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HI MY NAME IS TANIQUA AND I LOVE TO HELP OTHERS AND THEIR PROBLEMS.I LIVE IN BERWYN,IL AND GO TO MORTON WEST HIGH SCHOOL. MY FAVORITE COLOR IS PINK PINK PINK!!! I WANT TO BECOME A MODEL AND ACTRESS AND HAVE MY OWN CLOTHING LINE. IF ANYONE EVER NEED ADVICE OR JUST SOMEONE TO TALK TO; YOU COULD ALWAYS COME TO ME. I'M REALLY FRIENDLY AND SWEET, AND I KNOW WHAT I BE TALKING ABOUT.

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See i have this little problem i'm 14/f and i sorta had a moment and well my grandparents are always telling me that i should never waste my self and stuff like that.... so u see my problem is that i might be pregnant but i am afraid to tell them cause they told me that that would praticaly disown me if i ever did so what should i do? my boyfriend wants help me and is afraid to tell his mum.... so umm yeah what should we do?

Well if you're relly pregnant then I hope you know that you get FAT.Trust me tell them because in a couple of months they're gonna notice.You can't hide it from them until you go into labour.That wouldn't be fair not to tell them. BUT just don't get an abortion, because it's not the baby's fault you and your boyfriend made a stupid mistake that's gonna steer your whole life.

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Dear Columnists,
I need help really bad. Last weekend I was at a sleepover with me and my 2 other friends. They are my best friends. I was talking to my -ex and he said that he liked my friend...(one of the ones that was sleeping over)They went out for a while and I cried the whole time. She broke up with him because she felt bad ad that she did want this kid to Jepordise our friendship. She is giving me time but I feel inside as I never want them to get back together...Even though I am being selfish. I still love him! We have been off and on for a little. What should I do?

Srry it was SO long.

I rate 5's for good answers!

PLEASE HELP!

1st of all,I'm sorry about the whole situation. I think that you're not being selfish, you've just got all of these feelings bottled up inside of you. 2nd of all,I think that you need to get over your ex, because, he obviously doesn't really care about you, because he knows that you still love him, and then he goes out with your best friend? That's not LOVE, it's not tough love, or true love;that's just cruel. AND 3rd, your so-called best friend, OKAY now I don't really know you or your friend, or (ex) boyfriend, but I'm sure you've told her a million, no a billion time, that you still love him; and for her possibly knowing this and to still go out with him, come on, and even if she didn't know that you still loved him, that's your ex AND the # 1 rule of GIRL FRIENDSHIP: NEVER DATE FRIEND'S EXs. Oh but how nice of her to give to time she can't give you time, because she did something really wrong. I mean personally I could never do that to a friend. That kind of happened to me one time. I liked a boy, named Christian and my best friend knew this, but at her Graduation party(8th grade),

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Im 16/f and my friend is 15/m...we live quite a few citys apart...we've been freinds since 1999...

A few years ago i realized that i was in love with my friend.But beacaus i did'nt want to ruin the freindship i tried to ignor these fealings. This year i decided that i could'nt bear it any more and i was ready to tell him the way i feel.Then the night i had planed to tell him, he started asking me about my friend lets call her 17/f. I then knew that i had to tell him right then and there or i could really miss out, so i did. His reaction was a lil stuned, but he said something on the lines of him knowing.

The thing is i talked to him and he said that he had once liked me but the feeling had just left, or something like that. But the fact that not one of us spoke about us liking each other until i spoke that day...

He seams to realy like my freind 17/f... and i want hi to be happy... its just i love him! and ive told him more ever sonce i had that one time yet all he says is im sorry...

My question is were do i go from here? I love this guy so much...yet the feeling dos'nt seem to return...I cant possibly give up...

any advice will be greatfully apreciated even oppinions!
Thankz a bunch!

