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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.


I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.


Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.


Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.


I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.






advice

I am down and out.I havelost almosteverything that mattered to me in life and now I found out that i am sick very sick.
I have decieded that it would be better for everyone if i end my life
.I know all the reasons not to but the pain in both my body and mind are unbearable.
SO i need to know if there will be any help from the government for my exwife and sons when i do this.Please just tell me if there is someone for her to contact to help them thru this.
Thank you for any help

Let me tell you, man. The government may be able to do a lot of things, but they can't heal the hearts of your sons when they wonder why you killed yourself for the rest of their lives, and ask themselves if they are to blame.
In fact, NOBODY can.
It certainly won't make things better for your sons.

Even though you are sick, those questions will still likely rise in their minds. Along with "If I could have done something different..."

I'm sorry that you are feeling so low and that you are very sick. But your kids will be better off if you wait for your natural "time" to come.

I'm sorry you are in such pain, but during this time, I think the best thing you can do is try to spend as much time with your sons as you can, letting them know how much you love and cherish them.

Make THAT be what they remember for the rest of their lives. Make it be so they say to themselves "My dad was sick, and he hurt, but he loved me, and he never gave up."

Hang in there, fella. Do it for your kids.

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we do spend time without other friends too if we have the time. the others answer my question saying that she has some short of feelings for me. which i dont get. i ask them but no reply. so i just wondering what you thougt why they said that. two people said that.

They may have assumed you to be a guy asking? That is, if you are talking about people on the site. I have a paid account, so I can see that you are female, where as others can't see that often times important bit of info.
Other than that, I really have no clue why they would say that.

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Can anyone help me convince my parents to let me be me? They are like trying and telling me to live a decent life and doing what's proper for me to make me happy, but the problem is I don't like it! I wanna have fun and do what I wanna do. My style is emo by the way and my parents don't know that and I don't think I wanna tell them cause I don't think they will ever understand. Right now I'm trying to get a mohawk and color it blue but my parent's say no and I don't understand why. One, I don't care what people will think of me, and two just cause I'm looking like those teens that they see out in the streets doesn't mean I'm gonna be like them! And if I become one then it's their own fault. I mean not all teens are like that, there are some who have cool parents who let them do what they want and plus only reason I think they are out on their own is cause probaly their parents are probably like mine so maybe I should go out on my own if I have to. I just don't understand why my parents are like that. I know what they are doing think is gonna make me happy but it's not. I basically need help fighting for my independence and ways to convince them to let me have my god damn mohawk LOL. Sorry but I seriously want them to let me live my life my way. I'm already sixteen and I wanna live my life to the fullest and while I'm still young.

I don't know how to help you, but I'll tell you this much- You are ONLY 16. You still have a lot of young life to live to the fullest. May not seem like it now, but you do. I promise.

As for blue mohawks, I just don't know what to tell you. I used to dye my hair a rainbow of colors when I was your age, but my parents were cool with it. Some parents just aren't (yours being in that category.)

Best bet is to realize you only have 2 more years until you can go out into the world on your own. You can have a blue mohawk and a purple foomanchu if you want then.

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So the Bibble say not to have tatto's. I think that's because God dosnt want you to hide or ruin (or somthing like that) what he created. So why isnt it the same way with make up? Its still hiding what God created. Does anyone know why wearing make up is diffrent? All answers apreciated.

Well, tattoos are considered damaging your body, where as make up isn't permanent.

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what do you think autisim really is please be polite

I don't know what it is, but I have a cousin who is autistic. He's very quiet and distances himself from everyone else. He doesn't even speak when spoken to. I don't know what it is, but I know it's sad.

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some others say that she likes me...thats why she is doing that.i didnt get that when they anwser my question.

That she likes you? You mean like she has the hots for you or something? I don't know if that is the case.

From what you said, she is your best friend, and she's kinda sounding like she's maybe feeling a lack in closeness that best friends share?
At least that's what I gather from it.

