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Q: I don't have caller ID. And this girl Alyssa keeps calling my house and saying stuff about me and being all rude. It really upsets me; she has been doing it on Wednesdays starting last week. She calls me a dirty whore and making fun or me and stuff. I don't know what to do. If it happens again I'm calling the police for harrassment. Is that the right thing to do?

If she ever calls again, you should give her a fair warning to stop calling, and that it gets annoying. Or better yet, tell her to get a life. haha.

If she keeps calling, just call the phone company and ask to block her.

And it's okay to tell the police about her calling you nonstop, saying all these rude comments, and harrassment.

They could fix the problem, then maybe sooner or later, she will stop calling.

Hope I helped =]

Q: how do you download a video from your camera? and then upload it on myspace or something?

Thanks ill rate 5s!

You can go to:
http://youtube.com/

you have to sign up. Don't worry it's free. After your done signing up, you can upload video from your camera and upload it on that site.

You get the code from that same site, and paste it anywhere on your myspace.

Hope I helped.

Q: so theres this girl in my class who used to be my best friend in elementary school. of course im 13 and we're in 7th grade now. so anyways sometimes shes really nice to me and we have a good time together.. but lately shes been hassling me about my clothing? idk probably just becase i dont buy everything from abercrombie. i have some stuff but i have mostly a variety of clothing brands. so today i had this new outfit which was really cute, and she kept giving me this horrible look and asking me questions about it.. and then she was talking about me becuz of my clothes? i have no idea what this girls problem is, but right now i dont know if i should still be her friend or if i should ignore her..

5's for any answers =]

It sounds like someone is jealous.

You should talk to her about this, tell her that it's kind of bugging you for her giving you looks and hassling you for things you like to wear.

I mean, it's not like she is wearing it, you just like to wear what you like, and want to wear.

But my advice is to just ignore her, maybe she'll get the picture.
Hope i helped =]

Q: my best friend katelyn went out with sam and sam broke up with her to go out with me and she threatend to kill herself but she is over that now and going out with a 15 year old and is only 12 but i am afraid to tell her that me and him are going out she might never talk to me again for lying to her because i told her we were not going out!

No offense, but this is kind of a mean thing to do to your BFF.

But if you really like this guy, then might as well step up to her and tell her about you two being together. There's going to be some drama, and some yelling into this but she should
understand. You know, guys come and go.

Good Luck!

Q: Do you think it is ok to ask a guy if he likes you. I mean like like you?

Of course it's okay!

You'll never know if they feel the same way. But it's worth it

Q: I'm a 13 year old boy and I don't have a girlfriend when mostly everyone does. I like some of the girls at my school do not think they like me as much as I like them. How do I get the girls to like me?
I'm in texas by the way.

You can't really "make" a girl like you.
You should get online, and chat with a few girls from school, get to know them a bit.

Talk to them at school. (ex. help them with homework/classwork, etc.)

Maybe take a girl out to the mall, friend-to-friend. Or come over eachother's houses?

Hope I helped =]

Q: Hi,
I am a female from Canada seeking advice.
My bf who I have been with for 6 months is very controlling of me. We are in a semi-long distance relationship, we are still able to see each other a few times a month despite the short distance.
He gets upset when I don't tell him where I am going all the time, he gets upset when I am on the computer while on the phone with him and he uses the computer when on the phone with me, he even tells me to lay on the bed and turn off the light. He gets upset when I have to leave him for the bathroom or to say hello to someone in my res room. He considers me forgetting to call him when I promised very hurtful to him and compares me to his ex gfs and friends who do that to him. 3 months ago I OD'd and was hospitalized for depression and anxiety and ever since then he has been like this. I have tried everything from talking to him calmly about his behaviour and why to yelling at him to stop being this way and nothing has worked.
Is it just me or is it him? How do I make this bearable for myself? I still love him and don't want to leave him.
Please help!!!
Thank you.

It must be him, it is deffinatly NOT you.

