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hey people, i'm rachel, and i'm 18 years old and i'm from IL. i love giving advice to other people! my friends say i give really good advice, and i've hooked them up with all of their boyfriends who they have had for at least a year and a half already! i do especially good with "boy" questions. lol! but i am totally open to all sorts of advice! ask me anything! dont be afraid to tell me something, or ask me a question, and dont hesitate! i hope i give u great advice, and if U have any advice for me about my page or something, feel free to ask!

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Wow you are very gorgeous.. And i love the hair..I also added you as a favorite.. ♥ Dez

y thank you, i do my hair myself (lol)

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Ok so there is this guy that I like and my friends tell me that he seems like he likes me too because he keeps looking at me all the time. But then my sister was talking to him online (she found his sign name and added him) and she asked me who he was and he said his name and she told him that she was in middle school so he said "ewwww". Then he lied and said he was a year older. Then she asked him if he was a friend of mine and he said "No, I don't know geeks". Then he blocked her. I am so upset. What does this mean?

ok, maybe he just doesnt want to admit tht he likes u, or maybe he really means it and thinks ur a geek. trust me, i fell for those "looks" tht guys give girls. most of the times, they are just playin wit u (tht is so jerky). but just see wut happens. but from wut i know, he sounds like a jerk, so watch it.

well i hope i helped!

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What does this mean? "Note: AOL member profiles are not accessible through AOL Instant Messenger." i dont get it and really want to know!! thanks in adance! ill rate!

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xo

ok, you have AIM right? well if you do, this happens because people that have AOL have a different kind of profile then the people with AIM do, and it doesnt go through with people from people that have AIM.

~Rachel

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me and my bf have a good relationship. i want to have sex.i love him. i think he loves me. how would i tell him. or make it happen

ok, first, WHEN YOU GUYS ARE ALONE, just bring up that subject in a random or funny way. but first of all, how old are you? cuz my advice i'm gonna give all depends on how old you are.

ages 13-16~ i personally think that this is WAAAAAY to young to have sex. but if you are absolutely certain that you are ready, then dont go to far. just do a couple things.

17-19~ ok, well if you are absolutely certain you want to, then just bring it up by saying. have you ever wondered about having sex? if he says something like, haha, no, i want to wait until after i am married." then totally drop the subject by saying, oh ok, me 2. if u ask him and he says something like, yeah lots of times, and i think i'm ready 2." then you can say, well i've thought about it and wondered if maybe you'd like to do it. if he says, ok sure." then your on good terms :-P but if he says well, i'm not sooo sure i would like to do it right now, then say ok, no problem just asking.

well i really hope i helped! GOOD LUCK!

~Rachel

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here is the background knowledge you need to know. I have a lil bro . I am in 11grade. he is in 9th. I am the smart one. top of the class, honour roll and all sorts of crap. My lil bro is on the point of dropping out. for midsemester he got like 5 Fs (out of 10). My mom depends on me to ve the good example to him.
OK
now, today after class, I was on the bench outside od my class. My friend showed me a copy of the Chemistry test we are supposed to get tomorrow. So all of us on the bench (my freinds only) start to work it out and copy the answers for ourselves. NOW, my lil bro just comes out of nowhere and sees me copying down the answers. He was in a hurry and did not say anything but I think he saw me. what to do ?
and if he asks me when he gets home, what should I say?
i don't want him to think copying is the way to go.

well if he asks, then just say that you were copying down a study guide or something....and that your just studying the answers :-P

hehe.....my advice for this kinda stuff sux, i'm more into relationship crap, but i thought i'd give it a try

hope i helped!
~Rachel

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So a girl i really like(im a boy 14 year she is 14 too) has her birthday in 2 weeks and i don't know what to give her...PLEASE VERY PLEASE HELP!ALL 5


she likes rock music the most guitar and stuff...also she likes pets like dogs and cats.

ok, since she likes rock music, and shes 14, maybe get her a band t-shirt, like fall out boy, or my chemical romance or good charlotte or the all american rejects. you can get those shirts at a store called hottopic (i hope u know wut tht is :-P) and since she likes pets and stuff, maybe get her a cute calendar or sumthing.

i hope i helped!
~rachel

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Okay...Theres this guy at my school that I have liked for a while, and I like REALLY like him. He knows I like him but he said he didn't like me. Its weird though because I always catch him staring at me in class. Does he like me know or am I just kidding myself??

hmm....tricky. maybe the next time you catch him staring at you, then smile. if he gives you a bad look, then cut it out. but for now just keep it cool.

I HOPE I HELPED!
~rachel

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I'm 17/f and I've been best friends with this guy my whole life. Our dad's were friends in high school so it's literally my whole life. His name is Ryan.

