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real friends?
so theres this girl in my class who used to be my best friend in elementary school. of course im 13 and we're in 7th grade now. so anyways sometimes shes really nice to me and we have a good time together.. but lately shes been hassling me about my clothing? idk probably just becase i dont buy everything from abercrombie. i have some stuff but i have mostly a variety of clothing brands. so today i had this new outfit which was really cute, and she kept giving me this horrible look and asking me questions about it.. and then she was talking about me becuz of my clothes? i have no idea what this girls problem is, but right now i dont know if i should still be her friend or if i should ignore her..
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It sounds like someone is jealous.
You should talk to her about this, tell her that it's kind of bugging you for her giving you looks and hassling you for things you like to wear.
I mean, it's not like she is wearing it, you just like to wear what you like, and want to wear.
But my advice is to just ignore her, maybe she'll get the picture.
Hope i helped =]
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My advice is to ignore her. She is either jealous, or not a true friend to you. She is probably insecure about herself and wants some way to feel better about herself and that my guess is by putting you down. Ignoring her would show her that you are stronger than her and you don't care what she thinks (you shouldn't anyway)... If the hassling continues, confront her about the problem or seek help from the guidence department at school to schedule a meeting with her and your counsler to work the problems out. I hope this helps... :)
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Perhaps ignoring her isn't the answer and perhaps being her friend still isn't either. I get the impression, from what you have said, that this girl really isn't your friend. After all, no friend would judge another friend on their clothes, of all things.
Try talking to her about it, next time she brings it up. Ask her why it matters so much to her what you wear. See what she says to that. If she tells you that you don't dress well or that she's embarrassed by you, clearly this isn't the sort of person you want to be friends with.
At the end of the day, it is nobody's business but your own what you wear and you shouldn't let anybody make you feel bad or like you are not good enough for them, based on something so superficial. You sound like a nice girl. Don't let it get to you too much and wear what you want.
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Well if you two are really ood friends it's kind of hard to let a whole friend ship to go to waist about that I think that you shoukd comfront her say "I don't like hoe your talking about me real friends don't do that I don't do that to you and I shoudn't be labled just because I don't wear the same cloths" That's what I would say because I know this kid who has a really good friend and she got mad at him because he bought a pair of shoes I mean come on THEY ARE SHOES! tell your friend that and if she doesn;t listen shes obviously not a realy true friend anyways
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I think you need to just tell her that if she can't even stand to look at you without giving you dirty looks just because you are wearing something that is your style, then you really would rather not even be friends with her.
I know that you both have had a long-term friendship, but the beauty of those friendships is the fact that you don't put down that person in any way because you've known them too long. It wouldn't be you ending the friendship, if she decides that appearance is a quality that matters in friendships, then she's the one putting an end to this.
-TheTeenGirl
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I don't really think she's a friend then. Ignore her. I wear Hollister and AE and Abercrombie but to judge people but their clothes is REALLY low. So ignore her.
At school we're doing this paper about being a 'nonconformist' (which is someone who doesn't care to fit in). I'm not saying you need to be a nonconformist, but I think you should totally stay away from that girl. Ignore her looks and don't mind fitting in with her because you know what? She doesn't deserve to be your friend. You deserve more and better. So...=]
Peace
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Maggie
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omg, same at my school. everyone is frigging obsessed with abercrombie. its ridiculous. thats kind of how my ex friends were, but they didnt really dump me because of my clothes. they just got really obsessed. anyway, i dont think you should be friends with someone who would talk about you and be mean just because you're not wearing abercrombie. thats retarted. dont ignore her, cause then she'll get all pissy and it might get worse. next time she says something, just be like, wow, abercrombie isnt the only store in the unverse. get over yourself. or somethingn liek that so maybe she'll get the hint that you dont care. if it gets worse, then dont be friends with her.
good luck xo*briana
ps:im in 7th grade too, and it sucks. everyone changes into a bitch. dont feel bad, there is a ton of people like that
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ok well from this point of view it seems like she only wants to be seen with you because she has to like what you're wearing..i dont know if thats true or not im not judging anyone because i dont know her. but if she is then she's not a good friend. maybe she was giving you a horrible look because she's just jealous? im not sure. but if she keeps acting like this i dont think you should be her friend anymore because she wouldnt be acting like one to you.
good luck!♥
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Sounds like she might be a little jealous. If not then I really don't know why she is so obsessed with your clothes.
I think you should ask her about it. Tell her you are really tired of being hassled about your choice of clothes.
She doesn't have to like them...you do. If she doesn't, the polite person who is a good friend, would keep their mouth shut about it.
If she gets all huffy about it or continues her odd behavior, then I would try ignoring her for awhile. Maybe she will get the message. :)
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