That's why I say see if it helps to spend some time that is just the two of you. You don't like seeing her tired, and sounds like she may be doing that just to have that time with you that isn't shared with other friends.

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i go to class at 3 and my best friend waits for me when i arrive by the city bus. she hangs with me before my class starts and when it is done its only a hour class she waits for me when i am done and when i leave on the bus to go home. but her class is not till 5:30. she comes to the college to early just to hang out with me. i ask her "why" and she said "just to spend time with you we havent talk much" but we hang out every other weekend with friends. but she sometimes is sleepy and doesnt want to go to class. i just dont know why she cant just go home and sleep before her class starts. i like it when she does see me every mondays and wedesndays when i have my class but i want her to get her rest too. why does she do that?.

Well, if you hang out together with friends every other weekend, maybe she's trying to get some hang out time with just you?
It could help to try to plan something where you can do something together where it's just the two of you.

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My boyfriend is 23 years old, 5'10" and about 150 pounds. He really wants to gain weight, and so far nothing has worked. I cook him healthy fatty meals like veggies and nuts and avocado, but he also eats fast food once a day and other very high fat unhealthy choices. He also drinks at least a half gallon of whole milk a day. For a while we were keeping track of his calorie intake and most days it was between 3000-6000. He works as a car mechanic and does not do any other physical activity after he gets home from work. We cannot understand why he does not gain weight! Please help.

You could try protein shakes.

Here is a link to some recipes:

http://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/proteinshakes.htm

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Hi,
So I am 15 and I am in high school and I get made fun of non stop now I know its not because Im fat because a girl that makes fun of me is fat also and I know its not because I have glasses because I just got contacts, I try to be nice to people and if they are nice to me Im nice to them, I would really like some advice on how to make people like me more thanks!!

Just be yourself. Keep on being nice to people.

As for the girl who's making fun of you, she knows it bothers you. That's why she continues to do it.

Coming from someone who was once in your shoes, either ignore her as if she doesn't exist when she speaks to you, or laugh at her when she says something rude. You know, like you think it's funny too. I always found that to be the best technique, considering they don't realize you are laughing at their foolishness rather than with them.

Just don't let her know she gets under your skin. No, no. She feeds on that.

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Why doesn't anyone give answers on this site if your gonna give advice don't give fuckin bs!

Well, I'm sorry if I've given you advice you feel is so terrible, but the best way to handle it is to rate the advice as it deserves, and if you feel you need to explain, there is an option to leave feedback.
You can also file an abuse report on bad advice.

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I haven't gotten my period in like four months, I haven't had sex so I'm not worried that I'm pregnant or anything like that. Last night I had some really bad cramps and all day today I've been going to the bathroom really often to pee and well I don't really pee a lot, or even at all, there's just this burning feeling down there. I don't know if this means I'll be getting my period soon or if it's something else.

Suggestions? Answers?

Well, it could be a urinary tract infection (UTI) but you need to be diagnosed by a doctor to get antibiotics.
You should go to your doctor anyhow, considering you haven't had your period in 4 months. It may be nothing more than the old teenage irregularity, but better safe than sorry.

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My a this guy are a little more than friends. I just found out few months ago got a girlfriend. Should I continue my relationship with him?

Put yourself in her shoes then ask yourself this question. Would you want you to continue this relationship? I highly doubt it.

Also, if he were to break up with her for you, 9 times out of 10 you WILL be in her shoes.

If it were me, I'd end it.

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One of my best friends is in the relationship i think is bad.He is going with a 16 year old girl whom he tells people 18 or 19. He is 22. First of all when he is around our friends he says things about her like "that b!@#$...." or "she's so stupid" But around her its "hey baby or sweetie" At the same time she has on her profile that she loves him very much but wishes he loved her the same. Just last night they were talking on the phone when he says here talk to (me) I froze I didn't want to talk to her. Dont get me wrong shes a sweet girl and all. I just don't think that they are right for each other. I don't want to say the wrong thing and ruin our great friendship.

