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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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I'm a 23 year old female, working and studying. I've been with my boyfriend for 6years and we recently got engaged. I have had feelings for other men throughtout this relationship, but I never did anything about it. I went away for a few months and met this guy from jordan - we started seeing each other and now he says he love me etc. I don't want to give up what I have with my fiance, but at the same time I want to run away with this other guy or sometimes just run away on my own and disappear. If I do, I'm sure I will lose my family and friends, because he is another nationality.I'm a very pessimistic person - so I don't believe either of them when they say they love me no matter what. I believe all people are bound to be cheaters, might be becuase of my past.my fiance is more than amazing though. He loves me no matter what I do or say. He wants to provide for me - and he knows me inside and out.everyone LOVES him and say I'm the luckiest girl alive. I have clearly landed jackpot with him - but why am I still reaching out to other guys...? At this moment: reaching out to this guy.I don't want to say too much about myself as it may give away who I am. So I will just say I'm from a conservative part of the world and English isn't my first language.
From an outsiders point of view, You do not sound happy.
You're relationship is missing something or you would not have a strong desire to be with other men. You may indeed love your fiance, but do you love him enough to marry him and be his wife?
You believe that everyone is prone too cheating but what you are missing here is cheating is also a choice. A very dishonest and hurtful choice.
You need to really sort out your true feelings to whether you want to be with your fiance or other men. It is not fair to lead him on as it is not only lying to him but to yourself. If you want other men then yes, You need to be hinest and tell him.
This girl and i have been off and on for about 2 years now. She was pregnate with a child, whom was not mine when i met her. We dated (baby died of heart failure) for about a year. She then cheated on me and dated Mr. Macho. After about half a year, she came back wanting me. I accepted, but she was just playing games with me, not really wanting to get back together. Several months pass again, and she now wants me more than ever. Asking for kisses, chance after chance after chance.. I dont know what to do. I do have feelings for you, but the trust.. just is NOT there. Please help me.
Move on
She cheated, She lied and she betrayed you. She IS playing games and will continue too play them as long as you allow her too. Why does she crawl back? Because you take her back and she knows this.
She is unstable in her life and us looking to fill her void of unhappiness.
So no, You tell her no and best to cut contact with her. This woman needs to get her act together before she can give a relationship what it deserves. She already had her chance and she blew it niw she needs to grow up.
I think you all suck major balls. I've been trying to find a painless way to kill myself for the past 2 hours. If someone wants to kill themselves then they probably have a very good reason for it so why don't you fuckers just give some fucking answers instead of the FAKE bullshit like "your too young to die" or "You have so much to live for" or "think about how your hurting your loved ones" in most cases what the hell makes you think we HAVE loved ones??? I'm so fucking sick of seeing those bullshit answers and i'm not even the person asking it on the fucking forms. If you can't answer the question then don't say anything at all! for me, as i'm sure it is for most, it is NOT for attention. It's to die PAINLESSLY. We don't give a fuck about how wonderful YOU think life is. The worst one i've seen yet is someone who has an illness and is in pain 24/7. no one could even help that poor soul end it. FUCK you all for not helping. FUCK YOU. go die. You are the reason for suicide. You are all stupid. I hate you. FUCK YOU ALL. You are NOT showing compassion you are being fucking HEARTLESS.
EDIT: You know... I actually went back to review some questions I have recently answered and decided to give another word if advice.
People like YOU are people thst advicenators do not like helping. Arrogance honestly makes me not give a shit. If you don't like the advice we give then do not come to the site. Now go bitch somewhere else to someone who cares.
What is happening in life that is making you so angry? Did someone say something to you to make you want to ladh out at us?
DONT READ THIS. YOU WILL BE KISSED ON THE NEAREST POSSIBLE FRIDAY BY THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE.TOMMOROW WILL BE THE BEST DAY OF YOUR LIFE. NOW YOU'VE STARTED READING THIS. DON'T STOP. THIS IS SO FREAKY. 1. say your name ten times. 2.say your mom's name five times. 3. say your crushes three times 4. paste this to four other groups. If you do this, your crush will kiss you on the nearest Friday. But if you read this and do not paste this, then you will have very bad luck
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Hello I want to have sex with my neighbor. Im 18 and she is around 40-45 blonde, tone, and insanely hot. She has 2 sons that live at home that are still in high school and elementary school. I see her a lot and she always tries to make conversation with me. how do i get in her pants?
