Don't you wish you could read guys' minds? It would make everything SO much easier, wouldn't it? Sounds like mixed messages. Says you're annoying, but stares at you all the time...
I'm tempted to think your guyfriend is right about the guy you like thinking you're easy on the eyes. However, the only way to know for sure what's going on in his head is to actually go up and tell him he's sending mixed messages, and you want to know which one is right.
That's what I'd do - but then, I'm the kinda girl who speaks up when it comes to guys, lol. Generally, anyway. I suggest you ask him what's going on if you really wanna know.
I hope this helped!
-Siren =)

Aww. =)
Love is a totally amazing emotion. When you're in love, you just...know. It kinda hits you like a ton of bricks - at least, that how I felt. I first told my guy I loved him on Christmas...it kinda slipped out, but it FELT right. Love is impossible to describe. For me, it's the sort of calm ecstasy that makes me lightheaded when my guy kisses me...(*Swoon* lol). In the beginning it was a sorta drunk feeling that left me unable to stop smiling. Now I still can't think of him or talk about him without smiling. His presence relaxes me...*Shrug* I love everything about him, including his flaws. "Love is knowing everything about someone and thinking their flaws are cute." That'd be my twist on the whole "loving someone is knowing their flaws and loving them more because of them" thing.
Well, that's my opinion, anyway. Love is different for everyone. Decide for yourself....^_^
-Siren =)

Aww, sweetie...Just go up to her one day and say "hey [insert stepmom's name here, or "mom", if you prefer], um, this is kind of awkward for me to ask, but I kind of need...feminine products (lol you can insert whatever you wanna say there). Can you help me out?"
Or just ask her straight out: "I need tampons. Can you help me out/Can you get them for me?" I mean, she's a woman - I'm sure she had to ask her mom for them at some point. She'll probably understand if you're a little awkward about it.
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)

Jen,
I'm the kind of girl that always says what's on her mind. If you like the guy, I think you should tell him.
Weigh the issues:
If you tell him, you might be humiliated. Or, (and this is what I think will more likely happen) you could end up with a great boyfriend. Sometimes dorks are great. Lol.
Is this guy really the kind of guy that would go around screaming to the whole school "HEY EVERYONE, JEN HAS A CRUSH ON ME!!"? If not, GO FOR IT!
If you don't tell him, you could end up missing out on a possibly great relationship with a guy you like...or your feelings could remain a total mystery to everyone except you, and eventually fade...OR you could end up majorly regretting it. (that's probably what would happen to me, which is why I always say what's on my mind, lol)
It depends entirely on what you're more comfy doing.
If you wanna risk possible humiliation (doubtful?) and/or get a relationship out of it, open your mouth and let your feelings come out.
If not, don't. The decision is yours. You've just gotta weigh your choices and your issues, then decide what you wanna do.
I hope this helped - let me know what you decided/what happens! If not on here, IM me (SirenCytherea)
-Siren =)

Oh, honey. I know how you feel. When I was 14, I dated someone for 2 months, thought I was in love with him. He claimed to love me, then he dumped me. I found out later he had cheated on me several times with people I knew, AND only wanted me for one thing. I went 18 months without anyone, then met this really awesome guy...still dating him, almost 11 months later.
I feel the same way about my guy - he's amazing, I'd never break up with him, but in the beginning, I worried that he was gonna hurt me like the last two did, and he promised he wouldn't. So far, he's proven to be trustworthy.
You've just gotta trust YOUR guy when he says he won't hurt you. You're scared because no one wants to get burned...I mean, it sucks. Heartbreak sucks, it's a given fact. All you can do is stick with it and know that he won't hurt you. How long have you two been together? If you haven't been together long, give yourself time. Your mind and heart will figure it out, and you'll stop being so afraid he's gonna hurt you.
I realized my heart wasn't ever gonna be stomped on again when my guy went to Vegas over the summer and turned down girls/dates while his friends called him crazy for doing so.
Maybe you just need a little proof to set your mind at ease. Give it time. The fears will stop.
But for now, the fears are normal. Don't worry about 'em.
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)

