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ok im almost 15 and i only have a 34A... i hate it. I heard that if you sleep with no bra on at night your boobs will grow faster because the bra isnt there... but i dont know... and i also herad that moving your arms in circular motion everyday will also increase the size... my mom has big boobs.. why cant i!!!!?

You are young yet my friend. You may have them very soon. I cannot sleep with a bra on. It won't hurt to sleep in it, but you would feel a whole lot better. Moving your arms in a circular motion won't help. You can try doing ab crunches to help support your upper body, but it really doesn't make that much difference. Be patient. They grow for a long time.

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I'm going into my freshman year in high school. What are some do's & don'ts for high school?

Don't get so hung up on boys that you ignore your schoolwork.
Do everything you can to get a scholarship.
Don't let other people determine how happy you are because of looks.
Do enjoy yourself every chance you can because you are only young once, but be careful
Do graduate from high school before becoming pregnant/getting married because college is way more fun than high school.
Do cherish every friend you have because you don't know when you won't have them again.
Don't wear too much makeup. It makes you break out.
Don't worry too much. Be yourself.

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Hey everyone 15/m here. Well as you can tell from my title, I just lost a special friend of mine. We used to go out for 3 1/2 months 'til she broke up with me and we've been pretty good friends since then, 'til today. All of this started cause I sent her a text message saying I had sex with another girl, but I really didnt. I just wanted to get an honest reaction from her. And of course she got mad...real mad this time. *sigh* If I knew this would have happened, I would never had done it. I talked to her about it tonight and the end result was that she didn't want anything to do with me, ANYTHING. So I told her if she really wanted it to be that way, I would get rid of all my contacts with her, and I did. I went from maybe getting back together with her(heavy emphasis on maybe), to being absolutely nothing in her life. She just means so much to me that I don't want to lose her, I still wanna marry her if I could. I love her, but I don't think she has any for me anymore. I basically cried my heart out again. Does anybody know what I could do to get her back? I don't wanna lose my angel. ='( Help me please...Life is meaningless to me right now without her.

All right. Here are my suggestions. One: send her some flowers and a nice note because you really messed up. Two: give her some space for a little while because she has to mull it over. You have broken her trust of you because you told a heinous lie. It takes a lot of time to forgive someone for that breach. Do everything you can to let her know that you will never lie to her again. Apparently she does care about you, but she is really angry.

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I have a large very sore lump on my head near my neck. I want to know what it is and if it is serious.

For piece of mind, go to the doctor. It could very well be a pimple, but the sooner you get it seen about the better you will feel. If it is something serious, the earlier you catch it the easier to cure.

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i'm 13 and all i ever want is to sing and listen to music. I really want to get alot better but besides lessons idk how. i just want to be a good singer that people want to hear.
how do i do that?

Joining the choir at school is a great idea. You might try finding a store that has karaoke. It provides you with the music and words, and you sing. You can get disks and machines at Wal-mart. They can be expensive or inexpensive. You can probably also join the choir at church. Tell your parents your interested, and they might be able to help.

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Im 16/f and i think im addicted to alcohol...whenever i see it i must have one...its really bad....ive been drinking for abotu two years now...and im always safe about it..i just ALWAYS want it...like if my rents go out for 15 minutes im in the cabinet taking out vodka...i really dont know what to do...

If you can, tell your parents. They won't be happy, but they are on your side. The first step is admitting you have a problem. None of getting rid of an addiction is easy, you are going to need help from everyone. Call Alcoholics Anonymous (http://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org)and they can help you get started.
Sometimes things get worse before they get better, so the best time to start the end is now.

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does anyone know any good web sites that share ideas to prank?

One of my favorite websites is cockeyed.com. They have a few pranks.

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does anyone know how to make the salsa dip not as spicy cause we bought extra spicy on accident and its wayy to hott!! do you think its ok to put sugar in it? ok well i hope someone knows how cause my mouth is on fire!!!!!

I would buy a jar of mild and mix it with the extra spicy. If you are on fire right now, milk usually helps ease the heat and your stomach.

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As far back as I can remember I have seen things that weren't there(i.e. people, birds and dogs nothing inanimate). These things never talk, they don't scare me or interact with me. I have never told anyone about this before so I don't know if anyone else sees these. I know this is some sort of mental thing, but does anyone have any idea what this actually is? It doesn't bother me but I would like to know what it is. Does anyone know?

You could have schizophrenia. You could innocently ask someone if they see a dog; they probably wouldn't freak out. Then follow up with oh he must have run away.
Are you taking any medicine that might cause you to aberrations like invisible things or things caught out of the corner of your eye?
I would suggest seeing a doctor. The only danger about seeing these things is if you try to avoid them while driving or performing some other dangerous task and hurt yourself. I would not worry too much, but telling someone may help you out in the future.

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Is it true that eating junk food can cause pimples?

Well, the jury is still out on that. At least try drinking more water because it helps get the impurities out of your body (and your skin). I think touching your face a lot can be more of a problem than junk food. The biggest problem I had with pimples is when I worry or am on my period.

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hi im a 12 year old girl and i was wondering when is a good time and age to get my 1st bra

also if u wear 1 does it help u get a bf or to get guys to stair more

Talk to your mom about when you think you should have a bra. I had mine in 4th grade so I was like 10 or so. I don't know that bras help you get boyfriend, but right now you are too young for boys. Boys are fun to look at, but there is a whole host of things that need to be considered.