If you love him, you should talk to him, and tell him to give you some space to be with your other friends, especially "guy friends" If you let him go off with his "girl friends" why doesn't he let you go off with your "guy friends"

If he is going to treat you like this, might as well let him go. Find another better guy who wouldn't have a problem with what you do, and who you hang out with. Might take a while, but sometimes being patient makes good things happen.

If he KNOWS that he is hurting you, and doesn't really seem to care, then he's not worth it.

But that's just me.
Hope this problem gets better.

Hope I helped =]

Q: i have short hair about up to the end of my neck. and it's black,and incase this helps i'm african american. i was just wondering what color highlights i should get. and i was just also wondering if higlights damage your hair? please be honest b/c i don't want my hair 2 break down for nothing.thanks in advance

Highlights don't damage your hair at all!
I think it would actually look great, especially on a african american.

maybe you should get dark brown, but yet, make it kind of noticable. that would be adorable

Q: my best friend bethany iz 12 and had SEX with a 14 year old and might be pregnant she asked me to help her but i dint know what to do!-H-E-L-P- PLZ

First of all, your friend must have been CRAZY!
12 years young? and already had sex? What was she thinking?

Anyways, you should have talked her out of it before she even had sex with this kid, if you even knew about this, that is. You should ask her if this guy was wearing a condom, or something to keep her from getting pregnant.

You should tell her to visit her doctor and get a test, to see if she isn't pregnant or get a sexually transimited of some sort.

but she is really lucky to have a friend like you trying to help her out on a serious problem like this.

Q: oaky well me and my bff just got into a huge fight. she asked my one friend if he was Catholic and he said *no im Christian* and she got really upset and called him an effing prejudice. i asked her why and everything escalated and now we arent talking. we got into this big fight about stereotyping and religion. i guess i blew the fight a little bit out of proportion but so did she. now i dont know what to do, i want to keep on tlaking to her but i think its gonna be awkward and we said some mean things, ahh what should i do?

im not going to apologize first bc i didnt really start it.

thanks

You shouldn't really care who started what.

You should talk to her, cause fighting over something like that isn't something what BFF's do. Does she have something against Christians? or something?

If you really care about her and the friendship you two once had. She should apologize for giving you an attitude, and maybe you should apologize for saying mean things to her.

I hope all goes well =]

Q: Hi, I'm from Italy. I met my girlfriend about 7 months ago and I love her very much.She is a very friendly girl and got lots of friends. she is still in contact with some of her exs and that drives me mad.she says they are still friends and if the relationship didnt work well between them does not mean they are bad people and thats why she still is in contact with them, she is also telling me she needs to see them sometimes as the are friends and she miss them but I really don't like it.I don't know how to react and what to tell her or ..maybe I'm wrong.please give me some advice.thanks

You shouldn't worry at all! you two been together for 7 months. So no need to worry. Just talk to her about it, and tell her how much she means to you, and how much she cares. She would understand.

But you should still let her see her exes if she still happens to still be friends with some of them.

Maybe ask if you can meet one of them? Get you more comfortable for who she is going to be with. But if she ever does get a chance to see them one day, don't be all up in the business like "Where did you go?" "What did you do?"

Otherwise, she will think you don't trust her enough, and possibly end the relationship.

Hope I helped :)
And good luck!

Q: This may sound a little stupid bit i dont know what to do. For what me and my friend did,we might of caused everyone in our school to get their myspace accounts caceled! It all happend when my friend made this fake girl named Alison a profile. She did it so this boy that is a total loser who is obbsesed with me could start liking her and not me anymore. He liked this "girl" Alison soo much that he gave her his adress,number, and wanted to meet her so he could take her out! Hez so stupid! What if it was like a 40year old guy!EEEWW! So he gave her(really me and my friend) his password and we changed his profile and wrote pretty funny stuff and changed his password,lol. Anyway,now he was obbsesed with her, and at school that is all he would talk about!Then oneday,he found out from someone(?) that she wasnt real! He was pretty mad and humileated(however you spell it) for a while, but then he got over it. Then oneday he started sending some pretty harsh things to my fiend because she is a little overweight and her sister found out and was SOOO mad. She sent him a message telling him that they(her friends) were going to beat him up,lol. The little wimp told his mom whotold the principal and now my friend is in trouble because she took the blame for her sis.But then, he mentioned the Alison thing and said my name!!! They are going to call my dad,afer he had JUSTseen all that bad stuff about myspace on the news!What the hell should i do!!! IR5s!!!! :0 &hearts he'll be so f****** pissed!