Firstly, yay! Love is awesome, and it's great that you're both virgins and there's no pushing going on. =)
Sounds like a panic situation to me. You're perfectly normal. Don't worry about it. That's how I was the first time my guy and I got close to sex. I freaked out and started shaking. I mean, girls have a lot to be afraid of, and every right to panic. Pregnancy is NOT something you wanna go through at so young an age, whether you think so or not. Also, you're probably afraid of the pain. That was most of what scared me, I think. It hurts the first time! Pain is something we all fear (well, most of us, anyway) and try to avoid. It's not exactly the kind of pain you can brace yourself for, either. Sucks for us, huh? I didn't even think of that until I experienced it, and then went "Oh, that's what was scaring me so much." While you may be physically and emotionally ready to have sex, you might not be ready for the "consequences", subconsciously.
Wait until every part of you feels right about it. When you don't panic, go for it. That's what I did.
I hope this helps! If you have any other questions about this, don't hesitate to talk to me. Been through this, know exactly how you feel, lol.
-Siren =)

Lol...Damn straight we can call boys "baby" if we want to...My boyfriend calls me "honey" more than my own name, so I give him the same treatment.
-Honey
-Hon/hun
-Sweetie
-Sweetheart
-Babe
-Baby
-Love (This one's kinda English, though. *Shrug*)
-Sugar
...And that's all I can think of off the top of my head.
-Siren =)

It's an opinion thing, I think. I usually end up closing my eyes for a second when we kiss just 'cause he has this way of relaxing me...Like...totally...(my boy's a really good kisser *swoon*)
Lol anway...but if it's a tiny li'l peck, I don't think you really have to close your eyes unless you want to. Or, if you feel like it. *Shrug* Just go with your impulses...if your feeling is that you wanna close your eyes, close 'em.
I hope this helps on some level!
-Siren =)

Well, a gospel song is a good way to go about getting your message across. Gospel songs are awesome if you're a good singer and you can really get into it - like, if you FEEL what you're singing about. However, do realize that not everyone will agree with you.
I'm technically jewish, for instance, and my choir's singing a gospel piece. It doesn't mean anything to me because I don't believe in jesus, so I find it repetitive and boring. I believe in God, just not quite like that.
It's great that you wanna stand up for what you believe in, and singing a gospel song is a great way to show people you're a strong christian.
As far as approaching people into asking God into their lives...I wouldn't, exactly. People should be able to believe what they want to, and not have to actually get into a religion if they don't want or need it.
I say if they wanna "ask God into their lives," let them do it on their own.
But I'm all about freedom of choice, man. ^_^
Lol hope this helped on some level!
-Siren =)

Sweetheart, almost anything odd can be considered normal for your first period, lol. I think my first period lasted about two days...Your periods will probably be irregular for a number of years unless you go on a birth control pill, which will regulate your cycle whether you need/want it to or not.
Lol Hope this helped!
-Siren =)

It's totally okay to be falling for this new guy. Your subconscious is forcing you to get over your ex, which is a GOOD thing unless you're planning on getting back together with him...
If not, take advantage of this! Let yourself fall for this new guy. If you two ever start discussing your feelings, it's okay to let this new guy know that you still have some lingering feelings for your ex.
It's good for you to have someone that you get to see a lot. It only wouldn't be fair if you and your ex were not...well, exes. Then it wouldn't be fair to either guy. But since you are single, my dear, this new guy may find a place in your life.
When I met my current boyfriend, I still had some lingering feelings, I think, for my ex. But one thing lead to another and we've been together for almost 11 months.
Let fate take its course.
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)

Get the guy you like to talk to your dad. Let them get to know each other, and let HIM change your dad's mind about him. Like, arrange for the boy to meet you and your dad at a local restaurant for dinner at some point. That's what I did with my dad and my boyfriend so they could get to know each other.
Talk to your dad, suggest just "getting to know him" to him, and suggest it to the guy, too. If both agree, everything should be cool.
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)

Um...There's one called Hydrogen - I think the name may have been changed to Launch, though. Hm...You might want to do a search on dance clubs in detroit, though. Just go to google and type in "dance clubs in detroit" or something in quote marks, and it should give you some sites. I live in a li'l city near flint, so I know more about that than detroit. Lol. Sorry I couldn't be more help! I hope you have fun!
-Siren =)

Dom,
Firstly, make sure the little things you're noticing that he does to bother her are really there, and not things you just want to see.
But do look out for her, and point these things out to her if they're real. Love (to any degree) is rather blinding, and people tend to miss things, or overlook important thing. That's why she has someone like you to look out for her. =)
Secondly, all you can do is be there for her and wait. Don't try to break them up. Chances are, if there really are problems with that relationship, she'll figure it out and the relationship will end by itself.
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)