There is nothing wrong with a trainer bra or a sports bra. You absolutely need to be sure to get the correct fitting bra or you can have back problems. There are many different types, and your mom or a female adult can help you decide. Somtimes it is trial and error. I used to wear elastic, then I changed to underwire, and now I like slick comfortable ones. There are also bras to wear with different items such as tank tops or dresses. It can be really overwhelming. Good luck.

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Ok, this guy I met at a party well he likes me and I like him and he told me this and he told me he wanted 2 get 2 kno me better and he also said that he wanted 2 b in a relationship w/ me but yesterday i got an email from him saying this girl he had a crush on 4 a long time asked him out and now they're going out. what should I do? should i email him back and say how i feel? help!!!!

Tell him how you feel. It is unfortunate that he likes another girl, but wow, an honest guy. He might come back around to you. Go find someone else or stay busy. If you love someone, set them free. If they come back to you, its meant to be.

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I cant decide between staying in dance (which ive been in for 11 years) ONLY, or doing sports. If I do sports I'd be doing water polo, swimming, track, and maybe the dance team at my school. I know thatd be fun too and I think thatd probly make me more popular too!!?? But also I love to dance. Im confused

Popular isn't the only important thing in the world. If you really enjoy dance that much, stay in it. Whatever you do, do it the best you know how. ON the oher hand it is hard to try new things sometimes, but it can pay off. Take a sheet of paper and list the pros and cons of taking dance and doing some other sport. Think about which one seems right. You will have to decide on your own.

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14 Male hmm I really need advise

If you got a friend that your really trying to be close to and this girl lets say wants to be close with you to only when shes mad she threatins to hurt herself and takes her anger out on you and everyday you bring up someone else she gets jealous and thinks your replacing her and gets mad at you for stupid stuff and says that it's all your fault at the end when you barly did anything wrong in the first place what do you do to try and make it work or try to fix the problem I mean how can you deal with someone like this should I let her go cause im afraid to cause she might go and kill herself she has tried before so I know she dosn't say it for attention...

Your friend needs help. She is seriously disturbed and likely suicidal. Tell an adult or her mom. She may be saying it because she knows she needs help.

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Okay so I went to my vollyball practice and Im new at it, and this guy just stares at me he's 15 and has dirty blonde hair, light blue eyes and is really nice to me , I missed the ball and he just came over after practice and interduced himself , we went to my house and talked and he showed me a few tips ,is this Mr Right or not???
Jenipher Plz answer!!!!

He's Mr. Interested. He's also Mr. Nice. Its way too early to find out if he is Mr. Right. You have to talk to him and spend some time with him to find out if you like him before he becomes Mr. Right.

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I'm 13, girl, and my best guy friend is moving tomorrow morning, and last night I w/bein a jerk, and I cussed him out. I have never made a worse mistake in my life. He's always been there for me always, and now he hates me. What do I do?

Apologize, and explain that you are upset because he is moving. Tell him you would like to keep in touch (computer, letters, anything) and that your really appreciate him. You will feel better.

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Hi thank you so much! I have another question, I have a best friend and she bosses my around. My other friend told my that she hates me. But when I ask her do you like me, she says yes. I don't know who to believe. PLEASE HELP!

Actions speak louder than words. She isn't respecting you by bossing you around. I would just ignore her for a while and turn my attention to another friend until she straightens out. You might also try talking to her. Ask her why she treats you like she doesn't like you. Name an example. Maybe she doesn't even realize it.

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I hate my frucking friends so much they r such assholes they all go 2 north n i go 2 central but we always hung out ever since elementry school. not 2 long ago my friends all started drinking at the beginning i used 2 go with them like every weekend n stuff it was mad fun. Now all of a sudden they have been hanging out with the "cool" kids from their school that drink and the past 2 nights 2 of my friends at parties at their houses and i wasnt invited! Lately i havent been invited anywhere n its fucked up cause whenever i make plans i make sure i invite every1 but last time i forgot 2 invite joe so he made tim call me n ask if he could go and of course i said yes even tho joe never invites me anywhere... well whenever i try 2 make plans wit my friends i ask them wut they r doin n they all say they dont kno n i try makin suggestions of things we could do n they go "idk" n shit n they never tell me that they have plans already n then tim sometimes tells me like oh i think we r goin to andrews call him i guess if u wanna go but i feel stupid callin him and askin him if i can go over cause its fucked up he shoulda called me in the 1st place hes always invited when i have ppl over...idk wut 2 do my friends r so fucking gay i have more fun hangin out wit my girl friends but my guy friends dont like some of them n the girls always want me 2 bring other guys but i got no1 to bring and i can never do anything i want 2 do like tonight i wanted to go to this club but my friends all say they dont dance n shit n they never wanna go but i love goin 2 clubs n shit and i never get to go n another thing the only things my friends ever do now is play poker drink and go bowling they never do anything else like ever and like everynight all they ever wanna do is drink cause they think they r so "cool" they r too "cool" for me now i hate them but i have no1 else!

Find new friends. They are going the wrong way down the wrong path. They don't even realize how boring they have become with their new obsession. Friends sometimes part because of a change of a point of view or the way they live their life. There are plenty of other people to learn and know that are more interesting.

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my brest are a 34a and im 16 do u think that i should get inplants if so y or if not y??

You are too young for implants. I would try some different bras if you want to enhance what you already have. It is more important that you like yourself for who you are.

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if you have sex, n then u go to the doctor can they find out?

Only if you are pregnant. The only other way was if they were going to look for evidence in a rape case.

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