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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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The other day I did about 25 situps and now my stomach in the abdomen area is sore. Is this normal??

Thanks ahead of time. (link)
It is. Especially if you haven't done them before. Start a little slower. I know it will take longer to achieve your goal...but it won't hurt near as badly. :)


about 2 weeks ago i was fooling around with my bf and some sexual things happend. we didnt have sex but he came, and it might be possible that it got "down there " sort of. My period has been 2 weeks last but it was late when i was fooling arounf with my bf. do you think its possible thtat i am pregnent without even having sex because some way some how like if it was on his fingers or something that i could be pregent? or is my period just really late. I havent had any signs of hurting boobs or anything like that.. so im just wondering. because ive been worried. thank you. =] (link)
It could be your late because of the stress of worry. Here is a website though that has sympoms of pregnancy to look for. Good luck. :)

http://www.coolnurse.com/pregnancy.htm


Sometimes i get a white/clear discharge in my underwear, well more like everyday. is this a sign of a Std? (link)
No it is very normal. Nothing to worry about. :)


hey there tis kid.hes lately been talking to me more than he used .he looks at me and makes me laugh.he likes to know stuff about meand tells me stuff about him.but his loud and i would think he does this with every one.does he he like me (link)
Sure sounds like he does. Keep talking to him if you're interested and maybe he will ask you out soon. :)


I probably just figured out every girls dreaded nightmare. I'm pregnant now. Im only 16... my family is abusive. My town is no place to be raising a baby. There is no one I can go to .... only my boyfriend cares. He really does. He isn't the hit and run type. He's going to drive me away... we'll have to get a place to live... he's saved up some money. I have NO choice but to leave... but can anyone just tell me some things I need to know to raise the baby right? (link)
I got pregnant at a young age too. You have a tough road ahead for awhile, but it isn't impossible to raise a good kid! Raising the baby won't be so hard. Living day to day might be. Things aren't cheap. First of all take care of yourself now. See a doc as soon as you can so you get good prenatal care. Come back and ask baby questions as they come up. All are different ans most is just common sense. Here is a website that has some links for you that may come in handy. Let me know how it goes for you. Best of luck...it will be an adventure. :)

http://www.coolnurse.com/pregnancy_articles.htm


ok what would happen if i like a 19year old and i am 13 years old and my mom and dad know abut him and i known him all my life and hes like my brother and both of our parnets kno we are going out would he still get charged for sagitory rape? (link)
until you are 16, if you have sex with him the possibility exosts that he could get charged. All is well now, but the thing is if he had a falling out with mom and dad or you should get pregnant or something, it is possible. Probably won't happen...but legally it could


Hey
=( I really dont like my stepmom. I dont necessarily HATE her but i strongly dislike her. My dad & her had an affair. I love my mom so much. I live with her mainly. shes like my best friend && we are really close. So My step mom really hurt my mom, me and my whole family life! She barely talks to me. Shes just not very nice. Sometimes she acts too nice like in a fake way & it drives me crazy. I like my dad but we are not all that close because of the divorce. i Hate going over to my dads because of my stepmom & just being around lies. My step brother & step sister dont even know the whole truth. What should I do? I give 5's. (link)
How horrible. Divorce is a terrible thing but it happens all the time these days. The thing is...It doesn't usually happen unless there are problems in a relationship. Adults don't usually have an affair if they are happy at home. As kids that isn't always noticed or even understood. It isn't your moms fault either, she just married the wrong guy I guess. So really, this step mom you have is no worse than your dad is. They both hurt your family and both are to blame. If your dad wanted to stay bad enough though he wouldn't have been manipulated.

Just be polite. You don't have to be friends with her. I have had three of the darn things and that's about all you can do. Be polite because she is dads wife. I don't think mom will be mad if you do this (if that is a worry). She will understand. The step mom is just trying to be nice too...even though you see through it. At least she isn't being nasty and mean to you. Those are the worst kind. Good luck. :)


OKAY......so my friend (carley)likes this guy A LOT (chris) but he already had a girl friend (emily)..............but heres the thing.....hes only going out with her bc he knows that she will do stuff with him.....and shes only going out with him for the same reason even though she likes OTHER guys @ the same time.......(they have been together for only a week now)

when we went to the movies carley and chris were soooo flirting and he was always looking @ her and stuff......and it was SOOO obviouse that they had a thing for eachother....

but he STILL has a girlfriend....what should carley do?? should she tell chris? and possibly ruin her friendship with emily.....

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I think she should just wait it out. If they are only dating for other "stuff", I predict it isn't going to last long. Since Carley probably flirts back he may already have an idea she might like him. If she says something and they break up...she will forever be the bad guy. Tell her to wait. :)


Which is the best way to get in touch w/ a guy?

Call
Email
in person
pass by in the hall n hand him a note

its nothing personal i just want to know what you think. (link)
I think in person. I think you really get to know someone that way. You can read their feelings about what you say, and you can better tell if they like you. The other things are great too...but in person is still the best. :)


so i have this friend....
shes a great person and all but she doesnt take very good care of herself...for example...

