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Well. Everyday I seem to like somebody new, And I don't know what's wrong with me, Say one day I like Jason, but then I wake up the next day and think okay I don't like Jason now i like Charles. And Everyday it changes. I seem to like anybody whos nice to me. Is this normal? How can I stop it. Please Help! I rate very high, even if u respond --thanks

it doesnt sound abnormal... you are just lookin at all ur choices... which is a good thing... u should always keep ur options open... that way you wont just go out with sum1 & get ur heart broken... always make sure that u truly wanna be with sum1 before u start going out with them...

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my girlfriend and i are sort of drifting apart... so its getting harder to like her when i dont see her too much... but my best friend and i have been hanging out a lot and im starting to like her... but i cant break my girlfriends heart but i dont want to be dishonest with her????

well if you dont have feelings with her & continue to be wit her... ur being dishonest to her... that isnt fair to her or you... if u know for sure that u dont have feelings for her anymore break up wit her... but dont go out with that other friend rite away... ( its gonna make u look like a bad person... & i can tell ur not a bad person ) take sum time & make sure you really like this other girl... or the same thing will happen again...

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i really like this guy. hes really cute and hes SOOO funny. but people r always calling him fat. hes NOT fat at all so its really weird. hes really cute and his personality rocks. i dont want ppl saying shit about him tho. what should i do?

defend him... looks are not the world...honestly they aren't... once u get outta HS... no one cares about looks... one day we are all gonna be old and wrinkly... whats gonna count than is how smart, nice, and, successful people are... if sum1 says sumthing bad about him... defend him... & say that no one is perfect & point out one of their faults...

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my mom is really mean. she always calls me names. like just now i asked her where to put the dinner that jsut got here in the fridge or oven and she was liek the microwave you idiot! ugh i hate that! and i tell her i was gunna clean my room out and i did but she keep ssayin it iant done yet! and alwas says im always ont he comp and always says mean stuff bout me to ehr friends n my older sister and i really dont like it and i can tsay nethign to her bc then she will snapp mor ei used to be able to tell her nething now shes always bitchy:( plz help me i really rally really dont no what to do . now shes off the fone and is gunan snapp. she says that the reason we got fast food is bc I WANTED IT! so its MY fault she spent $15 on fast food. it was for the hole family! now she says get the fuck off my computer and go in your pig sti ass room. and she cried wtf! i hate this stuff! plz help!

soundz like sumthing is bothering her & shes takin it out on you... you should have a talk with her & tell her that u notice that shes been pickin on you... ask if theres anything wrong... tell her u feel like u dont have a good relationship wit her... & how much it hurts u when shes mean & she calls u names...

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okay meet this guy , and he todl all hsi friend he likes me mean he is relaly cute and stuff but iw anna get to kno him before i go out with him .. how do i tell him i wanna get to kno him in frount of all his freidns becuz his freinds are always tehre . . also all his friends think i am really hot and they said after i go out with him and when we break up i go to this one and then the next one . . what i dont get is why are they saying that so that means i need to get to kno all of them but how do i do that becuz they are always togher and they wont split up ? help me please

You should tell him u wanna go out... just the two of you... & when u wanna talk to him privately just say... can i talk to u alone... & his friends will get a hint...

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Ok so here it goes... well I used to go to school at this one school, and then i moved away.....well it has been almost 3 yrs since i moved....and this one guy i used to go to school with just found out my sn from sombody else like 6 days ago and we have been talkin a ton! i mean we are in the whole stage that he loves me a lot and all that stuff like we are going out....were not even going out!.....and well i think he's going to fast, but i dont know how to tell him how i feel...I mean ya i love him a lot too but i still wanna love him in the long run. Things are just going way too fast...well pleaz give me sum tips! I hope i made sence! I love this guy a lot but you know.....thanx in advanced!

tell him that u really like him... but you wanna take things slow...

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I have this problem where everything i wear must match. I wont wear somthing if it doesnt match perfectly. It takes me forever to get dressed. Is this bad? If so does anyone know how i can stop?

theres nothing wrong with that... a lotta people are like that... but its not that hard to match stuff... & a lotta times stuff doesnt necessariy match... but it looks great together

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my friend has an attitude problem. she'll come to school sometimes and be all pissed off and in a bad mood, and the rest of us have to deal with it. but if we give him just a tiny bit of an attitude, she'll get all mad and say we're all ridiculous and have problems. lately it's really been making me mad, and i'm sick of it. anything i can say to make her realize she doing this, and make her stop??

the best thing to do is ignore her when she does that... & when she sees that no one wants to pay attention to her when she has an attitude she'll stop...