Do you know anything about this woman? Is she married? Is she seeing someone?
Fact is this woman has 2 kids who are around your own age. Meaning, There is a very very small chance she will see you ask 'dating' material but rather a boy that is her son's age.
Technically there is a small to zero chances she is interested in you. This woman is also old enough to be your mother. Find someone your own age
hi i am a boy from India,i have a girlfriend of age 20 and i have a age of 21..she is a girl who i love the most i want to live my life with her and i could say that i am the best lover in this world i loved her and loving her that mush til now.. but now days i hate her because she often fighting with me and hurting with her behavior ..she is not like before she used to care me well but no she hating me and talking harsh and often my girlfriend getting tensed for everything she don't like me to advice in anything but i want to advice..she may choose wrong path so i fear in everything to care her and advice her..i used to advice about her dressing and to reduce her angry and temper even i have changed myself for her but still she is not changing her and hurting me in words i am much much worried about it ..she always say that i am restricting her nu ..i don't know what to do now i am unable to sleep unable to eat its been guilty for me every day..i have said many times to her to reduce her anger but never she tried not only with me with her family also ..and i used to say not do a thing but she is doing it which is not good for her..yesterday she used a word that i came and fall in love with me is stupid and she is sufferings with me like that ..she saying am not much talented in anything like that but i hope i give my best in everything still what i have to do..she said me to leave my anger i left,she asked me not to restrict her i did.. only in dress i used to restrict only if awkward but now she don't even want me to open my mouth...are we should live together or not :( ...her words sometimes kills me i don't know what to say ..each and every second i will be thinking of her only but now i feel why should i do it even though now i am doing it to care her and to celebrate her birthday in grant manner which in three days :(
A relationship should be with someone that makes you happy. You and your girlfriend do not sound compatible.
A relationship can only work if both people are willing ti make it work. Your girlfriend does not want to live her life the way you think is best. You both want different things, That is fine but you both are not meant to be.
My neighbor and I are really close. She is 14 and is expecting twins...I know its sad but we have been trying to make the best out of this that we can. The babies last name will be Nobles and she asked me to help her name them, since her boyfriend decided that she could pick. What are some good full names that would flow well and sound right with the last name Nobles?
Girl: Ava Marie, Madison Ann, Jackie
Boy: Brandon, Stephen, David, Benjamin
Just had our one year anniversary like 5 days ago...
I just got back from out of town this weekend and I really missed him, sending him texts/pictures; I thought we were at a good place before I left but when i got back today he was busy playing video games and acted like I wasn't there or mattered. I told him he was annoying me so I didn't talk to him and I planned on going to bed but that didn't happen. I ended up taking a cab to a friends house because I didn't want to be around him, he didn't really stop me...does he not care about our relationship? I left his house before I could even call the cab so I walked to the nearest gas station. He appeared there a couple minutes later but where was he when I was walking out the door? He didn't say much besides why don't i just go back and go to sleep and stop being irrational. Cab came just in time and I left so here I am wondering what i should do..
Here's some background info about our relationship:
on/off relationship for the past year
had 3 breakups/breaks
he's jobless, car-less and is always broke
i feel like i support him most of the time
we're both in college and graduating in may
SO my question is should we just break up?
Sounds to me like you want more out of the relationship your in. Clearly, You are not happy.
So yes agreed with Razhie, Do you want to break up?
If you have nothing to talk about then maybe this is the end of your misery. It takes two to make it work and the key is too comminicate. I do not see where you properly tried to communicate before walking out.
Sometimes we need to learn to except things or move on from them. From the sound of it you are fed up and feel like he is no more of a burden.
Iam a girl and I broke up with my ex girlfriend over 3 years ago. We remained friends but it was awkward for both of us cause we still had feelings fire each other even though we were in relationships. She hugged me real tightly.for about 5 secs last time I seen her. What does it mean??
She is in a relationship and has her girlfriend name tattooed on her twice.
We no longer speak because she is super emotional. I told her Iam engaged and she seemed happy but she really hasnt talk to me since.
