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my bestfriend and his bitchy gf
I'm 17/f and I've been best friends with this guy my whole life. Our dad's were friends in high school so it's literally my whole life. His name is Ryan.
Ryan has a girlfriend that I just cannot stand. Last year she got me kicked off of my cheer squad at school and since then I've despised her.
When that happened they were dating and they way she got me kicked off was by showing my cheer coach pictures of a party I was at. At my school, cheerleaders aren't supposed to go to drinking parties and things like that.
Well I asked Ryan to talk her out of giving them to my coach because quite honestly, I never did anything like that to her and I never would have so I still don't understand why she would do such a thing. But anyway, he never talked to her about it and she gave them to my coach.
During this past week Ryan had bought her a beautiful white gold ring with a bow in the middle and in the middle of the bow there was a blue sapphire. He told a few people and it got around to her.
Monday after school Ryan and I were at my locker and she came up to us (him) and asked if he got her the ring. He said yes and she replied with "Ryan I HATE blue! You know that!”
That REALLY pissed me off so I said, "Yeah and I hope he knows you're a bitch too." Ryan told me to shut up and he walked off with her.
What kind of girlfriend would say that when her boyfriend bought her such a nice, expensive gift?
Every time I try to say something about her to him he gets all mad and tells me not to talk about her. Yet, I hear her talking to him about me all the time. And they're way worse things that I would ever say about her. I even have other friends tell me that she says things about me and he AGREES with her!
Today I went over to his house and walked into his room and they were in there. All I heard was "(my name) is such a bitch why do you even talk to her?" and Ryan said, "Yeah she just gets jealous sometimes"
If I were to say that to him about her he's have a fit! I don't know what I'm supposed to do here because it seems that he just doesn't care about me. She’s a bitch to everyone including him but he still puts up with it. Why does he treat her so much better than how he treats me?
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Never speak to either of them ever again. Problem solved. Do you really want someone like that to be your friend anyway?
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Fuck him seriously! I mean dang you warn him about her and he blows you off. I think if he's not had many g/f's that he would hold on to her and be in his little world to much. Sorry for that. You need to pull a move on him and say that you don't feel he cares about you and i want your to be so mad that you cry for real. Have him feel guilty. The g/f hates the fact that your so close to him and she wants to munipulate you both so she can be center of attention. She's trying to trick him and have you let him go in anger. Don't let that happen! hope i helped
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omg, i hate situations like this. ask him one day what he sees in her, and why he lets her treat him that way. if he doesnt listen, then just stop hanging out for a little while. then when she breaks up with him, he will have no one to turn to. then he will want you back and apoligize. and i think he agrees with her because he doesnt want to get her mad.
this is my theory :-P
I REALLY REALLY HOPE MY ADVICE HELPS! GOOD LUCK!
~rachel
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He is her bitch. He will not let anybody talk bad about her,even though this girl sounds like a total cunt bitch. Why do you care anyway? It's not like you like him. He treats her better than you b/c she's giving him head. You're not. It's a very simple concept. You give me sex, me give you gift. It's just how it works.
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I don't know if you are actually jealous of her, he must feel you are. I don't think I would take that comment as him agreeing with her though. He is actually making excuses for you...which is a good sign.
Don't discuss her with him. At all. I know it will be hard to do, and I agree with you that she is a selfish sounding piece of work.
When you talk about her with him, it makes him mad. It gives her something more to bitch about, so just resist the urge. It will then make you look good, and her look bad.
It will make her look bad because she is very jealous of you. He still talks to you, remains friends with you...and she can't stand it. It will get old sooner or later. Especially if you suddenly become quiet about her. Even if he mentions her just tell him like this. I can't think of anything good to say about her so I'll say nothing. Please don't mention her to me.
No matter how pissed you get. Ignore her. If you see the two of them and stop to talk, pretend she isn't there. That will really get her panties in a bunch and she will start bad mouthing you. She will look bad, you will look good. I guess you could politely say hi or something and then ignore her. Then he won't accuse you of being rude.
OK enough out of me. :)
Oh, almost forgot. He treats her better because he happens to be dating her. Thats the only reason.
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I think she got you kicked off the squad because she feels threatened by you. Some people have problems accepting their significant others having friends of the oppisite sex. This, in no way, makes what she did right.
There are many reasons why he is still with her. He could really love her and is afraid to let go even if she is a royal bitch.
He could actually ahve a really healthy relationship with her and you just dont see the nice side of her.
I think the best solution for this is to talk to him alone, perferribly in person. tell him how you feel ( and really give yourself time to collect all your feelings and thoughts beforehand) Tell him that you think that his relationsip with her has put a strain on your guys' friendship.
tell him that while you want him to be happy, you dont understand why he would be with someone like her and that you could have never pictured him with someone like her. Ask him what it is that attracts him to her. Ask him why he allows her to bad mouth you but whenever you do it to her its not okay.
And the number one thing is to listen! Hear what he has to say about her.
Best of luck.
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She might of got you kicked off the cheering squad because she was jealous of you because you and him are best friends and most girls can't handle their boyfriend have a girl best friend. Yeah she sounds like a big bitch, maybe he's still with he because there a side of her that only he sees. When their alone shes might be one of the sweetest girls but who knows.
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