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Hello! I am studying esthetics at an Aveda Institute after spending years in retail. I am proof that nothing turns out how you think it will, and that's a good thing. When you think you've got it figured out, you don't. Life would be boring otherwise, right?
Makeup, skincare, and psychology are my passions and I'm also happy to give advice on relationships, particularly for teenagers (so many things I wish I could have told myself a decade ago!) I'm happy to help fellow abuse survivors as well.
I'm a diehard SF Giants fan and also enjoy watching the Sharks and Niners. Addicted to music, especially The Gaslight Anthem. Oh, and my name is Krista. :)

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15/f

ok im like way to tall. im 5'7 and only 15. i hate being tall everyone else is shorter and im taller than everyone. from christmas last year till school was out in may i growed like 3 or 4 inches. some days i will stand next to my mom and i will look shorter. other days i will stand by her and ill be taller. we are on the same level ground and standing the same way and everything. am i going to grow anymore and is there any change of me getting shorter at all?!

thanks.

Look, honestly, 5'7 is not really tall. I'm 5'9 and most people don't think I'm that tall (people are a lot taller in high school, especially guys, so that helps). I know girls who are over 6 feet.
That having been said, no, you will not get shorter. But hey, being tall is a good thing! Trust me...
- Longer legs (guys like)
- Shows less when you gain weight
- Guys like tall girls
- Look better in clothes, especially pants

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So..wat are some healthy snacks that won't make you get hungrier after you eat them??
16/F * Skyla *

- Part skim string cheese
- Fat-free yogurt
- Chicken, anything with protein
- Fruits and veggies w/ dip
- Crystal Light packet with water, the water fills you up. Try the lemonade kind, I hate sugar-free things (even like diet sodas) and to me it tastes like regular lemonade.

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I'm on my school's newspaper and I have to interview the fall play director. What kind of questions should I ask him? Not just the basic 'When is it? What is it about?' etc., but something that high schoolers will want to read and then want to go to the play. Thanks!

- Why would teens like this play?

- Why did you choose this play?

- Were there any problems during rehearsals?

- What was the hardest part of directing this play?

- What was the best part?

- Why do you recommend this play?

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what is the best smelling perfume that is sexy/sweet?

like calvin clien, paris hilton, chanel, whatever

Britney Spears Curious smells pretty good.

Bath and Body Works Tropical Passionfruit is my absolute favorite, and guys love the way it smells. It's cheap, too.

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I have this like obsessive thing about someone like jumping our fence and like knocking on the back door. It freaks the hell out of me, and I turn on the alarm for the house. I babysit at night for my little brother, and my dad doesn't like to have lots of lights on, so I have our two lamps on, and the dining room light dimmed. I don't know why I get so freaked out, maybe it's the whole Kelsey Smith thing, even though that happened awhile ago, and it was at Target. I remember watching the news the same day that the whole Kelsey Smith thing started, and they also said that there had been some break ins about 30 minutes away from the area that I live in.. why am I so freaked out? I go to the kitchen to make my brother's milk, and I have like this feeling that there's like someone on the deck, watching me. I know that might sound weird to you, but I don't know why I'm acting like this.. I guess it all started when my brother grew up (He's like 19 months old) and my mom wanted me to watch him from 4-10 (my dad and my mom work nights).

We have a small rectangular window above the kitchen sink, so when I'm doing the dishes, I do this thing where I glance up and look out the window, and think that someone's there..

What's going on with me?

I used to be the same way.

What helped me was locking all the doors, having the dog in the house with me, turning all the lights on, staying downstairs, and turning on the TV to a funny show. A few months ago I used to be really scared to stay home alone, but now I've gotten used to it. Just train yourself, sounds weird I know.
Also, twice I honestly thought there was someone in my backyard (there wasn't) so I took the phone, my ipod, and a book and sat in the garage and in front of my house until my parents came home. Trust me, you'll get over this. I never thought I would.

Kristen
16/f

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I love using black eyeliner. I dont do it very dark or anything though. However after like not even like 15 minutes its already wearing/comming off and smudging. Any suggestions or any brands that work all day long? No links please! thanks :]

What you need is waterproof eyeliner, it has more wax so it stays on better.

Try Avon Glimmersticks or Revlon Colorstay.

You could also try liquid liner or wearing a makeup sealer such as Benefit's She-Laq.

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I'm usually really good with cravings but willpower is a b*tch sometimes and it's hard.

What's the best way to avoid cravings coming? And if they're inevitable, what's the best way to not give into them?

Substitution is always the best way. That, and do your best to remove all potential cravings from your house.