Firstly, hi, how are you? I think that you can't put a magical spell on him to make him love you, like you love him. If he still has some feeling for you, then let it come natural and if it doesn't then it's his loss, not yours. if you really LOVE him, then you have to want him to be happy. I know that's its hard, but trust me, this happens to everyone at least once in their life. They love someone, but the other person just wants to remain friends, and don't love them that way. Don't lose faith, but don't pressure him, because you could lose your true friend. I really hope that everything goes well. And if you ever need more advice, please,please, don't hesitate,because it's not the ratings and stars I care about, it's helping others' with their problems.
YOURS TRULY
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i think at my age, i really want a boyfriend. but who? i know a relationship is special but i just can't wait. i kind of like my friend from ohio and he's coming during the summer. he's probably going to visit us for a few days. what should i do? i'm 15 and he's 16.

well,i don't think that you should try to rush into getting serious with anyone. trust me love will find you:you don't have to go around looking for love. But your friend if you really tryly like him and see something between you two, then why not. But keep in mind just because you like him, doesn't mean he wants to be more than friends. but I really don't think that you should go into a long-term relationship, because you're not gonna always see him and you don't know whats he's gonna be during in Ohio. Come on, you're only 15, you still have your whole life to date; don't try growing up so fast. GOOD LUCK!!
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I would like teenagers to answer this one,

My daughter is 13. But the clothes she wears are not...happy. She always is sarcastic. She listens to strange, loud music. Is this the fashion these days? Should I let her be?


HI, HOW ARE YOU? To answer your question, that is not the fashion these days. The correct term for what your daughter is wearing is called GOTHIC. I think that you should try to persuade her to dress properly, and not so bold. I don't think that you should allow her to dress that way because I'm quite sure your daughter is a pretty young girl and she needs to show her beauty. I'm a freshman in high school and I see a lot of kids that dress and act as your daughter does, but they are all, I promise every single one, are all weird and they act differently, not saying your daughter is that way or will become that way. But most of them dress that way because they are trying a rebellion against their problem, whether at home, school, or anywhere else. Talk to your daughter and make sure that there is nothing wrong. I hope that I was help to you and tell your dauhgter that I said,"HI."

-- Taniqua --

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well theres this dance like Thursday, and I'm going. I have a boyfriend who is one year younger than me if you care. Anyways, if he asks me to dance, i know I'm going to be nervous.
this may be odd, but can someone explain to me how exactly to slow dance.
Like should i put my hands on his shoulders?
Should I smilke?
WHAT!?
5's if ya give a good one!
xoxox
thanks in advance..


All you have to do is first relax. Then you put your arms around his shoulders and he will put his arms around your waist. Then just go with the beat and move with him. Just follow him and you can't go wrong. GOOD LUCK!!!If you need more advice, email me, okay.

-- Taniqua --

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i went out with this guy named alex two years ago. we went out for 3 months. the next year we were getting closer as friends and i had always liked him since we broke up. we are closer then ever now and i can tell him anything, hes even closer to me then any of my girl friends. so now hes going out with one of my friends, they have been going out for like 6 months. so a few weeks ago alex had told me that he really did still love me and that he wanted to go out with me. well katie ( his girlfriend ) is a little, how can i put this, controlling and she said that they we not going to break up now matter how alex felt. and alex is like the nice guy who hates to hurt peoples feelings and so he finally got the courage to break up with her. well that night he was going to ask me out over the computer ( aim ) but i had to go but he said he had to ask me something so i said to ask me tomorrow, so he said okay. but the next day i found out that he and katie got back together(the controlling girlfriend). (just to fill you in, i am a tomboy and i dont cry and i havent cried in like 3 years) i was hurt baddly for him leading me on like that and you know what i did. i cried all night long. well now i want him even more even though he did all of that to me. i know that hes not going to break up with katie anytime soon. so why do i still want him? and why do i keep like obsessing over him like this. oh and do you think i should get over him, and if you do can you tell me how i could do that. can any one help. thanks


Okay, I don't believe in grudges, so I think that you should definetly forgive him for leading you on & he did lead you on. I know that you still may have deep feeling for him, but you can't keep obssessing over him as much because that wouldn't be fair to Katie, because you would n't want someone to still be in love with your boyfriend. But don't give up hope on him yet because if he has feeling for you, then there might still be hope. Maybe you should talk to him and tell him what you feel and that should open his eyes.

