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ok i hope that this is in the correct category. well i masturbate wayyy 2 much. i kno i need 2 stop. 1 because my girlfriend doesn't like me doing it. 2. becuz its a little weird that i do it a lot. like whenever i get a boner ( and no1 is around or im in my room , if im at my house ) i masturbate. i only do it at my house and shit but still. Plus the major thing is that i need 2 do this for my girlfriend * i dont wanna loose her or risk loosing her *. please dont tell me 2 think of sumthing else, trust me i have tried, it doesn't work for me.
thanks in advance
tiredofit
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ok your problem must be you dont have enouph sex or she dont give you a blowjob often you dude all men need sex all the time at leaste 2 times a day i know my ex boyfriend played with it all the time till i gave it to him whenever he wanted it so maybe you should talk to your girlfriend and see how she feels about it
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Whenever you have the urge, chew gum, bounce a ball, just do something to occupy your hands. It does help to think about something that is a complete turn off though, such as fat people playing hackey sack, that usually takes the edge off pretty quickly.
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I don't think it's any of her business what you do with your body, as long as you're not going out and having sex with other people. Is she thirteen as well? If so, she probably doesn't understand it very well. But the thing is, sex is a drive. We need it just like we need food and water. It's actually much healthier for you to masturbate than to repress it. I assume that this girl isn't ready to lose her virginity. If you are sexually satisfying yourself on a regular basis, this makes you less desperate for sex and thus less likely to pressure her to have sex. There are some great articles about masturbation at [Link](Mouse over link to see full location). You should read them, and maybe show a couple of them to her. Make it clear that you're not forcing her to agree with you. Tell her that you are masturbating because you respect her and don't want to put sexual pressure on her. Also, it's not "weird" that you do it a lot. I do it like, atleast five times a day. There is no normal range for this. You do it when you need to. If your girlfriend still doesn't get it, you may not like it, but I think it's best you break it off with her. Like I said, it's really none of her business.
And, just to boost your self esteem, I'll tell you right now that I could never be with a man who didn't masturbate.
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define excessive? ill assume its several times a day. i know it can be addicting, i guess you can try just being around people more often so you dont get the chance. also, if you want to get rid of a boner without masterbating, just flick your balls nice and hard. itll hurt like a bitch but you wont be masterbating for a while after that.
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hun its normal pretty much ALL guys do it.You didnt have to tell your girlfriend you do it because its really none of her buisness,its a private thing.Just tell her you dont do it anymore,or if you want to tell her the truth,tell her your trying really hard to stop but its something all guys pretty much do.If she dosent understand or wants to dump you because of that shes not even worth it.I hope i could help!
♥ danielle
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Your very normal. You don'tthave to tell your gf you masterbate. Alot of people explore there bodies. Your fine.
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First of all, I agree with protossc541.
You are very, very normal.
I just wanted to add a simple solution to it all.
Don't feel the need to tell your girlfriend everything you do. You are 13. Its okay not to tell her when and/or how often you masturbate. :)
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Instead of thinking of something else, have you tried doing something else? For example, when the urge hits, try exercising or even calling your girlfriend. Distracting yourself with another activity, especially one that puts you in a situation where you can't indulge, might help to take your mind off of it.
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You're normal man. Guys jack off, that's just what they do. If your gf freaks about it, then tell her to hit the highway. It's normal. Go with it. Masturbation isn't a sin and it's not unhealthy.
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I'm 16, so I have three years on you to be able to say:
If you try hard, you'll stop.
At 13, it's not unusual at all for one to be interested in such stuff, but you really do need to try to stop now before it becomes a habit. I'm glad you have a girlfriend that cares enough to think that it's wrong, and I'm also glad you take her advice seriously. If you're complaining about doing that in your sleep, I've got news: it's going to stay like that for a while. If not, then hopefully the reason is not because of porn or the like. Just put your mind to it and stop trying you masturbate, and you'll grow out of it quickly.
At 16, I can say for a fact that you'll learn soon enough how unsatisfying the very thought of something sexual is. After that, being around a girl takes on a whole new meaning to you, and a good one at that.
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Your girlfriend is irrational. It's completely unreasonable to expect a 13 year old boy not to masturbate. Here's a news flash: a majority of guys your age likely masturbate as much as you do. Don't read too much into it. You're just a normal, hormonal boy, and your girlfriend shouldn't be able to expect you to change something you can't help. Tell her to lighten up and realize that it's natural for you to behave this way, and if she doesn't believe you tell her to look it up herself. The proof is all there.
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Well as a 13 year old that's pretty normal. I kinda would love it if you were my boyfriend and you were sexual like that, but anyways just relax yourself. That's just how you are by your hormones and don't you dare try to take anything to stop it cause that will fuc you up. So just calm down and relax about it. If you ignore it it will pass i have the same thing, but i'm a girl and it's normal trust me (We'd probably have fun together!..). hope i helped!!!
~queencece~
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