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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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OK i got a dog yesterday and all she does is eat and whine!!!!!i wanted a dog beacuse i wanted her to play and follow me around so we could have a good time!!shes 6weeks old!!!but how in the world can i get her to play!!!shes a pekineses and very beautiful but for somereason she will not play!!!!why is that!!! (link)
Aw, she sounds cute! She is just a baby and probably is missing her mom and siblings. Once she gets used to being around you she will play. Give her a couple of days and you'll probably wish she'd leave you alone! :)


Okay I made the dance team for my school.I'm usally fine performing in front of people.But i just found out that like 8 people from our football team likes me.I like one of them a lot.I'm just afraid that i'm going to mess up in front of them when i'm performing in front of the whole school.So what should i do to help me get over it?Our first game is this wednesday.Help!!please!!I'm 13 female in 8th grade if that helps any bit.


~Kristy~ (link)
Kristy, keep this in mind. If these 8 guys really like you a lot....even a mistake will look good to them! Just do your dance and try not to think about making a mistake. You're just having jitters, once this first public appearance is over you'll loose that nervousness. Good luck! :)


I want to have pizza. The question is, should I have pizza in the morning, pizza in the evening, or pizza at suppertime? Now that pizza's on a bagel, I can have pizza anytime, but I'm just not sure when to have it. Kthx. (link)
Pizza is good anytime! Eat it when you want it. All day long is good, every meal. Until you get sick of it anyway. :)


can any 1 gime some techniques or tips on kissin? lol yea its a dumb question (link)
I actually found a website a while back for someone with this very problem. Not a dumb question at all. Hope you get some useful info here. :)

http://www.links2love.com/teens_kissing.htm


last weekend i had sex with my boyfriend and now im worried im pregnet cause we didnt use a rubber but he did pull out (link)
Here are some stes for you to check out. Hope I cover everything! :)

http://www.coolnurse.com/birthcontrol.htm

http://www.coolnurse.com/pregnancy.htm



Does toothpaste really work for your zits? If so, please, details would be appreciated. Thanks. (link)
No, toothpaste doesn't really work. Probably clogs your pores even more. Here is a website that has some tips. Hope you find it useful. :)

http://familydoctor.org/001.xml


17/f/tx

Hello everyone, i have a bit of a problem. I entered a medical program in school and we travel to medical offices a few days a week. Problem is, we are prohibited to bring anything with us except for ourselves and we are gone for a good solid few hours. My question : how is one supposed to bring pads if they are on their period during this time? Any ideas? (link)
Big pockets? Maybe you could get a jacket or lab coat with big pockets. Tampons would make it easy if you like them. If all else fails ask the teacher...please don't say teacher is a man! If he is, ask a female in charge and let her find out for you. A principle or guidance counselor...even a school nurse if you have one would be a good place to start. :)


OK I need help fast!! I've been going out with this guy all summer and he just IMed me and he's thinking of suicide!!! He's thought of suicide before but he's thinking of it again. My friend is going to talk to her teacher and try and see what's wrong. You see he has a beautiful girlfriend( me), wonderful friends and is putting a band together. I'm sooo scared for him. Wat can I do to comfort him? (link)
You don't comfort him you go and tell an adult in his life and get him some professional help. He may get upset about it but, better than attending his funeral and then wishing you had only said something. Here is a website that may have some useful information.
http://www.aap.org/pubed/ZZZ7FR2VR7C.htm?&sub_cat=1

http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/mental_health/suicide.html

http://www.cyh.com/HealthTopics/HealthTopicDetails.aspx?p=240&np=298&id=2061

http://teenadvice.about.com/library/weekly/aa120502a.htm



I just started going out with this guy and it already seems like he's losing *some* interest in me. I think it's mainly because I'm not enthusiastic or flirty as he is. What are some things I can do to spice it up and show him I really do like him? (besides tickling.) (link)
flirting tips coming right up! :)

http://www.romantic-lyrics.com/flirtideas.shtml


I have to make a poster about the 4th amendment for my class. I've been searching the internet for actual information on it but I can't find any. Do you know any websites to find facts or information about the fourth amendment? (link)
I have found some info. Hope it is helpful to your project. :)

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fourth_Amendment_to_the_United_States_Constitution

http://www.answers.com/topic/amendment-iv-to-the-u-s-constitution


Thank you younggrandma for your kind advice. Its me, the girl with the diebetic boyfriend who needs to step up his game. It feels so good to be able to talk to someone and get an honest, helpfull opinion and answer. Just thought that I would let you know. Keep it up!!
Thanks again,
Denise (link)
Your welcome Denise. Anytime :)


Ok so I needed some help like a month ago when I decided to have sex with my boyfriend, now ex, a month ago. I was having a hard time dealing with it, but I'm okay with that.. Now I'm faced with depression because I'm in love with him but we recently broke up. I'm not wanting to do anything, Ive missed 3 out of 7 days of school, all I do is mope around my house, I cry just out of nowhere.. Now my mom and I are going to talk to my guidance counselor about getting me early graduation (yeah I'm smart, Thank the Lord!) and she thinks that I'm getting harassed at school. (its happened before) But really, I'm just that depressed that I dont want to go... I'm starting to think if I should tell her that my ex-bf and I had sex or not.. Maybe she would have a better understanding as to what I'm going through.. I JUST DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO... PLEASE HELP ME!!! I'm desperate for answers... and quick! (link)
I think since it is bothering you to this extent talking to your mom would be a good thing to do. She seems to be a good understanding mom and she could probably be a great help. Moms really like to help...sometimes as teens you just become afraid to say anything. Moms a lot of the time are afraid to bring up the subject too. Go ahead and confide in her if you think it will help you. It can only make your relationship stronger. :)


What the back of your hand is it the part with your finger nails or the the part with the lines? (link)
The side of your hand with your fingernails is considered the "back" of your hand. The other side is the palm of your hand. :)


Whats duche bag...sorry ihave no clue how to spell it (link)
The terms douche bag and douche for short are also popular derogatory terms of insult or ridicule. These terms can mean a variety of different insults, and have become popular in the comedic media (for instance, comic and The Daily Show host Jon Stewart once named conservative columnist and television pundit Robert Novak a "douchebag of liberty"):

Someone who is annoying, bossy or embarrassing.
Someone who is stupid, intellectually challenged or mentally deranged but less then clinically insane.
Someone who is unintelligently lying or scamming.
Someone who is arrogant, elitist or snobby.