Recently my birthday passed and she hasnt told me happy birthday.
But she told me she was taking her girlfriend out
on my birthday as a Valentines day gift. And she said she was going to propose to her girlfriend on her birthday. It doesn't bother me at all cause I even offered to help her ring shop and told her I work at a Jewlery store and can get her a discount on rings.
So why is she treating me so badly? We broke up years ago and she seems happy. Her girlfriend is 10 years older than her and they made a beautiful couple. I don't get why she treats me so badly
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Think about it...
She is emotional and hasn't talked to you since your engagement. She still loves you
If you are engaged then you should be focused on your engagement and your life. It may be best to stop contact all together with your ex.
What will happen if you take 5-7 sleeping pills at 8:30 at night and must wake up at 6:10 in the morning. Don't know which sleeping pills it is just know its sleeping pills. Age:13 gender:female weight:42 grade:7 I've seen things that say stuff about your weight so I just thought I should put that stuff in for uncase it helps oh and height is 155cm. Its not for me I'm not taking the pills its my cousin
5-7 sleeping pills is EXTREMELY dangerous. Your cousin is improperly using these pills and 5-7 pills is not only over dosing but can kill him/her.
You need to let an adult become aware of what your cousin is about to do and get help asap
Every year my boyfriend goes to The Vibes. For those of you who aren't familiar with it, its a annual four-day music, camping and arts festival thing. well last year I didn't go with him because we weren't dating at the time, although last year he texted me saying "i wish you were here, that'd be cool" (this is when we first starting talking).
Anyway.. last night I was over his house and he was telling me funny stories about his time at the vibes last year, and I said "I want to go with you this year!" and I was excited because I never went, and I invited myself because I figured he wanted me there since he said he wished I was there last year. Anyway, when I said that, he hesitated sort of and didn't sound as enthusiastic as I'd hoped. So I became immediately offended and I was just like "Okay... if you don't want me to go then just say so." ANd he's like "thats not the case at all" and Im like "so.. what is it then?" and hes like "Well I just dont want you to be uncomfortable.. because I'm gonna be doing stuff" and IM like "okay.... what stuff?" and hes like "well there are a lot of drugs going on there. and im like "yeah, i know you smoke a lot of weed. big deal" and hes like "well I may do shrooms too" and i was a little ehhh about that because i just dont really like more than weed but I sucked it up and didnt want to be controlling so I said "okay. thats fine." If thats what he likes to do to have a good time there every year then i cant really make him not do that. but then hes like "and i take some percocet" when he said that my mood immediately changed, and he noticed. and we ended up sitting down and talking about it and I told him that really makes me uncomfortable because its just not natural. and hes like "its my body (blah blah blah)... and all that. ANd my brother used to be addicted to Oxycontin, and he knows this. and idk.. the point I'm trying to get at here before i completely bore you guys, is that I want to go with him but 1. i dont want him taking pills he has NO prescription for. and 2. i feel wrong being around that after what my brother went through. And my boyfriend has no addictions gto anything. this is something he just does once a year at the vibes. But I really wanted to share this with him and go and its like he'd rather pop a few pills then to go with me. Thats how it feels and when i explained this to him hes like "thats not the case. and i only take 10mg at a time. and i dont drink with it." i know it wont turn into a problem for him but thats not the point. the point is hes pushing me to the side, and instead of just saying "you know what? forget it i wont take the pills id rather just be with you. if it makes you that uncomfortable its okay"... he just is stubborn and its making me feel really left out. I want to go but its like he doesnt wnat me to even if he says he does. hes very honest to the point its blunt sometimes so I know hes not LYING to me by saying he wants me to go. but its the point that hes willing to leave me out just to take some pills. What do I do? should i be offended? should i talk to him again even though i already did? should i be worried about him? should ijust let it go? is 10mg really that big of a deal? please share your stories! I'm really worried and cant stop obsessing over this......
It sounds like he may be hiding something from you. Perhaps he has a history he doesn't want you to know about?
If he wants to do drugs and doesn't respect that you are not comfortable then sweetheart this may be an eye opener for you.
