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unsure love!!!
okay I have this amazing boyfriend who I know loves me very much.He has already met my mom and most of my familyand they all think he is sweet. I love having him as a boyfriend and of course I would never break up with him but I am so used to bieng hurt by guys that I am so scared that he will hurt me too. He swears that he never will but I can never be to sure of everything. I know he loves me so why am I so scared?Plz help me as soon as possible!I need it bad!!!!!
I am 13 years old and am female!!!!!
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Oh, honey. I know how you feel. When I was 14, I dated someone for 2 months, thought I was in love with him. He claimed to love me, then he dumped me. I found out later he had cheated on me several times with people I knew, AND only wanted me for one thing. I went 18 months without anyone, then met this really awesome guy...still dating him, almost 11 months later.
I feel the same way about my guy - he's amazing, I'd never break up with him, but in the beginning, I worried that he was gonna hurt me like the last two did, and he promised he wouldn't. So far, he's proven to be trustworthy.
You've just gotta trust YOUR guy when he says he won't hurt you. You're scared because no one wants to get burned...I mean, it sucks. Heartbreak sucks, it's a given fact. All you can do is stick with it and know that he won't hurt you. How long have you two been together? If you haven't been together long, give yourself time. Your mind and heart will figure it out, and you'll stop being so afraid he's gonna hurt you.
I realized my heart wasn't ever gonna be stomped on again when my guy went to Vegas over the summer and turned down girls/dates while his friends called him crazy for doing so.
Maybe you just need a little proof to set your mind at ease. Give it time. The fears will stop.
But for now, the fears are normal. Don't worry about 'em.
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)
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Ok first, calm down. If this boy (I'll call him Bob lol) truly loves you, then he won't break up w/ u. Bob will probably only break ^ with you if he really needs to (might move away, parents don't want him 2 have a gf etc.). Don't worry about it so much. If Bob breaks up with you, don't hold a grudge and hate yourself/him. There are pleanty of other fish in the sea.
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First of all, just because he says he won't jusrt you doensn't mean it won't happen. He may hurt you even though he promised you he wouldn't. But that's the risk you take in dating. Go rent HEART BREAKERS. it's a movie in which the mom tries to shelter her daughter from being hurt by love, but in the end, the daughter wants to make her mistakes with the situation at hand. Your choices are either to dump him and never date again or go for it, put yourself out there and see where this relationship can take you--- and take it from me, i'd rather be hurt than not get to play at all.
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Your insecure and scared because you've gotten your heartbroken so many times in the past. That was in the past. Remember that. Just look forward to the future with your boyfriend. Stop stressing. Forget about the past. That was then and this is now. But your only 13, I'm sure there are going to be many many many guys in your life.
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Your scared because even that small chance that he would hurt you scares the crap outta you. It's happened before and your almost prone to it now. Trust him. You HAVE to. He sounds really really sweet. If your feelings stay the same your not even going to enjoy the time you guys will have together. I think even if you guys break up, it wont be a hurtful breakup, he sounds too sweet, ;-).
GL!
xoxo
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you are kinda young, so noone can tell you that you arent gonna get hurt. But if you trust him, then you have to stay true to him. If you get scared and breakup with him, you will never know if what you did was the right choice, and if you try to get back together, than it'll never be the same.
**_Nicole_**
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Hunnie,I'm 21-yrs-old and going thru the SAME thing!It is really hard to let that wall down and give someone your heart and your trust when in the past you've done that only to have it broken!But you have to realize this guy isn't the guy who hurt you before.And sometimes it's worth it to just take the risk and go for it.Always watch out for yourself,I mean don't let him walk all over you,but don't push a good guy away.And besides,you're sooooo young,you'll go thru a ton of ups and downs in your love life over the next several years.Yea I know,I didn't wanna hear it either when people told me that when I was 13,but it's true.But for now I say,enjoy this guy,give him a chance,let him love you and love him back.You'll never know how happy you could be or what you could have if you don't take that wall down and have a little faith in someone! I wish you ALL the best,write me and let me know how it's going! :)
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