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Would a true Jehovah's Witness abandon his pregnant girlfriend?
I'm pregnant. He doesn't want the baby, although he hasn't talked about adoption or abortion with me. He has purchased some fuckbuddy of his an abortion in the past though. He is a disfellowshipped Jehovah's Witness who is trying very hard to get back to his congregation. He goes to all the meetings, etc. But obviously, he doesn't show remorse, so he has not been reinstated. (He was disfellowshipped in the first place for running an escort agency, cheating on his ex who was his fiance with more than 50 women over a period of 4 years, excessive drinking, stealing a computer from someone in his congregation, and some other things I cannot recall.) I am pregnant, and now he is casually dating other girls, he took my keys and removed me from his lease, refuses to give me my cat, and does not even call or email or text. How can someone who claims they are a Jehovah's Witness do something like this? He used to rag on me because I am agnostic, I was raised Catholic but I have my doubts about religion in general, so I like to keep it simple and just follow the basic principles of most religions. Such as don't harm others, honesty, don't steal, honor your parents, etc. However, I choose to ignore specific things that the bible teaches...such as "harming your body because it's a temple" I don't care that I smoke cigarettes (leave me alone, it's a personal choice and legal vice), I don't care that I have tattoos, (they're not offensive or blasphemous tattoos anyway), etc. Or other specifics that Christian denominations adhere to...such as people being gay. (I don't care if my neighbor is gay, if he's not posting gay porn on his door for all to see, I don't care. Who does it harm?) My ex will not smoke a cigarette or get a tattoo, because it's what his religion tells him, and he is FIRM on these things. He talks bad about gay guys at his place of employment, and says they are definitely going to hell. But, the bible says a man who doesn't take care of his family is worse than a nonbeliever in God. So what gives with this guy? I personally don't think he is a follower of Christ, what do you think? And from a non religious stance, what would make a guy feel okay with abandoning his girlfriend and baby?
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Whether not he would be ready or not would you even want someone like this around your child? This guy is nothing but an arrogant asshole.
If this is your cat then you need to go to the police and explain your situation. If you decide to keep this child I would be fighting for full custody. If you really want my 2 cents then consider adoption and cut rhis fuckard out of your life.
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In my opinion, I think this guy isn't ready to be a father because he probably lacks the MATURITY for the job. If this guy is giving you a hard time about this baby and he's doing all this stuff to you, then maybe it's time for you to move on. Maybe stay with your parents or a close relative or a best friend until you can get back on your feet.
Your beliefs and his beliefs just aren't compatible because he criticizes you for yours. So I think it's time to leave him. But this is entirely your choice.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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Your ex boyfriend is clearly a hypocritical peice of shit.
He was also clearly a hypocritical peice of shit long before you got pregnant.
But who the hell cares if a bunch of people you ask online declare him "Not a follower of Christ" or a "Not a True Jehovahs Witness". I understand you are angry with him, but you have way, way bigger fish to fry than trying to label this guys religiosity and to declare he doesn't really believe shit that you, also, don't believe.
Call the police about your cat. If the cat is yours and you can care for it, the police may be willing to get back for you without you getting a lawyer involved.
Then you need to decided what YOU are going to do about your pregnancy. Clearly, he has opted out of being an adult about it, so the decision lies entirely with you. Once you have chossen what you are going to do, talk to a lawyer to protect your choices, and if necessary, your child.
I understand your angry and it's fair to be pissed the fuck off with this dirtbag, but you waste valueable time and energy when you obsess over his twisted religious beliefs, which are obviously basically meaningless even to him. So let it go and focus on the stuff that gets you a better path, rather than whatever crap is going on with him.
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