Ryan has a girlfriend that I just cannot stand. Last year she got me kicked off of my cheer squad at school and since then I've despised her.

When that happened they were dating and they way she got me kicked off was by showing my cheer coach pictures of a party I was at. At my school, cheerleaders aren't supposed to go to drinking parties and things like that.

Well I asked Ryan to talk her out of giving them to my coach because quite honestly, I never did anything like that to her and I never would have so I still don't understand why she would do such a thing. But anyway, he never talked to her about it and she gave them to my coach.

During this past week Ryan had bought her a beautiful white gold ring with a bow in the middle and in the middle of the bow there was a blue sapphire. He told a few people and it got around to her.

Monday after school Ryan and I were at my locker and she came up to us (him) and asked if he got her the ring. He said yes and she replied with "Ryan I HATE blue! You know that!”

That REALLY pissed me off so I said, "Yeah and I hope he knows you're a bitch too." Ryan told me to shut up and he walked off with her.

What kind of girlfriend would say that when her boyfriend bought her such a nice, expensive gift?

Every time I try to say something about her to him he gets all mad and tells me not to talk about her. Yet, I hear her talking to him about me all the time. And they're way worse things that I would ever say about her. I even have other friends tell me that she says things about me and he AGREES with her!

Today I went over to his house and walked into his room and they were in there. All I heard was "(my name) is such a bitch why do you even talk to her?" and Ryan said, "Yeah she just gets jealous sometimes"

If I were to say that to him about her he's have a fit! I don't know what I'm supposed to do here because it seems that he just doesn't care about me. She’s a bitch to everyone including him but he still puts up with it. Why does he treat her so much better than how he treats me?

omg, i hate situations like this. ask him one day what he sees in her, and why he lets her treat him that way. if he doesnt listen, then just stop hanging out for a little while. then when she breaks up with him, he will have no one to turn to. then he will want you back and apoligize. and i think he agrees with her because he doesnt want to get her mad.

this is my theory :-P

I REALLY REALLY HOPE MY ADVICE HELPS! GOOD LUCK!
~rachel

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oh and to all those people with the ? when is the right time to have sex? its when you are ready.
no body can tell you when to have sex.

and ways my ? is..
how long into the relationship do you have sex.
i rate high for nice people

i personally think that you shouldnt have sex when you are just in a "relationship". i think you that you should wait until you are married, and you have planned to spend the rest of your life with this person. but if you are ready, then u do it....when your ready, lol. but dont let any guy talk you into something you are not ready for.

I HOPE I HELPED!
~rachel

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I like this boy alot and I know he likes me to. I'm not sure if he wants commitment with me though. I really would like to go out with him. All I ever think about is wanting to be in his arms. I feel so comfterble with him. More comfterble then ive ever felt. When we talk on the phone he says thinks like "if I was there I would hold you." And all this other stuff. I want to go out with him. How should I get him to ask me out or find out if he wants to go out with me or if it would be easyer how do I ask him out? Any ideas?

well if he says that sort of stuff, hes really into you! but he might just be playin around. if u feel really comfortable around him, then go for it! maybe ask him if he wants to hang out or go to the movies or something. then he'll get the hint ;-)

GOOD LUCK!
~rachel

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ok so this guy i like and i are really mean to eachother.. i know thats a way of flirting but i mean REALLY mean to me. he tells me he wants me to die and stuff like that in front of his friends but when hes only with me hes nice.. i dont know why i like him, and i have tried to be nicer but nothing works..
aaahhh what should i do!?!

i'm sorry to say, but i'm not sure hes feeling the same way about you as you do him. the next time he does that in front of his friends, then totally blow him off. think of a good come back or something. and maybe since hes only nice when you guys are alone, maybe he doesnt want to admit that hi likes you.........so give it some time

i really hope my advice helps, and i hope that it all works out.

~rachel

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Okay, so I've been talking to this guy for awhile. Lemme point out the majority of my friends are guys. I just like them better - they're easier to get along with.
So this guy is kind of a jerk, but he's not really mean. He just like, teases and makes fun of me a lot. I was talking to him the other night, and I said something about talking to much and joked about him "probably want[ing] to duct tape my mouth and hands" (we were talking on line) and he said "you know, I might just have to take you up on that," and we went into a whole conversation about like, tying me up and he made it like, really sexual.
Then last night I was talking to him and I asked him what he wanted (I meant out of life) but he turned it into a discussion about what we wanted in relationships, and then he asked why I was so curious/interested, and I answered honestly first, saying it was "just something to talk about, and gets me into your head a little." and then said (obviously sarcastic) no, it's because I want you. And he thinks I seriously like him! I can't convince him otherwise, and I totally don't. I mean, I like him as a friend, but that's honestly it.
I don't want him to go around thinking I like him when I don't. So how do I fix this situation? I've tried talking to him about it and calmly explaining that I really, honestly don't like him like that and that I was totally kidding, and he said something like "You can lie to me but you can't lie to yourself."
Yeah, he's kinda arrogant. But like...what would you do?
It almost sounds to me like he likes me, but he specifically said he didn't.
So I ask you, what the heck?

