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What the heck?
Okay, so I've been talking to this guy for awhile. Lemme point out the majority of my friends are guys. I just like them better - they're easier to get along with.
So this guy is kind of a jerk, but he's not really mean. He just like, teases and makes fun of me a lot. I was talking to him the other night, and I said something about talking to much and joked about him "probably want[ing] to duct tape my mouth and hands" (we were talking on line) and he said "you know, I might just have to take you up on that," and we went into a whole conversation about like, tying me up and he made it like, really sexual.
Then last night I was talking to him and I asked him what he wanted (I meant out of life) but he turned it into a discussion about what we wanted in relationships, and then he asked why I was so curious/interested, and I answered honestly first, saying it was "just something to talk about, and gets me into your head a little." and then said (obviously sarcastic) no, it's because I want you. And he thinks I seriously like him! I can't convince him otherwise, and I totally don't. I mean, I like him as a friend, but that's honestly it.
I don't want him to go around thinking I like him when I don't. So how do I fix this situation? I've tried talking to him about it and calmly explaining that I really, honestly don't like him like that and that I was totally kidding, and he said something like "You can lie to me but you can't lie to yourself."
Yeah, he's kinda arrogant. But like...what would you do?
It almost sounds to me like he likes me, but he specifically said he didn't.
So I ask you, what the heck?
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Apperently this guy is seriously thick headed,what I would do is just keep telling him over and over and maybe even get some of your friends to tell him you don't like him,if he does not take a hint,he'll end up asking you out,or he could just be joking around with the whole thing from the way it sounds,hope everything works out ok
Jasmine,
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Haha...I know EXACTLY what you mean babe. I went thru the same thing myself. I wouldn't talk to him for awhile and give it time to sink in that you don't like him. But this guy sounds like he has a really big ego and i don't think that he's worth your time so just forget about it and move on to someone better! Hope I helped...Love yah!
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i know exactly what you mean. The majority of my friends are guys also and all you have to do is blow his words off. you know that you really dont like him and thats all that matters. Let him think what he wants its really not as bad as you may think. just play the game and keep up the conversation but let him think other wise. All that matters is YOU know the truth. You have told him time and time again you dont so your not lieing to either you or him--he is lieing to himself-good luck
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He's fucking with you, dear. Really! If you go to school with him ignore him or tell him to leave you alone like he's really tormented your life if he doesn't get the mesage with you saying it in a calm voice. This guy you say is a jerk , right? Well jerks tend to be immature too so he's probably playing with you hard just to be a joker. I advise you stop talking to him online because if you continue talking to him and given the amusement by answering back the whole time it will sound like you like him. hope i helped!!!!
~queencece~
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omg, he obviously likes you! if he didnt, he would just drop it, guys are like that. but maybe you have the tiniest feelings for him.... to show him that you do not like him in that way, the next time he says, oh i know you like me or w/e, just say, yeah, i like u, u got me. (say it a LITTLE sarcastically, but not alot) and then jsut walk away rolling your eyes. he will think that you are serious, and kind of lay off a bit.
i hope my advice helps, and i hope it works!
~rachel
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If you really want him to get the message that you don't like him that way, then you need to distance yourself. By getting into the flirty conversation he thinks you are interested. By distancing yourself, I mean, don't have flirty conversations, say Hi, then say oh I have to go and just blow him off for a few weeks because you're so busy. then if you start sorta talking again, treat him like a friend and tell him about the guys you are interested in. Hopefully he'll get the message and knock it off. Sorry to be so direct, but when you let him into that sexual conversation you totally opened the door.
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