If he is choosing drugs over you then you need to leave him.
so i love my boyfriend very much we hae ben together three months and were close n just i get prtoective of him around certian girls but he digs that , sometimes i just get this feeling he might rather be doing other thigs but he tells me he doesnt cause ill tell him its ok if he hangs out with his guy friends and that its ok , and im really laid back so he knows i mean it but we went to the mall earlier and after i left i said did you have fun after i left and he said ya it was great i said cool , but he said its sad cause i got really hyper when you left i said oh... he said i wished you were there and didnt have to leave cause it would have been fun-er and(my ex boyfriend was there i guess) and your ex is alright i guess cause we were all joking around. (i hate my ex cause he cheated on me but my boyfriend said he didnt think it ment alot caue i was only with my ex for a week) is it bad if all of this make me bothered or am i just ...overly thinking it? Sorry If This Is Long. im a female and im turning 16 my boyfriends 18
You're over thinking it.
Your boyfriend is entitled to have friendsand even be friends with your ex.
Uf you were with your ex for a week technically in my mind you weren't even dating. If it was for a length of time and you had built a past then I could understand but a week? NA, let it go. Not worth it
I'm a 19 year old female who has problems with keeps dating the wrong type of guy because I seem to just 'settle' with whoever would date me since the guys who I really want to date, don't want to date me. I'm thinking about trying out match.com to see if I can find a good guy (for once). Is this a good idea to try? Am I too toung to resort to this? I want a more active dating life!
I personally do not recommended it.
The thing with dating sites is that is it pretty hard to find a real genuine guy that is being truthful. At 19, I wouldn't even be thinking of using a dating a site. The best way to meet people is friends of friends or by simply starting a casual conversation with someone. How would you make a friend? You would need to say hi right?
Dating sites are full of creeps, I am sure there are nice people too but that's my person opinion.
Hello. I am a 16 year old teenager who spends all her time with this one girl Lily. Lily is my best friend in the whole world, and I am very open about everything with her. Lily on the other hand does not tell me very much, but she always tells me that is just the way about her and not to take it real personally.
In the beggining of this year, Lily started Hanging out with this Lesbian in the year above us, Jessica. At first, it was just group plans, but than they started hanging out alone together all the time,and Lily really started to wanting to always have plans with Jessica.
Because of this, I was getting a bit concered that Lily was possibly a lesbian, just still in the closet about it all, but i didn't have to much prove besides a few texts Jessica sent Lily about her sexulity so I kinda just let things play out. Finally, my other best friend Marcus couln't handle it anymore, and Lily found out that Marcus and I both thought that she was a Lesbian.
Lily flipped out, said of course she isnt and just because she hangs out with Jessica all the time does not makes her gay.
So After that, I kinda just ignored the situation. Jessica and Lily don't talk now..and its been about 3 months.
Then. last night. I was given the opportunity to look at Lily and Jessicas facebook messages. all of them. Lily was sleeping and I was alone on her computer. I'm not proud of it, but I read every message. I so badly needed closure.
Basically, I found out that Lily had been dating Jessica for over 2 months, is actually a lesbian, and told Jessica I wouldn't accept her if she came out.
Which btw, is not true. Gay or straight, doesn't matter to me.
Whats keeping me up at night is the fact the I know all of this information. I know Lily must feel so alone always hiding in the closet, and as her best friend I so badly want to confront her about it.
Only thing is, how do I confront her about me knowing if the way I know was by being a huge and total snoop? I would loss all her trust!
Please Help... I really cannot wait another minute
You don't confront her
You were wrong for snooping in her buisness. Whether or whether not she was a lesbian /bicurious it did not involve you. This was her choice, She has that right. Getting involved in other peoples lives is nosey, rude and it is how you loose friends.. I have a bit of a hard time believing you wanted "closure" but to but your nose into something to fill your curiousity.
Now the brutal truth; Except it or loose a friend due to your arrogance.