Examples
Frozen yogurt or sorbet instead of ice cream
Emergen-C Drink Mix instead of soda or juice
Flavored water instead of fruit juice
Mineral water instead of soda
A small handful of baked pita chips instead of potato chips
Low-fat mayo, sour cream, cream cheese
Fat-free yogurt with honey or applesauce with cinnamon sugar instead of cookies

I used to eat half a box of cookies at a time, but I started chewing sugarless gum (I recommend Orbit and Stride) and it's helped a lot.

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I know this isn't really asking for advice, but the last few days I was just thinking about this and wondering why the people here joined.

I guess it is just out of pure curiosity. I would have just posted this in the moderator forum or in the supporter discussion, but I'd rather see why everyone joined rather than just those who have been here for some time and such.

So, why did you join advicenators and why are you still here? What about the site made you want to stay?

I'll probably be one of the first people to answer this (I'm not going to answer it in the question).

S_C

:]

I've been on this site for about 3 years. I either saw it on Bored.com or Spacefem.com, I really can't remember.

At first, I tried way too hard, then I went through kind of a harsh phase. I've seen the site change a lot, mostly good changes. I love this site for a lot of reasons. The people are great, and it's always changing. I also used to love the sense of community, although that's pretty much gone now. I'm on here because I don't know what to do without it, lol. Advicenators has really become a big part of my life. When I got banned from the site for a few days, it was really upsetting because I'm constantly on here.

Eventually, I'll leave, probably when I graduate and no longer have time, but this will always be one of my favorite places online.

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any sujjestions??

Addicted- Kelly Clarkson
Haunted- Kelly Clarkson
My Immortal- Evanescence
When You're Gone- Avril Lavigne
Hurt- Christina Aguilera
Goodbye My Lover- James Blunt
You're Beautiful- James Blunt

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I'm thinking of going to the Damone Roberts salon to get my makeup done for the dances but I'm wondering if the makeup artists are going be snobby since it is a high class place. Whenever I try to get my makeup done or if I want to buy makeup, the make artists are usually mean to me and they make me feel like I'm never going to be pretty since they would usually point out my flaws.

No, they're getting paid to do your makeup so they can't afford to be rude. Like the person below me said, go in with confidence. If they are mean to you, get up and walk out. Yes, I'm serious. You shouldn't pay to be insulted.

And yes, Damone is absolutely amazing, but keep in mind that you will probably not get your makeup done by him personally.

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ok so im 13 going into 8th grade & i've never had a boyfriend. im not ugly im acutally pretty but im just really tall. im 59 & i know if i was shorter i'd be able to get a boyfriend but now they're all short, & my uglier freinds even get boyfriends before me.. what should i do?

EDIT: Yeah, I know, those are just examples. Boys are usually shorter than girls in middle school. Of course there's always older guys ;)

I'm the same height and I've had plenty of boyfriends. Believe me, your height is not the problem. If you feel like you're taller than all the boys, just wait a year. When you get to high school there will be tons of guys your height and taller.

Your problem might be anything else. Never smiling, wearing skimpy clothes, being too loud, having really bad posture- the best thing to do is ask one of your friends what you need to work on.

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I entered in the contest on sugarloot to audition for the Clique Movie, and I was wondering if I was good. I mean i'm confused because some girls on that website showed no emotion or interest in winning whatsoever and they are getting rated better. I really tried to act like a nervous Claire. Do you think I have a chance of winning? I can't take off my entry because already alot of people have rated this one and it would be a bad idea to take it off. What is your honest opinion about me?

http://www.sugarloot.com/entry/232143834

Keeping in mind that I've never read the book, but I'm an actress...

I think you over-acted, like the person below me said. You need more motivation for your gestures, they seemed kind of random, and your voice was really whiny, not nervous. I would try again if you can. Good luck!

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wat song goes
"as we move on, we remember"
like it was sung at a gradutation and it was so sad

That's probably "Graduation(Friends Forever)" by Vitamin C.

Lyrics:

And so we talked all night about the rest of our lives
Where we're gonna be when we turn 25
I keep thinking times will never change
Keep on thinking things will always be the same
But when we leave this year we won't be coming back
No more hanging out cause we're on a different track
And if you got something that you need to say
You better say it right now cause you don't have another day
Cause we're moving on and we can't slow down
These memories are playing like a film without sound
And I keep thinking of that night in June
I didn't know much of love
But it came too soon
And there was me and you
And then we got real blue
Stay at home talking on the telephone
We would get so excited and we'd get so scared
Laughing at ourselves thinking life's not fair
And this is how it feels

[1] - As we go on
We remember
All the times we
Had together
And as our lives change
Come Whatever
We will still be
Friends Forever