omg, he obviously likes you! if he didnt, he would just drop it, guys are like that. but maybe you have the tiniest feelings for him.... to show him that you do not like him in that way, the next time he says, oh i know you like me or w/e, just say, yeah, i like u, u got me. (say it a LITTLE sarcastically, but not alot) and then jsut walk away rolling your eyes. he will think that you are serious, and kind of lay off a bit.

i hope my advice helps, and i hope it works!
~rachel

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You answered my question about the '100 things I love about you' and I wanted to see what you think about my finished product!

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aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaawwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww! so adorable! you guys make the cutest couple eva!! oh my god,, how can you think of so many things tht you luv about him??? wow! this is such a great idea......but where are the last 10? lol

hes gonna never want to let you go after you give this to him! you did great!

~rachel

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For Christmas I thought it'd be cute to do a '100 things I like about you' for my boyfriend. First of all, is that a terrible idea? What do you think he'd think about it? He's pretty sentimental about gifts.
&& Do you have any ideas that I could put in there?
(IE: 17. I love when you say those cute little sayings you come up with out of nowhere.
23. I love how you write me notes when we both know you dislike it.
34. I love how you hug me from behind.)

Thanks!

omgosh! that is the cutest thing! he will be so surprised that you took that much time on just a little christmas gift! and i absolutely love the idea about the book! maybe, like about him hugging you fromt he back, maybe give a camera to one of your friends, and have them "snoop" and catch him in the act! this is such a great idea, i wish i had thought of it!

GOOD LUCK!
~rachel

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ok i sound like a complete fool but its true i have a crush on my teacher this is sick and i need it to stop. Its like everytime i have a lession with him i sit and glare at him its so not correct and i don't know what to do. I know that like other students like him aswell cus he is like hott but hes always picking on me all the time in class and ive seen him look at me but maybe its just to see if i understand and he always lets me off when i don't do the homework and he shouts at everyone else. I don't know what to do hes sooo much older than me. someone help thank you in advance.

oh dont worry about it! i used to have crushes on my teachers all the time! especially if they were hot! hehe! its ok to have a crush on a teacher, but if he starts to have a crush on u, tehn thts a problem. he is an older man, and u have probably heard some of the stories out there....... so just watch it, and try not to make it to obvious tht you like him

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my little sister is 11 turning 12 in a couple of months and is confused about what to be. Any ideas?

aww, i remember when i was 12. loved it! they have the best costumes for tht age group! i think she should be some sort of fallen angel, or a cute cat. when i was 12, i was a hot dog! it was the best, everybody loved it! so maybe try a humourus costume! good luck!

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lately i have been extremely unhappy, between my friends not talking to me alot anymore and them ditching me, i sit home alot on weekends when all my friends go out and have fun, also theres thisguy i like but i think he only wants to hook up. im just simply unhappy, also i think i am fat and i want to loose weight, lately i have been turnign to alcohol when im home alone so i dont have to be in this world. im always so bored and i just want to get away. i want my friends, i want to go out and party like my friends do, i want a boyfriend, and i want to loose weight. is there something wrong with me.

no, no, no! never think tht there is something wrong with you! it is very normal for a girl to want a boyfriend, loose a lil weight, and hang with her friends. maybe you should take up a hobbie, so tht you are not bored so much. maybe try going to the mall with your friends instead of being home alone, and then maybe you could meet a guy! when i was in school, my friends turned their backs on me and ignored me and ditched me allll the time. i just got used to it, and just hung with them when i could. tht was a bad idea to just leave it as it was, and not do something about it. then finally, i put my foot down and i talked to them about it. they did not understand and just rejected me even more, and then i found new friends. they wanted me back just because i had all the gossip. i eventually changed schools. those people are wut you can call "trash friends". try and find a new group of friends to hang with.

and no matter wut you are going through, never......ever turn to achohal or drugs to "solve" your problems. it will just make your situation worse. like i said, maybe take up a hobbie to take up the time you would have been having achohal.

and about the guy......does he like you, do you like him? BAM! ask him out! dont always wait for the guy to make the first move, because tht can show tht you are lazy.

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