Well, there is a way to go about showing your concern about this relationship without outright saying you don't thing they are right for each other.
He may tell his friends she's 18 or 19, but she isn't. She is only 16. Jail bait. He could be charged with statutory rape. Then he will have it on his permanent record that he is a sex offender. Not good.
At least, that's the route I'd go if I were in your place.

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13/F

I have no clue whether i'm bi, lesbian, or straight. It's weird, because I can remember liking guys. I mean REALLY liking guys, as in, my heart would beat like crazy if my crush walked by. I've gone out with a lot of guys too, but I have that problem about getting bored after a while. It seems as though my heart doesn't beat like crazy and my stomach doesn't get that tingly feeling anymore, and I miss it. I still will show off for certain guys and whatnot, but I don't feel that heartbeat thing anymore. For anybody. I don't know what this means. I'm not too fond of the idea of me being a lesbian (absolutely NOTHING against a lesbian. It'd just be weird and all of my friends are super homophobic) I've just never imagined myself that way. So, what are some signs of being lesbian or bi? Also, is there another thing that means you don't like any type? I mean, you're still friends with them but you just don't like LIKE them. Thanks :) please note that i'm NOT homophobic, if I sound that way. I'm just having a tough time typing up my thoughts.

Listen. You are only 13. Give yourself some time to mature a bit before trying to figure all this out. Try not to fret over it, because in due time you'll figure out what you want in this life.

If you do end up being into chicks and your friends are so homophobe that they can't accept it, then they aren't really friends to begin with.

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okay so im only 13 (f) but i really like, no, LOVE rap songs. not songs that like you cant make out the words and they sing really fast, but like the song "Low". Whenever my older brother plays his i pod i love to sing and dance to all of his kewl songs but he just calls me a dork. none of my other friends like the same kind of songs. Should i try to like the other songs or should i just listen to my songs when im alone?

Why should you care what everyone else thinks of your choice in music? Why should you hide it as if you are embarrassed by it?

Your older brother calls you a dork because he's your older brother. I have one of those, too, and I was always a dork in his opinion. That's just brothers for you.

If your friends are really your friends, they won't judge you by your choice in music. They accept that you like rap and they don't.

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ok so there's this guy at school that I really like. We went out on a few dates earlier during in the school year but the timing wasn't right and things didn't work out. We both dated other people who ended up playing us. Now we're starting to get close again and kinda talking about maybe trying "us" out again since we know what we want in a relationship from the bad ones we just had. I'm pretty sure he's trying to find a way to ask me to our school prom coming up. I really want him to but I don't want to seem pushy or anything. Does anybody have any ideas on how I can drop some hints without being very obvious? Some of our mutual friends are trying to find me a date. Should I tell them how I feel about him? Any advice would help! THANK YOU!!!

I agree that you should just ask him.

I mean, really. Tell him, "Look man, friends are hooking me up with a prom date, but I'd rather go with you if that's what you'd rather do, too."

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okay so i recently ran into this guy ian, me and him used to be great friends when we were little, it's been 7 years and now we both like eachother. we've been spending almost everyday togateher for the past two weeks and we're going out. but he suddenly stopped returning my texts and he's not calling when he says he will... so my question is why would he do this? we didn't get into a fight or anything and i don't think i did anything to piss him off and when i do talk to him he seems just as sweet and happy to talk to me as ever. so i don't know what's up, and i don't want to go to far out of my way trying to reach him because i don't want to seem clingy, my friend thinks that i haven't done enough to show him that i like him... i guess i haven't but i don't know what's going on... help?

You should talk to him about it. He may have valid reason for not returning your calls and texts. Maybe he's grounded from his phone and is embarrassed to say as much?
You never know. That's why you ask.

Communication is something that should be in a relationship from the get-go. Without it, what have you got? Not much.