*she has body odar but she doesnt seem to know
*she doesnt brush her teeth, only mouth washes..
*she will wear the same pair of pants for 2 weeks in a row (but she has like 10 pairs of pants)
*she weill go and work out than come home and eat ice cream....

how do i tell her that thease arent healthy for her and she should change her routine? (link)
Wow. That's a tough one. You really need to say something as nicely as you can without hurting her feelings. My guess is she just hasn't been taught very well. Maybe you could try doing a "make over" on her just for fun. While doing it say encouraging things. Like maybe...this is the best deodorant. Guys really love the smell of this perfume. It smells really good on you. This toothpaste is great...have you tried it. Why don't you wear these pants and this shirt together tomorrow, theses the nest day...Explain how eating ice cream is undoing all those calories she just worked so hard to burn off. Use your imagination. Try to make her feel really good about the changes you make in your makeover. Bring some make up along and experiment yourself so she doesn't feel picked on. Hope it helps. Sorry I rambled on. :)


'We'll be going to Davy Jones' locker'. What does that mean?Is it like kicking the bucket? Who's this Davy Jones anyway? (link)
Davy Jones locker is the bottom of the sea.

Davy Jones is sailor slang for evils of the ocean.


I live in Indonesia and my school makes all the students get tested for TB aka tuberculosis. I got mine done, at about 9:30. When I look at my friends' tests, they have a little bubble on it, and your supposed to get that if you dont have it. I know that you don't get the results instantly and its already 6:30 now.. On mine, you just see the scar from where they inserted it and it's got a very very light circle of red around it. Do you think I might have it?? Or should I give it some more time? (link)
Redness does not mean you have a positive result.
Here are some websites about the whole thing. Hope they help with your worries. :)

http://www.mckinley.uiuc.edu/health-info/tests/tubertes.html

http://www.tuberculosis.net/faq.htm


hey, im thinkin about switchin to tampons and i have one question. do you have to change your tampon every time you go to the bathroom (like every time i go pee)? (link)
No you don't. Here is more info on tampons for you to check out. I'm sure you will have more questions and these sites will help a lot. :)


http://www.tampax.com/en_us/pages/ques_main.shtml?pageid=tp0002&=1



http://www.dr-ann.org/index/results.asp?keyword=Tampons


Hi,

I am over a week late on my period but I don't know yet if I am pregnant. My bf and I use condoms all the time now and the couple times we haven't I have had a period since then. I know that condoms aren't one hundred percent effective always and I have been having some symptoms of pregnancy but would I have them this early? If I am pregnant then I am only about a month then I guess...or less than that..Lately I have had this feeling of nausea in my throat but I don't get sick (vomit). And it's not really bad all day or anything. And the passed couple of days the smells of some foods have made me nauseous. It was simple foods too. The smell of a salad dressing, a taco, and fish. Things I normally like but at the time I couldn't stand the smell of:S Is there any other reason that I might have these symptoms besides being pregnant? I am only going to wait about another week or so and then go to the DR because if I am not pregnant I need to know what is wrong with me because I am usually pretty normal with my periods.

If anyone who has been pregnant has any input I would really appreciate it. I'll rate you.

Thanks (link)
There are a lot of symptoms that can be the same as those you'd have before getting your period. It could be a lot of things so don't panic yet. You really should check the nausea out if it doesn't stop. Here is a website on pregnancy and teens. It has all the symptoms and some 800 numbers...very informative. I hope it helps you out. :)


if you have ever had laughing gas like when you had stuff done on your mouth, can you tell me what its like please?! FAST (link)
They don't give you enough to make you laugh! You won't feel anything. It numbs you really good. :)


i'm a girl and i had a dream i kissed girls am i like a lesbian im really kinda freaked out!!


HELP I RATE HIGH!! (link)
No it doesn't mean you're a lesbian. Dreams are really weird and you have no control over them. Even if you were actually curious it wouldn't make you a lesbian. So, consider yourself normal. :)


Ok so i like my brothers friend...i am in 8th grade and he is in 10th...
*he ALWAYS says hi to me online
*when he comes over my house to chill with my brother he talks to me....
*he asks my dad about me and how i am doing in baskeball EVERYTIME he sees him
*he is always making sure i am keeping myself in line and not drinking or smoking or doing anything bad...
*he told my brother that he thinks im rly hot....

can anyone help me please and tell me if you think he likes me ?

xoxo-*Steph
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It sounds to me as if he does Steph. I think you should try and get him to talk to you longer. Seem really interested in what he is talking about so he understands you feel the same. If you do that is. :)


13/f is it normal to feel normal looking at some of the same sex naked but feel weird about looking at some naked of the opposite sex? i kno its sonfusing but im really freaked out cause there r pop ups on my computer with naked people and i dont care about the girls but the guys seem kinda grose to me....i am boy crazy tho...plz help me out! i rate high! (link)
Yes its normal. The girls are no mystery after all. The guys...well I'm sure the ones in the pop ups look a little intimidating to say the least! You are perfectly normal! :)


is it bad at the of 14 to wear under-wired bras?cause i heard that it is. (link)
No it is not bad to wear under wire bras regardless of your age. If you want to. If you have not worn them before...they can be uncomfortable. Sometimes the wire can rub on your skin and get very painful. Not a discouragement, just a FYI. :)


Okay, I'm on birthcontrol. But, when you're on bc do you have to use a condom? And can he cum inside you and you still be safe? I"LL RATE 5's!!! (link)
You are safe from pregnancy so long as you are on birth control. Of course nothing is 100%. BC does not however protect you from STDs. That would still be a reason to use condoms. And since some diseases (such as AIDS) are life altering if not deadly, condoms are still a good idea. You can get tested but the tests take time. :)




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