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Car crash memories and freakouts
Bare with me, this could be long. Ok well it starts off about 3 years ago, I was involved in a roll over car accident and it knocked out 2 of my teeth because i wasn't wearing a seat belt, and I was partially ejected from the car and i was stuck and yadda yadda yadda, it was horrible, and it screwed up my knee so now i've had 2 sugerys no my knee, the last one puts me in a leg brace. Anywho, Then earlier this year, i was involved in another accident(yea i know, if i didn't have bad luck i'd have no luck at all) where the driver and I and all the other passengers were looking at a murder scene when we smashed into the back of a cadillac and the airbags were deployed, and my foot was screwd up so i missed like 3 days of school, blah blah blah, so now it being early october and all this happend 3 years ago and the other one happend near the end of last year, like a year ago. So now we get to my problem. Now whenever I get into a car, I start freaking out because i think what would happen if the driver were not paying attention, so every time I see brake lights, I grab onto something and start to make noises, not quite a scream, and stuff like that, so i was wondering if that was normal after things like that have happend to me?, oh yea, by the way, my dad like to scare the crap at me by going full speed towards a wall, then my whole family laughs as i try to keep the tears in, but i dont want u guys to feel sorry for me, anywho, i was wondering if you guys think i sould seek therapy or something to get over this problem? Because these incedents have made me never want to drive. Should i try to get over my fear by seeking therapy, that is what im asking, if you could help me it would mean alot to me and i will rate you high if i like your advice, thanks in advance
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awww that's terrible ur family does that! (sry I know u didnt want me to feel sry for u but I can't help it!) anyways therapy is a good idea. take baby steps...for the first and foremost thing..don't ride in a car with ur family if their going to speed to a wall (until ur ready). try first getting into ur car with a trusted friend. just watch carefully and make sure everything is alright. once u've become comfortable with that start trying to drive urself. if anything these accidents should make u a better driver. once again that's what I would say but a therapist will be better! so sry good luck and be safe!
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Of course you should get over your fear (everyone has fears). It'll take time though because you've been through so much, but I don't want you to go through your life without ever driving or always being afraid. I think your dad shouldn't do that although he's just joking, you should tell him how you feel about that if it happens again. What you've been through is serious and tramatizing. It's totally normal to feel the way you do. So, if you think going into therapy will help you, what's holding you back? GO! ~GOOD LUCK~
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AWWwW hun im sooo sorry! i think all you need is some therapy! hope i helped! kLg*
PS.. im adding more to this answer bc u did a feedback " thats it? "
OKAY WELL SORRY! NO THATS NOT IT ! DONT EVER GET IN A CAR AGAIN!!! NOW THATS IT :) HAVE A NICE DAY!
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i'm so sorry about your accident. well my friend's brother got in a car accident, he survived, but his 2 friends in the car died. of course he needed therapy because that's pretty serious. i'm pretty sure he's doing so much better with it and i don't even think he goes anymore. so i think therapy is the way to go. especially if you feel you might need to, all the more reason why you should give it a try!
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Your reaction to these traumatic accidens sounds perfectly normal to me. It's normal and completly understandable to feel shaken and frigtened by a traumatic event such as an accident even years afterwards. Therapy would undoubtedly help you to come to terms with what happened and become better at managing your fears. If this is an option for you, I would recommend exploring it. Therapy isn't an instant cute for anything, but it may well help you.
The way your family respond to your phobia is deeply insensitive, and this is something that needs to be combatted. Talk to the most sensitive member of your family about how the "jokes" your father play frigten and upset you. It's easier to talk to your dad when you have somebody who understands your viewpoint with you for emotional support as you talk about it.
I'm sure you will eventually overcome your fear, but I wish you luck for the process, as it may well be a tough ride.
ETA: In response to your feedback - no, I don't know what's best for you. I don't claim to. I merely offer advice based on the information you've given me. I don't quite understand what was so offensive about my answer.
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Go see a shrink and make your dad pay for it, hit him where it hurts, in his wallet.
Also kick him in the balls
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theres nothing wrong with the way u feel... people often react that way in this sorta situation... u should go see a therapist... they help people deal with their fears and other anxieties... & u should also talk to ur family & let them know that it really bothers you when they do that...
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Well, yes therapy could work, but sometimes it doesn't. I think you need to face your fears head on with somebody you really trust. I dont know if u like my answer because it's only one person's opinion. I hope i helped u anyway!:-)
.::Chelsea::.
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I think therapy would be wonderful for you to seek. As you get older and have a job or maybe even someday have kids your going to need to drive. It's absolutely normal your scared but you need to really ask your family not to joke like that to you, tell them these memories haunt you terribly and they flashback in your mind really miserably. They'll get the hint. It's totally normal. I've had bad horseback riding injuries and it still haunts me today, but I've gotten through them, you can too.
Good Luck Sweetie!
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