That is kind of a harsh thing to do with this guy. and I have a story that is similar to that as well and I still feel bad about it.

To be completely honest, you should have just came up to this boy, and told him how you feel, and it would just be better if you two just remained classmates/friends.

If that happened to me, I would be pretty pissed off myself. But the best thing you can do is tell this boy your really truely sorry (not just you, but your friend, as well) and hope he forgives you.

I would have deleted my myspace before my dad even finds out, but that's just me.

This kid must be really dumb if he gave out his address, phone number, password and everything personal out on the internet, cause anyone could just simply "Copy & Paste" it.

Well, hope you don't get in too much trouble, even though you deserve it. =[

Q: what's rape? Is it forcing someone to have sex with you?? Cause i don't totally understand what is it.

Yes, rape is forcing someone to have sex with them. But it most cases, it's the guys forcing the girls.

Rape is something you don't want to do, but your getting pressured/forced into having sex with someone you probably don't want to have it with.

Hope I helped :]

Q: 14/f okay so i have this friend and she likes my boyfriend&&shes really really pretty she als0o has down syndrome... but not very severly any ways shes like my best friend and im so jealous of her and im afraid that my boy friend likes her i dont wwant to be mean to her because of her problem... shes also really popular ok once she was like yahh if he was here right now i would so make out with him i was like wtf thats my bf... should i drop her as a friend or should i dump my boyfriend or WHATT!?!?!?!

sincerely---confused

Perhaps you should talk to her about this.
Tell her how it bothers you that she is saying "If he was here, I would make out with him."

What kind of friend is that?
That sounds like the kind of friend I once had.

But you need to talk to her and tell her that it's YOUR boyfriend and you don't want her to ruin your relationship, and that you care and love your boyfriend.

If she is a true friend. She would understand, and stop saying all those stuff.

But if she doesn't, then might as well find some other good friend that won't treat you like that.

Hope I helped :]

Q: well you see..its my springbreak right now! yupyup. and my friend that i havent talked to in about a half of year alla sudden called me and was like ohh we really need to hangout this week! and so i was like okay how bout tuesday or whatever..so she said she would call me when she is done with her fastpitch. the only problem is im scared its gonna be awkward since i havent talked to her in forever..and we just all of a sudden stopped talking. i really dont know what to do? im scared she is going to want to come over to my house and there is absolutely nothing to do! i dont want to watch movies..thats boring but we dont have a ride anywhere so we cant go to like the movies or mall or anything and i am not going to take some city bus. i just dont know what to do! she gets kinda bored easily and so i just dont want her to come over and us just sittin here bein like so what do you want to do? i dont know its up to you. like that kinda stuff..any suggestions? since neither of us can drive and both our parents are at work. blahh.. thanks guys! i will rate high! :]

It's okay if you two haven't talked to eachother in like forever!

Just do what you normally do with your other friends. What do you and your other friends do when you're over each other's houses?

Maybe you can go outside. If you allowed that is, and go for a bike ride. Play a board game or a video game. Anything that you two may be interested in. But you shouldn't be scare of what to do. She's just a friend.

What I am basically saying is, do something you do with your other friends. I'm sure this friend is no different from your other friends.

Hope I helped :]

Q: 13/f

i was recently raped and im scared. the guy who raped me..was my bedt friends boyfriend (shes 14 hes 15 turning 16) and im scared. i have nightmares about it and im afraid to go to sleep..i keep getting calls that have perverted breathing for like 15 seconds then he hangs up i havent told anyone..and im SCARED!! he threatend to kill me and my family..what should i do??

