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Another Guy Problem, Yes I am Sorry
Ok, so I'm a fourteen year old girl and to start off with, I have recently broken up with a boyfriend I had for over a year. I loved him very very much, and still do. He says he still loves me as well, but he moved and I never see him so it's too hard to be anything more than friends. Well recently, I've been hanging out with another guy a lot. He and I are both in marching band, so we see each other a whole lot. Well yesterday, we had a band compeition starting at eleven AM, and the bus got to the school at 1:30AM. Well at the compeition we were hanging out a whole lot, and on the bus ride home he started using me as a pillow again(this isn't anything new) and I subconsciously started playing with his hair. All of a sudden, my hand slipped into his and the next thing I know we're holding hands. See, what I'm wondering is, is it okay to be slowly falling in love with this new guy while I still have feelings for my ex? Is it fair to him? Help.
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Your ex will always have a place in your heart, but if you guys can only be friends. Then just move on (i know its hard). You'll find a new love, who will have a part of your heart too...
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It's totally okay to be falling for this new guy. Your subconscious is forcing you to get over your ex, which is a GOOD thing unless you're planning on getting back together with him...
If not, take advantage of this! Let yourself fall for this new guy. If you two ever start discussing your feelings, it's okay to let this new guy know that you still have some lingering feelings for your ex.
It's good for you to have someone that you get to see a lot. It only wouldn't be fair if you and your ex were not...well, exes. Then it wouldn't be fair to either guy. But since you are single, my dear, this new guy may find a place in your life.
When I met my current boyfriend, I still had some lingering feelings, I think, for my ex. But one thing lead to another and we've been together for almost 11 months.
Let fate take its course.
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)
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u can't help falling in love, it just happens.... like to me i like this guy named.... wait sorry back to u. i think there's always something u like more about one guy than the other i had to choose,... and im still together with him. just jot down sum notes of what u like best of both guys and see who has the bigger list. tell me how it works out @ cowsoink on advicenators or piggiessaymoo on aim/aol. i hope i helped in some way or another!!
.::Chelsea::.
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you can't help who you fall in love with or who you like.. honestly i think it's good that you're getting over your ex boyfriend.. this awlays happens to me too. i'll end up being obessed with someone and then i just start liking someone else and they end up being my new attraction lol. it's totally normal. break it down with your old guy and tell him that you need to move on and that you can't sit around waiting for him constantly.. hell you're only 14 you've got like 90 something years and you're not gonna "waste" it waiting around for him. but before you do anything drastic and move in with this new guy.. make sure you are really intent on him and only him.. it really sucks when you're in a relationship and already off the bat you're still thinking abotu your ex.
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just bang the other guy to get ur pleasure
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Yes, your definitely going to feel this way alot. Of course your going to have a crush on other guys while your dateing somebody. It won't be fair to him if you start dateing someone else while your dating him. You don't even need to tell him what your feeling. But if you still have strong feelings for your ex. Maybe you should wait until it starts to fade. But it's honestly up to you. Good luck* =)
*aMy
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Well, it depends . Are you in love with this new guy ? If you are in love with the new guy, then you are being fair to him . I can see if you're going out with him, but the fact is that you're not going out with him . Don't ignore your feeling that you have for your ex-boyfriend because, that only makes matters worse . I think you know what you want and deep down inside , you feel that it may be too compromising to get . I don't think it's wrong , but if it bothers you, I think you should tell the new guy about your feelings for your ex boyfriend. This guy should understand after being with your ex for a year and if he doesn't forget him . Atleast when you tell him the truth, your conscience will feel alot better . I could evaluate and type so many alternatives for you to go , but the question is WHAT DO YOU THINK YOU SHOULD DO ? It's all up to you , and I hope I was some help . By . Have a nice day .
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the feeling that you have for your ex are not as strong as you thinl if you arfe starting to like this other guy. I thik that you should give this guy a chance, since you and your ex are basically just friends. ya know?
**_Nicole_**
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Yeah, its okay. You said it yourself that your ex lives too far away to be anything more then friends..
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