Ok so here it goes!!!! Today was registration at school! i was new 2 the place. I was aproached by another student.He was so cute so we was sitting down talking for ages!!! and the next thing i know we was the last 2 left in the room and it was time for me to register and he was going to afterwards. I think i fancy him but im not sure if he likes me i feel stupid because ive just met the guy! well he was only speeking 2 me no one else. Thing is hes in none of my classes!! just the school. will i see him again!! he never said bye 2 me because i came out before him...then i just went. ive never felt like i felt a connection with him! someone please help. (link)
I don't know why you wouldn't see him again. He obviously enjoyed talking to you! When you see him in the halls at school...Do not ignore him. Go right up and say Hi. Give him your IM address or something and tell him you really enjoyed talking and would like to talk again. :)


ok im 16. i have been w/ my b/f for bout a year n a month. and i just found out im pregnant 6 weeks. i love him very much but my family really doesnt aprove of him or want him in my life! now that they know im pregnant they want to stop seein my b/f becuz they think he is not father figure becuz my b/f isnt really that good guy he drug deals and used to be in gang and used drugs but has sober for about 8 and a half months. i dont know what to do help do i stay with his family and him n leave mine his family loves me sooo much they were always there for me. help. i dont know what to do!!!! HELp
het back to me! (link)
You really need to start thinking about the baby. I think your parents are right in this case. Until your boyfriend can clean up his act he would not be a good father. The types of people he hangs around with are probably not the kinds of people you want around your baby. It would put its life in danger and possibly get it removed from your care. Not a good thing. Until he can show you and leave no doubt in your mind that he has changed...go. Sorry, its not the answer I would have liked to give you but it is the best answer in this case. Best of luck to you and your baby. :)


how do you do it for a guy (link)
http://www.coolnurse.com/masturbation.htm


I just started a HUGE public middle school and have no idea how to make friends on my own. I have seven or eight that my friend introduced to me, but I kind of want to see who I can find with the same interests. I know that I can join clubs and everything, but I'm really shy and don't know how to start conversations without looking weird. Help me please! (link)
Sounds like you may be a bit shy. I'm not real good at starting up a conversation myself. I have a website about conversation starting for teens though that may give you some pointers. Hope it helps. :)

http://www.shykids.com/shykidschitchat.htm


can soemone teach me how to flirt? cuz.. i do it... people told me i did it.. but huh? i dont' knwo what i'm doing??? .. flirting is a mistery (link)
I don't even know if I know how to flirt. But, I do have a website that has flirting tips for you.
May have to read up on it myself! :)

http://www.romantic-lyrics.com/flirtideas.shtml


Hey,
I guess the thing is that I dont feel like my boyfriend of over a year is putting in as much effort into us as I am, and it is tiring. Sometimes I feel on the verge of just giving up but I love him to much to ever do that. The problem is our personalities, okay, Ill swallow my pride and admit that I can be overly emotional. But he can just be so darn insensative! I should probably let you know that he is a diabetic and often times cant control the way he acts or the moods he's in. I just need to know who needs to make the changes. Tonight I planned on taking him out for a suprize dinner. I went out and spent a fortune on a new outfit and jewelry and had everything (down to what I was going to say) planned out. I was growing more and more excited as the day went on and even called him to see when he was going to get off work and how long he was going to take on homework, well in that process my plans accidentaly slipped out and in return he made it very clear that he just wanted to stay home. Okay so I was a little disapointed, but I figures that we could just hang out, and then go out to dinner another time. On the phone later that night he was being so nice, telling me that he wanted me to come over whil he worked an homework just because he liked my company. I would have driven over there, but my car died that day and I couldnt. When I suggested that he come pick me up (our houses are a whole 6 minutes apart) it was out of the question and next thing I know, he just wants to do homework and go to bed. He wouldnt even come over afterwards. that crushed me because even though my original plans had flopped, I still wanted to hang out, which was what the original plan was. I admit he doesnt get enough sleep and I probably overreacted, but he just wouldnt understand my side and why I was hurt. Do you understand?? Or am I crazy. Do I love him more then he loves me, or am I blowing thing way out of porportion. I want things to work out between us but I want him to step up to the plate too, solve some problems, go out of his way to make me happy like I do for him. I feel like the romance is gone and no matter how much I hint or even beg, nothing changes. I dont know what to do but I do know that I dont want to give up. I lve him so much. (link)
Sounds like you need to both sit down and have a serious talk. It doesn't sound to me like you were asking to much. Diabetics do tend to be moody ( to say the least), but he does need to be made to realize that he isn't the only one in the relationship with needs and wants. He may have been tired but he could have let you know sooner and he could have compromised a little. Talk to him about it. Write it all out ahead of time if that makes it easier. Find out why he is being insensitive. Let him know he has hurt your feelings. Tell him how hard you worked on making plans. It can work out if you both try. He may be taking you for granted a little. Let him know what you want from the relationship and see what happens. Good luck. :)




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