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okay well i usually get my period around every 21 days.

i was supposed to get it like 5 days ago but it never came

i know its normal for periods to be irregular at this age but i've had my period for 4 YEARS now.

so why did it skip? what are some possible reasons? help im scared!

and im not pregnant because i never had sex before.

periods can be irregular for many reasons... stress, not eating properly, etc... dont worry about it... if u continue to have irregular periods talk to ur doctor...

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Sorry... this is a sex question and there are somewhat graphic content. Not really bad but if you're young, you might not want to read this. Please only OLDER columnists answer this. I don't want advice from an inexperienced 13-14 year old. Someone who knows what I'm going through would help. And so... here's my question....



Hey, I'm 14/f and my boyfriend is 16. Yesterday I was at his house and we were doing sexual things and then I told him to go get a condom. (he uses them normally for self pleasure so it doesn't get anywhere...) So he went upstairs and got it but when he came back down I was crying. I don't know why I was crying. I really feel like I'm ready to have sex with him. We've been together for 2 years and we love eachother very much. It's weird though, I know that I'm physically and emotionally ready to do it it's just that, whenever we are about to, I get scared. Is this normal? Can anyone help me out?

PS- I'm a virgin and so is my boyfriend and we both want to lose our virginity to eachother.

yeah thats perfectly normal... but i dont think u are emotionally ready to have sex... sumtimes people think they are... but they still need more time... i think u should just wait a lil longer... cuz when ur ready... you'll know it...

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i've been working in a a really cool shop in my mall, its mostly girls that work here for some reason, i am one of them, recently we've been 'recruiting' so theres a few new staff, and one is this guy, not my type at all, plus i'm already taken'..it was all okay at the begining, and i didnt think anything of it, but its started to speculate in my mind that he might be trying to take advantage to touching me, i mean i'm pretty much buddys with all in there,and none of them touch me, not sexually but just plain his hand touching my arms and shoulders, then one day i was sitiing there just eating and he spent like 15 min in the loo, he came out asked me how i was and stuff then just before he went back to wrk he ebnd down slightly to touch my leg, i just pretended to ignore it and carry on reading, but my mind was not at all in the book, now i feel really uncomfortable around him, what do you think i should do.........?

tell him that u dont like it when he touchs u & it makes u feel uncomfortable... act like u REALLY mean it when u tell him... stuff like that isnt a joke...

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Bare with me, this could be long. Ok well it starts off about 3 years ago, I was involved in a roll over car accident and it knocked out 2 of my teeth because i wasn't wearing a seat belt, and I was partially ejected from the car and i was stuck and yadda yadda yadda, it was horrible, and it screwed up my knee so now i've had 2 sugerys no my knee, the last one puts me in a leg brace. Anywho, Then earlier this year, i was involved in another accident(yea i know, if i didn't have bad luck i'd have no luck at all) where the driver and I and all the other passengers were looking at a murder scene when we smashed into the back of a cadillac and the airbags were deployed, and my foot was screwd up so i missed like 3 days of school, blah blah blah, so now it being early october and all this happend 3 years ago and the other one happend near the end of last year, like a year ago. So now we get to my problem. Now whenever I get into a car, I start freaking out because i think what would happen if the driver were not paying attention, so every time I see brake lights, I grab onto something and start to make noises, not quite a scream, and stuff like that, so i was wondering if that was normal after things like that have happend to me?, oh yea, by the way, my dad like to scare the crap at me by going full speed towards a wall, then my whole family laughs as i try to keep the tears in, but i dont want u guys to feel sorry for me, anywho, i was wondering if you guys think i sould seek therapy or something to get over this problem? Because these incedents have made me never want to drive. Should i try to get over my fear by seeking therapy, that is what im asking, if you could help me it would mean alot to me and i will rate you high if i like your advice, thanks in advance

theres nothing wrong with the way u feel... people often react that way in this sorta situation... u should go see a therapist... they help people deal with their fears and other anxieties... & u should also talk to ur family & let them know that it really bothers you when they do that...