So if we get the big jobs
And we make the big money
When we look back now
Will our jokes still be funny?
Will we still remember everything we learned in school?
Still be trying to break every single rule
Will little brainy Bobby be the stockbroker man?
Can Heather find a job that won't interfere with her tan?
I keep, I keep thinking that it's not goodbye
Keep on thinking it's a time to fly
And this is how it feels

[Repeat 1]

La, la, la, la:
Yeah, yeah, yeah
La, la, la, la:
We will still be friends forever

Will we think about tomorrow like we think about now?
Can we survive it out there?
Can we make it somehow?
I guess I thought that this would never end
And suddenly it's like we're women and men
Will the past be a shadow that will follow us 'round?
Will these memories fade when I leave this town
I keep, I keep thinking that it's not goodbye
Keep on thinking it's a time to fly

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Yeah! So the title means what is going on in your life. Often times it makes me feel better when I read that other people have problems and that I'm not the only one who is going through a dark and lonely stage. Okay so what are you going through? I would really love to know how life's been treating you even if you're happy. I really want to know. Please don't get offened by my question.

I'm not going to answer this question but I have a recommendation. Reading books about people with problems may help you, even if you don't like reading. Try these:

Cut by Patricia Mccormick
Crank by Ellen Hopkins
Burned by Ellen Hopkins
Impulse by Ellen Hopkins
Smack by Melvin Burgess
Go Ask Alice by Anonymous
Pure by Rebbecca Ray
Candy by Luke Davies
Beauty Queen by Linda Glovach

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17/f
I was dating my boyfriend for about a year and half when he cheated on me. He didn't just kiss another girl or hang out with her but he had sex with her at a party after we had had a fight. He didn't even tell me and i had to find out from the girl herself. She didn't even know i was hius girlfriend and she asked me to give him his ring back.( the ring was a promise ring we gave to eachother awhile ago) up until this happened i thought i could spend the rest of my life with him. I haven't talked to him since but he is always with my brothers. I just don't know if he went so far that i should throw away everything we had. Where is the line of going to far to be forgiven? Do i just give up and say let's be friends?

If he cheated on you like that, he's gone way too far and you have nothing together. This will sound harsh, but a guy who does that doesn't really want you, and you certainly don't deserve a jerk like that. The girl obviously want shim for herself, that's why she asked you to give his ring back. And really, she deserves him. Maybe she didn't know he had a girlfriend, but she wasn't going out with him either.

You need to move on from this guy, he's no good for you. I don't even recommend being friends with him, he will probably try to make you feel guilty. Ask him why he did it. If he was drunk or has a really valid excuse (being on drugs, not "my cat died") then you could consider giving him a second chance. But there are tons of great guys out there that won't do that to you, and you deserve one of them.

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ok so basically i am arab female. some of the stereotypes of not being as "liberated" as the women of the west do apply to this question and my circumstances:

well i am not supposed to have a boyfriend ...etc. its in my culture. and i never did! and i am totally fine with that.....but i lied...... i told my new "friends" when i moved towns that i did just to fit in and not seem like a weirdo (since i moved countries) .... it made me look wiser and more experienced... and well... liked.....thing is i regret lying about that and i don't know what to do.

if i tell my friends they'll be in shock coz they trusted me. i'll look like a stupid fraud (i know i know... who cares what people say).... and if i didn't somehow i know it'll get to my mother and father. if i tell them first no education -period- for me.

aside from those lies i hung out with a crowd that in my home country would be considered bad and unacceptable... oh and it included guys....now if i dealt with them in a different way i could have still saved the friendship... but since i kind of ignored the "rules" and bent them a bit ... well i sorta regret the image i created for myself... if my mom and dad find out i am gunna look like (in their eyes) a slut who accepts anything, a lier, irresponsible, careless, stupid, and not raised well..... a disappointment....

before anything though, i must say that really i feel guilty SOOO much that i am planning on leaving my life long dream in a philosophy major (since that is where that bad influence according to mom and dad is coming from) and am willing to reconstruct my image.... it hurts so much to leave the major but i guess i deserve this.... i should have seen it coming....

the problem is my brother and sisters know about this (i don't know how much they know or how...) and they don't believe a word i say anymore because of all the lies (i brought this onto my self i deserve this ) so my brother is sacrificing a great chance in building his career to come and live with me and sister so that to ensure i don't cause myself a destruction of my future and get us all sent back without a n edu (i feel like crap)....

my question: how can i keep my friends but restore all the limits and values i had eliminated, one? and prevent them from saying anything (they won't intentionally... but thinking as it is normal to them its normal to mention me and stuff and i am afraid within the community it;ll get to my family...) and two how can i prove myself to my family and fix what i can from the damage.... i really screwed up. and pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee don't tell me talk to my mum and dad it will not work,wher i come from talking to higher figures of authority is not conceivable..... and with my sibs they totally understand what i have to say but again its not enough to show them that i understand what i did..... i really want things to go back to normal... how do i get things back!!

i am doomed right??? :S :S :S :S :S :S

You're not doomed and you need to calm down.

