have to know t odo is doggy style, anal sex, hand job, fingering you, foreplay, teasing, making out, frenching, making hickies on each other, and setting the mood just ruins the mood a bit like your an old bag and you haven't got some since 1972! Not like an adult like a regular teen. Be secretive with this like your really sneaking around for no one to find you guys doing this. It's more fun that way then just be able to do it at any will with no restrictions. If you've had fantasies before (which I woman would have!) take your ideas from there. Hope i helped

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Hey, ok well ok im 14, and i recently lost my virginity a few days ago. I didnt use a condom, and im scared. Do you think i could be pregnant? But we probably only had sex for a minute. Please help im wooooried!!

Well i say yeah u could be pregnant, but don't panic! Check if ur period doesn't come at it's time and if it doesn't then go to a clinic and check. If your on good terms with your mom on telling her something like this i would love for you t otell her. It hurts parents when you don't tell them things they need to know like this. But if you truly don't want to share it with her then go to a clinic with your best bud or yourself and check. The clinic won't tell your parents if you tell them not to and if they do tell them you can sue (very good know) because they surely have vilated your personal business! I would highly advie you get and abortion because that child can screw up your life in many ways. Even if it was 2 second sex you can still get pregnant if that sperm came out and don't dwell on if's. First of all you should have had a condom to protect you. Sex aint that important in the world to not to remember to protect yourself and think about your actions. Trust me i'm 14 as well!

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