I'm pregnant. He doesn't want the baby, although he hasn't talked about adoption or abortion with me. He has purchased some fuckbuddy of his an abortion in the past though. He is a disfellowshipped Jehovah's Witness who is trying very hard to get back to his congregation. He goes to all the meetings, etc. But obviously, he doesn't show remorse, so he has not been reinstated. (He was disfellowshipped in the first place for running an escort agency, cheating on his ex who was his fiance with more than 50 women over a period of 4 years, excessive drinking, stealing a computer from someone in his congregation, and some other things I cannot recall.) I am pregnant, and now he is casually dating other girls, he took my keys and removed me from his lease, refuses to give me my cat, and does not even call or email or text. How can someone who claims they are a Jehovah's Witness do something like this? He used to rag on me because I am agnostic, I was raised Catholic but I have my doubts about religion in general, so I like to keep it simple and just follow the basic principles of most religions. Such as don't harm others, honesty, don't steal, honor your parents, etc. However, I choose to ignore specific things that the bible teaches...such as "harming your body because it's a temple" I don't care that I smoke cigarettes (leave me alone, it's a personal choice and legal vice), I don't care that I have tattoos, (they're not offensive or blasphemous tattoos anyway), etc. Or other specifics that Christian denominations adhere to...such as people being gay. (I don't care if my neighbor is gay, if he's not posting gay porn on his door for all to see, I don't care. Who does it harm?) My ex will not smoke a cigarette or get a tattoo, because it's what his religion tells him, and he is FIRM on these things. He talks bad about gay guys at his place of employment, and says they are definitely going to hell. But, the bible says a man who doesn't take care of his family is worse than a nonbeliever in God. So what gives with this guy? I personally don't think he is a follower of Christ, what do you think? And from a non religious stance, what would make a guy feel okay with abandoning his girlfriend and baby?
Whether not he would be ready or not would you even want someone like this around your child? This guy is nothing but an arrogant asshole.
If this is your cat then you need to go to the police and explain your situation. If you decide to keep this child I would be fighting for full custody. If you really want my 2 cents then consider adoption and cut rhis fuckard out of your life.
I have only just noticed this really itchy, white pussy blob/splat on the inside of my right arm - is it something to worry about??? It is very irritating.
A cyst
Do you shave? This is not that uncommon. I have had this happen to me a few times. It could also be possible you are allergic to the deodorant you are using.
I think I am a good friend.. I do to them what I want to be treated.. I support them because I know it is your responsibility as a friend.. but why do I feel it is not really friendship but merely just a companion, a colleague, or a person you just know for a long time that you feel comfortable already and you already thought it is friendship? I wonder if what friendship really is for them..
Because over time you become used to them, you become more comfortable and you've gotten to to know them.
The friendship doesn't fade. You see it is much like a relationship, You go through the stages of friendship and you either become closer or you drift.
I'm a girl , 17. So I talked to someone online tonight, and it started completely innocently. I didn't give any of my details out to him and we had a genuinely nice conversation. I don't know why, but the conversation started getting more sexual and it got reasonably full on (it wasn't his fault I kind of started it) - I guess I was feeling lonely?
Now afterwards I'm really regretting it and I feel really disgusting, like unclean. I feel like I've wasted my first time at something like this, and I basically feel like a bit of a slut. I've always thought people that do stuff like that are disgusting but now I feel like it myself. I don't want this to overtake my mind all the time because I feel guilty about it. I feel like I can never get my innocence back, how pathetic is that.
You learned you're lesson
You didn't loose your innocence, You didn't actually have sex.
Now feeling ashamed is normal. Would you go ahead an have sexual intercourse with a complete stranger? I would hope not.
From now on do not allow the conversation to go beyond a casual hi how are ya type of thing, If it does then end it.
Yeah it is a bit weird to type up a full blown sexual conversation with someone you never met before and know nothing about.
How can I make a push up bra at home without cutting the one I have? I there a way to do it without buying pads and stuff like that? I am a 34b and hoping to get up to a C or even better a D but anything will be much appreciated! Thx.
You're best bet us too buy one. Also, Stuffing your bra makes you look unnatural and fake. If you want to appear 'fuller' you can buy a push up bra. If you feel uncomfortable then you can go to Walmart and use self check out. This is s more private way without having a cashier check you out.
I am 11 about to turn 12 I am in Wilmington nc Jefferson street anyone around here reply I need sex but can't have it so I need a boy to help me masterbate
It is extremely dangerous to be posting your information on the internet. You are a minor, You are legally by law too young to consent to sexual intercourse. NEVER post information like this on the web as it could get in the wrong hands. The internet is the #1 place where phedophiles, rapest and killers find their prey. Do not put yourself in the place if a victim.