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Talking Online: I feel like I can never get my innocence back.
I'm a girl , 17. So I talked to someone online tonight, and it started completely innocently. I didn't give any of my details out to him and we had a genuinely nice conversation. I don't know why, but the conversation started getting more sexual and it got reasonably full on (it wasn't his fault I kind of started it) - I guess I was feeling lonely?
Now afterwards I'm really regretting it and I feel really disgusting, like unclean. I feel like I've wasted my first time at something like this, and I basically feel like a bit of a slut. I've always thought people that do stuff like that are disgusting but now I feel like it myself. I don't want this to overtake my mind all the time because I feel guilty about it. I feel like I can never get my innocence back, how pathetic is that.
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Hey!
This happened to me recently-I'm 17 too as well.
So it was on this website...I'll just say it as ppl always talk about facebook on here-girls ask guys.
Its weird, because you get an account and ask an innocent question, and then random guys from the other side of the world add you, and talk to you about sex.
You were right to not give away too much info about yourself. At first, I made a complaint about being sp
oken-or typed to in such a rude way, but then I realized-this is just the nature of sites like this.
You shouldn't feel guilty about it-at the time you felt like you wanted to have a full on conversation about sex-well you're a teenage girl-we cant be expected to think pretty all the time as its unrealistic.
My advice would be to not feel ashamed of yourself, and to not worry about it-as you can't change anything about what you typed that time, so its no use overthinking it.
If the person still makes you feel uncomfortable, then block him/her.
I dont know about you but I never worry too much about something that at the time I was comfortable with. You're still innocent-you have your dignity and self respect as you didn't type anything to reveal your identity. Dont worry!
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Hey! Come on mate! Words like guilty, unclean, disgusting and slut are simply out of place here. You've chatted sexy with a stranger on-line. It's no more than enjoying a raunchy fantasy in your mind. It's just a way of dealing with some strong feelings and urges, playing them out. Nice at the time, right? But when the heat's off you feel a little bit...you know?? Your human. It's 100% safe, 100% controlled and a completely harmless way to 'let off steam' as it were. Just like dreaming up a (usually far-fetched & ridiculous) way to get even with your boss when he gives you a hard time at work. Relax mate, slut you are NOT!! Disgusting...? Hardly appropriate when you think about it, is it?? Don't beat yourself up over it. I bet your net partner was thinking 'Wow...what a sexy babe she sounds'...and enjoyed it. Of course, don't EVER give details out It's a harmless 'fantasy' thing but reality can be very different.
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You learned you're lesson
You didn't loose your innocence, You didn't actually have sex.
Now feeling ashamed is normal. Would you go ahead an have sexual intercourse with a complete stranger? I would hope not.
From now on do not allow the conversation to go beyond a casual hi how are ya type of thing, If it does then end it.
Yeah it is a bit weird to type up a full blown sexual conversation with someone you never met before and know nothing about.
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