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i'm worried
Hello My Name Is Rachel. I'm 13. Im dating this kid name Bret. Hes amazing and exstremly cute!!! But I'm worriedd.... cause sooo many girls like him and i'm worried that he'll go to one of them instead of me... I mean i do get jealous really easily but still. Because it just seems like everyone thinks hes cute and they all like him but i dont want to loose him... and i also get really jealous when other girls talk to him and I just dont want to loose him and i dont know what to do? HELP PLEASEE!
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The biggest thing is to not go digging for signs. I cannot express enough how annoying it is when females try to find hints that their guys are cheating, just to prove their fears right.
What you can do is honestly, and without finger-pointing, express your concerns to your boyfriend. Let him know that you'd appreciate that he make a point that he's with you to the other girls. He doesn't need to actually say anything, but holding your hand and cuddly behaviors do mean a lot.
Past that, just trust that he has indeed chosen you and nobody else, that any affection involving others is purely one-way coming from them. The attention of other girls means little if your guy is only interested in you.
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Hello Rachel =]
I was just in the "same" problem as you were in. EXACT! Well, first off, it's okay to be jealous because you know this is YOUR boyfriend and you care about him very much, so it's okay to be jealous.
When you start to realize that some girl is flirting with him. Just talk to him, tell him how much you love & care for him and that you don't want to loose him. And that the "flirting" needs to stop
That is what I did. It worked, actually.
I hope I helped :]
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HI RACHEL, firstly, you need not worry because if he really likes you then he won't just dump you because there are a lot of other girls that like him. You know that you have nothing to worry about, because I'm sure you are a lot prettier than most of the other girls. Don't get jealous because that jealousy will lead you into not trusting him, and he'll start thinking you are trying to tell him what to do and that will lead into a lot of conflicts within the 2 of you. Just talk to him, and you know tell him that maybe you're getting a little jealous of the other girls because maybe they flirt with him a lot& they know he's dating you. Don't push the topic on him at once, gradually tell him how you're feeling, don't hestitate to talk to him, because, all of that anger and jealousy you're feeling could lead into you breaking it off with him or him with you & I know you don't want that. If you ever need to ask me something else please send me something or email me and I promise that I'll get right back to you in a heartbeat.KIT
-- Taniqua --
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It's normal to be jelous but he's with you and if you want this relationship to go any further, you have to be able to trust him. Then again, you guys are only 13 and no one really has a really "serious" relationship at that age and guy's hormones really start to kick in. For now, just try to be more understanding and he's with you. All those other girls like him, but he doesn't like them.. he likes you so that's why you guys are going out. Just try to trust him a bit more. Jelousy can ruin a relationship so don't show it too much.
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Yeah, I had the same problem..cept the guy was a player and dumped me for another girl..but I'd talk to him about how you feel. Please don't fall for a "why would I want another girl your so beautiful and perfect", yeah and I'd look into his past relationships to make sure he he isn't a player and would leave you..hope that helped..try not to get too attached..good luck
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what exactly do you mean by "dating"? if you're 13, you're in 7th or 8th grade, right? what does the whole relationship entail? watching movies at each other's houses, holding hands in the lunch line, passing notes in class, etc.?
don't think i'm being uppity because i'm older and whatnot, i'm just trying to give you an outsiders perspective. i was head-over-heels for this boy ryan when i was junior high, and i mean totally nutso, so much that i shudder with self-disgust every time i think about it. i danced with him a bunch at our 8th grade graduation dance and even got to kiss him before we left (i asked if i could give him a kiss and he said sure :P ). after another month or so, this infatuation suddenly disappeared. <shudder> ooh-hoo-hoo, the memories of junior high... ^_^
my advice is to not overthink the situation. as long as you're not overly controlling, in his business all the time, checking up on him, constantly asking him if he still likes you, and other things like that, you two should be fine. but even more than that, just make sure that you two stay friends (trust me, having guy friends is great, they give you advice from a guy's perspective, and there more laid back and low-maintenance than most girls so they're easy to hang out with ^_^), because at this point, you guys are pretty young to get too serious about things, so make sure you can hang out together comfortably and that you can laugh together about random stupid stuff.
if you guys grow up and stay together and get married, wow, good for you, i give you major props for stickin' together so long. but more likely than not, you'll eventually stop "dating" at one point or another, and that's fine. that's even good! because you'll find that there are other guys in the world, and you'll learn to control your flares of jealousy and how to keep your confidence.
hope this helped. good luck! remember: don't be over-protective/controlling/smothering and stay good buds!!
~*kitty*~
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Hey. you just have to trust him thats a big part in a relationship : TRUST . Also dont get extremely jealous so that it gets on his nerves because then he will leave you. Just be calm about it and tell him how you feel. If he really likes you (which i would hope he does) then he wont care about them other girls. Also dont hang around him everytime girls are around or dont give them dirty looks. This will become annoying to him and make you seem clingy. Hope i helped! if you have any questions leave one in my inbox!
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