-- Taniqua --

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well i just started dateing this guy today ( tuesday ) and i met him last tuesday i think...anyway we dont really know much about each other but all i know is that i really like him and i guess he likes me because he asked me out..well since i dont really know much about him should we not go out?? and like 10 minutes after we left each other i felt like since i got what i wanted ( him really badly ) then i dont want him as much anymore...its like a game with me i guess.i dont know but it happens all the time.my friends think its because i want what i cant have and i guess thas kinda true..i mean i still like him but not as much anymore.what should i do?? ill rate high for any good answers


WELL, I think you should give it more time because you just met the guy last Tuesday. What you're feeling at this point in the relationship is normal. You're probably thinking when he calls you, okay, "what are we gonna talk about." I think that you should definetly go out with him. Now that you're going out(or not) you 2 need to gain that special friendship and go from there, because you'll already know more about him. You have a long time to know the true him. Just give it time because you never know what you two may grow into later on.

-- Taniqua --

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Hello My Name Is Rachel. I'm 13. Im dating this kid name Bret. Hes amazing and exstremly cute!!! But I'm worriedd.... cause sooo many girls like him and i'm worried that he'll go to one of them instead of me... I mean i do get jealous really easily but still. Because it just seems like everyone thinks hes cute and they all like him but i dont want to loose him... and i also get really jealous when other girls talk to him and I just dont want to loose him and i dont know what to do? HELP PLEASEE!

HI RACHEL, firstly, you need not worry because if he really likes you then he won't just dump you because there are a lot of other girls that like him. You know that you have nothing to worry about, because I'm sure you are a lot prettier than most of the other girls. Don't get jealous because that jealousy will lead you into not trusting him, and he'll start thinking you are trying to tell him what to do and that will lead into a lot of conflicts within the 2 of you. Just talk to him, and you know tell him that maybe you're getting a little jealous of the other girls because maybe they flirt with him a lot& they know he's dating you. Don't push the topic on him at once, gradually tell him how you're feeling, don't hestitate to talk to him, because, all of that anger and jealousy you're feeling could lead into you breaking it off with him or him with you & I know you don't want that. If you ever need to ask me something else please send me something or email me and I promise that I'll get right back to you in a heartbeat.KIT

-- Taniqua --

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what if you start to lose...lost hope, hope in urself, other ppl, just everything.
i can't take it any more, change is happening to me but i can't...WON'T face where its taking me.
i can't do anything about it, in two years im either going to be some terrorist or drunk or even better, dead.
there is nothing to live for, and i can't get myself to just kill myself.
im lost and cannot be saved.
o shit :(...

PLEASE DON'T DO ANYTHING THAT YOU MIGHT LATER REGRET. I think that you should talk to someone that you really trust. TRUST me, talking it out helps a lot and could help you. I think that you're wrong, there is so much to live for. There is so much in life, to just throw your life away. If you ever want to talk, PLEASE do not hestitate to email me or send me a question. I LOVE helping others in any way I could. Just if you ever need advice or a friend, send me something, okay.


--Taniqua --

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i got a detention today in school.. ive never gotten one before and i know if i tell my mom she will be pissed off and ill get the comeputer,cellphone and EVERYTHING taken away.. i dont know what to do!!.. pleaseee help ill rate high!

Hi, first of all I really reccomend telling your mother, because you could make the situation worst by not telling her. Just talk to her, take responsibility for whatever you did. Show her that you're responsible & you know that you did something wrong. If you've never been in trouble, then she'll know that you made one bad decision.

TANIQUA

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Okay, I really really really want to have sex with him (a.k.a. my boyfriend) but everytime we are about to "do it", I chicken out.

I don't know why, I guess that it's because I'm a virgin.
But I wish I weren't so scared. And I can never figure
out why I back out.

What should I do? Wait to have sex? Or just hold my
tongue and get it over with?

[p.s.] i'm a female, 16 years old

I believe that you aren't ready, you may think that you are, but the facts are you just aren't ready. I think that you should wait. I know you may want to have sex with him,or maybe just to keep him, or so you could say," yeah me and my boyfriend shared something special, but I think that you should wait.

TANIQUA

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