OMG! This is serious. Tell someone, tell your parents! You shouldn't be scared. If you tell your parents, then what you are doing is RIGHT! Most importantly tell the police.

This kind of stuff needs to stop. If someone rapes you and threatens you, you right away tell someone. I was in shock when I read this, and when I looked what date this was posted up. I right away started this.

You need to be safe. Tell the police so he can book this guy. It doesn't matter whether it's your best friends boyfriend. You friends can find someone better, then to rape her other best friends.

I'm going to pray for you, that everything is alright, and that this person is in jail right now. Please, I am telling you, Tell someone, ANYONE! An adult, teacher, mom, dad, sister, brother, anyone!

Then when everything is over with, hang out with your family, and get this out of your mind.

Hope I helped :)
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Q: tonight im hanging out with this kid and its not really a date but its like our first time hanging out & we like eachother i guess you could say... i dont want to be likee over dressy but i dont want to be under dressed either, what should i wear? my style is basically preppy and its cold outside and i have no idea what we are doing lol thanks!

Be yourself =]

Wear what you think is good on you.
But bring a sweater, just in case.

Hope I helped :]

Q: My friend has gone through a lot lately. Her mom had breast cancer and went through kemo. Now her dad has cancer and has to go through kemo. How can I help her and her family?

Maybe all you can basically do to help her is be a really good friend to her. Talk to her on the phone, at school, go to the mall. You know?

Maybe she will realize that maybe everything will be alright since she has a good friend by her side, that really cares about her

Hope I helped :]

Q: Okay, well i dont have a bad home and im not severely depressed but i get upset easily and sometimes i do feel depressed. Last night i cut myself 4 the first time...do i need help..am i crazy...i cant tell my parents....what should i do?

plz help

Maybe you should talk to a teacher or an adult you can fully trust. Tell her what you've been going through (Stress, problems, etc.)

They'll understand and probably keep the conversation private. But cutting isn't the answer. People do them cause they think it is. But to me, it makes things worst. Once you start you probably can't stop.

I don't know that for sure, because I never cut myself in my life. But I hope you change your mind about cutting.

Hope I helped :]
and I hope everything else is alright.

Q: Hello My Name Is Rachel. I'm 13. Im dating this kid name Bret. Hes amazing and exstremly cute!!! But I'm worriedd.... cause sooo many girls like him and i'm worried that he'll go to one of them instead of me... I mean i do get jealous really easily but still. Because it just seems like everyone thinks hes cute and they all like him but i dont want to loose him... and i also get really jealous when other girls talk to him and I just dont want to loose him and i dont know what to do? HELP PLEASEE!

Hello Rachel =]

I was just in the "same" problem as you were in. EXACT! Well, first off, it's okay to be jealous because you know this is YOUR boyfriend and you care about him very much, so it's okay to be jealous.

When you start to realize that some girl is flirting with him. Just talk to him, tell him how much you love & care for him and that you don't want to loose him. And that the "flirting" needs to stop

That is what I did. It worked, actually.
I hope I helped :]

bio

Basics.

They call me alex
I live with one older brother and two little sisters.
I'm taken and in the 9th grade.
I am my own person. I don't try to copy other or try to fit in the crowd.
I like being weird. People tell me that sometimes, but it's okay.
I could care less who thinks of me as what.
I act like a kid sometimes. But sometimes I have those times where I want to be a treated as a young adult.

Music.

Music is life. Without it, my world would be blue.
I can't really stick to one type of music. Like some people I know.
I listen to basically anything that has meaning, or something I can dance too. Or just love the song.
I love listening to music from rock, heavy metal, death metal, rap, r&b, techno.

School.

I'm in high school.
I have the most awesome friends in the world. Yes, I know your jealous.
I don't believe in popularity or labels.
Popularity. No one is popular. Everyone is the same. Alright? OK!
Labels. Kids, get a life. Don't label, if you don't like it, they don't either.
I hate it when people just basically backstab you, I have a lot of those suckers walking around my school.
I most DEF. hate it when people change just to fit in a crowd, for another guy, or just to get attention.

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