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ex boyfriend
Dear Columnists,
I need help really bad. Last weekend I was at a sleepover with me and my 2 other friends. They are my best friends. I was talking to my -ex and he said that he liked my friend...(one of the ones that was sleeping over)They went out for a while and I cried the whole time. She broke up with him because she felt bad ad that she did want this kid to Jepordise our friendship. She is giving me time but I feel inside as I never want them to get back together...Even though I am being selfish. I still love him! We have been off and on for a little. What should I do?
Srry it was SO long.
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PLEASE HELP!
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hey! im kinda in the same situation as you and sadly the only thing you can realy do is step asside and let your ex go out with your friend despite your feelings for him seeing as they don't seam to be returned. Its going to be real hard but its time to let go... As they say
" If you love something set it free. "
hope this helps you out a lil.
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What kind of friend would do this to you? Ex's are always off limits, no matter what. Tell your friend how you feel about this, and a true friend would put you first.
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You're not being selfish. It's messed up that someone who is supposed to be your best friend dated your ex.
Even if you were over him, it's still messed up. Your "best friends" aren't supposed to take what you just had. That's just wrong. I was with my ex for almost 2 years, and though I am over him and I have moved on and so has he I would be DEVASTATED if I found out that one of my friends was dating him. That's like, a total shot to the heart. If I were in your position, I would have already said my fuck you's to your friend and your ex. That's really messed up. I would have just said that they she wasn't a true friend to go and do that. Especially if she knows that you weren't over him.
Even if she didn't know you weren't over him, she shouldn't have just gone out with him unless she talked to you about it. That's just my opinion.
I think you need to figure things out with your ex, find out what his feelings are and ask him where you stand in his life right now. Because, if he has no feelings then what the hell is the point of having you go through the heartache thinking that there's still something left in the relationship that you can salvage?
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1st of all,I'm sorry about the whole situation. I think that you're not being selfish, you've just got all of these feelings bottled up inside of you. 2nd of all,I think that you need to get over your ex, because, he obviously doesn't really care about you, because he knows that you still love him, and then he goes out with your best friend? That's not LOVE, it's not tough love, or true love;that's just cruel. AND 3rd, your so-called best friend, OKAY now I don't really know you or your friend, or (ex) boyfriend, but I'm sure you've told her a million, no a billion time, that you still love him; and for her possibly knowing this and to still go out with him, come on, and even if she didn't know that you still loved him, that's your ex AND the # 1 rule of GIRL FRIENDSHIP: NEVER DATE FRIEND'S EXs. Oh but how nice of her to give to time<NOT> she can't give you time, because she did something really wrong. I mean personally I could never do that to a friend. That kind of happened to me one time. I liked a boy, named Christian and my best friend knew this, but at her Graduation party(8th grade), <which I was suppose to attend but couldn't>Christian was there and she told me that they were playing around and he kissed her, and she kissed him back.Now that's not why we're not friends anymore.I did forgive her, but we grew apart.So my final advice to you is to follow your heart,I mean maybe your friend is truly sorry, but don't ever forget my advice and that you have the will power to do whatever YOU feel in your heart is right.
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*<<Taniqua>>*
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You should try to get over your feelings for this guy and let your friend be with him. I think it was good of her to give you some time to get over him before she went out with him. What you need to do is get out there and start seeing other guys. It'll help you realize that there's no reason to only want to be with this ONE guy when there are tons of other guys who would probably jump at the chance to go out with you.
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Your friend isn't being a good friend to you at all by even considering your ex-boyfriend as an option.
You aren't being selfish, you are reacting normally by being upset. It's one thing to see your ex with another girl that you don't know, but it's flat out wrong if his new girlfriend is your own friend.
What you need to do is tell this friend of yours that it will mess up your friendship with her if she does end up with him again. It's common sense and respect to not date one of your friend's exes if they aren't over them yet. It's nice that she's conidered to give you time, but you need to tell her that the amount of time you need is enough to make her impatient with it. You don't need just a few months, you need a lot longer to get over someone.
The fact is that you can't stop her from dating him, but you can decide for yourself that this friend of yours needs to be distant from you. You have to keep your distance from her when it comes to trusting or confiding in her.
-TheTeenGirl
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tell your friend how you feel
and if she is a good friend, she will back off
I have liked guys my best friends, or even just people im kinda friends with, and when i found i they liked them, i backed off.
It is like, girl code lol
you dont date your friends ex without her being okay with it
talk to her, tell her the truth about it, and if she is a real friend, she will be okay with it.
Best of luck, and yours wasnt long at all :)
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The best thing to do is to tell your friend the truth about how you feel about this guy. See what she says, also you should tell the guy how you feel. Find out how he feels. It's not necessarily being selfish to not what your best friend and the guy you love to go out, because loving someone is a strong feeling and I know it can hurt to see someone else go out with him.
-I really do hope everything works out for the best!-
~Sam
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