For your friends, if they ask about the "boyfriend" tell them you broke up and you don't want to talk about it. Fix what you can and move on from what you can't fix.

Don't try to punish yourself. You have done nothing terrible enough to deserve leaving your dream behind. If you are unhappy you will possibly revert to your old behaviors. Move on, that's all. Tell your brother and sisters that you are sorry about the lies you told, that you were trying to fit in but you realize what a mistake it was and you will not do it again. Your brother most certainly does not need to move in with you, do your best to make sure he doesn't. Tell him your sister will let him know if you do anything wrong. Now just change your behavior. Tell yourself that it won't happen again. Focus on school and your dream, prove to your parents that your major is not the problem. Many people go through a phase like yours and come out of it fine.

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I have my first interview ever tomorrow and I'm REALLY nervous. Does anyone have any interview tips? Like, what should I expect in going into an interview? What kinds of questions will they ask me?

Thanks!

First of all, take a deep breath and calm down.

- Wear something nice. Close-toed shoes and nothing low-cut, short, and no tank tops. Wear a nice blouse and either a shirt or slacks with flats or close-toed heels. Put your hair back, out of your face and wear NATURAL makeup.

Now, they will probably ask you questions such as:

- Why do you want to work here?
(Example answer: This is one of my favorite stores. It seems like this job has a lot of great opportunities and is good for my strengths/is a good fit.)

- What are your strengths?
(Example answer: Working with people is my main strength, I'm a "people person". I'm also patient and a quick learner.)]

- What are your weaknesses?
(Use something positive: I'm a bit of a perfectionist. I can be overenthusiastic about things. etc)

Be calm, smile, look people in the eye. Shake their hand and act professional.

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Ok, so for school, i'm an 8th grader. I'm in something called WEB, Where Everyone Belongs, and we help the incoming 6th graders feel more welcome and less intimadated by our school. So we have to take the 6th graders on a tour of our school, but we have to dress up in a theme. EI; Pirates, or spys. A lot of my friends are doing pirates, so there going to buy their group eye-patches. I would love to do something original, that not many people are doing, but i want to keep the supplies cheep, because we have to buy what the 12 6th graders in our group wears...

Any ideas of what we could be?? It doesnt have to be like a person, I was thinking of doing a Hawaiian theme, but i wasnt sure if the boys in my group would like to wear lays, and flowers.

Thanks soo much in advance! Anything will help!

~Abbey Rogan

I did WEB too :). My group was Jailbirds themed. We bought plain white shirts and put black stripes on them, handcuffs, and chained them together to form a chain gang. It was pretty cheap, and we dressed as cops.

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whats good stuff to put in a beach bag?

- A cami to put over your swimsuit

- A towel

- A beach mat

- Sunglasses

- SPF 30 or higher for your face

- Other sunscreen for your body (I love Neutrogena Ultra Sheer)

- Lotion

- Leave in conditioner

- A ziplock bag with powder and lipgloss

- A comb or brush for your hair

- A book or magazine

- Ipod and cell phone in a ziplock bag

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17/female.
I've been feeling really different for the past few weeks.
- I can't focus. Its like I see everything in front of me but its like I'm in a dream. Sometimes I get this feeling when I'm driving, like I can't focus on the road. Then when I went for my college orientation, they handed us the schedule forms I just stared at it for like fifteen minutes, no joke.
- I've been having this depressed feeling. Its mostly at night when I watch TV or I'm trying to sleep.
- I've been pretty emotional too. Things that wouldn't usually get me all teared up do now.
- Its been hard to sleep some nights. Other nights I'm fine. But I usually feel like I don't get enough sleep & I'm always tired.
- I'm hardly around my friends anymore. When they call and ask me to hang out, I make up some excuse why I can't go. But its usually because I don't want to go. I've been around one person mainly in the past maybe 2-3 weeks.
That's basically it. Other than that I've been happy & energetic. All that just seems to come at random times. But if anyone knows what might be wrong, any input is appreciated. Just as long as its not mean or stupid.. I just want to know what this might be. Thanks.

Keeping in mind that I am not a doctor, it sounds like you may be clinically depressed (being happy and energetic is a temporary "up" that many depressed people experience). Depression can happen for no apparent reason. I recommend seeing a counselor. If for whatever reason you're uncomfortable with that, talk to a friend or family member.

Part of the problem is that you're sitting around. Get enough sleep, sleep late, then call friends and make plans. Even if you feel like you don't want to, force yourself. I promise it'll make you feel better, and you'll be distracted from feeling bad.

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