Okay, I never say this, but your friend is flat out WRONG.
Using a tampon is NOT like having a dick stuck in you for hours at a time. You don't even FEEL tampons, for one thing. Tampons are a lot less hassle, they're cleaner, and they're just plain easier...
It does not make you a hoe, and you're not doing anything wrong. If your friends truly think that wearing a tampon and saving yourself the trouble of changing your pad every, like, three hours makes you a "hoe", they need to grow up a bit. Don't change what you use because your friends don't like it. You'd regret it, I'm sure. Lol. I certainly would...
Hope this helped!
-Siren =)

You're neither weird nor crazy. (I personally think you're more sensible than your friends.) It is okay for some people, I guess. I would personally wait until it was legal to have sex to go about doing that, but that's just me.
People have different opinions of when the right age is. For some it can be as young as thirteen, but the people who engage in sexual activity that young usually regret it.
Of course, the same thing could be said about someone my age (I'm nearly 17), but I don't regret anything I've done.
It's really an opinion thing, more than a right or wrong thing.
Hope this helped!
-Siren =)

Talk about your childhoods. That is ALWAYS a good topic. Just reminisce...remember stuff. Ask him what he was like as a little kid. I'm sure you'll find out all sorts of interesting things. When there's a lull in the conversation, just say "so...what were you like as a little kid?" and let him get into it.
You could also talk about music, sports, whatever you're into...
Hope this helped!
-Siren =)

Well, firstly, make sure YOU are ready for this step. Your boyfriend may be, but that doesn't mean you are, or that you have to be. If you aren't, tell him. But, if you wanna give it a shot, go for it.
You don't have to shave all your pubic hair. I mean, it's your choice. I don't shave all mine 'cause I honestly don't have the patience to deal with the stubble...Lol.
You do realize that there is a natural sort of smell down there, right? You can't not smell...that's unnatural...But it's not like a bad stink, really. It's just a human smell. Sorta kinda.
However, if he's fingering you, I seriously doubt his face is going to be down there. If he tries that, tell him to kiss you. It'll distract him - and you, lol.
Just relax and enjoy it. Lol.
Hope this helped!
-Siren =)

There are NO stupid questions. The only stupid ones are the ones left unasked. ^_^
Okay, now that I'm done with that shpiel...
Love feels different for everyone. To me, it's kind of a drunk feeling, lol. Now it's more of a calm ecstasy. I've been with my guy for almost 11 months, and his kisses still make me dizzy.
Love for me is when I can picture myself with this guy for the rest of my life. I can picture it with this guy, and I know it's real.
No one can tell you you're in love. You just know it through and through. As cliche as that is, lol, it's true.
Everyone also has different definitions of love. Real love for me is the guy I'm gonna marry/be with for the rest of my life. It might not be that for someone else.
Hope this helped!
-Siren =)

First and foremost, BE YOURSELF. If a guy can't like you for who you are, you don't want to be with him.
Talk to him. Make sure you have actual conversations, not just like "hi." "Hi" "What's up?" "Nothing." "Oh." kind of things. Lol. Those are moodkillers. Lol. Ask him questions he can't answer with a yes or no.
Notice little things about him. Like if he has a shirt on that says something, ask him what it says.
Flirt. However, you don't have to act like a slut to get his attention. Smile at him, laugh at his jokes, but only if you really think they're funny. Lol. Join into conversations he's having with his friends, show him you know about the stuff he does and it interests you, too (if it does).
Just be honest with him, AND yourself. Hope this helped!
-Siren =)

I'm a laid-back 26 year old with a Psychology BA, starting my MA program, and working my way into the field as quickly as I can. It took me an extra Bachelor's degree (in vocal performance and creative writing) to figure it out, but I was put on this Earth to help, to heal, and to love.

I have made the decision to dedicate my life and career to helping others. I am here to do just that.

I've been a member since 2004, and since I signed up, I've gone through quite a lot and learned quite a lot from it. I'm here to give guidance where I had none; no one should have to go through the difficulties I went through alone.

Feel free to visit my website/blog, if you want to read my experience with domestic violence and my thoughts on it.

***While I do tend to answer mental health and other health-related or medicine-related questions, I am by NO MEANS a licensed physician or practitioner of any sort. Any and all advice I give for these questions is from my own experience or studies.***

If you need to get a hold of me quickly, my screen name on AIM is SirenCytherea. Just let me know you found me here.

I'm a strong believer in the idea that there are no stupid questions except the ones left unasked, so, please, keep an open mind, heart, and mouth.

Siren

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