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Hey
=( I really dont like my stepmom. I dont necessarily HATE her but i strongly dislike her. My dad & her had an affair. I love my mom so much. I live with her mainly. shes like my best friend && we are really close. So My step mom really hurt my mom, me and my whole family life! She barely talks to me. Shes just not very nice. Sometimes she acts too nice like in a fake way & it drives me crazy. I like my dad but we are not all that close because of the divorce. i Hate going over to my dads because of my stepmom & just being around lies. My step brother & step sister dont even know the whole truth. What should I do? I give 5's. <33 xoxox PS. My step-mom manipulated my Dad to leave my mom. PPS. im 13/f
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well i would say to try to plan a small get together with your dad.
like call and say can i talk to you alone over like ice cream or something and maybe he'll go for it. and you can say your problems nicely. like dad i know you love (stepmom) but the reason i cant get close to her is because i just dont feel comfortable with her after the way that things happened during the divorce.
hope i helped. ^_^
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heyy. wow this was liek the same for me. my Ex step dad was such a prick. omgg i hated him so much. but it turns out that he cheated on my mom with another chick and there is more to the story but its WAYY too long. but there really isnt anything i can say to do. Just dont be liek mean to her. try being nice to her... if you dont want you dont have to start a convo. with her. but if she talks to you then dont be liek youre a bitch dont talk to me.. just answer her civily(sp?) haha. well i hope i helped. ♥ alese xoxo
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How horrible. Divorce is a terrible thing but it happens all the time these days. The thing is...It doesn't usually happen unless there are problems in a relationship. Adults don't usually have an affair if they are happy at home. As kids that isn't always noticed or even understood. It isn't your moms fault either, she just married the wrong guy I guess. So really, this step mom you have is no worse than your dad is. They both hurt your family and both are to blame. If your dad wanted to stay bad enough though he wouldn't have been manipulated.
Just be polite. You don't have to be friends with her. I have had three of the darn things and that's about all you can do. Be polite because she is dads wife. I don't think mom will be mad if you do this (if that is a worry). She will understand. The step mom is just trying to be nice too...even though you see through it. At least she isn't being nasty and mean to you. Those are the worst kind. Good luck. :)
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talk to you dad .make him understand how you feel.also give yur step mom a chance.si she made a mistake.vut also no matter what shes going to be part of your life as long as she with your fater.so try to talkt to het 2.if possible talkt to them at the same time.you dont have to judge them cause of the divorce
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Wow that's deep but really i have a few questions for you.
1) How does youre dad act? Does he cater to your stepmom or is he (although it may be difficult) fair in judgment? i.e. when (if) you and your step mother get intoan argument will he
a) let her say and do what she wants EVEN if it's not even the littlest bit fair (as in not listen to your version of what happened) or
b) listen to both sides and try and come up with a fair solution to the argument or disagreement.
If the answer is a your best bet is to tell your mother that you just don't want to go there anymore because of the way your father is actin BE SPECIFIC! give an exact incident. believe me moms know how to resolve these things perfectly
If it's b then just tell your dad how uncomfortable she makes you and what she does to you or how you feel. Maybe he can shed some light on the situation so that you can see it from a different perspective
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aw, dont worry i know i would feel the same way..........once you turn (16 or 18) you get to choose where you live and which house you go to so you wont have to deal with your step mom....it must be hard to go thorught what your going through
<33 it will all turn out okay steph
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