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Ok I'm 16/f and I play club volleyball. I have a new coach this year and at first I though he was a little odd. After a tournament yesterday coach was sitting us all down one by one and talking to us about our play. I said I had to keep control of my positive outlook on the game and he says and I quote. "You just have to watch what you give. There are only two things in life you can give: your integrity and your virginity." Now at first I let that go cause I thought he was joking but the look on his face said otherwise. He was using all these youthisms about sex at the same time I just couldn't shake it off as something else. Now my coach is maybe 36 so I REALLY think that's just down right creepy.. so is he just putting his foot in his mouth to be hip, or is he just a creep?

Sorry about the length of the question,
Thanks

Well, it could be either of those things, or it could be that he's trying to teach you something other than just volleyball. Kinda weird, I will admit, though.

He is right that those are a couple things in life that only you can give away. I will admit that, too.

What I would do in your shoes? Tell your parents what he said. See what they think. Let them take care of the problem if there is one. I mean, if he's making you uncomfortable, you surely aren't the only one. This isn't something you should deal with on your own. If he's a pervert or something, adults need to take care of the problem.

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Ok so my boyfriend and i have been going out for 2 years and i have given him hand/blow jobs and he has fingered me. We love each other very much so. Now the other day we were at the gym for p.e or whatever, and i was spotting him while he was doing the bench press thing. And this kid walks up and goes "WOAH, dude you are packing"(why he was looking i dont know) and then he turns to me and goes "I bet you like that huh?" I turned bright red and i knew right then and there that by lunch everyone would know that i have given my bf a hand job. I havent even like told my friends because i don't want them to think i'm a whore.(yea they are kinda prude). So im really bad at lying so i can't deny it if someone does find out and asks me. My boyfriend feels really bad about it because he hasn't told anyone either and the kid is his friend. He's trying to get the kid not to tell but i don't think that he will keep it a secret. I mean i don't regret anything i've done with him, i just don't want the whole school to think i'm a slut, like not talk to me. Im sure im not the only one who has done that and im posotive some have done worse, but they can lie.

What should i do?

14/f

Well, there is no need to lie. If someone comes up and asks, tell them that it is your personal private business. It is certainly none of their business.
See, everybody knows if a person is a whore or a slut, because it is made obvious. A respectable woman keeps such intimate things between her and her man.
And I'd tell them that much, too if they try to say that you are a whore.

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okay, i need some help. for the past month [february] me and my boyfriend had unprotected sex about, 4 times. we were VERY careful. he pulled out and whiped it about 2 times during sex and pulled a while before he was gonna cum. it's not 3/3-3/4 and i haven't got my period this month. i feel crampy and mood, but everytime i think it's coming it's just discharge! is it messing with my head? or could i really be pregnant? please help me, i'm scared and have nobody to talk to and can't tell my mom! help!

Here's another good site with early pregnancy symptoms:
http://www.whattoexpect.com/pregnancy/ask-heidi/week-4/pregnancy-signs.aspx

Cramps are not a sign of pregnancy. My GUESS would be that is PMS, and you are stressing causing your period to be late. That is a GUESS, because you have put yourself at a high risk for pregnancy.

Now, like everyone has said, take a test. Best bet is to wait for your period to be late 2 weeks. I'm assuming you are a teen, and your period is not likely regulated.
2 weeks gives plenty of time for you to be sure it isn't coming, and give your body plenty of chance to have enough pregnancy hormone to show up in your urine if you are in fact pregnant.

You do have someone to talk to. Just like YG said, you need to talk about this with the boyfriend. Yah, he may get scared, but you know what? He needs to be as scared as you, right along with you. He is half responsible for your worries.

If you aren't pregnant, use condoms. Not only do they protect you from pregnancy, but they protect you from STDs. If you feel old enough to be having sex, you need to be mature enough to get in the habit of protecting yourself.
If you can't afford them, the health department tends to hand them out for free.


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