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I have dark arm hair and I am teased about it often so I started shaving it about a year ago. But it takes too long and I have to every day and stuff and sometimes it feels weird when people touch my arms. So is there anything I can use to bleach my arm hair blonde? if you know anything around the house I can use that would be even better. Thx so much! I'll rate ya. Answer asap plz! (I'm a female)

You can use facial bleach... arm hair isnt that much of a big deal... i have a lot too... shaving ur arm hair isnt a good idea... u can try bleaching it... waxing it would be a better idea... but honestly.... as u get older u are gonna stop caring...

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Well my friend ~B~ was acting really weird today! I mean something is wrong with him!! He didn't give me a hug didn't say hay or nething! I tried to talk to him about what was wrong but he just drove off! My other friend ~K~ said it might be bcuz his stepmom and his dad are gitting back together. But I don't know. Well My Q is how can I figure this out and help him cope w/whatever it is? I tried calling him and everything! Please help!

You gotta let him know that he doesnt have to tell u anything if hes not comfortable... but your gonna be there for him whenever he needs u.... it's really hard guys to talk about their problems ( especially when it has to do wit family ) & to admitt that they are hurt... so give it sum time... he'll talk to u when hes ready

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what is the best thing to put on cuts and sratches to make the marks go away? thanx

neosporin

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ok see i knew that i would be seeing my boyfriend on friday (last friday) so i didnt eat rly anything all week maybe 3 things..seriously! and i only drank water and see when i saw my boyfriend he said i looked thinner!!...i was happy and i was wondering what are other bad things that'll happen if i keep up what ive been doin?? plz dont say..you'll die or get sick!! it made me feel better about my self cz my stomach wasent as big almost flat

well if u keep doing that ur gonna look sick... ur gonna start to get dark circles under ur eyes & your face will look unhealthy and unattractive... another thing is once u eat normally ( which ur gonna have to do sooner or later ) ur gonna gain it all baQ... plus more... ur metabolism is gonna get slower... & everything u eat ur body is gonna store it as fat... its like when u know a storm is comin... u store up food... just like that ur body stores up ur food as fat instead of digesting it... cuz it doesnt know when its gonna get food again... since u have a lotta will power... try dieting the rite way... instead of not eatin anything eat salads and fruit...

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There's this boy that I've known for a few years. We talk on email every single day, and we see each other at school.
It feels like we're just friends, but the other day my best friend pointed out that it seems like we are "more than just friends".
I don't believe that, he's just my friend. He's weird, funny, nice, creative, and lots of other things, but I don't know if I really "like like" him or not.
Can someone help me out in trying to figure out my real feelings?

it sounds like u are confused... it sounds like u might like him later on... but rite now u find that thought weird since yall are just friends... just dont start dating him untill u know that u like him for sure... or things are gonna get really uncomfortable

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Ok, technically, this SHOULD be under some sort of Technology thing, but they didnt have a sub-category for it.

Ok, the last couple days, someone will leave me a voice mail, but I can't access it, because when I dial my voice mail I get a busy signal and the screen says "Call Failed: Network Busy"

Last night at almost midnight I was able to finally get through after shutting my phone off then on again. Today, however I have no such luck.

Any suggestions?

that happens to me... i have T-Mobile... try callin ur voice mail from ur home phone... what company do you have?... call ur company & tell them whats happening... it usually happens wit Tmobile cuz they have a lotta customers tryin to call eachother at the same time & not enuff towers...

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Ok there are two really really great guys at my school who I hang out with everyday at lunch and We all walk to class together And they both like me. What They dont know is I like only one of them David! And I found out that Sean is going to ask me out! I mean Sean is a really nice guy but im just not into him and Me and David like eachother and I want to go out with him but how do I do that without hurting Seans feelings??
PLEASE DONT DELETE THIS

Tell Sean that hes a really nice guy... but u just dont see him like that... let him know that hes a great friend & u want to keep it like that...

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Well this guy i like won't talk to me. He wont return my calls or anything. He liked me 3 days ago and now he wont talk to me. I dont know what i did to make him so upset. He is at his friends houses all weekend, would this effect him not talkin to me cause all his friends are older guys and im younger than him? What should i do on Monday at school, go up and be like whats up why arent you talkin to me, or just give him space and smile at him in the halls? PLEASE HELP!!!!!! I really miss talkin to him

You should str8 up ask him whats up... & if he gets an attitude wit u... than just give him sum space... cuz a guy like that who has mood swings isnt worth ur time...

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