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Am i a virgin?
If your raped and the guy gets his **** into you and forcefully starts to F*** you but you push him off after he was at least 2 inches in...does that make you a non virgin? Does rape even count? Or what? IM SOO LOST
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yep that`s rape sweethart. & some people would consider you a virgin & others would say you lost it your virginity. so yeah i think your still a virgin tho cuz getting raped shouldn`t count as losing your virginity even tho it sorta does. don`t worry but i seriously recommend you go get some help or call the police cuz rape is rele serious :]
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Listen, your a virgin in your heart okay. I'm sorry if you were raped or if someone you know was, but it's just a physical thing. If he did it hard and long enough like 2 to 3 minutes. If he hits the soft bump woman have in your vagina and it's not there your not a virgin physically. Don't believe all that virgin crap. It just will make you feel bad. Your as virgin as you feel. Okay? If you masturbate and feel that soft bump that you can't get past that's what the guys break for you to not be a virgin anymore (physically). Got it.. I know i helped!!!lol, just playin'......bye hun!
P.s. if you have anymore advice IM me in AIM (Mega Hot Mama7).
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No your still a virgin. It's just rape. Because they say when you lose you virginty your supposed to lose it to the one you love and have a passionate sexaul encounter. So yeah you still a virgin. And rape does count. If you got any questions. give me a write.
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Yes thats still rape.. And some people would consider that you are a virgin and some wouldn`t but i don`t consider you a virgin.. Also you should get a restraining order against this guy.. Proving rape would be hard tho cuz he didn`t put it all the way in.. Sorry this happened to you tho.. ♥ Dez
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The reason rape is so horrible is that it is forceable sex. Forced penetration. For a virgin, it is the unconsented loss of virginity.
To put on a silver lining and claim some loophole for "technical virginity" and whathaveyou is to downplay the trauma that has occurred.
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This is a tough one. Virginity is usually defined as never having intercourse. Someone who has been raped has had intercourse. Some people define virginity differently. I think it would be fine to still consider yourself a virgin if this happened to you. Doing so may, however, cause problems. If you're dating someone and you tell them that you're a virgin, but later on in the relationship tell them that you were raped, they could get really angry or upset with you and stop trusting you. It's okay to consider yourself a virgin, but your partner probably won't understand this and my be hurt if you don't tell them what happened. You don't have to go into detail, but instead of telling him that you're a virgin, tell him that you're a virgin, but you were raped for a few seconds before you could push the guy off. If he gives you a hard time about calling yourself a virgin get rid of him immediately. You don't need to put up with that kind of garbage. If you believe that you're a virgin than you are. If it means anything I do too. I'm not sure by your question if this actually happened to you, but if it did I'm really sorry and I hope you feel better. :)
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I don't know if you're talking about yourself or a friend, but for the sake of my response, I'm going to respond directly to you as I'm thinking you might have been the one raped.
I am SO sorry about your experience. No one deserves to have to go through any kind of violation of her or his body and space. Rape is such a violent act even if there is no "violence" involved. The violation of your choice, your body is what is violent.
Virginity is a complicated issue which is argued within the Church and outside of it. It is an emotional and spiritual thing that does not have anything to do with somone violating you...especially for the first time. It is my belief that you are still a virgin emotionally and spiritually even if there was penetration (small or great). I have provided you a link to a wonderful article written by a woman who was assaulted at 15 and who addresses your exact question in a very kind, thoughtful, and thought provoking way. I encourage you to read what she has to say. The article is simple and not very long.
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Please know that there are many rape SURVIVORS out there and that WE (yes, I was assaulted as a child and raped as a young adult; the rape was my first experience with sex and I, too, was "lost" and confused) stand behind you and feel for you and what you're going through in a very powerful and connected way.
I strongly encourage you to seek counseling NOW. You may think that the way you feel will just go away, or get better, but having been violated is something that you need to deal with immediately before those feelings manifest into something far worse than what you're feeling right now. The fact that you're talking about it is the first step and the hardest step. Please take the next step and get with a counselor. Can you talk to your parents about this? Have you tried? If you haven't and don't feel comfortable for any reason, do you trust your school counselor because he or she can help you get started by recommending where to go for help. There are free clinics out there with counselors who are able to help people like you. However, I would suggest that you try to enlist the help of your parents. They should know, if for no other reason than to be there for you and to be supportive of you during this time. Please don't just think about this horrid incident as whether or not you've lost your virginity. This is way more important than that and goes into you on a very deep emotional level. Somehow I think that you're probably already doing a trip on yourself and feeling guilty just because of your question. YOU have nothing to feel guilty about!! It does NOT matter if this guy thought you were "leading him on" or not. What exactly is leading a person on anyway? There should have been a MUTUAL decision as to whether or not sex would be an option for the two of you. Please, please know that no matter what you wore, what you said, what you did, you did NOT deserve this!!
Please let me know how you're feeling when you can. If you want to talk more in depth about what all has gone on, do feel free to contact me via e-mail at soysusana@verizon.net. I am concerned about you and I definitely care. I am so sorry...
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your still a virgin..but if you did get raped i would reccommend that you tell someone that you can trust and get help on that whole thing, and im sorry if that happened...
good luck
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if you are raped, and you havent had sex before than you are a virgin. no matter how far his penis goes in, you're still a virgin
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If you have been raped, you are still a virgin... unless you had intentions of having sex with this guy and gave him permission, or lead him onto believe that you wanted to have sex with him, then you are still a virgin.. confusing topic, i know... but i have a friend who was raped and she is still considered a virgin bc she had no intentions of doing it.. sorry this probably isnt much help
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